Exam for the second time, years of failure made me want to escape at the sight of anything related to my major.

It is possible that the questioner has a slight misunderstanding of his own position.

Before responding to the inquiry, I conducted research on the passing rate for the postgraduate entrance exam.

If we consider the figures from last year, we can see that 4.22 million people applied for 21 years, with an acceptance rate of 24.2%. This resulted in more than 3 million people being unsuccessful. However, over the years, the number of people admitted has increased.

Let us not dwell on this matter. If your performance has consistently been below expectations,

It would be inappropriate for you to take the postgraduate entrance exam at this time.

As a result, you have been unsuccessful in your attempts to qualify to take the exam. For instance, you are only eligible if you have at least a bachelor's degree or have completed a college program for a certain number of years with equivalent qualifications.

If you lack the requisite talent, your efforts will not be rewarded, and you will likely experience repeated failures. It is therefore to be expected that you will not gain admission.

According to the postgraduate entrance examination rate, it is still the more than 20% of talented people at the forefront of the echelon who should be admitted. Given that you are not outstanding, it is to be expected that you will not pass the exam. You are aware that you lack the requisite skills, so why do you still want to take the exam? Why do you still need to escape?

Why do you still wish to take the postgraduate entrance exam and make decisions akin to those made during World War II?

If you believe you can achieve this goal with minimal effort, you may be underestimating the challenge.

Have you completed the requisite tasks and responsibilities, even if you have not been aware of doing so?

To be frank,

I do not find the postgraduate entrance exam challenging.

However, the experience of the process is not about what you have learned or achieved.

However, it is the process of this endeavor, where you persevere and continue,

Furthermore, it enables you to lead a more fulfilling life.

A paper certificate can be the result of the process or an experience along the way.

It is challenging, even arduous.

Furthermore, it demonstrates your capabilities and expertise.

In some cases, the level of effort expended is directly correlated with the magnitude of the reward.

It is not guaranteed that you will receive what you want if you pay for it. However, if you do not pay for it, you will definitely not receive what you want.

As with all past experiences, you still have the option to choose your next course of action.

For example, this could manifest as a lack of effort, indecision, or avoidance.

In certain circumstances, the challenges of life can lead to feelings of sadness and a desire to abandon one's efforts.

You are the one who determines your own happiness.

It is possible to choose not to take action and simply accept the current situation. However, if there is a desire to achieve a particular outcome, it is advisable to work towards it.

It is possible to opt out of studying, choose not to major in a subject, and even decline to apply oneself fully.

Provided you are willing to accept the consequences of your actions.

Ultimately, it may not align with your personal preferences or lead to your satisfaction. You may even find yourself resisting it, as you perceive it to be.

It is therefore important to understand your own needs.

Furthermore, work requires significant effort. If one is unable to work, it is imperative to identify solutions to address financial and living issues. Even if one does not seek assistance from parents or other individuals, feelings of guilt and conflict may arise.

This is simply the way life is.

We are required to make numerous decisions, but we are ultimately responsible for our actions and outcomes. While input from others can be valuable, it should not be the sole determining factor.

This may be a suitable approach.

Hello! I'll give you a 360-degree hug!

You're currently studying for the postgraduate entrance exam, and there are 45 days until the exam! But you want to escape.

I'm ready to break free from exams, my major, and work!

It's a cycle, but it can be broken! I wanted to escape from work, so I chose to take the postgraduate entrance exam. Back then, I wanted to escape from the pressure of my parents and the pressure of the college entrance exam, and I escaped into a book, even though you resisted studying art.

You see, you're trying to escape from one dilemma and then you escape into another, and after a long time, you're a bit stuck. But that's OK! Taking the postgraduate entrance exam is something you're doing right now, and if you go further and get a postgraduate degree to study art, which you don't like, that's a dilemma. But you can work through it!

If you take a step back, you may fail the postgraduate entrance exam or give up on it and turn to work. You don't like your job, and although you have no idea what you can do, it is probably difficult to truly love your work under the current circumstances. But that's okay! It just means you have the opportunity to try something new.

In your question, you mentioned

I often wonder what I could do if I changed careers, but I can't find a direction—yet!

I'm excited to figure out what I should do in the future!

In other words, you're facing a fantastic opportunity to discover what you really want! You may not know what you should do, what you can do, or even what you like, but you're about to find out. You probably know that your current life is not what you want, but you don't know what kind of life you want. Well, now you do!

ε=(´ο`*))) I wish I could tell you, but I honestly don't know. This question feels a bit off-topic, but it's still an exciting one! Sometimes I even wish someone would plan everything for me and I could just do it.

Over the years, I have found some amazing methods that I am so excited to share with you! I really hope they inspire you.

For many people, interest cannot be used as a means of earning a living because once interest becomes a means of earning a living, interest will be lost. It's a bit contradictory, but it's also a great opportunity to explore other avenues!

I bet when you first chose to study art, you were absolutely thrilled! But after years of continuous art study, your enthusiasm might have waned a little.

The Chinese people believe that if you do a job, you should love it. And if you do a job for a long time, you will absolutely come to love it!

You know, very few people in the world can make a career out of their interests. So my first piece of advice is to isolate yourself from art for a while.

As the saying goes, "What smells good far away stinks up close." When you are far away from it, you may feel that you actually like art quite a lot. We are all so full of contradictions, and that's a good thing! When you stop forcing yourself to like art, your relationship with it may change—and it just might be for the better!

Of course, you are currently facing an exam, and I cannot advise you to part with art now, or you would say I am treating people like grass. But I can tell you this: you can absolutely do this!

So, here's another piece of advice: make a plan for the 45 days before the exam, and review each day according to the plan. For example, you can decide how many pages of material you will read each day, and just do it! Don't worry about how much you learned today — just get through it!

Note that I said read, not memorize. Just do it like the little monk reciting the sutras, and get it done!

As the saying goes, the little monk recites the sutras with mouth but no heart.

It's so important to just do it! This is a great way to judge things like reading 30 pages of information a day, from beginning to end. Just remember to read every word, and you don't even have to memorize it! If you read every word and then get lazy, you can't even be considered a formalist.

It really depends on how well you study! I usually read every word the first time, but later I just read the key points I've highlighted and look up the keywords to refresh my memory.

Just think of these few months as an exciting challenge to be completed! There are only 45 days left anyway, so just complete the tasks one by one, like a little monk reciting sutras.

Just do it! Don't worry about remembering.

As for the result, I don't know, but I'm excited to see what happens! This method has been working really well for me so far.

Once you've finished a task, you can treat yourself to something else, take a break, or do something you love. Just make sure you complete the task at hand, and make it something you can measure.

Then, after the exam is over, you can think about what you like and what kind of life you want to lead. Hey, that's a big question! I'm excited to think about it.

I'd much rather do something! Some things may seem useless at the time, or even now, but I absolutely believe that action is the best way to resist anxiety.

Once you've aced the exam, it's time to treat yourself! Do something you love, even if it's not something everyone else understands. These activities can't just be mindless time-wasters like playing games.

You can also talk to a counselor to find out more!

I am a counselor who is often depressed and sometimes optimistic. The world is an amazing place, and I love you all!

All changes will eventually affect your thinking. Your values, vision, and way of thinking will change, which will affect your behavior and get you the results you want.

Real change takes time and is hard work.

It's almost impossible to change yourself in one go. You need to go through five stages:

First, there's an imbalance.

Something is wrong at work, in your relationships, your studies, your mental state, etc. You feel lost and need a new balance. It's hard to seek change because you're trying to break your balance and step out of your comfort zone.

If you don't want to change, change is hard.

Second, things outside you can also affect you.

External factors can be things you see in yourself, things you admire in others, or things you learn from. These things can disrupt your balance and challenge your values.

It only moves from consciousness to the subconscious when it touches your innermost being.

Third, chaos.

When things change, the mind needs time to adjust. When you realize that old ways of handling problems don't work,

This is the painful chaos stage.

Fourth is integration.

After a complex struggle, you will integrate. You will become your own new value system.

Not all integration is successful. You may agree with it at the conscious level, but not at the subconscious level. The integration stage is about reconstructing your own value system. This stage requires frequent introspection and psychological self-suggestion.

Practice, practice.

You need to practice and experience constantly to grow your new value system.

In the end, I want to say that change is a spiral. Progress may temporarily be ten steps, and the chaos and integration stages make it take nine steps back. New value perceptions take one step forward.

So, change comes slowly.

Upon retaking the exam, I found that years of unsuccessful attempts had led me to avoid any material related to my field of study.

Dear question asker, My name is Ying Wang, and I am a psychological counselor.

From the questioner's description, it is evident that all the setbacks in his studies originate from that failed art exam, which has eroded his self-confidence. He believes that despite his best efforts, he only achieved a failed result and that he lacks the requisite talent.

It is true that an important exam can be somewhat frustrating, but it is important to maintain a positive outlook. The purpose of the exam is only to test your learning at a certain stage. An unsatisfactory result does not indicate a lack of talent or effort. The value of the experience lies in the knowledge and sense of accomplishment gained. It is not the same as being talented. Even if this is a very important exam, failing the middle school entrance exam or even the college entrance exam cannot completely determine your future.

Your high valuation of exams is likely influenced by your upbringing and educational environment. From an early age, you were likely encouraged to pursue higher education as the primary pathway to a successful future. This has potentially led to a sense of pressure and a shift in your internal motivation to learn. Your studies may have become primarily focused on meeting the requirements for college admission, rather than for the sake of learning itself.

Learning is about the experience of the process, about gaining more knowledge, seeing more of the world, and enriching our lives. The ultimate goal is not to gain admission to college.

To learn effectively, it is essential to identify your personal interests. When you are engaged in an activity you are passionate about, you can focus and invest your energy and enthusiasm. Now, you have the opportunity to reflect. Do you genuinely enjoy painting and design? If you are pursuing these activities for personal enjoyment, that is perfectly acceptable. However, if you are doing so because of external influences or societal expectations, it may be beneficial to dedicate time and energy to identifying your genuine interests. If you have discovered a passion, it is crucial to rebuild your confidence and pursue your true calling. It is a privilege and a joy to discover and engage in activities that align with your genuine interests. Therefore, it is important not to give up easily.

In order to regain confidence,

One must adopt a new perspective and attitude in the face of an exam failure. Denying oneself completely due to a single failure is not a constructive approach. Zeng Guofan, a renowned minister, took the exam at the age of 14 and spent seven years achieving a second-to-last score. During this period, he felt that he was not suited to the academic environment and considered abandoning his studies to return to his agricultural roots. At this juncture, it is beneficial to emulate his resilience and perseverance.

Secondly, it is advisable to set yourself incremental goals throughout the learning process. These smaller goals are more readily attainable, and their achievement will contribute to the gradual development of self-confidence. Subsequently, it is recommended to incrementally increase your own goals in order to facilitate the gradual enhancement of self-confidence.

3. When learning, it is important to focus on the process rather than the result. When painting, it is essential to be fully immersed in the activity. The objective of painting is not to create a perfect or creative work, but rather to enjoy the process of painting and the expression of ideas through the flow of paint from the brush. This is a rewarding experience, and it is important not to add other purposes to it. When you can be fully immersed in the activity, it will lead to a different result. This is not just true for painting, but for all aspects of life. If you approach it with an open mind, you will be able to achieve unexpected results, and this is also an attitude towards life.

Fourth, it is crucial to learn to accept yourself, including your strengths and weaknesses. Perfection is unattainable, and no single action can be perfect in every respect. Instead of avoiding or hiding, address your shortcomings directly. If something is not done well, accept it and move on. Be kind to yourself, but strive for excellence. Accepting yourself gives you the confidence to tackle challenges head-on.

5. When you experience negative emotions, such as fear, inferiority, or fatigue, do not attempt to escape or hide from them. Instead, direct your attention inward and acknowledge your feelings and thoughts. Accept your emotions, observe them, and allow them to dissipate. Also, be mindful of your body, as negative emotions can cause discomfort. Focus on this sensation and allow it to pass. Emotions are merely feelings and abilities; they are not harmful. By facing your emotions and your body directly, you can quickly overcome negative emotions. Additionally, you will experience a profound sense of inner strength and confidence in the face of future challenges.

The challenges you currently face will eventually be overcome, and you will be able to meet them with the wisdom and confidence you possess. The future holds many opportunities, and I am confident that you will succeed in achieving your goals.

I hope this information is helpful to you. Best regards.

From junior high school to postgraduate entrance exams, the path to art exams is fraught with challenges. When faced with prolonged frustration, a lack of supportive relationships, and a lack of timely relief from these trials, past experiences can lead to feelings of wanting to escape and being deeply affected.

It is my hope that the following information will provide some support to alleviate these difficulties and offer new perspectives on how to approach this challenging issue.

It is my hope that the following information will provide some support and offer new perspectives on how to approach this challenge.

First, revisit your initial objectives and determine whether the exam is the sole means of addressing the current challenge.

First, review your initial objectives and determine whether the postgraduate entrance exam is the sole solution to your current challenges.

The aforementioned failure is primarily associated with the entrance exam, which, when faced with preparing for the exam, which is also an exam, may evoke past exam-related trauma. Therefore, the fear may not be the major itself, but the ordeal before and after the exam.

It would be advisable to bypass the exam and gain a better understanding of your original intentions in choosing the arts and taking the postgraduate entrance exam. This will help you to overcome your fears and make a more informed decision about your future.

Consider the example of the postgraduate entrance exam. You are uncertain about your future plans and are reluctant to work, so you are hoping to gain a period of respite by taking the exam. However, there are two possible outcomes:

Should you pass the exam,

Then you have the option of pursuing further studies for another two or three years, but you may still have to contend with the pressure of securing employment. You may be able to gain another buffer period by taking a doctoral exam. However, regardless of how many buffer periods you have, securing employment is likely to be the final challenge you face.

As a challenge that you will inevitably encounter, continuing your studies may not facilitate resolution, and it may even impede it. The academic path is no more straightforward than other professional avenues. Whether you possess the requisite interest or aptitude for scientific research and academia is also a factor that must be considered in advance.

If you were not selected,

This has either reinforced your internal sense of helplessness (learned helplessness: a psychological state and behavior in which a person feels powerless in the face of problems after experiencing failure and frustration) or this sense of powerlessness will further affect your understanding and perception of yourself.

The pressure of the postgraduate entrance exam in the second year of the World War II is significant. Considering potential outcomes if you are unsuccessful in gaining admission can help to mitigate feelings of desperation. After thorough reflection, it is also important to recognise that even if you are not admitted to graduate school, there are still alternative avenues available.

It is often the case that preparing for the exam after relieving stress will result in twice the outcome with half the effort.

It is important to explore and discover your desired career path. Allow yourself the opportunity to do so.

Over time, you have developed a strong affinity for the arts. The unsuccessful outcomes of your art exams since junior high school have had a significant impact on you.

Without the opportunity to reflect on these shortcomings and address them, these perceived failures have continued to accumulate, affecting your understanding and perception of yourself.

As you have already arrived at university and are growing up, you have begun to have more social resources and choices. This means that you are not bound by your initial choices. When you are not sure what you want to do, you often cannot figure it out just by thinking about it.

It is important to create opportunities for continuous communication with the external environment. This will assist in developing a deeper understanding of personal preferences and navigating uncertainty.

This is a process that cannot be completed in a short period of time. Allocate yourself sufficient time, and you will gain greater insight into your inner voice.

It is my hope that the above information will provide you with inspiration.

As a psychotherapist, my focus is not on exploring human nature but on caring for the human heart. I wish you well.

Hello! You are now facing the second battle of the postgraduate entrance exam. As the exam approaches, you feel fear, but you will conquer it. You even feel the urge to escape, but you will not.

You believe this is due to your lack of success in your major over the years. These failures have not only made you feel inferior, but also exhausted you. You feel both lost and helpless in this state, and I empathize with you!

Interest is the best teacher.

You started studying art in junior high school and your major is still related to art today. However, you have expressed dissatisfaction with your results and have doubts about your choice of art.

From your account, it's clear that this doubt began when you graduated from junior high school. You followed your family's advice and continued on the path of studying art in high school and college, and it's evident that this academic career was painful for you.

You're lucky if you're engaged in a field you love, whether it's work or study. When you learn from a heartfelt interest, you enjoy it, participate actively, and show courage and endurance even when you encounter difficulties.

If we are forced to study something we don't like under pressure, the inner boredom will undoubtedly magnify the difficulty of learning, making the learning process excruciating.

You didn't do well on your middle school or college entrance exams, and you believe this is due to your inner resistance and boredom with the art major.

You are at an important juncture in your life once again, and you still need to pass an exam to secure your future. Previous failures and accumulated boredom make you feel powerless, and you feel the urge to escape.

You need to identify the problem.

Your interests are not fixed. You can cultivate them or eliminate them.

Most interests initially stem from curiosity. Seeing a scene or meeting someone can trigger an inner

Most interests initially stem from curiosity. Seeing a scene or meeting someone can trigger an interest, but this is just the beginning.

This sprout will grow if you have a strong desire and achieve results.

You started learning art in junior high school and you were doing quite well.

You started learning art in junior high school and were already doing quite well. You worked hard for the entrance exam, which shows that at the time you were curious about art and had a strong desire to do well.

The failure of the entrance exam for the arts has dealt you a big blow. You may find it hard to accept the result, but you need to stop labeling yourself as "untalented" and doubting your choice.

The failure of the middle school entrance exam and the art exam was a setback, but it's not the end of the world. You may find it hard to accept the results, so it seems that you have labeled yourself as "untalented" and you have begun to doubt your choices.

Such a label makes it hard to stay motivated. You'll look for signs to confirm it, and when you don't get the results you want, you'll say, "I was right. You're talentless."

So, when you feel a deep sense of boredom and an urge to escape from your current profession, you must ask yourself: have I lost interest because I have failed, or have I failed because I have lost interest?

You know what suits you best.

You say you often wonder what you could do if you changed careers, but you can't find a direction. You know what you don't like, but you haven't found a field you like yet.

It is true that interest is the best teacher. However, many people are unable to choose a major or even a career based on their interests. There are many objective factors that limit this, but the inability to find a field you like is also an important reason.

In the workplace, people use interest and ability as two important factors and use a quadrant to classify them. This quadrant helps people understand the difference between ideal work, hobbies, a means of earning a living, and a hopeless trap. Ideal work is highly interesting and highly capable. Hobbies are highly interesting and less capable. A means of earning a living is less interesting and highly capable. A hopeless trap is less interesting and less capable.

Use this quadrant to analyze your current situation. If you were to consider taking the postgraduate entrance exam as a job, which quadrant would you fall into?

In this era of "specialization," people say that it is better to emphasize your strengths than to try to compensate for your weaknesses. Art is a major that makes you scared, but you can do it. If you compare art to a major that is completely foreign to you, which one would you be more scared of?

Look at it from a different perspective. You'll realize that art is your forte.

The pressure of the second exam is enormous, and it is understandable to feel escape and fear. Accept and embrace yourself, relax, and don't care too much about the results. You are still young, so find out what's best for you.

The pressure of the second exam is enormous, and it is understandable to feel escape and fear. Accept and embrace yourself, relax, and don't care too much about the results. You're still young, so find out what's best for you.

I am Teng Ying, a psychological counselor, and I know this will help.

Good day. I extend to you my utmost support and encouragement.

You are currently preparing for the postgraduate entrance exam, with only 45 days remaining before the examination date. However, you are seeking an alternative course of action.

I am seeking to extricate myself from the constraints of examinations, my current field of study, and my current employment.

It appears to be a cyclical process. I sought to distance myself from work, so I opted to take the postgraduate entrance exam. At the time, I was attempting to avoid the pressure from my parents and the college entrance exam, and I immersed myself in reading, despite your initial reluctance to pursue art.

You are attempting to avoid one dilemma by pursuing another, which has resulted in a prolonged state of uncertainty. Your current course of action involves taking the postgraduate entrance exam, which, if you were to pursue it further and obtain a postgraduate degree in art, which is not your area of expertise, would present a new dilemma.

If you take a step back, you may fail the postgraduate entrance exam or give up on it and return to your current position. You are dissatisfied with your current role, and although you have no clear direction, it is likely challenging to fully engage with your work in the current environment.

In your inquiry, you referenced

I frequently consider alternative career paths but have yet to identify a clear direction.

I am unsure of my future career path.

In other words, the root cause of your current situation may be that you lack clarity on your desired career path, your capabilities, and even your interests. You may recognize that your current role does not align with your aspirations, but you may not have a clear vision of what that future role could look like.

I must admit that I am unsure. This question is somewhat tangential. There are occasions when I feel that it would be beneficial to have a structured plan in place and then simply follow it.

Over the years, I have developed a number of methods that I believe will be of benefit to you. I hope that you will find them inspiring.

For many individuals, pursuing an interest as a means of earning a living is often not a viable option. When an interest becomes a source of income, it can often result in a loss of intrinsic value. This is a common challenge in many fields.

I believe that when you initially selected art as a field of study, you must have had a positive inclination towards it. However, the prolonged and uninterrupted engagement with art over an extended period has led to a decline in your enthusiasm for it.

In Chinese culture, it is believed that if you do a job, you should do it with passion and dedication. Over time, this commitment will lead to a positive association with the work itself.

It is uncommon for individuals to be able to make a career out of their interests. Therefore, my first piece of advice is to temporarily distance yourself from art.

As the adage goes, "What smells good from a distance may be disagreeable up close." When you are at a distance, you may have a positive perception of art. However, when you are in closer proximity, your feelings may change.

Naturally, you are currently facing an exam, and I am unable to advise you to relinquish your artistic pursuits at this time, as doing so would be perceived as disrespectful.

I would like to offer one more suggestion: create a plan for the 45 days leading up to the exam and adhere to it. For instance, you could determine the number of pages of material you intend to read each day and then do so. Do not concern yourself with how much you have learned today.

It is important to note that I advised reading, not memorization. The objective is to complete the task in a methodical and efficient manner, similar to the dedication and focus of a monk reciting sutras.

As the adage states, the novice monk recites the sutras with his mouth, but without sincerity of heart.

It is crucial to take action. This is an effective method for evaluating tasks such as reading 30 pages of information per day from start to finish. It is essential to read each word and to understand that memorization is not a prerequisite. If you read each word and then become complacent, you cannot be considered a formalist.

The optimal study method depends on the individual. My own approach is to read the entire text the first time, but I then highlight the key points and look up the keywords to refresh my memory.

Please view these remaining months as a series of tasks to be completed. With only 45 days remaining, it is important to focus on one task at a time, following a methodical approach.

Just proceed with the task at hand; there is no need to concern yourself with remembering every detail.

Regarding the outcome, I am unsure, but this approach has proven effective for me.

Once a task is complete, you may proceed to another task, take a break, or engage in an activity you enjoy. However, the initial task must be finished, and it should be something that can be quantified.

Once the examination period has concluded, you will have the opportunity to consider your preferences and the type of lifestyle you aspire to lead. I am aware that this is a significant decision, and I am not currently inclined to dwell on it.

I believe that taking action is the most effective way to manage anxiety. While some tasks may appear inconsequential in the moment, they can contribute to a sense of control and resilience.

Once the examination period has concluded, it is recommended that you reward yourself with an activity that you enjoy, even if it is not universally appreciated. These activities should not be merely time-killers, such as gaming.

First, I want to give you a big hug. Then, I want to give you a big thumbs-up.

Let me be clear: every depressed or inferior person sets high standards for themselves. If someone is lazy and unmotivated by nature, they are unlikely to be inferior or depressed. Why? Because his parents or he himself did not have high expectations of themselves, so he chose to lie down early. Even if his achievements in life are not far below his capabilities, they will definitely not reach the level they should have.

The reality is that while talent and hard work undoubtedly play a role in achieving success, "choice" is also a significant factor. I have a friend who took the art exam in high school and got poor grades. Despite her academic performance being consistently strong, had she not chosen to take the art exam, she would have been able to get into university with her first college entrance exam.

She repeated the exam twice and only got into a relatively satisfactory university the second time. She also studied abroad in Japan for a year during her junior year. She's now leading a pretty good life.

If you're an art student who doesn't want to go to college, you should choose to study abroad instead of taking the postgraduate entrance exam in China. First, think about why you want to take the postgraduate entrance exam. If you just want to go to a better university and then find a job in your major, rather than staying in college to do research, the exam is pointless.

Start working earlier and you can change your relatively poor starting point in school with your youthful energy and hard work.

If you don't like your major and don't plan to work in a related field, your goal should be to get into a good university. Switch to a major you're interested in. It might be harder to get into graduate school, but if you persevere, you can do it.

I often read in the news that some women manage to get a master's degree while pregnant, and some manage to do so while working and pregnant. I know someone like that.

You should know about the PDCA method in project management. It's planning, execution, inspection, and correction.

Taking the postgraduate entrance exam is a big project for anyone. Set a goal and a plan, then control your plan through the PDCA cycle until you pass.

I am certain that you will soon be ashore and have a promising future.

Good day, I am writing to inquire about a matter that requires clarification.

The postgraduate entrance exam is still more than a month away. As the exam approaches, it is likely that your mood will be affected, particularly given your current attitude towards your major. You have to study this major, but you do not accept it. This kind of mood is challenging to manage. I understand your dilemma at this time, and I empathise with your situation.

The postgraduate entrance exam has become increasingly challenging over the past two years, with the number of applicants rising steadily. It is not uncommon for individuals to feel that their qualifications are not fully recognized due to the high volume of applicants. The postgraduate entrance exam has a significant impact on many individuals, and it is unfortunate that this process continues after graduation. It is a testament to one's perseverance and resilience to successfully navigate this challenging process.

While your statement indicates a reluctance to work, which may be perceived as avoidance, your decision to pursue further studies for the postgraduate entrance exam demonstrates a notable degree of self-control and determination.

I am experiencing a certain degree of intimidation when I return to my hometown. The postgraduate entrance exam is fast approaching, and your emotional state at this time is understandable. It is not uncommon to experience a plateau in one's learning, a sense of stagnation and a lack of motivation. This can manifest as feelings of restlessness and anxiety. I believe this period is particularly challenging for those who still have a strong affinity for their chosen field of study. It is a normal part of the process for anyone preparing for an exam, whether for graduate school or other academic pursuits.

How should we approach this challenging period? I will share my personal insights on this matter.

First, address the emotional state that may affect your performance before the exam. After all, the outcome will shape your future. It would be unusual to be completely unaware of the nature of this exam. If such thoughts arise, acknowledge them. The key is to address them promptly and refocus on the task at hand. Don't dwell on negative thoughts. For instance, if the art exam was unsuccessful, acknowledge the reality of the situation. It's natural to feel disappointed if we didn't achieve our desired outcome. However, it's important to maintain a positive outlook and focus on the future. We can tell him that we want to improve our relationship and work towards a more harmonious dynamic.

Secondly, do not allow one unsuccessful attempt to define you for the remainder of your life. I am referring to the failed art exam, which I believe is merely a personal failure. After all, you did gain admission to university through the art exam. I have noted the following sentence: "When you were in high school, did your parents require you to attend art classes despite your dislike for the subject?"

I believe there may be an underlying issue with her approach to drawing. In addition to failing the art exam, there is also the issue of conflict with adults. This is likely due to the fact that adolescents often challenge their parents' decisions. This can lead to a lack of confidence in their own abilities.

Finally, I believe that failure is the mother of success, and that no one's life is without its ups and downs. We know that life is full of ups and downs, but we still persevere. That is what makes us heroes in life. You have also stated that you experienced a setback at college, and now you are motivated to make up for it and try again. With such a strong motivation, I believe you have the potential to accomplish anything. Let's just move on from the past and acknowledge that you were mistaken in your own perception, or was there actually something that didn't go well?

Let us all move on from the difficulties of the past and use them as a source of inspiration for future endeavours.

To achieve your goals, maintain focus and drive forward.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that your dream school will reconsider its decision next year.

I would like to extend my best wishes to you and the world.

Hello, I am a Heart Exploration coach. Everything is easy. I can see the conflict and conflict within you. You have experienced failure in the middle school entrance exam and the art exam, which has hit you hard. You have put in all your effort, but only had a failed outcome. You feel that you have no talent and are very frustrated. Let me be clear: you have talent. You have the capacity to succeed. You will succeed.

You doubted your abilities since high school because of failure. You're on the wrong path. You've been under a lot of pressure from the high intensity of practice and the long-term efforts not being rewarded. You're tired of your art studies.

You have been under pressure from the college entrance exam, and you have been studying art with resistance. You are a very persevering person for being able to stay with something you dislike for so long. It is indeed not easy to graduate from college, but you will get through it.

You need to face your major and conquer your fear of failure. You are overwhelmed by a deep sense of inferiority and fatigue, but you can overcome these obstacles.

Your sense of resistance and past failures are likely contributing to this. I'm not sure if the major you're studying for the postgraduate entrance exam is one you truly enjoy or if you'll have the chance to develop an interest in it down the line.

1. You are experiencing an internal conflict.

You want to take the postgraduate entrance exam because you don't know what you want to do in the future. You don't want to go to work, so you're taking the exam. You're avoiding entering society because you're not ready to work. You're also afraid of the exam and want to escape. Neither choice is truly yours. You're avoiding both.

You have already made the choice to take the postgraduate entrance exam. Because you failed the first time, you experienced traumatic feelings. This triggered a state of self-doubt and self-denial, fear and powerlessness.

Set a life goal.

You often think about what you could do if you changed careers, and I think that's a great idea.

You studied art under the pressure of the college entrance exam, but you persevered until the end and achieved your goal of getting into college.

However, you chose to slack off in college because you didn't get into the major you wanted. This meant you didn't find out what you really like to do and what you're good at.

You can assess the impact of your undergraduate and postgraduate degrees on finding a job, regardless of whether your next goal is to take the postgraduate entrance exam or to find a job. You can also think about what you can do if you change careers and whether you can find something you really like.

Graduating from undergraduate school and facing employment and independence is the same as graduating from graduate school. The goal is to better prepare for employment and independence. You need to decide what your goal is for taking the postgraduate entrance exam. Is it to better prepare for employment, or is it to find a reason to procrastinate because you can't find a goal?

You must set a life goal. Make a short-term and long-term plan and complete it step by step towards the goal. This will give you more motivation.

3. Accept yourself and move on from failure.

You failed two major exams, but that doesn't make you worthless. You can still go to college if you work hard.

You need to be more objective about your ability to study and work, and find a major and job that you really like. This will help you to avoid feeling tired and resentful when studying and working.

If you need help, seek it from a professional counselor.

You must believe in your own strength. You have persisted in a major you dislike for so many years, which shows you are a very strong person. You are a person who overcomes difficulties and advances towards your goals. This is your strength.

It is crucial for young people at your stage to accept the postgraduate entrance exam result, think about the path you want to take in the future, set a goal, change what you can change, accept what you cannot change, and plan for your future development, taking one step at a time, in the hope that you will get

Change what you can, accept what you cannot, and plan for your future development. Take one step at a time, and you will get rid of your troubles soon.

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Hello, my dear child. I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

I can sense your inner confusion and conflict, as well as your inferiority complex and exhaustion. However, it is important to recognize that your ability to come here and write these words, and your willingness to seek help when you are in distress, is a testament to your strength and resilience. I believe that as long as you are open to exploring, believing, and changing and adjusting yourself on the basis of understanding and accepting yourself, you will undoubtedly find direction in your life and rediscover the joy of learning and living.

If I might offer you a suggestion, it would be:

It might be helpful to accept the status quo, understand and accept yourself, and make peace with yourself.

I'm sure you don't want to just mope around. You mentioned that you took the postgraduate entrance exam because you were unsure of your future direction and didn't want to go to work. You also said that you wanted to try again after spending so many years feeling unmotivated. Additionally, you felt that taking the postgraduate entrance exam was a way for you to succeed and regain your confidence.

It is worth noting that the decision to pursue graduate studies or to continue one's studies and work in the arts is not the most crucial aspect. It is of greater importance to gain an understanding of oneself and to identify one's genuine aspirations. It would be beneficial to reflect on the type of life one aspires to lead.

I am wondering if going back to school might be a way to achieve this kind of life.

I can relate to your situation. When I graduated from graduate school, I also had the same problem as you. I didn't like my major. To work in my major, I had to get a doctorate to realize my dream of teaching at a university. So at that time, I also had the same resistance to "doing experiments" as you do. I also tried to get a doctorate, but perhaps because I wasn't very interested and I didn't have enough confidence, I never got in.

Later, when I was studying for the second-level qualification as a psychological counselor, I came to understand myself better. I realized that the life I want is not to achieve great things in the laboratory, nor is it to let myself be depressed every day doing things I don't like just to gain the envy and praise of others. I came to see that the life I want is to be able to take care of my family, and also to constantly develop and grow myself. I came to believe that psychological counseling allows me to live this kind of life. I also came to see that the process of learning about psychology and communication psychology itself is a happy and joyful one. When I use what I have learned to help people in need, I feel that life is worthwhile and that I am also very valuable. However, I came to realize that my previous major could not give me these things.

It is important to remember that there is no need to deny yourself or doubt your abilities. It is possible that you have simply not yet found your direction or life's calling, and this process can often be a challenging one to navigate. It is essential to keep experiencing, trying, going through, and feeling in order to clear the clouds and move forward with determination.

It may be helpful to accept your current situation, get to know and understand yourself, accept the objective, real, and imperfect self you are now, and then tell yourself, "I will find my way and I will live the life I want."

2. You may find it helpful to use the "painting a magic pot" method to gain insight into your passions.

One might venture to suggest that by drawing the magic pot, we could gain a clearer understanding of our coping mechanisms in different situations. Furthermore, we could also practice accepting ourselves through drawing and see what we love doing most in various situations.

If I might suggest a way to do it, it would be as follows:

If I might suggest, you could prepare an A4 sheet of white paper, a 2B pencil, an eraser, and colored pencils. Then, you could divide the paper into four equal-sized areas and draw according to the instructions in the top left, top right, bottom left, and bottom right areas.

Top left guideline: Imagine that you are walking along the road when suddenly an alchemist appears, grabs you, and puts you in a magic pot. Please draw the first picture in the top left box based on this scenario.

Top right corner: Let's continue the story. You've been in the pot for a day and a night, but you're not thirsty or hungry. How do you feel? What are you doing?

If you would be so kind, please draw a second picture in the upper right-hand corner based on this scene.

If you would be so kind, please continue to imagine that you are in the pot and that the sun has been out for some time. How do you feel? What are you doing?

If you would be so kind, please draw a third picture in the bottom left-hand corner based on this scene.

If I might make a suggestion, it would be to keep imagining – a year has passed. How do you feel? What are you doing?

If it isn't too much trouble, could you please draw the fourth picture in the lower right box based on this scenario?

If I might suggest, the picture of the magic pot is now complete. The next step would be to consider the interpretation.

It is important to note that the elements in the Enneagram test are symbolic. The magician symbolizes the person with superpowers, which could be seen as a symbol of the manipulator.

The pot symbolizes a predicament, that is, psychological restrictions and constraints. It could be interpreted that the person who painted it is the one being manipulated and trapped.

If you would like more detailed information on the specific symbolic meaning, you are welcome to help yourself interpret it.

I would like to suggest that you consider whether there is any commonality in the activities depicted in the four pictures. When I was drawing, I realized that regardless of the circumstances, I was engaged in similar activities: sitting at a desk, reading or writing. This suggests that these two activities are particularly meaningful to me, providing nourishment and a sense of purpose at any time.

If you happen to discover something like this, you may gradually find your direction. I have found that my work, like me, is basically related to reading and writing, and I feel very smooth. I am also more enthusiastic and motivated about my work.

3. Ultimately, each of us is responsible for our own lives, and the advice of others can be a valuable reference point.

In the past, I received a great deal of advice from my parents, family, friends, and teachers. I was unsure of how to navigate these suggestions and often felt overwhelmed. Over time, I came to understand that my inclination to seek external guidance was driven by a lack of personal responsibility. Each of us has the capacity to navigate our own lives and shape our future experiences through our own choices. No one can fully replace ourselves in this process.

When you face a choice, it's important to take full responsibility for your life. Rather than focusing on who or what might be to blame if things don't work out, it's more helpful to consider the consequences of your choice and to take responsibility for them. This allows you to make your own choice, and even if it doesn't work out, you can accept the outcome calmly because it's your choice and you're taking responsibility for it. It's important to remember that this is your life and your path, and you have the power to make your own decisions.

Taking responsibility for oneself also means that we do not need to bear the life issues and responsibilities of other people. For example, if parents expect you to fulfill their dreams, it may be helpful to distinguish that this is their own life issue and that they may need to bear it themselves. You do not need to bear it for them, and you may wish to consider returning their own responsibilities to them. You, on the other hand, have your own issues and your own choices, so that you can gradually become independent, mature, and move towards a broader life path.

I hope this is helpful for you to refer to. I wish you well!