Highly moral, control oneself, should there be premarital sex or cohabitation?

Hello! I can feel your conflict and dilemma from your description, but I'm here to help! Let me give you a warm hug first!

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She's torn between her beliefs and her desire for a great relationship with her boyfriend. It's a tough spot to be in, but it's also an opportunity to decide which aspect is more important to her. Which will it be?

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There's a saying I love: "It is better not to believe in a book than to believe in it completely." Perhaps Christian ideas have had a big impact on your thinking, but real life is real life!

If you set too many limits for yourself, you'll be stifled!

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In the past, when our parents were dating, there were a lot of restrictions. But times have changed! Thanks to the reform and opening up, people's thinking has opened up a lot, and free love has slowly been accepted!

4. I don't think there is a fixed answer to whether or not to have premarital sex. I think that if you don't have premarital sex, then the other person may not marry you, because the wave of premarital sex is still going strong. I think that having premarital sex is like trying out a marriage: you test each other to see if you like each other's personalities and if the sex is good enough.

After all, the cost of a trial marriage is a little lower. If you say that your personalities don't match after getting married, and your sex lives don't work out, then you get divorced again, and there may be children involved, which is a different concept from breaking up—and you get to start fresh with someone new!

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You have a good appearance, which is an advantage, and you have a loan and have not had sex with him, which is a disadvantage. But there's no reason why you can't turn your disadvantages into advantages! Otherwise, it's best to get back together!

Either you're single, and you have these three fantastic options!

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Awareness is the beginning of change. You are so lucky to have found this platform! Let's explore and overcome together. If you have time, chat with a psychological counselor or a psychological consultant. Psychological counseling can make a big difference. Or, if you want to let go of your burdens, take some time to watch the popular TV series "The Psychologist" (女心理师). It has healed many people! It's a very realistic TV series!

I wish you all the best! I really hope my sharing can bring you some inspiration and help! Come on!

Hello, questioner.

You feel torn.

On the one hand, you want sex. On the other hand,

As a Christian saint, you must suppress your desires according to the Bible, which makes you feel

You're divided and questioning your future.

Whether or not to have sex before marriage depends on how you see sex, how marriage and religion affect you.

You are in a conflict between your views on marriage and religion!

Consider religious and cultural beliefs, open experiences, and your needs.

Your right to pursue happiness. All of these are ways to pursue happiness, but none of them are singular.

Further Explanation:

Your body is yours to use as you wish.

The body: You decide if you can be happy through it.

Can you take the risks of your choice?

What are the risks of living with your lover in a hotel room?

Religion is a product of history. It's natural that religion sets moral norms.

These activities calm our minds but suppress human nature.

The Bible requires saints to atone for their original sin.

Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit and enjoyed family happiness without God's permission.

They were punished for challenging God.

The main point is:

Did Adam and Eve's descendants need to be punished for their ancestors' mistakes?

I'm not Christian and don't want to offend the Bible. This punishment seems harsh.

Your priest wants you to remarry so you can have sex while still respecting the religion.

But it goes against your personal interests because you divorced because your marriage was hurting you!

Consider:

The Bible has many absurd and unbelievable stories.

Prophets in the Old Testament didn't always have an easy life.

Hosea was an Israelite prophet during the reign of the evil king Jeroboam.

God asked Hosea to marry a prostitute who would cheat on him.

God punished them for their sins. Jeroboam ruled at the time.

The Israelites were too indulgent and disobeyed God.

Hosea should marry a prostitute.

God compared the Israelites to a woman who was unfaithful to her husband.

If God loves his people and saints,

Why can't we forgive worshipers?

I've explained this not to encourage or incite you to do something forbidden by doctrine.

Consider letting yourself go a little and not being so strict with the rules for human liberation.

The Renaissance ended a long time ago!

We also need to respect human nature.

We also need to respect human nature.

I'm Consultant Yao. I'm at Yixinli. I love you!

Good morning! I extend my warmest regards from afar.

You may experience feelings of loss, depression, and longing for acceptance and love due to your ex-boyfriend's marriage.

Although I do not adhere to any particular religious beliefs, I am aware that different religions espouse a variety of beliefs. As a devout believer, I believe it is essential to adhere to one's religious beliefs.

Your perceived high moral standards may be influenced by your religious beliefs, or they may be a reflection of a strong superego, as postulated by Freud in his theory of personality structure.

The foundation of any religious belief is truth, goodness, and beauty, as well as respect for human nature. The reason why religions have so many precepts and prohibitions is that they are used to restrain a person's response and ensure that the way one meets one's own inner human needs is appropriate and does not cause harm to others or oneself. This is in contrast to instinctive needs, which should be allowed to be met without restraint.

It is therefore recommended that, as long as your instinctive needs are satisfied through appropriate relationships, for example, through harmonious and intimate relationships where both parties are adults and the relationship is entered into with the full consent of both parties, there is no problem. This is because your relationship has naturally occurred out of love.

Individuals who are overly strict in their upbringing and are required to abide by various moral and ethical constraints and restrictions are likely to develop a strong internal super-ego. This super-ego will use various moral rules and a partially repressed conscience to deny, condemn, and harshly judge many of the basic needs of the ego, making it difficult to satisfy them. For example, the super-ego will consider basic physiological needs such as the desire for food and sex to be bad and the self that has these needs to be bad. However, these are a person's most basic physiological needs. When basic physiological needs are suppressed for a long time and cannot be satisfied well, the individual's body and mind will be greatly affected.

It is important to recognize that perfectionism driven by the ego is often a result of excessive concern about how others perceive us and our inability to fully embrace our authentic selves.

It is important to understand that the world is not perfect and that expectations of perfection are not realistic. Accepting yourself means having many needs and not feeling any shame because you have these needs. Needs are neither good nor bad; it is how they are met that is important. Meeting needs inappropriately can cause harm to yourself and others.

It is therefore recommended that you attempt to respond to and satisfy your inner needs in an appropriate and reasonable way.

Cultivating self-identity means that your value is determined by yourself and will not change based on the preferences of others. This requires you to try to learn to accept yourself completely, cultivate self-confidence, and enhance your self-worth. One way to cultivate self-confidence is by keeping a gratitude journal.

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If you're not a Christian, then you get to decide whether to engage in cohabitation-6522.html" target="_blank">premarital sex and cohabitation based on your values! You get to decide if you can accept that possibility, which means that even if many people have sex, they may not necessarily get married.

Premarital sex is like a summer fruit! Without a solid relationship, there is already physical intimacy. Before the two of you have a clear plan, you have already left physical traces.

A strong sense of morality is a wonderful thing! It allows you to constantly restrain your desires, which is a great quality to have.

As a Christian, you might be wondering: should I have premarital sex and cohabitate?

Be sure to feel God's presence in yourself and always be pious!

Before marriage

Devoutness

If both parties are okay with the idea that they might not get married later, and the woman and man are cool with the idea that they might not be virgins when they get married in the future, then there's a good chance that sexual relations will definitely occur!

⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️Consider the incredible impact that religious requirements and piety can have on oneself!

It's also a great idea to be clear about what you expect from each other!

Will external rules make you collapse? Absolutely not!

As a Christian, you have the privilege of abiding by more rules and regulations than other people in society. You get to not only follow the laws and rules of society and the company, but also the rules and regulations of the teachings!

The Christian Bible is a wonderful guide to living a happy and fulfilled life. As a devout Christian, you have the opportunity to align your actions with its teachings. Your depression may also be due to the suppression of desires, unemployment, being heavily in debt to online lenders, and also possibly something that happened with your ex-boyfriend.

All these things combined can easily make you very tired and uncomfortable, and you may not get what you want. But don't worry! Your scriptures have clearly stated some rules, and there's no reason they can't keep up with the times.

The rules already state that you cannot have premarital sex. If you violate it, more discomfort may arise. But hey, let yourself think that you may not be that pious, and that everyone else is indulging in sex. Do you feel like doing that too?

You want to be happy and have your desires fulfilled! But your offline life is full of disappointments. And your religion has made you see too many rules, which seem to keep you from moving. But you can get married! It's not easy, but you can do it. I suggest that you seek psychological counseling to find a way to balance between religion and reality. Good luck!

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