High school, feeling uncomfortable being questioned by his students after reporting the grade level director to the principal

A high school student is confronted with a complex web of interpersonal dynamics. Your perceptiveness and capacity for independent thought are evident. However, it is regrettable that you have endured a degree of injustice as a result.

It was appropriate for you to express your thoughts through formal channels. I also hope to protect your motivation to think independently and confront authority bravely, as these are very rare qualities. I sincerely hope that you will not doubt yourself because of the injustice you have suffered this time. I would like to analyze the power balance between the various figures in the school with you, as I believe this will be helpful for you to understand this matter.

The pivotal figure in this situation is the year-level director.

In an educational setting, teachers are regarded as authoritative figures. In addition to their role as educators, year heads are also responsible for managing certain teaching affairs, which further enhances their authority. From the perspective of teachers, students are perceived as vulnerable and submissive, while the headmaster is viewed as the ultimate authority.

Such actions will be perceived as exceeding the teacher's imagination, thereby challenging his authority. Additionally, he will experience a sense of loss of face in the presence of his colleagues, which may ultimately result in a profound negative sentiment towards you.

The headmaster may be considered to have indirect power.

From the principal's perspective, students are not directly managed by him, but rather by individuals such as the grade level director. If he can leverage a student's actions to undermine his authority, he will feel more in control of the team. Concurrently, he can also cultivate an image of tolerance and humanity.

The homeroom teacher wields direct power.

The grade level director is the leader of the homeroom teacher, and you are part of the homeroom teacher's direct management. It is reasonable to conclude that you are anxious and annoyed that the students you teach have a negative impact on your leader. It is likely that he will attempt to prove that you are a bad person in order to demonstrate that it is not his management responsibility.

It is also possible that the incident was instigated by other students.

The grade director is imbued with a certain degree of belief and aura for them. They defend the grade director and also maintain their inner sense of belief. After all, being in the grade director's class is also a sign of excellence and luck. The damage to this aura will also result in negative emotional consequences. There may be other possibilities, and we can continue to discuss them together.

It would appear that you have inadvertently become enmeshed in a complex network of interests. It is important to recognise that being subjected to criticism and ostracism is not a personal issue; rather, it is a consequence of the mutual influence at play. It is therefore crucial not to allow yourself to become unduly influenced by this situation.

Good day. I have read about your experience. It appears that the group targeted you because you spoke up for justice, and you feel aggrieved and sad. I understand your situation very well.

I am writing to express my support for your actions. You have demonstrated a commitment to advocating for the interests of all parties involved, a determination to pursue what you believe is the right course of action, and an understanding of the need to address perceived wrongdoing. You have shown yourself to be a person of integrity and courage.

From my perspective, you have a very open and free-thinking approach. Based on your positive outlook and consideration for the student body, you have proposed reinstating the physical exercise course. This initiative could be beneficial for the entire student population. It's unclear why you're facing opposition. It seems your actions are affecting the interests of some individuals.

As the entire grade-level class could be cancelled, it must have been planned by someone, and that person should be the grade-level leader. The planner had his own agenda, such as increasing the time for studying cultural subjects, wanting to improve student performance, etc., or other reasons. Your piece of advice directly disrupted the planner's plan and challenged his authority, as the teacher felt like he was defeated by the student and that he was no match for the student. The teacher, as a representative of authority, felt very embarrassed. The reasons behind this are complicated. Perhaps the principal knew about the decision of the grade-level team and turned a blind eye, or the principal may not have known and only learned about it through your report.

Psychology teaches that everyone has a need for self-respect. There is nothing wrong with your approach or the process itself. However, you bypassed the planner and reported directly to the headmaster, which offended the grade leader and hurt his self-esteem. It felt like a blow to the head, leaving him with no face and losing face in front of his teachers and students. Your homeroom teacher does not want you to offend him and have his students come looking for trouble because it's all within his sphere of influence.

Furthermore, the school environment is analogous to a small society, comprising distinct groups and spheres of influence. It is prudent to exercise caution and protect yourself in the future when engaging in such activities. Regardless of one's personal attributes, there are inherent risks and costs associated with any action.

If you feel targeted now, I suggest you seek help from your family and together identify the grade leader to inform him that his student is targeting you and request an explanation. If it affects his interests, you should apologize to him and assure him that you did not intend to offend and will not do so in the future. Attempt to reconcile with the other party. If you are unable to do so, you will continue to be attacked. With the assistance of your parents, communicate with the principal and request protection so that others are aware of the situation. This will deter the individual from acting recklessly and also protect you. It should be noted that high school is only three years, and it will soon be over.

I advise you to read "The Science of Thick and Dark Learning" to gain insight into the nuances of human relationships. While actions may be straightforward, navigating interpersonal dynamics is often complex. It's challenging to avoid causing offence to others in our lives. Therefore, it's crucial to accept your decisions, avoid becoming overly entangled, and act with conviction. By respecting your own needs and feelings, you're making a sound decision.

I advise that in the future, you should consider the implications of your actions more carefully. You will learn from your mistakes. Prioritise your own protection and then ensure the interests of others are safeguarded. When you are less well-off, focus on improving yourself; when you are successful, contribute to the world. I hope you can retain your childlike innocence and continue to succeed while protecting yourself. I wish you well.

Hello, host.

I'm letmefly. I want to help you and get your feedback.

The original poster is a righteous child. He doesn't want to be treated unfairly. Now he feels isolated and aggrieved at school because of this reporting letter.

Anyway, I'll give you a hug.

I don't know if the original poster sent the letter to the school or the local education department.

The school shouldn't take up students' physical education time. You're right about this.

Your intentions are good, but the original poster doesn't realize what a letter of complaint means to the school's administrators and teachers. If you make a mistake, do you want your classmates to tell you to your face, or go behind your back and tell your teacher?

I don't know the specifics of your situation. If the school has been taking up your time, you should communicate first.

But anyway, you should always be honest and fair. Sometimes, though, you have to think about how you say things.

Just talk to the teacher.

I hope you like this.

Dear Questioner, I can see that you are upset about the way you were treated by your class teacher for reporting your behavior and by the head of year and some of the students. I know that you cannot understand why they behaved in this way. You believe that you did nothing wrong, and the headmaster agreed with you to some extent. Of course, you were also given some education and told how to deal with similar problems in the future.

I can appreciate your confusion and frustration. I empathize with your situation.

From your message, it is evident that you are a courageous individual who is willing to speak up for what you believe is unfair. You are a person with a sense of justice and a desire to advocate for others. However, it is also apparent that you may not have fully considered the implications of your actions due to your youth and lack of experience. You acted impulsively, without fully assessing the broader context or considering the perspectives of those who oppose you.

Therefore, when faced with opposition from those who oppose your position and question your motives, you will likely experience a high level of confusion, frustration, and self-doubt.

In light of the above, I would advise you to:

First, when encountering something, it is advisable to think more and act more slowly. This approach can facilitate more in-depth thinking and result in a more comprehensive evaluation.

As you mentioned the exercise class, it is likely that there are two distinct groups of people with opposing views. Some may prioritize studying over exercising, while others may find the balance between the two beneficial. Given the demanding nature of high school courses, it is understandable that students may have different preferences regarding their time management.

For children who have developed morally, intellectually, physically, and aesthetically, exercise classes may be a preferable option for relaxation and recreation. This can help to balance the demands of a rigorous learning environment. It also allows for a different approach to learning, which can be beneficial for some individuals.

In order to address this matter effectively, it is necessary to adopt a comprehensive approach.

Secondly, in considering the merits of exercise classes, it is important to take into account the views of those who do not enjoy them. In addition to the students, the views of the class teachers should also be taken into account.

Have you ever considered the reasons behind the homeroom teacher's apparent disinterest in exercise class? How can we foster a more positive relationship with the homeroom teacher after you've completed this task?

From the perspective of the homeroom teacher, what considerations would be relevant? Would the overall academic performance of the class and the rate of students going on to higher education be factors?

Furthermore, you did not communicate with the class teacher as soon as you lost the exercise class. Is it possible that you did not trust her either? Have you considered that if you write a report directly to the principal, your class teacher may be criticized by the principal?

If you were to be criticized by your superior, how would you respond and what would be your thoughts?

It is therefore important to consider the implications of our actions and to weigh up the best course of action. Would it not be more beneficial to communicate with the homeroom teacher first to gain her support?

This indicates that we have not fully considered the potential consequences of our actions, which has led to some individuals forming a particular opinion of you. Given that you were not anticipating this outcome, it was unexpected, and therefore difficult to accept.

Third, I believe that after the principal's conversation with you, you should have a better understanding. Your satisfaction with the outcome demonstrates the effectiveness of your communication with the principal. Will you adjust your behavior in similar situations in the future?

Finally, it is sometimes advisable to communicate before taking action. Given your belief that your ideas are sound and appropriate, you are free to express them.

All individuals have the right to express themselves. Naturally, composing a report is also a form of expression, but it should be used as a last resort when other forms of expression and communication have been attempted and failed to resolve the issue.

It is therefore essential to learn how to utilise all forms of expression effectively. Selecting the most appropriate form of expression will ensure that your work is carried out in a more efficient manner.

It is our sincere hope that the above content will prove to be of assistance to you.

I would like to take this opportunity to extend my warmest regards to you and the world at large.

Hello!

I've read that other folks have expressed their empathy for the person who asked the question.

I'd like to take a different approach and talk about the nature of education.

I just wanted to say how much I appreciated the quote from the school principal in your article: "Students must be in good health and in a good mood to learn..." He is both a teacher and a manager, but he chooses to put his role as a teacher first. It seems that the principal understands that if we forget the essence of education, then no matter how good a manager you are, it will be meaningless.

Reading the situation: This Thursday's weekly exercise class was suddenly cancelled.

Students can choose whether or not to attend exercise classes.

If the teacher chooses to voice concerns about students' work, it means that they want to work together to improve overall performance. They involve every student, help each other, and the teacher invites students to help improve the quality of their teaching.

So, you can imagine how a last-minute cancellation of a gym class can have a totally different psychological effect!

People want to be guided, but they don't like being controlled.

The topic author was kind enough to explain what happened on Thursday on the Yi Xinli platform today. It was really helpful to hear about the cause, process, and result of what went down.

It's so interesting how we all react differently to things, isn't it? People with different sensitivities have different reactions to this incident.

The questioner is really persistent! Like many great scientists, they've had a few setbacks, but they keep learning from their experiences and helping to make the world a better place.

I think of our country's amazing Professor Tu Youyou and the wonderful Grandpa Yuan Longping. I highly recommend watching "Meritorious Service" to enter their incredible world!

It's also lovely to see that the principal is praising this persistence.

I think you'll find that expressing a "report letter" as a "sincere suggestion" may help to reduce any offence that might be perceived by the other person. You've already demonstrated in your text twice that being polite in your wording is your starting point: you assert yourself, but you also consider others.

It's only natural when someone is rude, they're just trying to defend themselves.

The lovely Indian movie "Hichki" tells the heartwarming story of a girl who has had Tourette syndrome (periodic hiccups) since childhood. During the principal's speech, she was invited on stage to introduce her condition. She was so inspired that she has since worked hard to become a teacher!

After graduating from postgraduate studies in science, many schools were reluctant to hire her, thinking that her hiccuping would be ridiculed by students and that she would be unable to meet the needs of lecturing. But she kept waiting, and usually supported herself by painting.

And then, finally, she got her chance! She led a class of underprivileged students to great results. And later on, she even became the principal of that school!

Life is all about little acts of kindness. They're the building blocks of a better life.

We wouldn't recommend that you read "The Science of Thick and Dark" just yet, sweetheart.

This is such a beautiful age to feel the nourishment of love! It would be wonderful for you to read some novels. I'd highly recommend Mr. Mo Yan's "Frog," Mr. Mai Jia's "Life is Full of Surprises," and Rousseau's "Emile."

Dear question asker,

It would be beneficial for you to give yourself a reassuring embrace.

You are currently experiencing distress due to the fact that you performed a beneficial act, yet your homeroom teacher did not acknowledge your efforts, which has led to feelings of sadness. You are particularly troubled by the fact that your homeroom teacher also stated, "School is not for you."

This is something that cannot be accepted internally.

I empathize with your situation.

Indeed, no wrongdoing was committed. The intention was to advocate on behalf of one's classmates, to fight for their right to have a gym class. This is a commendable quality. Individuals who possess such righteousness are becoming increasingly scarce in today's society. The character traits and moral values exhibited are positive. The motivation was driven by passion and goodwill, yet it resulted in personal distress.

Additionally, it is important to accept oneself. As a model student, you have demonstrated a level of courage that your classmates may have lacked, and the headmaster has also recognized your efforts and provided guidance on how to respond in similar situations.

One might reasonably conclude that the aforementioned actions will not be repeated. The initial assumption that these actions would benefit the collective was misguided, resulting in personal distress and disciplinary action from the head of the year.

If one experiences negative emotions, it is advisable to express them in a constructive manner. This could entail engaging in physical activity, expressing one's feelings verbally, or utilizing alternative forms of self-expression. It is important to note that suppressing these emotions may lead to discomfort and may not be beneficial in the long run.

Indeed, you are eminently sensible and merely inquire politely; you do not intentionally complicate matters for others. What, then, is your rationale for continued reflection?

Remain in the classroom and conduct yourself in a manner consistent with your true self.

It is possible that you are also contemplating the future and considering that you will not be as concerned about the opinions of others, nor will you express your opinions in such an impassioned manner when you do become aware of certain information.

It is important to note that while you have developed your own opinions, it is crucial to exercise moderation in your actions. The insults you have received from others have had a profound impact on you, but they have also contributed to your maturation and enhanced your understanding of interpersonal relationships.

Given the circumstances, I am unable to provide assistance. However, I am willing to express my concern verbally.

Furthermore, it is imperative that you maintain your self-belief and complete your studies. You have considerable potential.

There are numerous types of individuals in the world. It is advisable to conceptualize these individuals as transient entities in your life. It is crucial to refrain from allowing the words of others to negatively impact your emotional state. It is essential to maintain a sense of stability and continue with your daily activities and academic pursuits.

I would like to express my sincerest desire to share your sadness. As long as you are willing to let go of this sadness, I am confident that you will be able to achieve a state of happiness once more.

It is my sincere hope that you will be able to achieve a state of happiness once more.

My dear, after reading your description, I can sense your current emotional state: a sense of injustice, bewilderment, and even a hint of frustration.

Yes, you are indeed working for the reasonable exercise requests of most of your classmates. You have gone to the principal to fight for your classmates' sports time, not for your own selfish interests. However, this matter has caused the grade leader and class teacher to misunderstand, and even a few classmates have become hostile towards you. All of this makes you feel aggrieved.

First of all, I want to say that you are a child with a strong sense of justice who will work hard for the well-being of the majority. You are full of love inside. What you did was not wrong, but the method may have been a bit lacking. This lack of experience is something that is common among young people, so there is no need to worry. We all went through this process before we grew up.

Perhaps it would be helpful to take a moment to examine the situation. What are the issues that need to be addressed?

If I might make a suggestion, I believe the decision to cancel PE classes for the second year of high school should be made by the grade leader or the school. It is not something that the homeroom teacher can decide. I think the reason for canceling PE classes is to increase the time for studying cultural subjects and give students more time to review. After all, the school still looks at test scores.

I hope I have been able to explain this in a way that is clear to you.

If you encounter a problem and are unsure of the solution, it is often best to first consult with your class teacher. If they are unable to provide an answer, they can report the issue to the grade leader. If the grade leader is also unable to resolve the matter, they can then seek guidance from the headmaster.

I believe this can be described as a hierarchical reporting process.

This is why the class will arrange group leaders, deputy class leaders, and class leaders, and the school will have such positions as squad leaders, team leaders, student council officers, vice-chairpersons, chairpersons, etc., for orderly management.

However, you have bypassed the class teacher and the year group leader and reported the problem directly to the headmaster. This may be perceived as disrespectful to them, challenging their authority, and undermining the principle of orderly management. It is possible that the headmaster will not point out your approach, as he may welcome it as a way of directly gauging the situation.

However, this may result in the grade leader and class teacher being somewhat passive, which could potentially lead to some challenges in your relationship with them.

After analyzing the reasons, you may find that you have actually done nothing wrong, and the teachers will not hold it against you. It's possible that the teachers' original intention is for the students to achieve good results, but they may have just been criticized by the principal, so they are a bit resentful inside, feeling that their good intentions have not been understood by you, and they also feel aggrieved.

I believe this can be resolved if we all try to understand each other's expectations and desires. If the teachers understand the children's desire for exercise and you understand the teachers' expectations of you, this matter can be easily resolved.

If you are open to finding a resolution, you might consider speaking with the homeroom teacher about your thoughts and intentions at the time. Once you have their understanding, you could then approach the grade-level leader with your concerns. As a child, you have the right to express your feelings, but it's important to understand that teachers are not in a position to apologize.

As the saying goes, it is often helpful to take the initiative to seek change when faced with challenging situations. This can involve explaining to the teachers your thoughts at the time, that you were not targeting them personally, but only wanted to get everyone's normal exercise time back. I believe the teachers will understand you.

I hope the above answers are helpful to you.

I know it's tough, but try to stay strong.