Does a primary school teacher who beats and scolds students ever feel guilty?

It is so great to be able to offer you some comfort and support! I can relate to your experiences, and I'm here to help.

Let's dive right in and talk about the two types of teacher abuse of students. The first is when the teacher doesn't like the students and deliberately picks on them and beats them up, or even causes trouble for the students because the parents don't deliberately please the teacher. This is a great example of a teacher with a problematic personal moral character and style.

Of course, at that time, it was obvious that they could not find out by themselves. Once they form a habit, they'll continue until retirement without any reflection, and even take it to the grave! This is also a common situation.

Second, of course, there are also those who used to love to deliberately scold and beat their students. But with the changing social climate, nowadays children are not allowed to be beaten, and they feel guilty and regretful. This also changes with external factors and their own reflections.

And when they face the students they have beaten and scolded, they may feel guilty, but they'll still have the chance to say sorry to you!

Third, some teachers are old-fashioned and used to strict management. The good news is that some of them are still good people who simply want you to study hard and therefore manage you strictly.

There are still teachers like that, and we can make a difference in how we treat them!

In that case, we have the wonderful opportunity to adopt an attitude of understanding and forgiveness!

Absolutely! If teacher punishment has cast a shadow over your adolescence and childhood, to the extent that it has affected your life and work as an adult, then it is a different matter. I really hope this helps! My public account has an article from a long time ago discussing corporal punishment by teachers.

If you're interested, you should definitely check it out! Best of luck!

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I can see your problem. I totally get it! You really hope that one day, those teachers who were mean to their students will realize that what they did was wrong. You hope they'll feel guilty and repentant towards those students they've hurt in their teaching careers.

A teacher is just a role. A teacher is first and foremost a human being, and as such, they have all the flaws of humanity. They seek to avoid harm and seek advantage, they bully the weak and fear the strong, they are partial... The people we meet in life are all there for a reason. If the people you meet are kind and decent to you, then you are lucky; if the people you meet have many flaws and are not nice to you, then you are not so lucky. But don't fret! There are plenty of kind, decent people out there.

Some teachers hurt a lot of people because they have greater limitations in their humanity. The teachers themselves grew up in unfortunate circumstances, so they may not be very caring or understanding of students. Or the teacher approves of violent education, like some parents, who think that children cannot be taught without being hit or scolded. Then he will treat students this way, and there may also be some element of venting. Even parents cannot avoid venting their bad emotions on their children. Some teachers are the same way with their own children.

I'm not asking you to accept or forgive the teachers who hurt their students. I know that hurt is hurt, and that some wounds are difficult to heal. You don't need to forgive him. What you need to do is understand why he hurt others. Allow yourself to feel angry towards him. The students who were hurt are innocent. Some need a lifetime to heal the trauma of their childhood.

I really hope you can be okay and keep moving forward with your wounds.

Good morning, original poster. Teachers have traditionally been regarded as one of the most noble professions. It is not uncommon to observe or experience instances of unequal treatment by teachers.

It is important to note that not all teachers adhere to the ethical standards expected of them. While some may attribute this to human weakness, when a teacher intentionally harms a student's physical or mental well-being for personal reasons, it hinders the student's healthy growth and development. In such cases, the teacher's actions are not aligned with the standards expected of them and they are not fit to continue in their role.

Your text primarily addresses the primary school level, and I believe that a teacher must possess caring qualities. It is through love that they are able to provide guidance and support for their students' growth and development.

This is also the fundamental objective of education: to foster positive personal attributes.

It is unlikely that biased teachers who frequently resort to physical or verbal abuse will change their behaviour for all their students.

Our elementary school math teacher once lost her temper with us and made a serious statement. She subsequently apologized to us in two subsequent classes. It is important to distinguish between individuals who possess a conscience and those who are stubborn, indifferent, and self-righteous.

If you have been wronged, you are under no obligation to forgive those who have harmed you. In the days ahead, remind yourself that your goal is not to change the minds of those who have disparaged you, but to demonstrate to those who have confidence in you that they were correct in their assessment of you.

I have confidence in your abilities and wish you success in all your future endeavors.

Hello, question asker! I'm so honored to answer your question.

It seems that the questioner was treated differently by their teachers in elementary school, which has caused them a lot of pain. It's understandable that they still feel resentment towards those teachers, but I wonder if they're secretly hoping for an apology or if they just want to move on from this experience that has passed.

I'm sure you'll agree that it would be easier for the questioner to forgive than to hold a grudge. Even if the teacher remembers past mistakes, feels guilty and apologises, it might still be difficult for the questioner to forgive.

It's so easy to think that other people are doing things on purpose to hurt us, but they're not always. The teacher is no different. Maybe they didn't mean to target you, but they did something they thought was right. These things may be unintentional or intentional, but perhaps the teacher didn't mean to hurt you. They might have been thinking about the class a lot, what do you think?

It's totally normal to still remember the teacher's past mistakes, but it's also important to let them go. Does it feel better now? It's not helpful to punish yourself for someone else's mistakes.

Research has shown that forgiving someone who has hurt you can help you feel less stressed, which is a great thing for you! Learning to forgive others takes time, but it's worth it to let go of resentment.

I'm really sorry, but since the question was asked on a platform, we can't go into it in too much detail. I'd love to be able to give you some advice on how to forgive the harm done to others, but I'm afraid that's not possible.

Let it go, my friend.

If you're still holding on to resentment because of something your teacher did in the past, it might be affecting your relationships with others now. It's okay to realize that the past is in the past and that you're in the present, and that you can choose to let go of resentment.

I know it's tough, but I'm here to help. Let's try to persuade ourselves, "My former elementary school teacher hurt me, so I'm angry. But I choose to accept it because it's already happened."

Or, you could say, "I accept this past event and the feelings it brings me."

It's okay to accept what happened and understand that it's not something you can control. What you can control is your attitude. It's also important to remember that everyone has shortcomings. If you've accidentally hurt someone, try to accept that they've also been hurt by you.

This can be a great way to help the questioner let go of their resentment and also recognize their own mistakes. It can also help you understand the mistakes made by those who have hurt you.

It's totally normal to take a little time to let go of resentment. It's not something you can do overnight, and we all have a long way to go. But if you can decide to let go of resentment a little sooner, you'll be able to solve your own problems a little sooner.

And remember to look forward!

It's natural to look back on the past, but it's also important to look forward. When you look back, it's helpful to ask yourself: how much harm did the teacher cause, and what actual harm did it cause? Was the teacher's behavior really unforgivable?

I totally get it. Maybe the OP still remembers it now, but what about a few years from now? What about 10 years from now?

I'd like to ask the questioner if they still worry about these injuries. Another example: I'd like to ask the questioner if they still remember those who hurt them when they were a child in kindergarten.

It's so important to look forward and consider things from our own long-term perspective. I know it can be really tough when your lover cheats on you. It's natural to have feelings of anger and hurt. But it's also important to remember that your personal moral values may not allow you to forgive the person who cheated on you.

I know it can be tough, but if you can get past the emotional infidelity, you can choose to forgive.

It might help to talk to someone.

If you're feeling hurt and frustrated because of what happened with the elementary school teacher, it can really help to talk to a friend about how you're feeling. You might find that you get some useful perspectives. It's often better to talk to others about past hurts than to face them alone. You'll often find that you gain a different perspective and feel less alone when you do.

They might still be able to give you some helpful advice to help you understand the situation better and figure out what you want to do next.

Of course, this is something you should really only discuss with others if you trust them. Ideally, these people would be your close friends, family members, or professional psychological counselors.

Give it some time and it'll all work out!

Sometimes, past hurts can come back to us in the strangest moments. It's totally normal to feel troubled when this happens! The best thing you can do is give yourself enough time and space to calm down.

Maybe, after a while, you'll understand why they said those hurtful things. When you're facing past hurts, just take it easy and let it flow on in time. Who knows, maybe one day the questioner will have a different perspective.

It's okay, it's over now. We can't change what's done, so don't stress about it. Forgiving the past is also forgiving yourself.

I know it can be really tough when someone hurts you, especially if you feel like they went too far. But remember, you did your best and you did it to the best of your ability. So, try to accept it. Give yourself a break, learn to love yourself, treat yourself well, and read some self-help books. You've got this!

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

Hello!

From your description, I can sense that you still have some unresolved feelings about a certain elementary school teacher. When we were in elementary school, we may have had some challenging experiences, and the teacher may not have been as friendly to us as we would have liked.

But as far as the questioner's question is concerned, I personally don't think there is much chance of guilt. No matter what happens, when people raise their fists, they think they are doing the right thing. And that's okay!

I'm not concerned about whether the teacher will feel guilty, but when the questioner can let go. When you let go of resentment towards this elementary school teacher, you are also letting go of yourself and staying away from those negative emotions. Wouldn't we feel better? Absolutely!

The questioner made an excellent point—some teachers are biased and have stereotypes about students. And it's not just teachers—it's all of us!

As we walk into the classroom, we get to take a look around. Our amazing brains have already categorized things according to the primacy effect: there are the things we like and the things we dislike!

And depending on the social environment and cultural influences, teachers prefer to learn well, behave well, and be obedient, which is perfectly fine!

Humanistic psychologist Adler said something really interesting: "What happened doesn't matter, what matters is our interpretation of it."

In other words, the teacher was once unfriendly to us, which is an unchangeable fact that we cannot choose. But guess what? We can choose how to respond afterwards!

For example, if we choose to resent someone, we have the amazing opportunity to curse the person who has done us injustice. We can even hope that the other person will have bad luck and suffer retribution!

It's so satisfying when the other person really gets bad luck and suffers the consequences, isn't it?

But what if the other person gets better and better? That would be amazing! But, are we still surrounded by negative emotions, and who is responsible for our suffering for so long?

If we choose to work hard, we work hard in every aspect so that we can have a bright future! Is it possible that we will come back to thank this teacher and slap him in the face?

Oh, what an exciting choice the questioner will make!

I really hope my answer will be helpful to the questioner! Thanks so much to everyone for your time. I'm Jiusi, on Yixinli, World and I Love You!