Freshman year, thinking that there is something wrong with everything, how do you get out of a psychological (thinking) dilemma?

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well.

I appreciate your positive outlook. You are perceptive and aware of the psychological challenges associated with online classes during the pandemic. It is commendable that you are seeking solutions. However, it is a challenging task, particularly in the post-pandemic era. The relaxation of restrictions has led to a resurgence in new cases, creating a sense of unease. The recovery from the Yang Kang incident has also been prolonged. Additionally, the gloomy winter weather can contribute to feelings of depression. While the sun provides energy during the day, it can also intensify feelings of sadness at night.

As the old adage goes, if winter comes, spring will surely follow.

[The Spring Festival in the tenth lunar month marks the renewal of all things.]

From the perspective of the 24 solar terms, we have just passed the solar term of Great Cold, and there are only a dozen days left before the beginning of spring. Spring marks the revival of all things, with flowers blooming and vitality everywhere. This signals an increase in opportunities to participate in outdoor activities and spend more time with friends. The three-year pandemic has had a significant impact on social activities, creating an awkward period for those who require the opportunity to establish adult-style social interactions. This also highlights the importance of recognizing that learning is not the only thing to do.

Once the semester commences, you will undoubtedly encounter numerous classmates who are similarly enthusiastic about social interaction. University club activities are likely to be highly diverse, and you will undoubtedly be able to identify a small group with whom you can connect. This will also help to dispel any confusion or uncertainty you may currently have. It would be beneficial to use this time to gain a deeper understanding of the university's clubs and to plan a more vibrant social life upon your return to campus.

[Focus on the present and pursue your desired actions.]

The holiday season is a time for family and friends to get together. However, after eight months of online classes, you may feel that you have spent too much time with your family. As parents, you are aware that once your child goes to university, they will gradually grow up and leave home. These long 20-odd days may therefore be a short moment. Why not try to do something for your family? Dedicating yourself to a task or spending time with your family will also make you feel the flow of the heart.

Please be advised that an event is currently being held on the Yi Xinli platform. This event offers 10 minutes of "blessed flow experience" every day for 10 days. The event encourages participants to focus on one task each day, in accordance with the event's requirements. This focus is designed to eliminate feelings of meaninglessness and panic. Given that this is an online event, it is not possible to ascertain the physical fitness of the participants. However, it is recommended that they engage in physical preparation for the start of the semester. This preparation should include getting sufficient sleep, exercising moderately, eating a balanced diet, and maintaining a positive mood. These activities will provide the participants with the energy they need to embrace their new college life.

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What a great question!

After reading your question, I can see that you're really on top of things! You've identified exactly how to overcome the discomfort of online learning during the pandemic.

It's totally normal to feel this way!

I'll do my best to analyze and advise you as follows:

[Understanding the sense of adaptation]

The term "adaptation" simply means making your physical and mental state fit in with what's going on around you.

Your sense of adaptation is all about your adaptability, which is how you show up during the adjustment process.

As a freshman, it's so important to remember to adapt to the new learning environment by adjusting yourself to the new learning process.

Good learning adaptability can really help you do better in school and feel good about yourself. But if you don't adapt well, you might find it harder to do well in school.

As the questioner describes, this can lead to a bit of a thinking dilemma and a feeling that they are wrong in every way, which is totally normal!

[Discomfort under the epidemic]

For example, as mentioned above, freshmen often find it tough to adjust to their studies. With the added challenge of the pandemic, it's easy for anyone to lose control of their scientific learning methods.

It can be really tough to learn new subjects online. It's not easy to find the right way to learn when you're not in the classroom.

At the same time, online courses have relatively weak binding learning plans, and there is a lack of overall learning arrangements, so it's totally normal to feel a bit neglected or uncomfortable at times.

As the questioner describes, taking online classes at home for eight months can feel pretty boring and unexciting. It can also feel like a long time to just be idle, which can cause discomfort.

[Advice to the questioner]

It would be really helpful for you to try to adjust your freshman cognitive bias.

It's a big change going from middle school to college! It's not just a role change, but also a period of psychological transition that freshmen are going through.

As the questioner describes, "the psychological dilemma of setting limits on oneself." It's so important to find ways to seek psychological support on this platform, just as you did, to strengthen your psychological quality and adapt to university life as soon as possible.

Next, it's time to learn how to learn at university! Once the semester gets going, it's a great idea to chat with your classmates and teachers. You can also explore on your own to find a scientific learning method that works for you. This will help you learn more efficiently and get better results, which is great for adapting to university studies!

The third thing you can do is start planning your college career! This will help you stay motivated for your future college studies and life, and it'll also help you adapt to university life more easily.

I really hope this helps you out!

Good morning, colleagues.

Due to the ongoing pandemic, you, who should have been attending university, have had to take online classes at home for eight months. This three-year pandemic has significantly impacted the lives of many people. As individuals in our current era, it is evident that we cannot escape its effects.

I believe that the eight months of pandemic life have had an impact on your interpersonal interactions and mood during online classes. I understand that you are currently dissatisfied with your situation and eager to make changes. I wish you the best.

Fortunately, you have also conducted a thorough self-analysis at the outset, identifying the underlying causes of this situation. You have recognized that you are imposing self-limitations and have attributed this to the ongoing epidemic and the winter season. This level of introspection and awareness is commendable.

I am pleased to observe that you are experiencing a high level of happiness during the Spring Festival. Additionally, you appear to be engaged in a process of introspection and self-improvement, which is commendable. I believe that your strong sense of self-worth and desire for change are indicative of a positive trajectory.

By "walking on the path of self-change," I mean that you have not yet taken small steps. You still feel that such changes are not enough and want to take even bigger steps. What should we think and do in this situation? Based on my personal experience, I will share my views on this matter.

First, take a moment to calm down and collect your thoughts. Give yourself a comforting hug. It's important to recognize that your online class life over the past eight months has been challenging. As an online student, your time is largely confined to the digital realm. You're often confined to a small room, surrounded by electronic devices. We're young and energetic, and it's natural to crave interaction with our peers. However, it's essential to accept the situation as it is. To improve, we must first calm down our hearts.

Secondly, acceptance of your current state is essential. I believe you have already made significant progress. As you have identified, there are periods when you feel you are moving forward, yet you are not. Additionally, these instances are relatively brief. At times, you experience discomfort, which prompts you to set limits and inadvertently causes challenges. It is crucial to recognize that happiness is not a constant state. It is important to identify the instances when you feel happy and build on those moments.

The objective is to achieve a state of sustained happiness. As the saying goes, "Happy every day, happy all the time."

It is important to recognize that life is full of disappointments and that this is a normal part of life. It is therefore essential to accept our current situation unconditionally.

Next, consider a change in approach. I can see that you have made some changes to improve your situation, such as spending time with friends, staying busy at work, and seeking advice here. These are all changes you have made. In addition to these changes, just one change, spending time with friends, can significantly help you overcome your current challenges. What we have to focus on is not expecting that one change, one time, or one small change can help us achieve our goal and get us out of this situation quickly. We can embrace change, which means that obstacles may arise from any direction. As long as these obstacles accumulate, they will surely lead to difficulties.

Ultimately, I am confident that I can leverage this challenge into a source of personal growth and happiness. By maintaining a positive outlook and taking action, we can gradually overcome the situation and become more adept at handling it. Instead of viewing the supermarket as a daunting place, we can approach it with the mindset of a fish in water, agile and at ease. With the epidemic now under control, we have the opportunity to visit the supermarket a few more times when there are fewer people around. This gradual familiarity with the supermarket will not only make the experience more comfortable but also allow us to observe changes in our interpersonal relationships and psychological state. Once we have gained this newfound confidence, we can apply the same process to other challenges we may face. When we emerge from this situation, we will be better equipped to handle future predicaments with a positive outlook and a sense of control.

I believe that achieving your goal is possible by finding a solution to the problem quickly.

I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this matter. Do you agree that there are always more solutions than problems? I have great faith in you, in the world, and in your abilities.

Hello, I'm Xin Tan. 2023 will be a happy year.

I understand how you feel. You are struggling with your thoughts and feelings, and this is preventing you from being at peace. You have developed self-negation and self-doubt, and you can't find the motivation to learn.

You don't want to give up. You are trying hard to stop limiting yourself. Everything is getting better, so give yourself a pat on the back. Let's share and discuss.

1. Know when you're struggling and stay aware.

Internal conflict is when your mind is in two different places at once. It's like having two little people in your mind, fighting with each other, and leaving you with no peace. Internal conflict is like a leaky faucet, constantly draining our energy. And since energy is finite, it leaves us with no energy to do other more important things.

The pandemic has caused you to take online classes at home for 8 months. This will impact our learning, work, and life. We cannot go back to school, interact with teachers and classmates, or achieve real interaction in the learning process.

I'm happy you're aware and have a good sense of yourself. You've seen how you're acting and why.

When you see, change is already taking place. You have taken back the right to choose your own life.

?2. Live in the moment and focus on yourself.

We often try to feel good about ourselves by focusing on things outside of ourselves. For example, test scores, class rankings, and praise from teachers and parents make us feel good.

But when we lose these external supports, we doubt ourselves and feel anxious. This stops us living in the present.

Think back to a football match. The spectators are nervous and anxious, while the players on the field are nervous but not anxious. The best way to deal with anxiety is to live in the moment.

Jogging, exercising, listening to music, drawing, and cleaning can relieve tension and anxiety. You can also improve your ability to connect with yourself and get along better with yourself through meditation and mindfulness.

Focus on yourself, not others. Learn and read to boost your self-worth. When you're confident in yourself, negative opinions and external factors won't affect your self-confidence.

I hope this helps. I love you.

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