High school sophomore with severe depression, how to communicate with parents who refuse to grant leave for rest?

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing significant distress and a sense of powerlessness. You have undergone a profound transformation in your mental state, yet you have not received the understanding and support you require from your parents. Their perspective is limited to their own experiences, which can lead to feelings of despair. However, it is encouraging to see that you have sought assistance on this platform, which is an important first step.

It is imperative that you convey to your parents the gravity of your condition, so that they may fully comprehend the extent to which depression is impacting your life. It is also crucial to highlight the potential adverse outcomes that may arise in the absence of a robust response to this condition. I advise you to view a CCTV documentary titled "How We Fight Depression," which chronicles the experiences of a young woman grappling with depression. She confronted similar challenges to those you are currently facing and also sought the understanding of her family. When she informed her mother of her depression and expressed a desire to temporarily withdraw from school, her mother responded with composure, suggesting a temporary respite if she felt overwhelmed.

She informed the reporter that had her mother not offered a supportive response, but rather engaged in criticism and blame, she may have responded with self-harm.

It would be advisable to attempt to communicate with your parents in a manner that they may accept, and to allow them to gain an understanding of the true nature of depression. This will enable them to assist you in combating it. It is this author's belief that you will succeed, and that you will overcome this affliction in the near future.

Hello, I'm Jiang Rou'er, the psychological author of Yixinli.

I can totally relate to your situation. Depression is a real disease, and it's not something you can just "get over" by wanting to. It takes a lot of love, support, and care from family members to help you through it. It's a two-way street, and it's important to remember that depression tests not only the patient but also the family members who care about them.

This requires unconditional support from family members and companionship for someone who seems unable to do or want anything. It can be really tough for family members to understand, and it's so common for them to attack and dislike the patient. But I truly believe that most parents can still communicate.

It's so sad to see how many kids these days are dropping out of school because of depression. They just stay home, lying around, playing with their phones, and messing up their circadian rhythms. It can happen to kids as young as early teens or as old as early thirties. They're still living at home and relying on their parents. It just goes to show how destructive this disease can be.

I really think you should download a TikTok account dedicated to helping mothers of children in this situation across the country. The lovely lady in question has a child in the same situation, so you can join forces with her.

You could also ask your parents to watch more of her work and live broadcasts. That way, they'll have a better understanding of the pain and suffering that this disease has brought to the child, and they'll also understand you better. Her account name is Freedom Man Outdoor Hongshou.

And don't forget to take your medicine on time, stick to the dosage, get regular check-ups, and follow your doctor's advice.

And finally, help yourself! Keep up a moderate amount of exercise. I know it's tough, but you can do it! Just walk for half an hour a day.

Eat less junk food, more veggies, and foods with roughage. You've got this!

If that doesn't work, I think you should definitely consider taking a leave of absence. There are so many examples of people who have done it and made a full recovery. There was a college student who was so severely depressed in his first year that he couldn't go to school and wanted to take a leave of absence, but no one supported him.

I really don't think saying that taking a break from school is useless will help anyone. It's so great that she had no problem going to school the following year! I'm sure everyone was wondering why.

Everyone's in a different situation, and that's okay! I truly believe that the questioner is a very motivated child who wants to study hard. Otherwise, you wouldn't have asked this question.

It's so important for parents to understand how common this disease is. It doesn't matter if the person is a child or an adult, it's vital to realize that they're not immune to depression.

There's also a wonderful blogger on TikTok named Qin Langlang, who is dedicated to raising awareness about depression and bipolar disorder. He's also a survivor, having struggled with these challenges himself. After finding his way out of the darkness, he became a blogger and is now on a bright path to a promising future.

It's so important to remember that pushing someone with a broken leg too hard is not going to help them heal.

I'm so grateful to you all!

I love you, world! And I love you too!

Jiang Rou'er,

Hello!

Your situation is bad. Depression has made it hard for you to study, so you need treatment and time off. Instead of understanding, your parents made you go back to school because of their pride. This is too difficult for you.

You went to a top city for a diagnosis. The doctor gave you medicine. Take it on time, follow the doctor's advice, and take care of yourself.

Your parents were embarrassed to contact the school because they had taken too long off work. Try taking a few days off first. When you return to school, you can explain the situation to your teacher and ask him to help you communicate with your parents.

If you want, you can also ask your psychiatrist for help. Your parents should listen to a doctor.

Your parents may be reluctant to take leave because they're worried it'll affect your studies. They also may feel ashamed of your illness and worry about being blamed for not taking care of you.

If you have enough energy, you can ask your parents to sit down and talk to them about how the illness is affecting you. You can also show them some facts about depression to help them understand it better. If you don't want to do this, or if your parents are difficult to talk to, you can ask someone else to talk to them for you.

Parents love their children, but sometimes don't know how to show it. Your parents may be afraid to face your illness, which is hard for them. If you have a lot of difficult emotions, you can talk to a professional, like a counselor. Talking it out will help you feel better.

Best wishes!

It's really quite an adventure meeting parents like this!

The parents feel that taking a long leave of absence is embarrassing, and they are reluctant to communicate with the school. This is a great opportunity for you to educate them on the realities of severe depression! They have a rigid requirement that you go to school, which indicates an important problem: the parents have no concept of severe depression. Have you thought about why you have developed severe depression?

So, why not try telling your school or teacher about your situation? The school still has a concept and response measures for how severe depression affects a classmate. This way, even if you go to school, at least you can feel less pressure from your teachers, which is a great start!

In addition, you can ask the doctor for advice in front of your parents during the follow-up visit. This is a great opportunity to let the doctor tell your parents what to pay attention to in case of major depression and what the family needs to do to help the person with major depression recover. And we can even talk about what causes or triggers major depression!

It's so important to share with your parents what situations can lead to a worsening or recurrence of the illness. This way, they'll be fully aware of what to look out for and how to support you.

I have a question for you. You said the doctor didn't tell you to go to the hospital, but to be safe. So, after talking with your parents, you went back to school to see your classmates, right?

I'm so excited to hear more about your experience! Did the doctor communicate with your parents and ask you to go back to school? I'm also curious to know more about what the doctor meant when he said to be safe.

I'm so excited to hear more about this! Why do you think this is the result of all your hard work?

And is your condition just severe depression? Your description also includes feelings of tension and anxiety. I'm not sure if you've had any anxiety or other psychological assessment results, but I'm sure we can get to the bottom of it together!

It would be great to know if the doctor and parents have more information about your situation and state. Also, did the doctor prescribe medication or arrange for psychological counseling and other treatment plans?

I'm not sure, but I'm excited to find out!

These two aspects are areas where you can seek help from others, which is great because that means you can get the help you need!

And there's another way to reduce your stress!

It's a fantastic way to relieve yourself and save yourself when others don't realize how difficult your situation is.

You mentioned that you can hardly do the math problems, that you are already distracted, that you cannot bear the pressure of the coursework, and that you can only concentrate on barely understanding for 8 minutes in class.

If you can't do it, then leave it blank! The more pressure there is, the more the doctor's nervousness and anxiety will prevent you from doing it. But here's the good news: allowing yourself to not be able to do it will actually make you feel better!

The good news is that if your teacher knows your situation, they can help you!

Amazingly, concentrating in class allows you to understand for 8 minutes! How did you come up with such a precise calculation?

Not only did you listen, but you also understood some of it!

Then, just consider it a fun challenge for yourself to try to listen as much as possible!

Once you understand this matter, you'll be amazed at how much you can accumulate! For example, if you can understand eight minutes of a lesson, and the teaching method of another teacher in another subject in another lesson is something you like or are relatively good at, you can understand it for ten minutes. If it is challenging, you can understand it for five minutes.

It's going to take a while, but you can do it! Just keep trying your best to listen.

If you don't understand something, you can ask for help and learn it slowly to make yourself understand and comprehend. And you'll get there!

The hardest thing about learning is that you are impatient, but you don't have the ability. But don't worry! This is something that everyone goes through. It's totally normal to feel frustrated and lose interest and confidence in learning. But you can get through it!

But the simple truth is that if you want to learn something, and are willing to spend the time and effort to learn and practice, you will improve—and it'll be amazing to see how much you grow!

However, this is something you can definitely do! It is good to see progress over a period of time.

If you can't read for a long time, that's okay! Just let your mind rest when you can't read anymore.

Take a deep breath to oxygenate your brain! Or, just let your mind wander a little to give your brain a break.

The brain is an amazing organ that consumes a lot of energy in the human body. When the brain is tired, people will also feel lethargic and sleepy, and the brain will become even less useful. But here's the great news: you can help your brain stay healthy and happy by giving it the rest it needs!

Instead of forcing it to work, let your brain relax! You'll be amazed at how much more efficiently it will work when it's relaxed. And remember, efficiency is more important than the amount of time spent.

Right now, it's time to focus on reducing your stress and relaxing (your self-support system)! This is more important than your studies.

Absolutely! And don't forget about your own support system, social support system (understanding and support from classmates and teachers), and family support system. When they're all up and running, you'll be back to your old self in no time! I think this may also be one of the reasons why doctors and parents want you to go back to school and interact with your classmates.

And there's another really important point to remember: don't bear the burden alone!

When you really feel particularly bad, it's time to get some medical treatment and professional help!

If you can't communicate with your parents, then get help from a professional to communicate with them!

It is so important for parents to be aware of this issue!

I'm Bo, sir!

"A mental health center diagnosed severe depression." This is a good reason to talk to your parents and the school.

The doctor said to be careful, not to be hospitalized.

A major depression diagnosis may require attention to certain issues. Since major depression criteria are also multidimensional, it is recommended that the student follow the doctor's advice and pay attention to details. It is also important to seek resources and support from the surrounding environment.

As with the original poster's question on the platform, it's a good start. "After communicating with my parents, they asked me to go back to high school and contact my classmates." Perhaps they want you to stay in touch with your classmates. Another problem is what you mentioned, "My parents feel that they have taken too long off work and are embarrassed to communicate with the school."

Tell the school and teacher about your situation. Get support from the school. Schoolwork can cause depression.

If you have to choose between two bad options, choose the least bad one. School and not going to school each have their own pros and cons. Your main goal should be to protect your life and health. Look at the big picture and only think about schoolwork when you're ready to learn on your own.

We also need to adjust our mentality. There's no rush to make decisions. Leave the lessons you don't understand for now. You've already expended too much energy.

We can also talk to our parents about this later. Once we've decided to focus on getting better, we can talk to them about the most important things and tell them what we need. I think that they'll still make good decisions after talking to us.

We will keep taking medication and seeing a therapist to help us get through this tough time.

Hello, question asker! It's so great to see you. I want to tell you, who have always persevered, that you have worked hard, and it's paid off!

The questioner is currently in their second year of high school and feels a lot of pressure from their studies. I can feel the questioner's pain and helplessness, as well as their loneliness from not being understood, but I also feel their determination to succeed!

When I think of stressful times in high school, I stare blankly at the second question of a math problem that I can never solve. But then, after the math class ends, I feel relieved but still heavy. And that's okay!

None of that is fundamental. The fundamental is the self that is suffocated by stress and cannot see any hope. But there is hope!

I don't know how the questioner has been able to get through these dark days alone, but I'm sure they will find their way!

I truly believe that the questioner will encounter sunshine again! This may be the worst and lowest point now, but it won't get any worse if you keep going.

Spring is here! I really hope you get better soon. If you have time, go out and feel the spring breeze and flowers!

Your parents are your biggest supporters, but they may not fully understand the challenges you're facing. They probably worry about you being hungry, and they may not realize how depression can affect your daily life.

Your situation has affected normal life and study, so it's time to rest and recharge! The good news is that if your school understands your situation, they'll probably approve your suspension to focus on your physical and mental health.

It's time to start communicating with your parents in a flexible way! Try organizing your words and telling your parents your needs in writing. You'll be amazed at how much better things will go if you avoid arguing.

Unite with your family and face it together! If your parents still disagree, I suggest that you contact the school teacher, because you need to explain the specific situation to the school.

The text shows that academic pressure can cause depression. But don't worry! You can beat it by resting well and relaxing during your suspension. You can't give up on learning, so don't! Stay optimistic and use your strengths to overtake others in the curve. You've got this!

I wish the OP all the best! May they enjoy good health, happiness, and a happy life!

It's a tough spot to be in, but you've got this! Taking too long off school will make you fall behind in your studies and get out of step with your peers. But you can avoid that! Taking a long time off school can easily turn into suspension, and long-term suspension can easily turn into not being able to go out. Not being able to go out for a long time can easily make you disconnect from society. The doctor and parents might also have their own concerns. But you can tackle them head-on!

You've got this! You're facing the school's concerns about your academic progress and parents' expectations about your future. If you really can't study and just want to stay at home, there are actually many ways to do it. You can roll around on the floor and throw a tantrum, and insist that the school approve your leave of absence. I don't think anyone can stop you from getting what you want.

You are the master of your own destiny! We all face challenges in life, and it's how we overcome them that makes us who we are. If you're facing a mental health issue like depression, it's important to seek help. Your doctor can guide you towards the right treatment.

Also, you might think about asking your parents to help you take a long vacation or even suspend your studies. Just make sure you think carefully about the consequences of this decision, because many people with depression are even more afraid of the school atmosphere once they suspend their studies. This can easily delay their youth, so it's important to think about what you want for your future!

It's so important to think about yourself in the present and also about the future. This is a great opportunity to discuss this with your parents, as your studies are stressful in themselves. Most middle school students have various mental health risks, so it's good to get this stuff out in the open!

You can absolutely reduce your expectations of yourself and not put too much pressure on yourself. Just listen as much as you can. If you don't know how to communicate, it's best to just tell the truth and explain that you just can't study right now and will have to study at home. At the same time, I highly recommend that you seek professional psychological counseling based on your doctor's advice, so that you can return to an organized life as soon as possible. Good luck!

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