Do you feel isolated, unmotivated, and afraid to interact with others?

Prior to imposing sanctions on an individual who exhibits non-conformist behavior, the group will often present a facade of benevolence, offering the individual an opportunity to demonstrate their gratitude.

Greetings, as an individual with a long-standing history of social anxiety, you are likely acquainted with the aforementioned pattern.

It is not uncommon for young people with social anxiety to experience feelings of guilt, perceiving themselves as the primary cause of their difficulties.

It is possible that you may have a genuine issue that requires attention. However,

It is a universal truth that every individual encounters challenges in life.

The tendency to form social groups is a consequence of the fact that all individuals experience challenges and difficulties in life.

This is analogous to the need for a companion when walking at night, which is due to a fear of the dark.

It is challenging for individuals with social anxiety and introversion to recognize the advantages that their traits may offer, given the negative experiences and self-doubt that often accompany them.

To illustrate, the ability to walk alone at night is predicated on the absence of trepidation towards the nocturnal environment. This is analogous to the choice to forego the company of a companion, which is similarly not a source of significant distress.

It is evident that it would be more efficient and less costly for you to forego the company of a partner.

There is a passage that is particularly foul-smelling but nevertheless reasonable.

The leader inscribed the terms "elite" and "trash" on opposite sides of the blackboard. He then requested that the employees select their preferred designation.

Consequently, the majority of individuals have now positioned themselves on the "elite" side, while only one person remains on the "trash" side.

The leader then inquired as to the rationale behind this decision. In response, the individual stated:

"Only trash piles up in piles..."

The individual in question would be well advised to address their own lack of acceptance, respect, approval, and love for themselves, rather than focusing on their introversion and social phobia.

P.S. For those who identify as introverts, it is important to recognize that the decision to engage in a social situation, even if it is on one's own terms, can have unintended consequences. The act of extending an invitation, even with the intention of providing an opportunity for acceptance, can lead to a sense of obligation or indebtedness in the recipient. This can, in turn, influence the way in which the individual responds, regardless of their initial intentions. Even if the individual chooses to participate in the social interaction with a positive attitude, the group may still implement a form of "initiation ceremony" that could be perceived as unpleasant.

Hello there!

Hug you! Social phobia comes from the strength of your psychological energy. People with strong psychological boundaries are confident, decisive, and not easily influenced by their environment. People with low psychological boundaries tend to attribute more to themselves when things happen to them, are easily sensitive, and feel tired from over-perceiving emotions.

It's so important to recognize what's holding you back from communicating and expressing yourself.

If you like to be alone and can maintain your mental energy, being introverted will not actually become a problem for you in terms of feeling life. However, if you long to express and communicate internally but feel insecure about the outside world because you think too much, you might find that external stimuli trigger psychological fluctuations in people with a weak sense of boundaries.

For example, there might be a fear of backfire, being unfriendly, not being able to meet the expectations of others, or even a fear of being ridiculed.

It's so important to remember that if you want to get close to others, you have to express yourself bravely and actively. Even though you're interacting with others, you can still retain your individuality and opinions. The most comfortable relationship is the process of expressing yourself authentically. This kind of interaction will bring a sense of comfort, and the relationship will become a kind of enjoyment.

How can I change my "withdrawn" personality?

1. Try to see things as they really are, and don't worry!

From the question, we can see that the questioner thinks a lot about subtle information and attributes all the information to the self-attributing "I'm not good enough." This is the core reason why they are always unable to open up themselves, fall into a vicious cycle of emotional depletion, be easily influenced by their environment, trigger internal tension and panic, and be unable to maintain normal social skills. It's okay to feel this way! We all have our own unique challenges and experiences.

It's so important to raise your sense of psychological boundary. This just means being able to deal with your emotions calmly and objectively. It also means being objective when you're attributing external stimuli. Let me give you an example. If an invitation doesn't make you feel uncomfortable, you can accept it with an open mind. And you can accept the friendly invitations of others without always interpreting and judging your own actions negatively.

2. You can absolutely improve your ability to perceive emotions and restore emotional stability!

If a person is in a negative state of mind for a long time, their emotions will become unstable, and they will be more likely to feel emotional burnout, anxiety, and a sense of emptiness. It's important to be aware that they may not easily notice the loss of their emotions, and their emotions will fluctuate greatly, making them prone to allergic reactions. This may be related to childhood trauma, but it is usually related to emotional sensitivity. Because they are more likely to have emotional reactions, they are more likely to feel tired and stressed.

It's so important to be mindful of our emotions. Paying attention to them and letting go of unnecessary negative stress helps us create space in our hearts for more positive energy.

3. Try to see things differently and build up your faith again.

Sometimes, what overwhelms us is not the negative energy from the outside world, but our own doubts and distrust of ourselves. We always replace our true inner desires with negative beliefs when things happen, and over time, we develop the belief of "learned helplessness," which is the idea that life cannot be easily changed and that hard work will not lead to good results. These are all negative beliefs that go against our true will, and we can change them!

To combat learned helplessness, we need to focus on more beautiful things, replace a negative lifestyle with a positive one, cultivate some interests and hobbies, find a way to truly open up our hearts, believe in ourselves, rebuild our inner psychological resources, and rebuild our own beliefs.

Don't be afraid to chat with other "sister colleagues." Sometimes what stops us from taking that first step is not our personality flaws, but our reluctance to change our inner selves. To conquer our fear of change, we just need to be brave enough to face our weaknesses, accept them, and then work on improving ourselves. I truly believe that my sister colleagues in the workplace also hope to see a happier me every day.

Come on, let's do this together!

Hello, question asker.

You have articulated your challenge with remarkable clarity and insight. It must be challenging to feel ashamed when others say things like that and not have the courage to change. I'm sending you a virtual hug to support you through this.

"I've always been a bit reserved and tend to wait for others to make the first move. I'm introverted and have some self-doubt."

It is often thought that introversion is a negative trait, and that it is associated with inferiority and difficulty in social situations. However, introversion and extroversion are simply different ways of obtaining energy. Introverts tend to obtain energy from quiet activities, while extroverts tend to obtain energy through social interactions. There is no inherent difference between the two.

It is worth noting that there are numerous individuals who have achieved remarkable feats despite being introverts. Qin Shi Huang, Zeng Guofan, Alfred Nobel, Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Sigmund Freud, and Leonardo da Vinci are just a few examples. These individuals were able to dedicate significant time and energy to their own pursuits, which ultimately contributed to their success.

Introverts may have an advantage when it comes to learning in-depth, and they often demonstrate a greater willingness to explore the principles behind phenomena. At the same time, because introverts tend to be more focused on their inner selves, they may also possess a natural empathy for the emotions of others.

It is also worth noting that there is a greater possibility of establishing in-depth social relationships with others.

So, there's no need to feel bad about being introverted. You have many strengths, and there's a good chance you'll discover them soon.

"I must admit that I still don't know them well. I do feel a bit inferior, and I usually try to please them. I suppose you could say that I'm a bit subservient."

Perhaps you try to please them because you feel you could be better at it and want their approval and acceptance.

It is important to remember that no matter how you behave, people will always have their own opinions and expectations. It is not possible to please everyone, and trying to do so can lead to frustration and disappointment. If you present a false self, it is likely that others will only accept a version of you that does not align with your true self. However, if you are authentic, those who accept you will accept your true self, and those who do not accept you will simply have different perspectives.

It might be helpful to observe that everyone is different. If you could accept yourself and show your true self, it might lead to others being more likely to accept you.

"The person in charge at work always looks at me with a disapproving gaze when she sees me like this," "One of the girls said that I don't contribute much to the conversation in the office and just sit there all day," "Later, the older woman also came in and said that I could exercise and move with them, otherwise it would be so hard, but when I heard that, I felt a bit embarrassed. I suddenly felt a bit bad and withdrawn."

I sense that everyone in your office is quite friendly. They just want you to enjoy your collective life with them, but they may not fully comprehend your inner feelings, and they may not realize that saying this might make you feel a bit awkward.

Perhaps you could benefit from spending less time worrying about how others perceive and judge you and more time focusing on your own thoughts and needs. Your single-minded pursuit of a good evaluation from others might be unnatural and constraining in your interpersonal relationships.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether their comments are entirely accurate. Is it really that challenging to sit there and not do the exercises?

Could it be that if you don't say anything, it might be perceived as a lack of confidence?

If it is truly important, it may be helpful to consider that other people's opinions may not be as significant as being true to yourself.

"I'm a bit nervous about sitting in the office alone and not doing the exercises with them," "I'm a little hesitant about doing the exercises with them, as I'm not sure I'm ready to take that step."

Perhaps it would be helpful to take a moment to calm down and ask yourself whether you really don't want to do the exercises, or whether you just don't want to do them because you are shy.

I believe that doing exercises is a personal choice. It is something we can decide to do or not to do, and it is our own decision, not influenced by the demands or comments of others.

If you're not interested in doing the exercises, you can simply say, "I'm not really interested in doing the exercises, so you guys go ahead." If you want to do them but are shy, I hope you can muster up the courage to join in for once. In fact, everyone is just relaxing, and no one really cares how you perform. If you're really worried about doing a bad job, you can just stand at the end and make a little joke about yourself: "This is my first time, so don't laugh at me, but please give me some pointers."

My name is Haru Aoki, and I just wanted to say that I love you all.

Dear questioner, I extend my greetings to you from a distance. You perceive yourself to be introverted and withdrawn.

By accessing this webpage and posing this question, you are engaging with a global audience and a multitude of individuals.

The act of writing down one's questions and concerns represents a fundamental step in the process of seeking change.

It is this author's belief that, in the future, the subject will undoubtedly progress from social phobia to social confidence (a bouquet will be sent).

What was the opportunity? It was the impetus to implement changes and the time to acquire communication skills.

In light of the extensive development of the internet, individuals seeking guidance on socialization, communication, and conversational skills can now readily access a wealth of resources.

It is not necessary to learn a great deal; simply relax and watch television dramas. If one watches frequently, one will naturally be inspired.

In everyday life, individuals tend to evolve in a manner that enhances their social abilities, a process that can be described as the power of gradual influence.

Furthermore, one can commence with an examination of one's existing life circumstances. Even if an individual has exhibited introversion and withdrawal since childhood, they have typically had at least one or two friends with whom they could engage in conversation. Thus, it is essential to consider the manner in which these individuals communicated with the subject.

The method of emulating the manner in which one engages in conversation with these individuals can be applied to interactions with colleagues as well.

It is reasonable to posit that even if one has a limited number of friends, one will encounter individuals who recognize and appreciate one's worth and are amenable to forming a friendship.

In some instances, it is not necessary to have a large number of friends; a small group of close acquaintances is sufficient.

In regard to the matter of office team-building activities, it is this author's hope that the original poster will follow her heart and do what she really wants to do. If one is not interested in team activities, then it is advisable to politely decline and spend more time enriching oneself, learning better communication skills.

It is also possible to foster closer relationships with colleagues through other means, such as sharing meals or purchasing small snacks to be enjoyed collectively. Such actions are unlikely to be perceived as unusual or isolated behaviour.

It is my sincere hope that the original poster will find peace and freedom from worry.