Does not communicate much with parents, will it have a negative impact on the child's psychology?

Dear Student, Thank you for allowing me to answer your question. I must admit that I am surprised by your maturity and eloquence. It is evident that you are not a typical junior high school student. Based on your writing, I believe you are a calm and composed individual. I do not perceive any issues. In fact, you seem to be a highly capable and content young person. I have reasons for making this assessment:

You have a very loving mother and father. When you were young, your father was employed away from home, returning only once or twice a month. After he changed jobs, he was closer to home, and you would play and engage in conflict with him every weekend. Your mother is very affectionate, and you can discuss anything with her, as if you were close friends. They are excellent parents, and in their own way, they provided you with a happy childhood.

You have a role model of a parent who teaches by example. From an early age, you learned from them the family tradition of working hard to achieve financial stability and being prudent in managing the household. Even after life became more prosperous, you maintained frugality and did not engage in excessive consumption. Even when you were still in primary school, you already knew to assist at your parents' business and share the family's responsibilities. You demonstrated remarkable foresight and understanding at a young age. You experienced the challenges of life at an earlier age than other students and were more empathetic towards your parents' struggles.

This form of happiness is not something that your peers of the same age are able to experience.

As you mature and develop, it is also beneficial to learn how to relax and be disciplined, and to distinguish between your personal and professional lives. The academic workload for junior high school students is becoming increasingly demanding, so your family no longer requires your attention. When you are at home by yourself, you may engage in reading novels, and at night you leave the lights on in all the rooms or close the door tightly. This indicates a sense of loneliness and helplessness, yet you still manage your time effectively on your own. Reading novels also enriches your life. Perhaps your maturity is related to your reading, and your stability is also a sign of your growth. You mentioned that "at home, I have no image and I'm childish." I believe this is an advantageous quality. Outside, you are strict and disciplined, but at home you can relax a bit, act like a child, and play a little. This is a healthy way to return to being yourself after being unable to let loose outside. There is no problem with that.

I believe this is an effective approach. Adopt a more structured and disciplined mindset outside the home, and allow yourself a degree of relaxation and spontaneity within the family setting. This can be an effective way to manage stress and re-connect with your true self.

If you're concerned about something, I believe it may be related to your studies rather than a psychological issue. Currently, your studies are your primary focus, so it's important to maintain a healthy balance between them and other activities. With your intellect and dedication, I'm confident you'll excel in your studies and achieve success in life.

Let me extend a preliminary offer of support in the form of a hug. Based on your description, it is evident that you have matured, including in the context of your relationship with your parents. Whether it's interacting with your mother or playing around with your father, you have established a secure attachment relationship as a child, which is also reflected in your description of being relaxed and childish at home.

As a junior high school student, you are facing the challenge of separation anxiety while your parents are occupied with work. You experience a longing for your parents' company, but also a fear of the dark and a tendency to turn on all the lights in your room. However, you also demonstrate resilience and the capacity to withstand anxiety. This is an indicator of your inner growth.

It is important to understand how the current situation is affecting you. The first step is to learn to express yourself. This includes expressing your longing for your parents and your fear. For example, you may be afraid of the dark and hope your parents will come home early. If your parents understand your feelings, your anxiety will ease and your heart will feel more stable.

Secondly, the advent of the Internet has made it possible to communicate with parents via video-calling applications such as WeChat. Even when physical proximity is lacking, the emotional bond remains intact, offering a viable solution to separation anxiety. Some parents opt to remain at home to spend more time with their children, but this approach often leads to poor communication. Despite being physically present, children may choose to isolate themselves in their rooms, avoiding interaction with their parents. This is an example of a situation where physical proximity is maintained, but emotional distance persists. I have observed numerous instances of this phenomenon in my clinical practice.

Third, the maturity and stability you demonstrate in your external interactions is a result of your ability to be independent and to act in accordance with your own values and preferences. This indicates that you have reached a level of maturity. In your domestic environment, you exhibit behaviors that are characteristic of a child, which suggests that you still require and seek love and attention from your family. A child who is loved by their mother will never reach adulthood and will instead revert to behaviors that are typical of a child. This is also an indication of a secure individual.

I would like to extend my congratulations on becoming yourself during adolescence. It is also commendable that you have demonstrated to your parents that you can face life on your own as an independent individual.

Hello! After reading your description, I feel that your main concerns are the following:

1. I didn't get as much love and attention from my parents as I would have liked, and I feel a little unloved.

From what you've told me, it seems like your family is really warm, but there isn't much effective companionship. For instance, you didn't enjoy their constant care and love during your growth process, but you were always busy working hard for a living.

You feel like you don't have as many friends as you'd like, and you're not sure it's worth bothering your parents. It seems like you're seen as a very obedient child by your parents and others.

But you're holding back a bit, and you're hoping for more attention from your family. You're actually quite happy with your life, though!

2. I don't think I'm as adaptable as I could be.

After all, people must eventually integrate into society. It's so important to experience life outside of your family! Under the protection of your parents, you were ultimately unable to grow effectively and experience society and become an adult.

This has already shown up in your life, like in your fear of socializing, your cautious behavior in public, and your self-restraint.

3. I really hope I can become more mature.

Your question is about the lack of communication between your parents, and the following description is about family and self. I think you're wondering if you're a bit childish, if you should be true to yourself and mature, and if you're attributing this factor to your family of origin.

I've got a few suggestions for you:

1. It's great that you can have your own interests and hobbies! Things like painting, music, and dancing are wonderful ways to meet new people and make friends.

2. Try to put yourself in their shoes. You may not have experienced the feeling of not being able to make ends meet in your family, but it's important to remember how hard it is for your parents.

You're really quite lucky! Your parents don't quarrel and they're happy together.

3. Have your own plans and goals! I truly believe you now have your own abilities, as well as your own expectations and goals. If conditions permit, you can try to gradually break away from your original family and grow up on your own, following your own cognitive plan.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello, my child. I hope that my answer can be of some help to you.

From what you've shared, it seems like you still have a desire to communicate with your parents. We're in the stage of adolescence, where it's natural to want to become more independent and take on more responsibilities at home. However, it's also a time when we may still need the support and company of our parents.

It's natural to feel unkempt and childish when you're at home. During adolescence, we often feel like we're in a transition period, moving from childhood to adulthood. It's not realistic to expect immediate maturity and stability. It's a process that takes time and patience.

I don't think you should worry too much. From what I can tell, your relationship with your parents is still quite good. It seems that they've just been busy recently and haven't been able to spend much time with you. So, we can try to communicate with our parents to express our needs and feelings. In addition, we can also find a way to spend time with ourselves that suits us, and learn to be comfortable being alone. In fact, being away from your parents is just a physical distance. You can still maintain more communication with them in your thoughts and spirit, and feel the emotional support they give you. This is actually a very good kind of companionship and support.

If I might offer you a suggestion, it would be this:

It is possible to communicate effectively with your parents and express your true feelings and needs.

If you would like your parents to spend more time with you, you don't have to suppress your feelings. You can express them sincerely and kindly, so that they know how you feel. Your parents love you very much and will consider your feelings and needs. However, they may also have their own difficulties. You can listen to their needs and feelings, which will enhance your feelings and relationship.

For instance, you might consider choosing a time with a more conducive atmosphere and expressing your feelings to your parents in a gentle and respectful manner. You could say something like, "Mom and Dad, I know you're both very busy, and I sense that our communication has decreased on weekdays and weekends. When you're not home, I'll leave the lights on or close the door and wait for you to come back late, all by myself in the room."

When you're not at home, I find myself feeling a bit scared and lonely. I would really appreciate it if you could come back early to keep me company, as I'm sure you'll agree that I'd feel happier and more at ease.

Then you can listen to what your parents have to say and why they come home so late every day. Is there an economic crisis in the family? Or are there other special circumstances? Or perhaps there are other factors at play that you haven't considered. It's possible that they just don't take your needs and feelings into account and don't realize that you don't really want to be home alone at night.

Perhaps you could consider a solution that combines the best of both worlds. For instance, you might have a video or phone call with your parents in the evenings, or one of them could come home a little earlier to be with you and provide the support and help you need (for example, chatting, talking about your problems, cooking for you, etc.).

In this way, communication can help your relationship develop and give you a sense of security. It can also help you feel that your parents have their own difficulties, but that they value you.

2. Learning to accompany yourself and feel comfortable being alone is an important step towards independence.

Accompanying means being there for you when you need support and encouragement, and offering understanding when you're facing challenges.

It is not only about accompanying others, but also about accompanying ourselves. Many people may not have the skills to be alone or to accompany themselves, which is an important topic in our lives.

It would be beneficial to consider that accompanying, not only the real accompanying between people, but also our own accompanying to ourselves. Many people may not be aware of how to be alone or how to accompany themselves, which could be an important topic to reflect on in our lives.

You mentioned that you keep yourself company by reading novels. There are, in fact, many other ways to enrich our solitary lives and keep ourselves company better.

For instance, we might consider using writing as a kind of companion, and writing has the potential to be healing. Expressive writing is a form of introverted writing, directed towards the mind itself, with the basic purpose of catharsis and expression. It differs from other practical genres of writing, such as literary works, plays, and novels, which are extroverted.

We have the option of writing all of our inner feelings and thoughts on paper, without worrying about whether the handwriting is clear and neat, or about the logic of the content. We can simply express our feelings as much as we like. This may help us to release our emotions, and it could also make our inner world more harmonious and stable.

Another option for companionship is drawing. Many people find that drawing has a therapeutic effect on their mental health. When we are engaged in the creative process of drawing, we may find that our hearts become calm and harmonious.

Another way to heal ourselves is through the creation of special paintings, such as mandalas, which can help to calm the mind and lift the spirit. A book like "The Secret Garden" could be a good choice for this.

It might also be helpful to have books as company. Reading novels is one way to spend time with books, but there are many other possibilities. Books contain wisdom and insights gained from the authors' experiences.

It might be helpful to read books that make you feel comfortable. Some people find that good books can heal them. You might find that through conversations with books, you gain enlightenment and peace in your heart, and you may also learn how to act.

Additionally, it might be helpful to consider engaging in activities that you enjoy when your parents are not around. This could include pursuing your own interests, keeping yourself occupied, doing things you like, reading your favorite books, playing your favorite instrument, or tidying up the house. When your parents return, they may appreciate a more comfortable environment.

You may find that when you are alone, you have the opportunity to do many things that you enjoy, things that you can enjoy, and things that can keep you company during those lonely and long times.

3. It might be helpful to consider that we can also have our own circle and seek the company of others besides mom and dad.

As we grow older, we gradually develop our own circles. It is often the case that parent-child relationships become less frequent and less intimate over time. It is natural for parents and children to need their own space. While they cannot always be there for us, we have the opportunity to develop relationships with others, such as with classmates, friends, and future colleagues. These relationships can nourish us and provide companionship and support at different stages of our lives.

Perhaps you could also consider seeking the company of others when your parents are not around. For instance, classmates or friends who live in the same community as you, or calling other relatives and family members, could also serve as companions.

If there are friends and classmates in your community, perhaps we could ask them to go downstairs with you to do those sports you like. You could play basketball, badminton, football, jump rope, and so on with your classmates. In fact, when my son is not at home or I don't have time to accompany him, he will often go to the community to play and exercise with a few friends. It's safe to do so in the community, and you can go home at any time. In this way, they won't feel lonely when their parents are not around, which I'm sure is a good thing.

I hope these suggestions are helpful for you. Please don't hesitate to reach out if you have any further questions or need assistance.

I am Fei Yun, a psychosomatic coach.

It is crucial to recognize the importance of family relationships and prioritize your connection with your parents. Our psychological well-being, including a sense of security and self-worth, is largely shaped by our parents. A happy family and harmonious relationships have a profound impact on our physical and mental health.

Your words are filled with positive, beautiful, and powerful phrases. You see your parents striving to improve and feel they love you very much.

At the same time, they have a healthy attachment to their parents. Their father provides companionship, while their mother shows affection. It is clear that fatherhood and motherhood function differently. A mother can achieve an attachment to her child through companionship.

The father-child bond is forged through companionship and play.

You have a good sense of perception. You perceive your own emotions and needs, as well as the needs of others. This is the ability to connect with others and the ability to love. Throughout your childhood and adolescence, you have received sufficient psychological nutrition. You have exercised your independence well.

Junior high school is a turning point. You say, "I'm hooked on novels." Your parents are busy with work and business, and you have less contact and communication with them. What confuses you is that you behave differently outside and at home. There's no doubt that less contact and communication with your parents affects your parent-child relationship and your own growth.

First of all, you're in your junior high school years, which is a time when you need to develop trust, respect, and independence. You're also forming a sense of boundaries, like when your parents knock on your door. You're becoming more independent.

You are lively and prefer to be alone.

You have a reserved, shy side, but also a carefree, childlike self-confidence. This is exactly what you should have at this age.

Second, your connection with your parents is still there, even though you're both busy with your own things. The love and warmth you've built since childhood is a rock-solid foundation. When you're not feeling uncomfortable with how you're getting along with each other, embrace it.

You have grown up and can plan small activities to create a relaxed and happy atmosphere for your parents and family. Prepare a small gift for your parents' wedding anniversary or a simple, loving breakfast or dinner for your busy parents.

The form is more meaningful than the content. Life needs a sense of ritual, and it also makes up for the emotional needs of your rare communication.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you. And I want you to know that the world and I love you.

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Hello, child!

I'm guessing you're around this age this year.

I like that you're thinking about this!

I want to chat with you and I'm going to inspire you.

1. We are all influenced by our family of origin.

"The original family is the environment in which a person initially grows up and learns. It is inextricably linked to an individual's emotional expression, behavior patterns, attachment styles, and intimate relationships."

Each of us is influenced by our family of origin.

Your specific upbringing is what matters. When you were a child, your mother took good care of you and you were very close.

Your dad was a great dad. When he wasn't home much, he would play with you and you felt secure inside.

You are only about 10 years old. Since your mother opened the store, your interactions with your parents have decreased significantly due to her busy work schedule.

You will arrange your own time and be alone.

I am certain that you were also a child who reassured your parents.

After junior high, you realize you don't know much about your father.

Our understanding of our parents will undoubtedly evolve over time.

As we grow up, we gain a new perspective on our parents.

Family has an impact on us. We can increase the positive influence of family on us and reduce the negative influence—as long as we are aware of it.

You always have a choice.

Children from the same family can be very different because they make their own decisions.

This is particularly true when the child has its own understanding.

2. I want to talk about acting differently outside the home than at home.

Everyone has multiple facets and presents different sides to different people in different situations.

At home, you are your parents' child, and it is normal and safe to be childish and have no image.

There's no problem.

When you're outside, you have to act like the person you are. If you're a student, you have to appear composed in front of your teachers and classmates. That's how it is.

I want to know if you have any good friends and how you behave around them.

Sometimes, you can't let loose outside. What do you mean by that?

Tell me, are you afraid to express your true self, or do you not easily express your opinions? Or are you not as confident?

Tell me what you were thinking at the time.

Everyone has their own personality.

If you don't see anything wrong with this or have no issues with other people, there's no need to worry.

3. Make positive changes.

Your lack of communication with your parents is affecting you at this stage.

Tell me, do you feel that your communication with your parents is low, and does it affect you at this stage?

Your parents should make time to listen to you.

Tell me, is there anything you would like them to change?

For example, you should ask one of them to come home early and spend some time with you.

You can wait for them until late at night by yourself, but you don't have to like it.

You stopped helping out at the store after you started junior high school because you were busy with your homework.

You should go to the store to see what your parents are doing every day when you're not busy with your studies.

Work with them.

You can still get to know each other better even if you don't chat.

You can even ask them by phone if they're tired after a long day or what happened.

Tell them you're concerned and that you want to spend more time with them.

Take your time, dear child. You are very independent. If your parents are really busy and don't have the energy to communicate with you more, you can also communicate with your classmates. As you get older, friends will have a greater and greater influence on you.

I hope you develop real relationships.

This is not just the kind of contact that comes from using a mobile phone.

You can establish an emotional connection by having more realistic conversations, doing things together, learning together, etc.

You will experience what authentic communication and exchange can bring to you.

Share these.

Read "Amazing Me" to understand how our self grows if you are interested.

I wish you the best!

Greetings, question asker. I am Jiang 61.

Firstly, we would like to express our gratitude for placing your trust in us by disclosing your current state of confusion and seeking assistance. We have formulated the following question for your consideration: "Will the lack of communication with one's parents have a detrimental impact on the psychological development of one's offspring?"

The question you have posed is worthy of further reflection.

1. Developmental Stages: Childhood

1. Childhood

You stated that your family's financial situation is satisfactory, with some surplus funds remaining after meeting basic living expenses. Both of your parents are hardworking and ambitious individuals who express great affection for you, fostering a perception of familial happiness.

During my formative years, my father was employed in a location that precluded his regular presence in the family home. He would return approximately once every one or two months. At approximately six years of age, he changed jobs, resulting in his attendance at the family home on a weekly basis. My father and I enjoyed a cordial relationship and engaged in frequent play. He consistently allowed me to emerge victorious, yet I came to recognize after completing junior high school that I was not particularly well-acquainted with him. During my early years, I was intimately close to my mother. She was highly involved in my life and we were amicable companions, discussing a plethora of topics.

However, when she opened a shop at approximately ten years of age, she became exceedingly occupied and had limited time for me. My father also provided assistance during the holiday period. When I was in primary school, I likewise offered assistance during the holidays.

The circumstances of the family unit

The family lived a fairly comfortable life. The parents were hardworking and thrifty, and they did not waste much. They loved their children very much.

Despite his absence from the family home, you enjoy spending time with your father when he is back, as you perceive a close friendship and playfulness between you. Your mother cares for you and is involved in your upbringing.

Parents with demanding schedules

After reaching the age of ten, the dynamics of the family unit underwent a significant transformation. The mother's time was increasingly occupied with professional and business commitments, leaving the father as the primary caregiver. During weekends, the father would assist the mother with the family business, while the eldest child would occasionally offer assistance during school holidays.

Emotional state

Prior to reaching the age of ten, despite the demands on their time, parents demonstrated care and concern for their children, fostering feelings of closeness and warmth within the family unit. When parents were occupied, children often offered assistance in tasks such as shopping.

You are a community of destiny.

Secondly, the period of junior high school

You stated, "However, following completion of junior high school, I seldom visited the store. My parents were seldom at home, and when they were, they returned late, regardless of whether it was a weekend or holiday. Additionally, I was engrossed in reading novels, which resulted in a significant reduction in communication with my parents during weekdays and holidays. Consequently, I would often leave the lights on in the house or close the door and remain awake, awaiting their return."

The family dynamic underwent a significant transformation.

Following completion of junior high school, your parents were seldom at home, even on holidays. You also made infrequent visits to the store during this period. Contact with them was minimal, and communication was severely limited.

The subject is depicted as waiting in solitude.

At this juncture, the sole source of solace is reading novels and waiting with the lights on at night. The act of turning on the lights in all the rooms indicates the extent of loneliness experienced at that time.

Alternatively, the door may be kept closed as a means of demonstrating an inner fear. The individual may remain awake late into the night, reading, in anticipation of the return of the absent person, due to a lack of safety.

2. Impact

You assert that you appear to be a stable and restrained individual to others, yet at home, you exhibit behaviors that are unkempt and childish. You inquire about the potential implications of this discrepancy.

1⃣️ Two-sidedness

You assert that you are stable and unable to relinquish control when you are outside the home. This assertion reflects your characterization of yourself as cautious when you are outside the home.

Indeed, at a fundamental level, there is a pervasive sense of fear. As is the case each night when awaiting one's parents' return, the use of light serves to disguise one's trepidation, thereby creating the impression of stability when in public.

Your fear impairs your ability to be fully present and accessible to others, akin to the metaphor of a tightly closed door that restricts your openness and connection.

Upon returning home, one completely relinquishes their inhibitions, reverting to a state akin to that of a child playing with their father. It is as if one is unable to forget this period of one's life.

2. Influence

This can be seen as a kind of regression. The duality stems from your sense of self-preservation at that time, which prompted you to adopt a particular response, and you have become accustomed to this state of being.

Upon emerging into the external world, the subconscious mind promptly initiates a process of obfuscation and protection, striving to safeguard the vulnerable state of mind from external influences. As anticipated, the inability to disengage from this protective self-preservation hinders the capacity to engage socially.

3⃣️, Regrets of Puberty

As you have correctly identified, your adolescent child's personality is undergoing a significant developmental phase. During this period, they are driven to form connections with individuals of a similar gender in order to reinforce their sense of self and enhance their perception of others. Concurrently, their cognitive abilities are rapidly evolving, necessitating the acquisition of independent thinking, a sense of personal space, and the provision of guidance and affirmation from parents and other interpersonal sources.

During this period, parents who are preoccupied with their own responsibilities may be unable to provide the spiritual guidance and support their children require, which can result in feelings of loneliness and withdrawal. This can lead to a tendency to internalize experiences, both positive and negative, which may manifest as introspection.

These experiences will all affect one's later perception of oneself and of life itself. This is the regret of adolescence.

It is fortunate that books can serve as a source of companionship, providing spiritual sustenance and nourishment. Through one's own perceptions, one can gain insight into the changes that occur in life, allowing the formation of a unique worldview, outlook on life, and values.

3. Adjust

1. Liberation

It is imperative to release the anxiety that has accumulated within. One must adopt an open-minded approach to external stimuli.

It is recommended that you locate your inner child.

The inner child is confronted with fears and concerns in the external environment, which are associated with the long-term unease of being home alone at night during childhood. Consequently, the individual is consistently on the defensive and is reluctant to open up to the external world and accept it. However, within the domestic environment, the individual is able to shed their defensive persona and reveal their authentic self.

It is imperative to accept.

Self-acceptance

Additionally, the individual in question presents as mature and reserved in the eyes of others, yet is unable to fully relinquish these traits. There is another contributing factor as well: a lack of confidence in one's abilities, a sense of being overwhelmed by circumstances, and an inclination towards excessive worry.

These manifestations indicate that one is unable to integrate the knowledge gained from books into one's inner self, allowing fear to take up residence in one's inner world.

One must endeavor to accept one's current imperfections and insecurities and acknowledge that these traits constitute one's fundamental identity. It is unnecessary to concern oneself with the opinions of others; one should simply strive to be true to oneself. When one accepts oneself as one is, one experiences a sense of bodily ease and a readiness to engage with the world in an open and receptive manner.

The gradual revelation of one's true self will ensue.

The world

One's apprehension about engaging with the external world can be attributed to an inherent fear of potential harm. This apprehension often manifests as an inability to acknowledge the benevolent aspects of the external world.

It is now recommended that you attempt to view the world in a different light. You should endeavour to recall the positive experiences you have had with others, as well as the factors that have been beneficial to you. It is also important to consider the emotions you felt at the time. This exercise may result in a shift in your perception of the world.

One will come to understand that the world is a place where both good and bad coexist. It is important to accept this reality, to cease resisting interaction with the outside world, to lower one's guard, to overcome nervousness, and to overcome feelings of being uptight.

It is time to conclude this discussion.

Communication

One's self-confidence is derived from the affirmation provided by older family members. A deficiency in such affirmation can result in uncertainty regarding appropriate behavior when interacting with others, leading to a lack of confidence.

It is recommended that an open heart-to-heart conversation with one's parents be initiated. During this conversation, one should express their concerns and needs, request assistance, and receive positive reinforcement regarding future expectations. This approach can facilitate the gradual development of self-confidence.

The process of self-affirmation

In addition to the affirmation received from parents, self-affirmation is also a crucial element. It is beneficial to offer oneself encouragement upon the completion of a task.

One may choose to record their growth by writing a sentence to that effect. Alternatively, one may opt to bestow upon themselves a small gift as a token of self-appreciation.

This is an affirmation of the self. Over time, one will come to believe in one's capabilities and will be able to overcome one's inner fears.

It is time to take our leave.

Following a period of self-awareness and self-adjustment, it is possible to alter past anxieties and fears and bid farewell to the unresolved aspects of one's childhood.

Secondly, it is important to establish connections with other individuals.

During the process of self-transformation, it is beneficial to seek out opportunities to connect with others, engage in practice, and confront one's internal fears. Interacting with others allows for the observation of personal growth.

Furthermore, establishing connections with others can facilitate the advent of a novel perspective on the world, which can simultaneously yield a multitude of benefits.

3. Have faith

It is important to note that the initial stages of any process may be challenging. When attempting to move on from past experiences, eliminating distractions and strengthening one's beliefs, while maintaining an open mind, can facilitate the ability to overcome difficulties. This transformation can be initiated through the act of letting go and embracing acceptance.

It is imperative to maintain an optimistic outlook and to believe that positive outcomes will manifest in due course.

Ultimately, I extend my best wishes to the individual who has initiated this discussion.

Hello, I'm Yanningning.

From your description, it is clear that you grew up with the love and care of your parents. In this loving family environment, you felt the love from your parents and also felt that your family was very happy. This is the foundation of happiness that your small family has given you, which is really enviable.

Your parents have been running their own store since you were 10 years old, and your father also helps out. They've likely put more energy into managing the store because you've grown up and seem sensible and considerate to them. This allows them to feel relieved and focus on managing the store. This is just my guess, but it's likely accurate.

You haven't graduated from junior high yet, have you?

If so, at this stage, our body shape may be close to that of an adult, and we want our own space. You are hooked on reading novels, so you close the door tightly and travel in your own space to another space built up in the novel.

But on the other hand, we are not completely independent inside, so there are conflicts. This state of affairs, where a person is often on their own and does not communicate with their parents very often, will undoubtedly have a negative impact on the child's psychology.

My child, I want to be clear: you are asking this because your parents are busy managing the store and have indeed neglected you. And the fact that you are asking this from the bottom of your heart shows that you also hope that your parents can pay a little attention to your current situation.

You say you have no image at home and are childish. So be childish for once. Present your mental problems to your parents when they come home and see how they react.

You will get the answer you want from your parents.

I wish you the best. My name is Yanningning.

Good day. I am pleased to have this opportunity to share my views with you.

It is evident that the questioner is still concerned about their own psychological growth, which is a positive indication.

"Will a lack of communication with parents have a negative impact on a child's psychology?"

The impact is clear, but it is challenging to determine whether it is a negative impact. Parents play a pivotal role in a child's growth and development, and they have a significant influence on them. However, the term "negative impact" is highly subjective and difficult to quantify. Additionally, it is not a permanent condition.

If I were to answer your question today by making a negative comment or using harsh language, would that have a lasting negative impact on your psychology?

Such an occurrence would be so extreme as to cause distress and insomnia, which is not the case here.

There is no need to be overly concerned, nor should the potential negative impact be exaggerated.

The most direct impact of less communication with parents is a decrease in intimacy. However, there are also positive aspects to consider. For instance, it can create space for the subject's psychological independence and reduce emotional dependence on parents.

"I consistently maintain a composed and reserved demeanor in public settings, yet at home, I exhibit a more relaxed and childlike behavior."

This situation is understandable given the individual's age, personality, and stage of psychological development. It cannot be considered negative. Having a childish demeanor at home is beneficial, indicating a secure family environment. However, there is a discrepancy between the ideal family atmosphere and the external environment, which may instill fear and rejection. This calls for guidance from parents to navigate the external environment effectively.

The family of the questioner is still very happy and can also feel the love from their parents. I believe the questioner can also understand the choices their parents have made to make a living. Although these choices will have some impact on you, there is no need to worry too much. The questioner can also help out at the store or simply spend time with them when they are off work. You also love them, don't you?

My name is Xiao Dong, and I am a psychological counselor. I wish you a happy life!

Hello! From what you've written, I get the impression that you're a cheerful and optimistic child. During your childhood, your parents also tried to spend as much time with you as possible.

This is already tough for a lot of families. Now you're in a situation where your mom is running a small shop and your dad helps out, and after age 10, they have less time to take care of you.

When you're home alone at night, you often turn on all the lights and wait for them by reading novels. When I read this, I could relate to the feeling of being alone and longing for companionship and love.

You're wondering if this will affect the child.

To be frank, all family environments have an impact on a child's development, though the degree and effect of the impact may vary. In this case, you know that your parents are working to earn money to improve the family's life and accumulate family wealth.

You understand them on a practical level, but you're still a junior high school student, and you still need your parents' guidance and company as you grow up.

Particularly in the evenings, it can feel quite lonely when you're at home alone. You might even feel a bit lost.

You spend your evenings reading novels and playing by yourself. As long as you don't read novels that have a negative impact, it's fine.

Reading a lot can actually improve your abilities, which is something not many children do.

When it comes to novels, though, you should be careful about what you read. Reading more classics and similar works can only do you good, not harm.

Kids like you who don't have to worry about their parents and have free time in the evenings may envy your freedom. Many kids, on the other hand, are forced by their parents to attend various tutorial classes or do all kinds of training exercises. But having that freedom over a long period of time may be a kind of love deficiency for you.

There are two sides to this situation. If you use the time while waiting for your parents to come back to do something you enjoy and that's good for you, then his influence on you is positive. It gives you the chance to take control of your own growth, which will benefit you in the future. When you encounter similar situations, you'll have the experience and ability to deal with such dilemmas.

Of course, if this situation makes you feel uncomfortable, it may cause a sense of loss. If this sense of loss isn't addressed for a long time, it could affect you psychologically, making you feel that your parents don't pay enough attention to you.

If you think about it this way, there might be some not-so-great influences.

Ultimately, how you interpret this event is what matters. There's a psychological theory that says a person's emotions aren't caused by the event itself, but by how they perceive it. This is the ABC theory of rational emotions.

We call the event that has happened A, the knowledge and interpretation of this event B, and the effect that this event has on you and the emotions that you experience as a result are called C.

Right now, you're in a situation where your parents are coming home late at night and spending less time with you, leaving you alone at home to read novels.

So, you're wondering if this will affect your future. What do you think?

If you think it's a good thing that he's giving you the freedom to arrange your own life, then that's great.

If you feel like you need your parents around and you get scared when they're not home, you feel lost, then you need to tell them and ask them to spend as much time as possible with you.

This way, even if you have some emotional experiences, they can be resolved in time.

You can tell your parents how you feel. No parent in the world doesn't love their child. I believe that between their business and your future, they'll definitely pay more attention to your future and your healthy growth.

I hope this is helpful.