Female, a little afraid of meeting a mama's boy in a relationship. How do I recognize a mama's boy?

Hello, my name is Gu Daoxi Fengshou, and I'm happy to be here to help!

It's totally understandable to be worried about meeting a mama's boy. But it seems like your main concern is that your relationship will be more influenced by his mother.

I truly believe that if you know what you want, you're more likely to avoid meeting someone who is a mama's boy. Non-mama's boys usually have these qualities:

1. He's responsible and accountable. He's not one to shirk responsibility when problems arise. He's there for you and can calm your emotions when you need it.

2. It's great if a man has his own strong opinions and is reasonable. That way, he'll be able to find a good balance between you and his mother in the future. He'll also be able to see both sides of a story.

It's so sad when it always hurts one party or the other.

3. It's so important to have a sense of boundaries. Only a man with boundaries can sort out the family hierarchy in a future relationship.

Before I got married, I felt that my husband was very responsible. But after we got married, I found that when he was at home, he always spent the whole day with his parents. I guess I had a bit of a surprise there!

I was left to take care of the children on my own. It was a learning experience for him, too, as he got to understand more about what it means to be a father and a husband.

That's why it's so important to have a sense of boundaries.

4. It's so important to know how to say no! Make sure you have your own judgment when faced with unreasonable demands, and don't let others lead you around by the nose.

5. No bad habits! People who can restrain themselves will also be more responsible in the future.

6. Independence. You'll get to see the environment he lives in and his usual lifestyle, which is really lovely.

If the other person can't take care of themselves, it might be tough for you in the future when you're together. His mom might end up taking on more of a caregiving role, which could lead to some challenges in your relationship.

Marriage is a big step, and it's so important to get to know each other's families as much as possible before tying the knot. If you have the chance, I really recommend it!

1. I think it would be really great for you to go to his home more often when you're in a relationship. It's so important to observe how his parents get along with each other. The way they interact and their family status might affect your marriage, so it's good to be aware of it.

2. It's also a good idea to take a look at their living habits, like their hygiene habits, work and rest habits, and whether their eating habits can be integrated. After all, in the future, after you get married and have children, these habits will have a greater impact on your relationship.

3. It's always a good idea to see if they're generous, including him and his parents. Even if you don't plan to rely on each other, if they can't even spare a good meal when they see you eating, it might be a sign that they don't value you or that they're not very generous. Either way, it's something to think about.

The more you know, the more you can tell whether you can get along harmoniously after you get together. It's not about avoiding unsuitable lovers, but about finding a more suitable partner for ourselves. That way, we can ensure the quality of future relationships! Wishing you all the best!

I saw this question from the original poster and thought it was interesting, so I'm going to answer it. I don't know who first coined the term "mama's boy," but it's a very apt description. Kudos to this "talent"!

The term "mama's boy" literally means "mother and baby." There is no doubt about it. If they are forced to be separated, it becomes "mother" and "treasure." This is a clear change in meaning.

This word is an interesting choice to describe the "characteristics" of this person. This person has both the characteristics of a "mother" and a "baby." The difference between the characteristics is stark, and there is no stability. This is reflected in the person's daily thinking and behavior, which means that this person "does not have a clear independent self-opinion" and has to "ask mom" about everything, and is extremely dependent on "mom."

They are unquestionably clingy and intimate with their mothers, and will undoubtedly display behaviors such as cuddling and being spoiled. There is no doubt that there is no clear psychological or emotional distance between them.

To identify such behavior, communicate with others and observe with an open mind. For example, does the person seem "very childish" and "lack of independent judgment" in their speech and actions, and often say "my mother said" or "ask my mother"? Or does the person bring their laundry home to be washed by their mother instead of doing it themselves?

Filial piety is a way for children to show their love and care for their parents and relatives. They can call their family members regularly to check on them, buy their parents daily necessities, visit them often, and take care of them when they are sick.

If a marriage encounters a mama's boy, it will indeed make people feel more troubled and troubled in the marriage, and it may even lead to a breakup. But don't worry! You're not alone in your concerns.

Now, let's dive into how a mama's boy is raised!

A person's nature has both innate and acquired social attributes. And it's so fascinating to see how these attributes are shaped by the people who care for us the most! For most of us, that's our parents.

If the child's mother is too dominant, controlling, overbearing, and possessive, and does not allow the child to develop his or her own individuality or to do things independently, the child will grow up without a strong opinion of his or her own, or even if he or she does, he or she will be afraid to express it. But there's another way! One reason is fear of the mother, and the other is because the mother controls the child in the name of love and does not let the child express himself or herself. If the child dares to disobey, the mother will suppress the child in the name of being unfilial. Over time, if the father is absent or irresponsible, the child raised by such a mother will easily become a mama's boy. But there's another way!

Absolutely! If the child's father is involved in the child's education and can stick to his views and set a great example of how to be a responsible man, the child will have fewer traces of a mama's boy.

This is why mama's boys are more a result of family relationship abnormalities or unscientific approaches to parenting.

How can you recognize a mama's boy?

Guess what! Most mama's boys are very obedient and attentive to girls.

1. When he encounters problems related to his mother, he has a unique way of handling it. He might back down, hide, or try to please everyone. He has no position or opinions of his own, and leaves the conflict to the two women.

2. When they encounter some social problems that are difficult to solve, they will also hide, feeling at a loss, or simply go to their mother for protection.

3. Family matters: He is unwilling to share the trivial matters in a marriage. But don't worry! He may say nice things, but he'll take action when the time is right.

4. He needs your care in life just like a child! He'll rush in front of you in major matters and follow behind you in minor matters.

In short, they shirk responsibility when it comes to big things, but they complain about small things—and that's okay! They always look to their wives or mothers for help, and that's a great thing.

A responsible man or person will have his own bottom line principles, his own way of dealing with things, and will take the lead or share the burden when faced with major or minor issues, rather than being vague and indecisive. This is what a responsible person looks like!

In a relationship, there's so much to discover! Talk more, chat more, observe more, get to know each other's families better, and don't rush into making decisions.

Hello! The questioner gives you a warm hug. From your description, you seem a little uneasy about establishing an intimate relationship, especially worried about the appearance of the mama's boy. What is the reason behind this kind of worry? In fact, I felt in my original family that men should look capable of protecting.

I feel that you are very uneasy about your insecurity, but I also feel that you are ready to embrace a new sense of security with a man in your life!

Mama's boys all had a controlling mother when they were young, and they displayed submissiveness, dependence, and a pleasing personality in an authoritative manner.

And then, something amazing happens!

After growing up, some people have their own careers and are still emotionally submissive and dependent on their mothers. This is especially an exciting challenge to handle when there are conflicts in the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after the establishment of the nuclear family. Some want to fight back, and they should!

There is also a part of you that is very dependent, that has not grown up, and that relies on your mother throughout your life. As an adult, you achieve passive control over her by relying on her—and it's a great thing!

The mama's boy has no independent ability. But that doesn't mean they can't achieve great things! Some of them don't go to work, rely on their parents for support, and are dissatisfied with their lives. They may also lose their temper and become controlling, wanting to attack their mother, who they were previously unable to attack. However, they are afraid to attack, so they seek this relationship and confrontation from another role.

Let's dive right in!

In the description, you are looking for intimacy and you are worried that you will encounter it. Don't worry about it! Just focus all your attention here and enjoy the moment.

Let's sort this out together!

First, you don't feel secure inside, so you generalize the whole process of finding a partner, thinking that you will meet a mama's boy. But there's so much more to it than that! Apart from the reality of TV shows you've watched, have you also seen the influence of mama's boys on you?

Second, you have the exciting opportunity to work on your anxiety about making friends, boost your confidence, and develop your ability to find a healthy man to be your lifelong partner.

Third, I'd love to hear more about your mother and what she was like in your original family. Was she too dominant, making you feel like you've lost yourself?

Now, let's dive into the fascinating world of the mama's boy!

First, single-parent families often have a mother-son relationship, which can be a wonderful thing! A widowed mother can focus all her love on her son, and they can form an amazing, intimate relationship. Eventually, when the son grows up, it can sometimes trigger the mother's anxiety about her love being taken away by her daughter-in-law.

Second, strong mothers will have a desire for control, and their sons will generally be submissive and accommodating—which is a great quality to have!

Third, the mother's weakness, powerlessness, loneliness, and sense of powerlessness inspire the son to love and help his mother. If he doesn't, he will feel self-blame or guilt. But there's no need to worry about that! You can absolutely increase your confidence and ability to find a healthy man to be your lifelong partner.

I've got some great suggestions for you!

1. Get ready to boost your confidence and find a healthy man to be your lifelong partner!

2. Learn more! Learn about positive relationships and how to get along with others. This is an exciting step towards your future growth!

3. Let go of the mama's boy in your heart. You'll be amazed at how many mama's boys there are in the real world, but you'll be able to avoid them with your learning and discerning eyes!

I really hope you can be aware of the reason behind your asking this question, why you are so worried. That way, you can ask questions and listen to your inner thoughts. That might be the real reason behind this!

I really hope these answers help you out! The world and I love you!

The term was entered into the Google search engine.

The term "mommy's boy," which is a popular Internet term, is used to describe a man who listens to his mother, always believes that his mother is right, and is mother-centered. It is also used to describe children who are spoiled by their mothers.

The questioner posits that filial piety is analogous to the concept of a "mama's boy," who is characterized by unquestioning obedience and unwavering deference to his mother's authority.

To some extent, there is a difference in degree.

Rather than distinguishing between the two concepts,

Firstly, I would like to enquire as to the reason behind the questioner's apprehension.

Have you observed such behavior in your immediate surroundings? Have you witnessed it?

Have you had any direct experience with this phenomenon? Or have you been in the presence of an individual who has?

Have you previously experienced this phenomenon and now choose to avoid further engagement with it, or do you merely experience a degree of melancholy when exposed to cinematic or televisual portrayals of it?

Moreover,

As previously stated, this is a matter of degree.

It is my hope that the original poster will also engage in a process of self-assessment.

Do you rely on your parents?

Do you occasionally consider the opinions of your parents?

In addition, it would be beneficial to understand how individuals typically decline the resources and assistance that are extended to them.

Alternatively, would you decline?

In relationships, a considerable number of individuals from both genders tend to prioritize the opinions of their parents.

However, the term "mama's boy" is rarely applied to men by women; at most, they will describe them as spoiled and willful.

The stereotype of men as "mama's boys" is not as prevalent as one might assume; in fact, the ratio of men and women in this category is quite similar.

Furthermore, the social role of men is, to some extent, perceived as requiring independence and the assumption of responsibility for the family unit. In contrast, women are more likely to be described in terms of positive attributes such as gentleness, strength, and determination.

The differing expectations associated with gender can result in individuals exhibiting distinctive characteristics in specific contexts.

It is therefore recommended that the questioner should not be discouraged by this situation, but rather recognise that it is a common occurrence. It is likely that many people, both men and women, will display similar characteristics to a certain extent. There is no need for pressure to be applied or expectations of the other person. To be frank, even if this person is a mama's boy, as long as he is not in a relationship with you and is not affecting your life, this is an acceptable state of affairs.

If such a personality is undesirable, then it is advisable to refrain from forming a relationship with someone who exhibits these characteristics. It is important to recognize that one's own preferences and values are not influenced by the actions or lifestyles of others. There is no need to be apprehensive about this.

Moreover, the defining characteristics of a mama's boy are "giving a mediocre impression, lacking in assertiveness and self-confidence," and, to a certain extent, deferring to the opinions of a particular individual, such as one's parents.

One can discern whether an individual exhibits assertiveness and confidence to a greater or lesser extent.

The concept of the "good face" is contingent upon the provision of parental support. Even in the absence of a close relationship with one's mother, it is challenging to refuse assistance from parents or relatives when one is facing significant financial difficulties. Refusing such assistance may be perceived as being too distant or ungrateful, particularly if the individual in question has not demonstrated a willingness to reciprocate. Filial piety, or the obligation of children to honor their parents, can manifest in various ways, including the desire to maintain a close relationship with one's parents despite one's own capabilities.

Therefore, the answer to the question is evident: as long as the individual you encounter is self-reliant and self-assured to the extent that they are not influenced by external factors, that is sufficient.

Should one ascertain that this is a quality one aspires for one's prospective partner to possess,

One may choose to wait until such a person is encountered, with whom a mutual affinity is established, and then to strive assiduously to cultivate this quality.

It is important to note that all situations have advantages and disadvantages. If one is dependent on their parents, they can rely on them for support, but this also indicates that they lack the inner strength to be independent. Conversely, if one is highly independent, there is a possibility that one day the person they rely on the most will be their partner.

Furthermore, individuals who are overly independent may be reluctant to trust or depend on others. They may be unwilling to rely on others in times of difficulty and may be easily influenced by external factors. If they do not view you as their ideal partner, it is possible that they may not view you as a suitable partner at all. In such a relationship, it is crucial to consider the long-term implications and whether you are equipped to handle the challenges that may arise.

From a personal perspective, it is inadvisable to form premature judgments about the character of this individual. It is imperative to allow for an opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of the person and to provide both yourself and the other person with sufficient time to ascertain compatibility. It is recommended to evaluate the individual based on their intrinsic merits and to determine whether they are a suitable match for you, whether you have a mutual affinity, and whether you can maintain a long-term relationship.

For example, consider a scenario in which an individual exhibits characteristics of a "mama's boy." This person may prioritize the input of their family members, yet also displays positive regard for the individual in question. This is particularly evident when the family is supportive of the individual's well-being.

Ultimately, if one is not a mama's boy, there is no cause for concern.

One must not be someone else who is independent and confident but merely disinclined to form a positive opinion of the individual in question.

Given the vast number of individuals in the world, it is prudent to take one's time, observe one's surroundings, and identify a suitable partner.

The aforementioned information is provided for reference purposes only.

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, and I'm here to coach Fei Yun.

It's so great that you're thinking ahead and addressing this issue head-on. You're in a unique position where you get to be responsible for yourself while also honoring your parents in a way that shows them you care.

Parents are so sweet! They're really concerned about their kids' marriages and want nothing but happiness for them. Way to go! Let's share and chat about this together.

1. It's so important to recognize your own emotional needs.

You want to understand and identify "mama's boys" so that you can avoid them and not make the same mistakes. It's so great that you're motivated by a desire for happiness!

I really hope that my future partner will have their own independent personality, will be able to successfully separate from their own family of origin, and will not let the relationship with my mother-in-law become entangled in my marriage and intimate relationship.

I can see that you're also worried that marriage might bring some challenges, like interference from other family members. I completely understand! After all, when you form a family, you're not just building a relationship with your spouse, but also with their family. It's natural to have some concerns about how things will work out.

We've taken our eyes off the future for a moment and looked at the present. What can you do now to prepare for the future and avoid the things you're worried about?

For example, it might be helpful to understand the nature of marriage in advance. And learning how to get along with your mother-in-law could be really beneficial too!

How can we make our marriage even better? How can we improve our cooking skills?

2. We can't control other people, but we can control ourselves.

It's totally normal to worry about the future. Apart from identifying "mama's boys" and making sure they don't affect your marriage, what else can you do? This is the best way to "live in the moment" and deal with your worries. Because people change.

As we grow older and gain more experience, we also grow mentally at different stages of life. It's so interesting to think that people who have experienced life and death often mature and grow significantly.

For example, a girl who doesn't know how to do housework or run a household but has a lot of initiative can make significant changes in a short period of time. She just needs a little support to get started!

Similarly, one day the "mama's boy" will grow up and be completely "weaned."

I really want to share one last thing with you. It's so important! Have confidence in yourself, so that you can have confidence in the future. "A good man is nurtured by a good woman, and a good woman is also nurtured by a good man." A good marriage is one in which both partners achieve and nourish each other.

3. The best thing you can do is tackle the problem at the source and stay away from "mama's boys."

It's not just the boy who is to blame for being a "mama's boy." It's also his mother. In other words, a "mama's boy" is the result of parent-child interaction.

Mothers give their sons lots of love and attention during their upbringing, which can sometimes result in their sons feeling a bit powerless. It's a natural thing for kids to want to do things for themselves, and it's important to let them explore and discover on their own.

So, if you take a step back and look at the situation with a fresh pair of eyes, you'll see that as long as your son is ready to take the leap and move towards psychological separation from you, he'll be able to find his way out of this tricky spot. And if you do come across a "mama's boy," you'll be equipped with all the tools you need to offer support and guidance.

I really hope this is helpful for you, and for the world! And I love you so much! ?

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Good morning,

A gentle reminder that there is no immediate need to act. It can be said that life is a process of continuous choices, so everyone experiences the anxiety of choice, the fear that the result of the choice will not be satisfactory and cannot be undone, and they are even more afraid to take a step forward. We are constrained by problems...

I would like to inquire as to whether there is a possibility of encountering an individual who exhibits characteristics of a mama's boy.

As a woman, I am somewhat apprehensive about entering into a relationship with a man who exhibits traits of a mama's boy. It is important to note that there are individuals who may not be overtly dependent on their parents but possess similar characteristics. How can one discern the difference? For instance, consider the eldest brother in the TV series "All Is Well." He has consistently acted in the name of filial piety, yet, at his core, he also values saving face and relied on his parents for financial support during his younger years.

How can one distinguish between genuine filial piety and the behavior of a "mama's boy," who blindly obeys his parents' commands and relies on them for guidance?

As we gain experience, we seek to identify useful lessons and integrate them into our personal wisdom, enabling us to more effectively address challenges. Consequently, our personality, perceptions, and approach to problem-solving evolve in line with our experience. We aim to mitigate risks through our own actions, ensuring a safe journey and reducing the impact of avoidable setbacks.

In other words, we require of ourselves that we only make the optimal decisions, rather than constantly taking risks to gain more useful experience.

It is akin to the process of selecting a partner. We anticipate that the other person will meet our expectations, that we will enjoy a good rapport, and that we will not be let down. However, we often overlook the fact that the world is the result of the interaction between object and subject, and that circumstances and things exist objectively. It is not feasible to control everything outside to serve us perfectly, so it is important to recognise our own inner anxiety and learn to set clear boundaries. Consequently, when faced with a decision, the only person we can always trust is ourselves. Believing that we can handle everything ourselves is a demonstration of self-trust, and a sense of security also arises from this.

In other words, the sense of security derived from attempting to exert complete control over all circumstances has shifted towards a belief in my capacity to achieve ultimate happiness and maintain equilibrium in the face of uncertainty.

How might one identify a "mama's boy" and avoid getting along with him?

The following characteristics are indicative of a "mama's boy":

1. Lack of independent opinions.

2. Lack of an independent personality.

3. Fear of responsibility.

4. A desire for dependence and a vague sense of boundaries.

In addition to external factors, internal factors play a significant role in the attraction between partners. Sometimes, this attraction is negative, meaning that what is lacking in one partner is attracted to the other. This is an unchanging law. To avoid attracting a partner with the same frequency as a mama's boy, one's own energy is sufficient in itself. This means having an independent personality and being mentally mature. This allows one's energy field to avoid attracting a partner with the same frequency as a mama's boy.

I wish you the best of luck and encourage you to continue your excellent work.

Thank you for your question. It is a good one, and I will share with you some practical points of judgment in response.

1. The characteristics of a mama's boy

His primary trait is that he is a mama's boy. He frequently responds to external influences with, "My mother said so," and his mother's words carry significant weight. He lacks independent opinions and tends to defer to his mother's decisions. The external perception is that his mother is the primary influence and he is secondary.

On a positive note, he is obedient and submissive to his girlfriend. When his girlfriend has a conflict with his mother, he often sides with his mother.

2. Concerns about encountering a "mama's boy"

When you are afraid of meeting a mama's boy, it is important to understand the underlying reasons for this fear.

With regard to the eldest brother in "All Is Well," he does not exhibit the characteristics of a mama's boy, nor is he filial. Rather, he is a person who has no sense of self. After getting married, he did not separate from his original family, did not distinguish between his own family and his original family, and had a symbiotic relationship with his parents.

He has his own opinions, but is inclined to prioritize his own sense of fulfillment over the interests of others.

He is of superior standing, yet he is unable to accept reality when circumstances are unfavorable.

3. Please describe your desired relationship model.

Each individual's love pattern is shaped by their unique characteristics. They will select a partner who aligns with their preferences. They will create their own love pattern in their subconscious and pursue their own path to happiness.

The more apprehension you have about encountering a particular individual, the more probable it is that you will interact with them. There is a subconscious influence at play, and your trepidation may also manifest in the form of the individual you fear, due to the influence of your apprehension.

Hello, question asker.

I admire your cautious approach to love. Falling in love is like preparing for marriage. It's important to understand both parties. There are many online tips for identifying "mama's boys." There's an insightful Zhihu article that teaches people to identify mama's boys through six details.

My mother is my daily advisor.

I told my mother where I was going and what I was doing.

Avoid taking responsibility.

If you meet these three criteria, you can leave. Don't hold onto any illusions and waste your youth. A mama's boy is someone who doesn't think for himself. Even if you win the battle between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage, you'll only have a son who will never grow up. This will exhaust you both.

[Others reflect us]

It's good to be cautious about who you fall in love with, but too much caution will make you hold back and not love fully. You'll always see people through tinted glasses, which is a waste of life. The law of magical attraction says you'll attract a partner like you.

Girls with insecurities fall for gentle men. Girls who lack love like mama's boys. Girls with weak senses of value like honest, good-habited mama's boys. I understand why I married my ex-husband, a mama's boy. I'm self-deprecating, so I need someone to love me. My ex-husband was sweet enough to make me fall in love with him.

I don't know which type the OP is. If it's one of the above, I suggest the OP go to counseling to find a healthy sense of self and relationships. When your world changes, you'll lose interest in mama's boys.

[The essence of love and marriage]

We usually think of love as finding a partner, but it's really about understanding our inner selves.

Psychologist Erich Fromm wrote in his book The Art of Loving that you can't love others unless you love yourself.

Love is an art. Before entering into love, study the theories and put them into practice. This is the right way to avoid a bad partner.

I'm a counselor, Zhang Huili. I hope my answer helps. I'm willing to help because I've been there. I wish you well and hope you find your soulmate soon.

Hello, colleague.

When I saw your question, I thought of a friend who once complained about a mama's boy. Her boyfriend was very considerate and delicate at the beginning. My friend is more open-minded, less fussy, and more assertive. She also lacks family warmth, so her boyfriend pursued her and they got together quickly.

Later on, when they got married, her friends noticed that her husband would ask his mother for advice on everything. They were surprised to find that he was a mama's boy.

As you can see here, men with a soft personality and little independence are likely to be mama's boys. His gentle temperament is also an advantage or a trap that initially attracted you.

Another thing to keep in mind is that you can get to know his family in advance and spend some time with his parents. Typically, the father of a mama's boy has a distant relationship with his son, while the mother is the one who holds the reins of the family. If you find that the parents don't communicate much and that everything is decided by the mother, it is likely that the child is a mama's boy. Social psychology research has also found that because the main family roles of husband and wife are not emphasized in Chinese families, and parents have little emotional management, mothers generally place their emotions and hopes in their children, so they are prone to excessive control and the appearance of mama's boys and girls.

It's worth noting that even if you encounter a mama's boy, it's not as intimidating as it may seem. The key is to ensure that your mother-in-law doesn't feel like you've taken her son away. That way, you can avoid any potential issues.

I hope this helps. I wish you all the best.

Hello, questioner! I am a Heart Detective coach. Don't be arrogant and don't look for trouble.

I can see that you are confessing your feelings and confusions on the platform, and I applaud your rationality and intelligence! It's great that you're thinking about the things you worry about most in a relationship. You're calmer and more rational than that, which is fantastic! You said that you are worried about meeting a mama's boy in a relationship, which is a character similar to those in TV dramas. These guys feel more dependent on and filial to their parents, hiding a stronger "mama's boy" trait. You are afraid of meeting this type of guy, but I'm here to help you figure out how to tell the difference!

I'd love to know if there's an easy way to tell the difference!

As a girl, if you meet a mama's boy in a relationship, it can be really annoying. But it's also a great opportunity to learn how to stand your ground and communicate your feelings. You'll find that the other person rarely considers your feelings, and they always think more about their parents at critical moments. It's also a bit of "stupid filial piety"!

So, don't worry! If you really meet a mama's boy in a relationship in the future, you should think carefully about it.

I'm excited to learn how to tell if I'm meeting a mama's boy in a relationship!

Let me help you analyze and sort it out!

1. Definition of a "mama's boy"

The internet buzzword refers to a man who listens to his mother, always thinks his mother is right, and is centered on his mother. It also refers to children who are spoiled by their mothers.

A mama's boy is a man who grew up under the indulgent care of his mother and still acts like a baby even after he has started a family. It's a fascinating phenomenon!

Mama's boys are usually lacking in initiative and self-confidence, but that's okay! Their mothers have designed their life paths for them, and as long as they don't make life difficult for themselves, they can live a good life without suffering too much.

"From a psychological perspective, mama's boys are to a large extent suffering from a controlling personality disorder. People with this disorder often have a severe Oedipus complex, and most of them slowly become mama's boys due to the influence of their original family."

(The relevant theory is quoted from Baidu Encyclopedia)

2. [The main difference between the two]

The first impression a mama's boy gives is that of being filial, which makes it often difficult to tell the difference between a mama's boy and a filial man. Let's make a comparison between a mama's boy and a filial man:

Now, let me tell you what you can expect from a mama's boy! The characteristics of a mama's boy are as follows:

It's truly fascinating how most mama's boys have such a strong sense of obedience and loyalty. They often say that their mother told them to always listen to her and that they dare not disobey. It's as if they have no opinions of their own and are completely brainless when it comes to distinguishing right from wrong.

And they often say that their mother told them to always listen to her, and they're so happy to do so!

And the best part is that most mama's boys cannot carry things and have no sense of responsibility!

And they love to tell their mothers everything! They let their mothers make all the decisions.

5. They're always chatting about their mom and will stick up for her first and foremost when there's a disagreement.

Now, let me tell you what a filial son is really all about! The characteristics of a filial son are as follows:

Firstly, they have a strong sense of filial piety, which is admirable. They also value listening to their parents and have their own opinions.

If there's an argument, you'll help the person who's right, not the one who's close to you. You'll be smart and independent, not foolish and obedient!

And the third thing is to respect your parents, but also have your own judgment and responsibility!

And the best part is, you can tell right from wrong and handle things with a clear head!

(5) They are the epitome of filial, responsible, and very independent!

3. [Calmly analyze and judge]

Once you've done your calm analysis, it'll be easier to judge. Even if they seem similar, when you meet someone like this, you'll know right away if you click. You can also get to know them through other people, like mutual friends or colleagues. They'll probably know some of the facts, too. Use your heart to inquire and observe! If it's this type of person, and they don't really think about you, they might not treat you right because of their motherly love traits. But you can then stop considering them and move on with your life. You'll still be okay!

4. [Love yourself well]

Even if you haven't really entered a relationship yet, and it's unknown what type you will encounter in the future, you should still relax appropriately and enjoy the journey! Don't be too nervous or anxious. But you can do your homework in advance to prevent problems, and you can absolutely deserve a better relationship. Love yourself, be good to yourself, believe in yourself, strengthen your inner self, and adjust yourself in time when you encounter any problems.

I really hope my answer helps you! If you want to keep the conversation going, just click "Find a coach" in the lower right corner. I'd love to chat with you one-on-one! Best of luck ?

Hello. From your description, it's clear you have a fear of establishing an intimate relationship. You seem particularly repelled by mama's boys and foolish filial piety. What is the reason behind this fear?

As a psychotherapist, I am going to share my understanding from a psychological perspective. All of the "mama's boys" I have worked with had a controlling mother when they were young. They displayed submissiveness, dependence, and a pleasing personality in an authoritative manner. However, there is also a difference between these types. Some have grown up and have their own careers, but they are still submissive and dependent on their mothers emotionally. This is especially difficult to handle when there are conflicts in the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after the nuclear family is established.

They also have a highly self-dependent, non-self-growth aspect, relying on their mother the whole time and reaching passive control by relying on their mother even as adults. Clinically, they refuse to work, depend on their parents for support, are dissatisfied with their lives, and become emotionally explosive, becoming controlling sons who attack their mothers, who previously could not attack them.

You are looking for intimacy, but you are stuck. This is something you need to be aware of. It will affect your ability to establish a relationship. If you focus all your attention here, you will ignore your inner feelings.

I want to know more about your parent-child relationship. Why do you have such anxiety?

You worry that your husband will not value you. This is because you have a strong mother-in-law. A strong mother-in-law leads to a weak husband.

First, it is common for single-parent families with a mother and son to develop this type of relationship. A widowed mother focuses all her love on her son, which inevitably leads to an intimate relationship with her son. This, in turn, triggers the anxiety that her son's wife will take away her love.

Second, a strong mother will want control, and her son will usually be submissive and accommodating.

Third, an anxious, powerless mother will inspire her son to love and help her through a sense of helplessness and powerlessness. If he doesn't, he will feel self-reproach or guilt.

Ultimately, I hope you can recognize the underlying motivations behind your question. What drives you to ask questions and seek help? The unconscious expression behind this is also the most crucial aspect, and it's the root cause of your anxiety. The world and I love you, and you also need to learn to love yourself. Let's do this together! I'm ready to use my expertise to guide you in your awareness and thinking.

Good day. I am pleased to see that you have requested assistance, and I hope that my input can provide you with the support and guidance you seek.

I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that when you are aware of and understand an immature personality trait within you, you are less likely to encounter someone like that, because you can detect some of the immature behaviors they display in time with the guidance of self-awareness. Therefore, there is no need for concern.

It would be beneficial to utilize this awareness, along with your feelings of unease, to gain a deeper understanding of effective communication and relationship management skills with the opposite sex. By actively learning and growing, you can enhance your ability to navigate intimate relationships more effectively.

The renowned psychologist Wu Zhihong's analysis of the distinction between authentic filial piety and the "mama's boy" phenomenon is particularly insightful. In his view, the "mama's boy" dynamic is shaped by the absence of the father-in-law in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in Chinese families. The reason why the mother-in-law is overly attached to her son and lacks clear boundaries is largely because the mother-in-law transfers the emotional and emotional support she should have received from her husband onto her son. This is because she is not seen or responded to adequately by her husband, and this aspect of her genuine inner needs remains unmet. When a mother's efforts are not acknowledged or responded to by her husband, she may redirect this part of her efforts out of anger and resentment and turn to her own children instead. This is because, in front of the "mama's boy" mother, the child assumes a greater role than that of the mother's husband, which prevents him from assuming the role of the wife's husband in his own intimate relationship.

Genuine filial piety in family relationships entails allowing children to be independent and make their own choices while assuming responsibility for their own lives. In particular, after children have their own families, parents respect their children as the masters of their new families and refrain from undue interference in their lives. Once they have taken care of their own lives, the young couple can provide their parents with the support they require, but they will not become overly involved in their parents' lives. In other words, both the parents' family and the children's family have clear boundaries between them.

I suggest you read Wu Zhihong's books, "Why Family Hurts" and "Why Love Hurts."

My name is Lily, the Q&A Museum's newest addition. I extend my warmest regards to you all.