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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.
You can and should feel the severe trauma and psychological shadow produced within you by the way your parents innocently abused you due to marital conflicts in your original family.
Your parents' past treatment of you is in the past. However, the traumatic memories from this event will always remain in your body. At the time, you were too young to have the strength and resources to better deal with the harm you suffered. But you are stronger now. You have all the resources and abilities to better deal with and face the past trauma, so that they no longer have a negative impact on your current life.
You must confront your traumatic past. Breathing deeply will help you cope with your emotions. Keeping an emotional diary will help you understand and heal your trauma. Ask your boyfriend for help. Tell him about your experiences and ask for his support. When he knows you trust him, he will help you face your trauma and find a way to deal with it.
You must understand that the trauma your family has caused you is not because you are not good enough. You are more of an innocent victim. You need to actively heal yourself when you are able.
I am Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. The world and I love you.
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I can understand why you're feeling this way. It's really hard to deal with these past memories resurfacing, especially when something as significant as marriage is on the horizon. The trauma from your childhood must be overwhelming, and it's understandable that you're experiencing such intense reactions now.
It sounds like the thought of marriage is triggering some deepseated fears for you. You've been through a lot, and it's completely natural to feel anxious and sensitive about committing to such a big step. Maybe it would help to talk to someone, like a therapist, who could provide support and help you work through these feelings at your own pace.
Your experience with past relationships shows a pattern of emotional turmoil as marriage approaches. It seems like there's a strong connection between your current feelings and the painful events from your upbringing. Facing these issues can be terrifying, but acknowledging them is already a brave first step. Perhaps finding a safe space to explore these emotions, whether with a counselor or a trusted friend, could offer you some comfort and guidance.