Failed to confess, don't want to live with this feeling for three years of high school. What should I do?

Hello, classmate.

I understand your problem. You're troubled by your past failed confession, which is affecting your current high school life. Here are some suggestions:

1. A failed confession doesn't mean you're not worthy of a good relationship. It's a learning process.

Accept this experience and release negative emotions. You can vent by keeping a diary, meditating, exercising, or sharing with friends.

2. Don't lose confidence because of past failures. You have value.

Focus on developing your interests and abilities so you'll be more confident.

3. Make more friends, join school clubs or volunteer, and meet new people. This will help you fit in at school and move on from the past.

4. If you're distressed or worried about your emotions, you can ask a school counselor or psychotherapist for help. They can give you more specific advice and support.

5. At the right time, classmates can also become aware of themselves. Even if the confession fails, why should they be afraid to avoid the girl? Is it because they are afraid of embarrassment, or to protect their self-esteem, or to avoid bad memories? When you find the real answer within yourself, you can accept it all and start a new life.

6. Say goodbye to the old you. Thank him for giving you courage to confess. It's okay if it fails. Youth is full of uncertainty. You won't regret it. You did what you wanted to do. Now you have to start a new high school life. Give him a hug, thank him, and say goodbye.

7. Focus on your studies and prepare for the future. The three years of high school are important. Cherish this time and work hard.

In summary, high school is just a stage. Life is a journey, and people come and go. Don't let the past affect the future.

Believe in yourself and pursue your dreams. Have a great high school life!

I hope this helps and I look forward to seeing a better you.

I hope this helps. I look forward to seeing a better you. The world and I love you.

Good luck!

Good luck!

Good luck!

Good luck!

Good luck!

3. Make friends with more classmates, join school clubs or volunteer, and meet new people. This will help you fit in and forget the past.

3. Make friends with classmates, join clubs or volunteer, and make new friends. This will help you fit in and forget the past.

4. If you need help, talk to your school counselor or a professional therapist. They can help you with specific advice and support.

5. Focus on the present and the future. Cherish this time and work hard to improve yourself.

Don't let past failures affect your future.

Believe in yourself and go for your dreams. Have a great high school life!

Good day, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing in response to your query.

Due to her deletion of a female classmate with whom she had previously been acquainted, she subsequently experienced feelings of guilt. You purchased a gift with the intention of offering an apology, but the other party did not accept it.

It is somewhat awkward to anticipate a future encounter.

You believe that you have made an impression on this female classmate.

However, this is merely a personal perspective. It is also possible that she does not attach significant importance to the past.

While it may seem petty to delete a message after it has been rejected, it does demonstrate your attitude and that you prefer not to be ambiguous. There is nothing wrong with that approach.

It is not uncommon for primary school students to form attachments, but their preferences can also be quite transient. They may express liking for a particular individual one day, only to shift their affections to someone else a few days later.

This is a common characteristic of primary school romances.

Given that she is now in high school, it is likely that the girl in question will be keen to focus on her studies and avoid any distractions.

You have already conveyed your apologies.

Despite the fact that the gift was confiscated, she is already aware of your apology.

That is sufficient. It is also commendable that you have the courage to apologize.

Should the opportunity arise to meet again in the future, how would you proceed?

Should you continue to avoid her, or would it be preferable to greet her with a smile?

Have you taken any action that would cause her to feel negatively about you?

In fact, there is no issue.

There is no need for self-accusation.

Allow the situation to unfold naturally.

If you are at peace with yourself, there is no need to conceal your actions.

Please indicate whether you wish to pursue a relationship with this individual.

From your description, it appears that you may be experiencing a heightened sense of guilt, as though she transferred schools because of your actions. However, the reality is that she simply transferred classes.

Furthermore, you feel more comfortable without her.

There is no need to dwell on the situation. Should you attend the same university in the future, would you be required to withdraw?

The past is the past, and the potential for future friendship is contingent upon circumstances beyond our control.

I wish you the best of luck.

It is often the case that relationships in school are characterised by a certain degree of uncertainty. This can give rise to a number of concerns, which many people will undoubtedly encounter at some point. It is therefore important to avoid forming preconceived ideas and to try to learn how to face these situations calmly and with a plan in place.

The initial attempt at a confession was unsuccessful. Despite the other person's polite rejection, the questioner felt rejected at the time and was reluctant to continue the relationship. As a result, he decided to end the friendship. However, in some cases, circles are so small that individuals eventually return to the same school and reconnect. The questioner is feeling a bit overwhelmed, concerned that his actions may have inadvertently caused distress to the other person. This has led to some anxiety and uncertainty about how to proceed.

The second topic is our views on love. When we were students, many parents and teachers approached the topic of love in a way that was somewhat uniform. This may have contributed to the fact that parents and teachers often have reservations about dating. It seems that as students, we often lack mature ways of thinking. Just like the original poster, we're not really in love with each other, and we don't have a lot of contact, which has led to some confusion and affected our decision-making.

It is worth noting that even many adults can find it challenging to handle love calmly. Therefore, it might be beneficial to take a step back and take some time to reflect and identify the underlying issues.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider how to deal with it. Being rejected does not necessarily mean that the questioner is not good enough, and the other person's attempts to keep you may not be a true sign of affection. After all, relationships are a two-way street. Currently, the questioner and the other person may still have some uncertainties, so it might be beneficial to focus on your own things for now. As a guy, we can be brave. Being introverted does not mean that you have to avoid things. The other person rejected the questioner's gift, and there may be some concerns on her part, but that is not the questioner's problem. It is simply her way of dealing with things. The questioner has already done what they can, and the rest is just about adjusting their mindset and knowing what's important. After all, the three years of high school are very important. We can treat the other person as a friend, and when we meet, we can nod or smile. As for the future, we can just leave it to time. Sometimes what we think is like and what other people like are not always the same thing. The questioner will slowly understand this as they experience more things in the future.

Regarding the future, it would be prudent to allow time to unfold. There are instances when our personal preferences and those of others diverge. As the protagonist gains more experience, he will gradually come to recognize this phenomenon.

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you regarding your recent enquiry. Please allow me to extend my greetings to you.

After reviewing your description, I am able to comprehend your current state of mind.

In your description, you mentioned that you confessed to a girl on QQ in elementary school but failed to follow through. Despite her pleas for you to keep her as a contact, you deleted her. Three years later, you met again in high school. As introverts, neither of you had the confidence to take the initiative. It is worth noting that, although children are relatively precocious nowadays, they still lack the emotional maturity to navigate complex social interactions. The failed confession and the begging for forgiveness you mentioned in your description are particularly challenging for children to navigate. This behavior can also result in psychological pressure.

The so-called confession is, in fact, the child's inner possessiveness. It is akin to liking a toy, except that a toy is more about possession. When presented with a hundred toys, one will only choose one, not all, just as one would in telepathy. This is particularly relevant in interpersonal communication. One may also experience a sudden feeling of liking or wanting to spend time with another person, which has little bearing on a confession.

Furthermore, at the time, it was merely a personal opinion, so erasing the other person was simply a subconscious action. Based on the other person's behavior in attempting to maintain contact, they should not be opposed to further communication.

Based on the results, it appears that this issue can be resolved relatively easily.

Secondly, you wrote in your description: "Then last year's National Day, I purchased a gift to express my apology. I am unsure if it is due to the school's strict dating policies or another reason, but she did not respond. We were on the same floor before we split into different classes, and after we split, we switched classes. Since the last time I gave her a gift and it was unsuccessful," you feel guilty. When you take action to improve the situation and receive a response, your inner sense of guilt will increase. This shows that your emotions are still quite fragile. What you need is to adjust your approach. You can describe it like this: Just like having dinner with your family, there will always be someone who can't attend for some reason. At this time, although there is regret, there is nothing you can do. Just because they couldn't attend this time doesn't mean they can't attend next time. The formation of life is to some extent like drawing circles, one after the other, forming a seemingly imperfect but regular pattern. No one can guarantee that the person next to you now will not appear next moment, or will disappear the next moment. At this time, it may be more appropriately described as fate.

In your description, you indicated that you lacked the courage to approach the water dispenser on the other side of the classroom to get water. You also stated that you felt nervous every time you passed their classroom and tried to avoid eating in the same cafeteria as her. Additionally, you mentioned that you tried to limit contact with her as much as possible. However, before the final exam, you noticed that you saw her less and less, which led to a more active lifestyle. Despite this, you felt a sense of guilt because you were afraid that she transferred to another school because of you. After inquiring with others, you learned that she did, in fact, transfer. From a psychological perspective, you still have hope of continuing the relationship and making up for the regret of your childhood. This is a normal emotion, but now that you have it, you need to take action. You cannot simply dwell on it and stop moving forward because you are afraid. If you continue to do so, it will negatively impact your future relationships and even affect how you interact with the opposite sex in the future.

Suggestions:

1. Adopt the right mindset. Regardless of the merits of your actions, you cannot undo them. The key is to confront the present situation.

2. If the objective is to salvage the friendship between friends, sending a gift is an inevitable act. Since you have chosen to give it, it is not necessary to consider the other person's feelings. At this time, your focus should be on your own feelings, which are that you gave it.

3. As a male colleague, you should be generous. You've known her for a long time, so be proactive and demonstrate that you have no issue with her reciprocating your feelings.

4. It is important to consider the long-term implications of the relationship. While the current period may be just three years, it is possible that it will last five, ten, or even a lifetime. It is therefore essential to think in terms of the relationship as a whole, rather than focusing on the immediate high school context.

The aforementioned considerations are for your information only.

Hello, question asker, I am a heart exploration coach, Gu Daoxi Feng Shou Lu.

Given that the OP, who has not yet graduated from high school, is facing relationship challenges, I can empathize with their situation, having experienced similar difficulties during my own student years.

I empathize with the OP, who has demonstrated remarkable courage but has not yet received a response. I can appreciate the actions of the individual with whom the OP shared his feelings, who did not respond.

Perhaps we could try to understand the true meaning of love first.

Perhaps we could begin by defining love. I believe that love is the behavior of two independent people getting close to each other, including spiritual independence, and ideally also financial independence, so as to give the loved one a stable future. In addition, I think that the power of love should be encouraging, so that people can see the light in the darkness and have the strength to start over when they are negative.

I wonder if I might ask why school forbids dating.

Perhaps you are concerned about the potential impact on the rate of promotion? I believe there may be a factor at play here, but I think it's important to remember that teachers and parents have the best intentions when it comes to educating and nurturing their children, and that they share a common goal of providing their children with more opportunities in the future.

It might also be helpful for the questioner to consider:

It would be interesting to consider which has a greater impact on academic performance: success or failure in love. If it is not a positive influence, it might be best to focus on the most important goal at the moment.

What can you give the person you love at this moment in time? Apart from your sincerity, can you guarantee the other person's basic living needs?

If you are unable to do so, it might be helpful to revisit this matter when you feel more equipped to take responsibility.

My university teacher once offered some thought-provoking advice on intimate relationships between lovers. They suggested that it might be more responsible to go as far as you can with intimacy and, if you can't, to wait until you can take responsibility before expressing your feelings.

As the saying goes, what is meant for you will come back to you, and what is not will not matter even if you pursue it. It might be helpful for the questioner to focus on more important things in the present, which could help the questioner take more responsible actions in intimate relationships in the future.

The OP would like to avoid feeling this way for the next three years of high school. What is this feeling? What are they feeling guilty about?

From what we can see, the best way to protect them might be to avoid disturbing the other person. The question asker might like to try respecting the other person's attitude.

It might be helpful to remind yourself that those who love you will accept your apologies, even if you are wrong, while those who do not love you may not be open to them, no matter how hard you try. When this happens, it may be more constructive to respect the other person's needs and avoid causing them trouble.

You might find it helpful to read "A Change of Heart," "The Courage to Be Disliked," and "Accepting Imperfection."

I hope this finds you well. Please accept my best wishes for a wonderful day ahead.

Hello, I am a heart exploration coach. Fly free! Life is a beautiful journey, not for appreciation, but for blossoming.

You felt the same way as a rabbit with seven or eight babies in its belly: you were apprehensive because you had failed to confess your love in primary school, and you carried this sense of failure into high school. Then you apologized but didn't get a response, so you felt embarrassed and deeply guilty. But let's take a look at what really happened:

1. A favorable impression of the opposite sex is mistaken for love — and it's a wonderful thing!

The first confession in primary school is an amazing, exciting expression of affection for the other person. It's not quite true love or liking, but it's a great start!

It's the curiosity of a boy towards a girl, the desire to get to know the opposite sex better. It's what drives the development of mankind and society! You, on the other hand, are a typical doer, daring to think and do.

It just didn't work out, but that's okay! You didn't get the positive response you wanted from the other person, but that's not the end of the world. Dear child, if you are a girl, what would you say?

"I do," and then what? You just go back to doing whatever you were doing, studying hard every day, because you're still in primary school and your studies come first. So-called confessions and acceptances are nothing more than that—but what an amazing thing it is to be in primary school!

Let's look at high school again. You still took action and apologized by giving the other person a gift on National Day, but the other person still didn't give a positive response. So, what did you do? You kept going! You kept taking action and kept trying to make things right. You kept giving and giving, and you kept trying to find a way to make things better. You kept going, and you kept trying to find a way to make things better.

What do you see in this? You took the plunge and acted, and you were especially looking forward to a good response. When you didn't get one, you went back to your safe zone, but you're ready to try again!

Even if you are in high school, it's totally normal to feel good about the opposite sex. It's also totally normal to still have unfulfilled wishes from elementary school. You still expect a positive response, and that's okay!

Let's call it the love in your heart for now! You have bravely expressed your feelings and thoughts, which is your right and has nothing to do with anyone else. Whether the other person responds or not, you have already done your part, and that's something to be proud of!

2. Everyone looks at things from a different perspective, which is great because it means there are so many possibilities!

In your case, you think that the other person rejected you after you confessed your love. But what about the other person? She asked you not to delete your QQ account! Isn't that also an expression of her positive feelings towards you and a positive response?

You sent her a gift to apologize, and although she didn't say anything, was that a response for her? I want to say that everyone feels differently and expresses themselves differently, and we cannot use our own point of view to judge others.

You have the incredible opportunity of attending the same school, and you've had the chance to interact before. You both know in your hearts that the most important task at the moment is to study. Perhaps she has already made a decision in her heart, and the answer can only be announced to you when you graduate from high school.

And you can plan a bigger move! If you still have a good impression of her, why not set a new goal for expressing your feelings and use this as a driving force for learning for the time being?

You will find that you will become more confident and powerful, and you will be able to act naturally and calmly when you see her, because everything you do is to accumulate strength for that greater goal.

People are constantly growing and changing, which is great because it means you can change too! You haven't changed your initial feelings for her, which is wonderful because it means you're still interested. You might as well use these three years as an examination and test for both parties. If there is affection, it will not be overnight, but it will happen!

I really hope this helps! The world and I love you!

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Hello, It's like meeting someone in person when you see their name on the letter.

Your words show remorse and reluctance. She tried to persuade you to stay, but you were too emotional. Once something happens, feelings change.

But the future is still there. Let's talk about that next.

You said to your partner, "Let's meet again in high school in three years." Then you both said, "We're both introverts, so neither of us makes the first move."

1. How do you feel about meeting again?

2. What other reasons could there be for neither of you to take the initiative?

On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate the mutual understanding in this relationship?

4. What do you think she would rate them?

Everyone has different expectations at different times, which affect relationships. People change.

The girl may have needed courage to say no when she was younger. She needs time to recover and reassess the relationship.

You said you bought her a gift to apologize. She didn't respond. After reading this, I want to know:

What's your attitude toward this relationship?

2. What do you feel when she ignores you after you give her a gift?

Why does she ignore you?

Speculation is not as reliable as communication. Communication includes more than words; it includes body language too.

So, buddy, I want to show you that she is protecting herself as well as you. As you said, your relationship has caused her uncertainty. She is unsure whether you will still be as uncalm with her as before, and she is unsure whether she is ready to focus on the relationship.

She's protecting you because she thinks you'll be distracted by this and it'll affect her too. I don't think you want to see that.

This could help you see your future relationship in a new way.

I believe in you both.

Give yourselves time to grow. When you're ready, meet at the top.

Enjoy high school while taking care of yourself.