Getting ready for the wedding, the husband muttered in his sleep: Getting married means you'll be pinching every penny out of me?

Good day. I am a heart exploration coach, offering guidance and support in a confidential and empathetic manner.

I can sense your frustration. You feel disrespected, undervalued, and distrusted by your husband's words in his sleep. The wedding is approaching, and everything is going well, but his words in his sleep make you feel disrespected, undervalued, and distrusted. You even feel that he is not someone you can trust with your life.

Let us examine the issue that is causing you concern.

?1. Gain a better understanding of dreams

The reason for your husband's rambling in his sleep is likely due to the fact that our thoughts and dreams are often a reflection of our daily thoughts and activities. It is possible that you feel that his rambling is directed at you and reflects his true thoughts.

He has violated your trust and undermined your commitment to the marriage.

It is a fact of life that dreams are a reflection of our conscious thoughts. Some of these thoughts cannot be expressed and appear in the form of dreams in the subconscious. The reality is that getting married will incur a lot of expenses.

It is also possible that you have been preoccupied with wedding preparations recently, which may have left you feeling physically exhausted and mentally stressed. It is important to note that dream analysis cannot be generalized.

?2. Enhance communication between the husband and wife, foster mutual trust, demonstrate respect for each other, and collaborate effectively.

The creation of a family unit necessitates the input of not only the couple in question, but also the parents of both sides and the two families/family members involved.

A happy marriage requires careful nurturing. Financial considerations often give rise to arguments in married life. A case in point is the dilemma of whether to spend money on one's own parents or one's partner's parents during the holidays.

As you correctly observed, if it is not a biological relationship, it is not truly a biological relationship. A mother-in-law is also a mother, but a mother-in-law is not a mother.

Marriage provides an opportunity for both sets of parents and families to connect.

If you are unable to adopt the other person's perspective, minor disagreements can quickly escalate into significant conflicts, which can in turn lead to wider issues within the family.

It is therefore important to communicate more, avoid speculation about each other's thoughts, and refrain from criticism, accusation, or complaint. Such actions can easily lead to frustration.

You may wish to tease him a little by saying, "You were talking in your sleep yesterday, did you know?" to see how he responds. It is important to remember that home is not a place for reasoning; it is a place for love.

3. Identify and acknowledge the needs of both parties.

In a marriage, a woman's primary needs are for security, value, and care from her husband. It is important to recognize and address these needs in a constructive manner.

It is important to recognise that marriage is a highly energy-consuming endeavour, and that fatigue is a common experience for all parties involved, including both families. In the event of challenges or difficulties, it is advisable to share the burden as much as possible and demonstrate greater understanding.

"Everything that happens is for the best." Use this as an opportunity to communicate with each other, get to know and understand each other better, and enhance your relationship. Your happy life has just begun.

I hope the above is helpful to you, and I wish you well in all your endeavors.

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Hello, question asker! I am Enoch, your answerer.

The questioner is engaged to be married but was woken up by a dream in which the other party expressed a hint of resentment about spending money on the wedding. The questioner is dissatisfied and saddened.

In the face of this situation, I strongly advise the questioner to calm down first. Getting married often involves issues related to the two families, different cultural backgrounds and customs, as well as financial management concepts, which will often lead to conflicts and contradictions when getting married. This is a normal phenomenon, and I advise the questioner to not become angry because of the other person's nonsense. Sometimes dreams are not something that people can control, and they do not necessarily represent the other person's thoughts.

The questioner's family is likely to be more generous, straightforward, and efficient. Despite the lack of a bride price, they have already begun preparing the dowry.

If the other person has already reached an engagement but is still delaying giving the bride price, it is likely that their family is discussing some specific details. Men typically spend a great deal of money to marry a daughter, so their family will always feel that they are getting their money's worth. This often leads to hesitation when giving the money. If the other person promises one thing on the surface but has another kind of thought or plan in mind, it is important to be cautious about their character.

The questioner must understand the situation clearly. If it is really a bad choice, the decision can be made after getting to know the other person better.

If there is any misunderstanding in the middle, the questioner must communicate with the other party to resolve the conflict before moving forward with the wedding process.

I am certain that the questioner will have a happy marriage and a happy family.