Father is easy to get along with when he is in good mood; when he is not, we will argue.

Good day, my name is Du Xi.

I can discern the nature of your predicament and empathize with your current state of impatience, distress, and concern. If I were in your situation and confronted with a similar parental figure, I would likely experience a similar degree of anxiety.

I extend a gesture of physical affection in the hope that my response will provide some guidance.

The objective is to improve the relationship, which is perceived as being in need of enhancement. However, the father may not necessarily perceive this as an issue. Given that the perception of an issue exists, it is necessary to implement changes in order to influence the father to implement changes.

If the current approach to interacting with one's father remains unchanged, it is unlikely that he will alter his stance. Therefore, it is necessary to adopt a determined stance to influence him, rather than engaging in reasoning.

From your account, it is evident that your father exerts considerable control over you, influencing your interpersonal relationships and limiting your personal autonomy. This control is likely driven by his underlying fear and apprehension about losing control.

Those with controlling personalities may also become irritable and anxious when others do not heed their directives. Given the decades that your father has exhibited this personality trait, you believe that reasoning and confrontation are unlikely to effect change.

It would be optimal to allow him to perceive you as within his control, which would mitigate his anxiety.

For example, if he requests that you purchase a lottery ticket and you decline, he may become displeased with your refusal to comply.

However, if one promises to complete a task, attempts to do so to the best of one's abilities, or chooses to forego the task entirely, it is unlikely that the other party will become enraged.

The degree to which a son fails to fulfill a request or act disobediently may evoke different emotional responses in his father. In some instances, acquiescing to a father's request may be an effective means of communication for a son.

His desire is to be perceived as a subject worthy of attention.

Greetings, question asker.

From the information provided, it can be inferred that you are the daughter. Typically, daughters and their fathers have a positive relationship. However, it seems that you are not satisfied with your father and the difficulties this causes.

Daughters often serve as a source of comfort for their fathers.

It is unclear whether you are aware of this assertion, but many individuals posit that fathers are close to their daughters, mothers are close to their sons, and daughters are close to their fathers, while sons are close to their mothers.

From a psychological perspective, there is some truth to this assertion.

From a psychological perspective, the nature of the relationship between the subject and her father is readily comprehensible.

When his daughter reaches an age where she seeks a romantic partner and subsequently marries, her father will likely experience feelings of separation anxiety.

It is evident that...

"The initial encounter with a romantic interest introduced by a friend involved a request for assistance in purchasing a lottery ticket. When I declined, the individual in question expressed frustration and questioned the significance of the lottery ticket.

This is an indirect method of preventing you from socializing with friends, leaving the house, or leaving him. It can be described as a form of separation reaction.

Includes:

"I attended a karaoke event with my colleagues. After several attempts to persuade me to return, I informed them that I would be back at a later time. Upon my return, I was met with disciplinary action."

This is also indicative of an inability to separate.

Two subconscious meanings may underlie the separation reaction exhibited by the father.

On the one hand, he is concerned that you may leave him, abandon him, and reject him.

Another factor is the fear that if one were to leave the relationship, the other party would cease to love and be loyal to them, ultimately leading to betrayal.

These circumstances elicit a profound sense of trepidation within him, prompting him to seek any pretext to compel you to return home. Your subconscious mind, in a subconscious manner, is impeding your ability to depart from his presence and forsake him.

The intervention of my father has had a discernible impact.

You stated, "He allows others to form opinions about me without regard for my feelings, and he does not respect my personal space. It is frustrating. I desire to establish a romantic relationship, but I am concerned that I may eventually become like him. He has a tendency to become angry and lash out. After work, he does not permit me to socialize with my colleagues and classmates, and he does not allow me to attend social gatherings. I am confined to the privacy of my home."

Furthermore, she stated that she would eventually have no friends with whom to converse or spend time.

It is evident that your father's conduct has had an impact on you, influencing your behavior and affecting your sense of security. Your tendency to avoid social interactions, coupled with your father's apparent goal of limiting your social circle, has led to a lack of friends and a sense of isolation.

The relationship between you and your father appears to be excessively close, which makes it challenging for you to maintain a comfortable dynamic, particularly with your father, who seems overly attached to you. This level of proximity and attachment may be excessive and requires attention.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether your father suffered from abandonment trauma. Additionally, it would be helpful to understand the nature of his relationship with your mother.

Please describe the nature of your relationship with your mother.

In general, even a close father-daughter relationship should be maintained with a certain degree of restraint. Excessive displays of affection can create discomfort for both parties.

It is recommended that you seek professional psychological counseling if conditions permit, in order to address this aspect of the father-daughter relationship.

The preceding observations are based on the assumption that the individual in question is a female.

The situation would be different if the child in question were a son.