He seems to have a lot of bad habits. What should I do if I hate and fear my father at the same time?

Some fathers have personalities that could be perceived as unbecoming by some. They may act like a parent, feeling very important and proud of themselves, thinking they have everything and have seen and done it all. They may have more experience than you have lived, and have walked a longer road than you have traveled. They may have an attitude of entitlement towards their offspring.

As a younger generation, as a child, he may sometimes act in a way that is not entirely comfortable for you. You may also become aware of some of the other person's weaknesses, shortcomings and various problems, which can sometimes lead to feelings of disgust and unease. You may find yourself feeling a certain level of animosity towards him, and perhaps even a sense of fear. However, as a younger generation, it seems that you cannot do without such a father.

Perhaps he has experienced some positive moments in the past, but it might not be productive to dwell on the past. He is currently facing some challenges, including financial difficulties and the impact of the pandemic. It seems he spends a lot of time at home, on his phone, and may have some resentment towards you.

He is facing a number of challenges, and it seems that he is turning to the outside world to express his feelings.

It appears that he may be employing this approach to disguise some of the remarks that have been made about him by others. He is currently experiencing a profound sense of unease. Some of his current actions are rather challenging to tolerate, and he also has some difficulties in relating to others. He allows himself to become involved, but is unable to take action, and instead tends to disparage others, using disparaging comments from the outside world to highlight his own sense of superiority.

It's understandable that this behavior might seem childish to some, but it's important to consider the underlying reasons behind it. It's possible that the father is seeking a sense of value and purpose for himself. If a man doesn't have a strong sense of status within the family, it can lead to frustration. This frustration might manifest in the form of belittling others, which can be a way of elevating himself.

A father like this can be challenging to navigate. If you encounter a father like this in life, we can try to gently and calmly explain that you have your own way of life, you don't need to be pointed out by the other person, and he needs to live his own life well. As the younger generation, you also have your own ideas and values, and you are all different individuals.

It's important to remember that there's no need to completely submit to another person's decisions and evaluations just because you're the younger generation. Your mother will also have her own judgments. We're all independent of each other, and if someone does something that's not so great, it's okay to kindly point it out and stop accepting some of the verbal persecution from the other person. I'd also suggest reading "Motivating Your Child's Internal Drive," "If Fatherly Love Is Absent," and "A Good Character Is Disciplined." It's helpful to remain calm and indifferent inside, and it's also important for the other person to find their own career and not be idle. This can help create a more harmonious family dynamic. Let's try to approach things this way.

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