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Does having a boyfriend who constantly nags make you feel like you're giving up your self but not having your own? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

My boyfriend is particularly chatty and nagging; he always seems to have a point, as if everything is right by his account, taking the reasoning side. Whenever I wear something he doesn't like, he can complain for days, saying I can't choose, that I lack taste. It's the same with decorating the house; everything is his decision, and everyone else is supposedly blind or clueless. He ignores everything and then criticizes me for not being able to do anything. Such trivial matters can drive me crazy, especially when he always talks about others being good while badmouthing those close to him. He thinks everything is right. It's a classic case of a gossipy tongue, and I can't figure out what I like about him. I feel confined and tortured, angry and at a loss. Yet, as we've been together for so long, I've grown accustomed to it. We're about to get anxious-scared-of-the-change-in-life-5351.html" target="_blank">married; are we already in the midst of married life? Sometimes, I'm unsure of what to do, feeling torn between giving up and not being able to let go, as well as the development of our relationship. I feel stuck between not giving up and feeling like I've lost my sense of self, and I'm extremely anxious.

Avery Johnson Avery Johnson A total of 5003 people have been helped

Hello! I'll give you a hug.

You feel angry and hurt when your boyfriend picks on you and rejects you.

Your boyfriend's constant criticism hurts you. You feel disrespected, misunderstood, rejected, and disapproved of. You didn't express your feelings and how you want to be treated. You showed your boyfriend that his words and actions hurt you and that you cannot be treated like this.

What are you afraid of if you hide your feelings? Does rejection mean you're not good enough?

Am I bad? You can't accept yourself.

No matter what others do to you, you teach them. If you can't tell your boyfriend how you feel, he won't know how his words and actions affect you.

Right?

You have to know your feelings and needs to express them to him. You deserve to be treated well.

Keep an emotional diary to understand your emotions and explore your needs. Also, accept yourself, build self-confidence, and enhance your sense of self-worth.

Make a list of your strengths to see your bright spots. Keep a gratitude journal to feel more confident and worthy.

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Delilah Martinez Delilah Martinez A total of 9513 people have been helped

I'm Jia Jia, and I'm here to give you a big hug and help you through this tough time.

First, I'd say let him worry about everything and enjoy the peace and quiet. You mentioned things like renovations, which are big things. Maybe he likes to worry about things and find fault? You've let him take care of it all, so you don't have to do it and it won't make you happy.

If you meet someone like this, just let him be. It's so important to remember that he doesn't just talk the talk, he walks the walk too! You'll be a lot less stressed when you get married in the future, I promise!

Second, as for his comments on you, it may be his habit and personality to nag. But don't worry about it! If you really care, you can find an opportunity to communicate with him and talk about your feelings, and you can also hear what he thinks.

If you haven't tied the knot yet, you can chat about anything during your relationship. And it's the same after you say "I do!" The most important thing is that you and your partner communicate well with each other. That's the key to keeping your relationship strong and happy for a long time.

Third, never hesitate or be conflicted. Procrastination makes things worse, and that's just not right. No matter what, it's important to take action, my friend!

Hello! I'm Pretentious Young People (ID: qingnianJIA2020), and I'm really looking forward to staying in touch!

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Terrance Thomas Learning is a process that allows us to see the world from multiple perspectives.

I can relate to feeling stuck in a situation that's slowly eroding your sense of self. It sounds like you're questioning everything, and that's valid. Marriage is such a big step, and it's important to feel respected and heard.

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Audrey Thomas A learned person's wisdom is a mosaic made up of pieces of knowledge from different fields.

It's tough when someone you love makes you feel small or secondguess yourself all the time. I wonder if he realizes how his words impact you. Maybe there's a way to have an open conversation about this.

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Curtis Miller Learning is a way to rise above the ordinary.

This sounds incredibly draining. You deserve to be appreciated for who you are, not constantly criticized. Have you considered expressing these feelings to him? It might be a start to finding a middle ground.

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Isaacson Thomas Learning is the compass that directs us through the sea of ignorance.

Feeling torn between familiarity and personal growth is so hard. Sometimes we stay in situations longer than we should out of comfort. Are you thinking about what kind of life you want moving forward?

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Justin Jackson Life is a path of discovery, follow it with curiosity.

The fear of losing oneself in a relationship is real. It seems like you've been enduring a lot. Perhaps therapy could offer some guidance on how to communicate your needs more effectively.

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