Dislike your career but your family hopes you can persevere, what should you do?

Hello, my name is Zeyu.

It is important to remember that everyone has the right to choose their own career path and to find work that they are passionate about and good at.

If we find ourselves in a situation where we are unhappy in our job but our family wants us to persevere, it can be helpful to remember that we are the only person we can change. We might consider explaining that our unhappiness is linked to the depression it causes. It can be difficult for those close to us to fully understand our experiences and feelings, and they may want us to continue in our role. In this case, we could try to share our thoughts and feelings with our family, discussing the challenges and difficulties we face. We could also mention that our career is making us feel depressed. Then, we could listen carefully to their response and consider their suggestions.

If family members cannot understand your feelings or blame us, please remember that it is not our fault. The reality is simply that they cannot put themselves in our shoes and understand our emotions. The purpose of telling them is to let them know what we are going through and why we don't like this career. Then what we have to do is to try to let go of our depression without changing careers. We can relieve our emotions and liberate ourselves through methods such as confiding in others, keeping an emotional diary, and relaxation training.

As a final suggestion, we can consider thinking about what kind of career and work we would like to have during our breaks at work. This could help us identify practical steps we can take to improve the situation.

Hello, I see you.

Not liking something is a feeling, and there could be a number of reasons for this feeling.

For instance, if this path was chosen for you by your family and you feel that you have not yet fully lived out your potential or released yourself, even though there are signs pointing in the right direction, it may be that this is not the path you have found through integrating yourself and growing. You may feel less energetic and excited when walking on this path.

For instance, if the income from this job is not as high as you anticipated, you may feel a bit of imbalance and believe that you don't need to suffer emotionally because of the income.

Let's consider the possibility that if we can become relatively financially free after working at this job for a few years, even if it's something arranged by our family, we might still do it because we can trade it for future freedom. However, there is a chance that this is just an ordinary job, doing what our family expects us to do and what we want to do ourselves. The income gap may not be that big, but there could be a significant emotional impact.

If it's the first situation, perhaps we could consider exploring ways to find vitality. It's possible that work is just a cover, and there is a lot of energy behind it.

If it's the second situation, perhaps we could consider starting a side business and gradually transitioning to a different career path.

I hope that the above perspective is helpful to you. Wishing you well!