How can I improve my mood after receiving a lot of negative feedback during the day?

People are emotional creatures, and it's clear from how you're performing that you're letting emotions rule your life.

Next, take a look at what's causing those negative emotions.

The first source of negativity was that three out of eight patients complained during the morning rounds about the lack of treatment effect and felt that their professional value as a doctor was being denied.

When someone's in a bad mood, they're more likely to make mistakes. It's important to understand the patient's state of mind. Think about it from their perspective. When you're sick and in pain, you're likely to be suspicious. You might wonder if the medicine isn't working, the treatment isn't effective, or the doctor isn't competent. You're also more likely to doubt others when you're not feeling well. Patients will doubt even more. But is your judgment appropriate when you're in a bad mood?

It's not fair to take what a patient says at face value. We should consider their state of mind and whether their emotions are justified. Otherwise, we're setting ourselves up to feel undervalued. It's a flawed approach!

The second source of negativity is that I was supposed to have the afternoon off, but I started working at 1:30 p.m. yesterday because I had already finished some of today's work. After working for so many years, I feel like I'm not as productive as I'd like to be with the help of students.

Let me ask you, do you think you're doing a good job? Was yesterday's work the same as today's?

If the work content is different, does the time spent working have any comparable value?

If it's the same, why is the end of the day the same as yesterday? Is it inefficient?

So why don't you think about how efficient you were yesterday? Do you only feel inefficient today?

It's clear that you focus on the negative aspects of life. Emotions themselves are negative, so how can you think about positive things?

That's it. The longer it goes on, the more you hate change and the more you hate accepting new things. New things may bring good or bad influences. You only focus on the bad influences and ignore the good ones. You take the good things for granted and the bad things as the truth. Will you be happy?

I'm not going to go into the problems that might come up later, as they're likely to be similar, and I'll leave it to you to think about and analyse them.

Before you start, remember that no matter what changes you make, there will be both positive and negative effects. Don't just focus on the negative!

And take it slow. Think about how long you've been in this negative mindset, and then how long it will take to shift a little bit. When you feel a negative emotion coming on, analyze why it is. Follow the line of thinking I analyzed above and make little changes.

Have confidence in yourself. You are the only person who can help yourself.

Hello, question asker! Thank you so much for asking this question and for being willing to share your experiences and feelings.

I can tell you're going through a rough patch. It's tough to take all that negative feedback and not feel like you're being recognized for all your hard work.

As a doctor, you devote yourself wholeheartedly to saving patients' lives, and it's so inspiring to see how much you care! But it's natural to feel a little discouraged when patients are dissatisfied. I can fully understand this pressure and helplessness.

At the same time, you're facing a lot of challenges in life, like a heavy workload, changes in relationships, family responsibilities, and uncertainty about the future. These pressures and anxieties make you long for stability and security. You're looking for a place where you can temporarily dock and find a moment of peace for your soul.

I will do my absolute best to understand and support you, and I truly hope these warm words will bring you some much-deserved comfort.

First, regarding the negative feedback at work, as a doctor, you undoubtedly bear a huge amount of responsibility and pressure. Each patient's situation and response is unique, and their dissatisfaction may not be entirely directed at your professional abilities, but rather due to the pain and anxiety caused by the disease. This is an excellent opportunity for you to demonstrate your excellent communication skills! Use this chance to show your patients how much you care about them and that you're there for them every step of the way.

So, there's absolutely no need to blame yourself or feel frustrated! To deal with this situation, you can consider communicating more deeply with patients to understand their real needs and concerns, so as to improve treatment outcomes and satisfaction.

Second, regarding the issue of work efficiency, I know you have always tried your best, and I admire you for that! But sometimes, for various reasons, we may not be able to achieve our desired goals.

You've done your best, so don't be too hard on yourself! You can try adjusting your work plan or discussing ways to improve work efficiency with colleagues and students.

A team is an amazing thing. When everyone works together, they can overcome any difficulty.

And then there are the changes in your personal relationships. I have a feeling that you may be longing for stability and familiar relationships, which is totally normal!

But changes in life are inevitable, and we need to learn to adapt to them. Embrace the new! Be open-minded and accept new colleagues and friends.

You may even find that they have some unique charms and strengths! Changes in relationships can bring new opportunities and growth, so please face these changes bravely and embrace the exciting new chapter that awaits you!

As for the pressure in the family, I can see that you are dependent on and concerned about your husband. He is about to go away for further studies, which will undoubtedly be a huge challenge for you. But you can do it!

But trust that your relationship is unbreakable. Even when he is not around, there are still so many ways to stay close!

And don't forget to take care of yourself! It's important to relax and have fun. You can do this by painting, listening to music, or meeting up with friends.

It's totally understandable to have concerns about the future, especially if your partner says that they will no longer help with childcare in two years' time. But don't worry! You can absolutely solve this problem.

Instead, you can take control and plan for the future, find suitable childcare, or discuss solutions with your partner.

I'm absolutely certain you'll find the best way to deal with this challenge!

And finally, I want to say that you are not alone! No matter what difficulties and challenges you face, there are people who are willing to listen to you, understand you, and support you.

Your feelings are real and valuable, and you should absolutely not ignore or suppress them! When you feel sad, depressed, or anxious, please express it bravely.

We will always be here for you, ready to give you all the strength and courage you need to face whatever challenges come your way!

Everyone has their ups and downs in life, and this is the only way to grow! I absolutely believe you have enough wisdom and courage to deal with it.

The road ahead is long, but I know you can do it! As long as you hold fast to your beliefs and forge ahead, you will surely emerge from the predicament and usher in a better tomorrow. Come on!

I'm always here for you, and I'm excited to support you!

Wishing you all the best! I love you!

Hello! I can appreciate from your description that you work long hours and under pressure, that you haven't been feeling well yourself for the past few years, and that you are indeed very tired. You like stability and familiarity, and changes in your environment make you feel uncomfortable. Now that the department has been restructured, your colleagues have changed, your husband will be going on further training in a month's time, and your mother has said that she won't be able to help with the children after two years—it's an exciting time!

Many things are intertwined, which can make you feel a bit helpless. But you've got this! The patient's negative feedback has only increased this pressure and triggered negative emotions in you.

I totally get you!

This is something we can all relate to! We tend to feel more comfortable in situations that are stable, familiar, orderly, and certain. When there are lots of things going on and the environment is changing rapidly, it can feel like there's a lot going on in our minds at once. When our brains feel like things are a bit chaotic, it can make us feel a bit uneasy. But when things are sorted out, prioritized, and we have a clear plan for each thing, our brains will suddenly feel clearer and stress will be greatly reduced! This is the basic working mechanism of the brain, and it's pretty amazing! There are just some individual differences.

Let's dive in and sort out the situation together! We'll explore the two main perspectives of mind and body to find the best ways to deal with it.

1. Let's dive into the fascinating world of psychology!

1. First, let's talk about the overall psychological characteristics. "You can feel that you are afraid of change, want stability, and need people to care for, comfort, and accompany you." Think rationally about it. The state we are in is always constantly changing. Stability is relative, and change is absolute—and change is what makes life exciting!

When changes occur, list what you fear in response to the changes in this factor, and list the three most important ones in your notebook. When I just feel scared, my mind is a mess, and I feel like there are no solutions. But guess what? The moment you list it, your brain will feel clearer, and the pressure will suddenly subside!

Think of solutions for the three directions you listed. You can do this! Believe that there are solutions for most things. Even if you cannot solve them completely at once, you can have a way to move in a favorable direction. When there is a way to implement it, the brain will not be anxious. What you said about needing to be cared for, comforted, and accompanied is probably similar, and it is a manifestation of the brain feeling helpless. Also think about what needs to be cared for and comforted, what triggered it, and how to solve it. You can do this!

Two or three patients said that the treatment was not effective, and you subconsciously interpreted it as being negative. This led to a doubt about the value of your profession. But think about it! Five patients had treatment effects. This is the value of the doctor!

Many people have the habit of drawing a black circle on a blank piece of paper and asking people to say what they see. Many people will say they see a black circle and ignore the many blank spaces on the paper. I don't know what department you are in, but most diseases have a treatment process. Even if the treatment plan is correct, individual differences are still very large. You should be more professional in this regard — it's an exciting field to be in!

If the treatment effect is particularly poor, your department has a great opportunity to implement a new mechanism for multiple doctors to jointly sort through the test data, sort through the original treatment plan, and determine a new plan. The consulting industry has such a mechanism, and it's a fantastic model to follow. In any case, if there is indeed a significant lack of effect, you can try a consultation, which is always a great way to get new insights and ideas.

3. Departmental adjustments and changes in colleagues. You know, those familiar colleagues were never really familiar in the first place. But you know what? You can make them familiar! All you have to do is give yourself a few more hints. And you can find out what specific changes will be brought about by the changes in colleagues, for example, work habits, and communicate with your new colleagues to reach a consensus. If you are just unfamiliar with the person, then find a way to chat about family matters, children, etc.! You'll become familiar with them after a while.

4. In July, my husband went away for further studies, so I had the chance to sort out the family matters. I made a list of the important things that needed to be done before he left, and a list of my daily plans after he left. I just wrote them down in a notebook, and it felt great to have everything in one place! I also made a promise with my husband to send messages and make phone calls regularly, which I'm really excited about.

5. You've still got two whole years to make things work! There's always a way out. If it's not an emergency, just tell yourself that you'll find a solution in two years. Think about it: could any relatives help out for a fee? Are there any child care centers, small dining rooms, etc., where the child can meet other children and improve his social skills?

And so on!

Second, let's dive into the physical aspects!

You mentioned that "over the years, my body has had various problems," and that "especially recently, I have been experiencing dizziness. I thought it had gone away, but today I feel like it's getting worse. I can feel it myself: my dizziness is related to fatigue and my emotions." This is a great opportunity for you to think carefully about whether your physical condition is compatible with your work pressure, and what the relationship is between fatigue and emotions. You can develop a comprehensive physical conditioning plan, including medication, physiotherapy, exercise, etc., to make sure you're in the best shape possible!

Also, be sure to clearly define the plan and stick to it!

In addition, I think it would be a great idea for you to consider some other options. Have you ever thought about looking into second-line jobs in the hospital that are relatively relaxed and stable? You may earn less, but it's a fantastic opportunity for you to take care of your health and spend more time with your family and children. Have you ever thought about being transferred to a community hospital, where most of the work involves prescribing medicine and the like, and there are fewer patients to see? This way, you will also have less work pressure and be closer to home.

Oh, and here's another thing. This idea is actually about one party in the family sacrificing some of their career and taking care of the family more.

Your family is your home base, and it is actually very important!

Now for the really cool part! Emotions have energy and can accumulate. But here's the good news: you can take control of your emotions and avoid any long-term accumulation of negative emotions that cannot be resolved. And guess what? It'll even help you out with your body! The above suggestions on psychological aspects can help resolve emotions. At the same time, you can consciously perceive your emotions, feel when they are coming, take a deep breath to calm yourself down, use your conscious mind to think about what is going on, how you can solve it, and even if you cannot solve it, what the worst possible outcome is and whether you can accept it. This can prevent emotions from accumulating and fermenting.

Also, find some entertainment and relaxation methods that suit you, such as running, listening to music, getting a massage, etc. Once you find a suitable method, it's time to make it part of your daily routine! Do it every week or every day.

That's all! I really hope it helps!

Wishing you the very best!

Hello! From what you've shared, I can see how you're struggling with a lot right now. It's totally understandable to feel conflicted and helpless in the face of such challenges.

I'm a psychological counselor, and I'd love to share some insights from a psychological perspective.

I'd love to know how I can improve my mood when I receive a lot of negative feedback during the day. When I checked on the patients in the morning, three out of the eight patients said that the treatment was not effective. I felt that my professional value as a doctor was being denied, which was really tough to take.

I was supposed to have the afternoon off, and I already finished some of today's work yesterday, but I didn't leave work until 1:30 p.m. I feel like I've been working for so many years and I'm still not as efficient as I'd like to be, even with a student to help me. Also, there's been a lot of change in the department recently, so I'm having to work with colleagues I don't usually interact with much. I've already gotten used to the colleagues I used to interact with, but I'm not sure I like these ever-changing relationships.

I really love having a stable state of mind, where everything is familiar to me. In July, my wonderful husband is going to go abroad for further studies. My husband is also a doctor, and over the years, he has taken care of me as I have had various health problems.

I've been feeling a bit dizzy recently, but I thought it had gone away. Today, though, I feel like it's gotten worse. I can feel it myself: my dizziness and fatigue are related to my emotions.

My husband is also feeling the strain. He went to another department to help me out, but now he's feeling the weight of it all. When he has a little time for himself, he wants to do his own thing and can't give me the care I want. He's also very busy and has no time for psychological counseling.

I can feel that I am afraid of change, and I want stability. I also need people to care for me, comfort me, and keep me company. I don't know how to quickly get over these negative feelings and cheer myself up, but I'm sure I'll figure it out!

My mom is still helping out with the kids, but she said she'll be stopping in two years. When I think about that, I feel like I don't know how to go on living. I crave stability and a safe environment so much that even the tiniest changes in my environment or relationships can affect my mood. I don't know how to improve this situation.

From what you've told me, it seems like you might be lacking a sense of security. When things change and we lose that feeling of stability and certainty, it can really throw us for a loop! It's totally normal to feel anxious when things change, especially when we're not sure what's going to happen next. It's also understandable that you feel aggrieved when you don't feel like your efforts are being recognized. It's natural to feel worthless when we don't feel like we're being valued.

Third, there's the anxiety about the unknown. It's totally normal to be helping your mother take care of your child now, and to be afraid of her leaving in two years. But it's also important to remember that your mother is there for you now, helping you, and that you are interacting with your child and feeling the warmth and happiness brought about by your husband's tolerance for you.

So, how can you work through your conflicts and feelings of helplessness?

First, take some time to get to know yourself. What are your character traits?

I'd love to hear more about your relationship with your parents as you were growing up. When you've had to deal with some tough situations and disagreements, how have you chosen to handle them?

Should you suppress your emotions or express them? Should you escape or complain? First, it's really important to be aware of and think about your feelings. You can also go to a mental health department to assess and diagnose your symptoms. If you are suffering from mild anxiety or depression, you can adjust yourself or seek professional psychological counseling. In a safe and stable counseling relationship, you can explore the unconscious conflicts behind your symptoms. In the case of moderate symptoms, you need medication and psychological counseling.

Second, it's so important to accept yourself, warts and all! What are your strengths and weaknesses?

You're a responsible person who works hard and takes things seriously. You have great interpersonal skills and are capable at work. These are all great strengths that give you confidence! However, there are a few areas where you could improve. For instance, you could work on your adaptability and coordination. These are just parts of you that you can learn to adjust through reading, learning, and communication. For example, you could try to separate work from life, learn to do things that make you feel comfortable and relaxed, and read.

Tune in to your favorite tunes, spend some quality time with your loved ones, let your little ones play and explore, and soak in the joy of living in the moment. You can also try yoga, meditation, or mindfulness relaxation therapy to help you unwind and feel your best.

Third, it's so important to learn to love yourself! Try turning external evaluation and dependence inward and focus on your inner self. Security is something you give yourself. Over-dependence can trigger self-blame and guilt, while not getting what you want can trigger panic and anger. You can better adjust yourself and do what you want by learning to pay attention to yourself, express yourself, and explore according to your needs.

The world loves you, and so do I! It's time to learn to love yourself, understand yourself, accept yourself, feel the present moment, change your perception, and become a strong and stable person inside.

Hello! I'm Qu Huidong, a psychological counselor who can make images speak.

The questioner was triggered by a series of negative emotions because a patient was dissatisfied with the treatment effect during the ward round yesterday morning. In the afternoon, she should have been resting, but she got to work late and had to get used to her new work partner! This made her think about her own physical unfitness, her husband's upcoming study abroad, and her mother's inability to help with the children in two years' time, which made her even more anxious.

You've taken the first step by seeking psychological counseling. It's a great start! However, it seems that you've been unable to address it due to time constraints. The questioner, who has a high demand for stability and security, is eager to find ways to improve their mood and cope with negative feedback.

First, we need to learn to look at things from a different perspective. If three out of eight patients give feedback that they are not satisfied, how does the feedback from the other five patients make you feel?

Being a doctor is an amazing opportunity to listen to the "truth." If a patient hides problems for the sake of saving face for the doctor or themselves, we can help them overcome these unseen problems and keep them safe. Patients' feedback on the effectiveness of treatment is their true feelings, and it's so important to hear them.

Absolutely! We can definitely try to find the root cause of the problem from the feedback of the patient. Is the treatment effect not obvious?

Or could it be that there's a lack of communication? Or perhaps the patient's expectations are just too high!

Once we've identified the root cause of the problem, we can start taking targeted measures to improve it! By communicating and understanding the patient's actual situation, we can eliminate any misunderstandings, enhance understanding, and let the patient feel our care and professionalism.

Secondly, embrace your abilities and value! The fact that you have already started supervising students in the hospital shows that you are a doctor with some seniority and must have a lot of valuable experience.

However, it seems that the questioner often selectively ignores her own abilities and relies more on her husband's support. Now that her husband has switched to another department, he has become busier and more tired, which has caused some turbulence in their lives. But it is also an opportunity for us to see ourselves. Should we trust ourselves once? Absolutely!

Third, we don't fret over the past or worry about the future. The original poster's mother said she didn't want to help with childcare anymore in two years. After hearing this, you might as well write down all your worries and then let them go!

Just look at how many worries you can write on an A4 sheet of paper! Then, distinguish between those you can solve now, those that require some improvement in your ability to solve, those that others can help solve, and what is left that really has no solution.

In fact, there is no such thing as a solution or perfection. As the days go by, you will find that you have actually overcome many "difficulties"!

Regarding the time of psychological counseling, you should absolutely make it part of your desire for stability! Imagine if we set the counseling time at a fixed time every week, like a date with ourselves. This stability not only brings us a sense of anticipation and comfort, but also allows us to find a corner in our busy lives to pour out our hearts and relax.

And there's more! A fixed counseling time also helps us better manage our time and emotions, knowing that we will take good care of ourselves at the appointed time. At the same time, a stable counseling time is also a manifestation of being responsible to ourselves.

We are actively seeking help and support! We're no longer relying on our husbands, mothers, colleagues, or students to share our emotions.

Wishing you the very best!

Hello, I'm Supe from Yiyi Psychology.

You have been told by three patients that the current treatment has not been effective and that your work efficiency has not reached your expectations. This has led you to doubt your own ability and value at the moment.

You have these negative emotions because you are a very responsible doctor who sets high standards for yourself. I admire your conscientiousness.

I like this saying in psychology a lot: self-blame and denial will weaken our motivation to change and grow. Virtuous cycles are built on acceptance and affirmation. These things stimulate motivation and energy, so the opposite will drain you constantly.

Record your achievements, reflect on your shortcomings, and affirm yourself. Consider causes from different perspectives and aspects. For example, five of the eight patients have had good treatment results. We should look for reasons why the other three patients did not respond well to treatment. Factors beyond the doctor's direction, such as the patient's mentality, diet, and degree of cooperation, can also impact results. Looking for reasons from different perspectives allows for a more comprehensive analysis and solution to the problem.

Your capabilities are dynamic. Seriousness and rational reflection will help you become what you expect yourself to be.

You are aware of your negative emotions and have discovered that changes in your environment can cause unease and anxiety. This is the first step towards adjustment. Tell yourself, "The environment has changed, and I'm a little worried and scared. I like stability, but I'm willing to accept the current environment and myself."

If there is a park near your home, you can also pick a leaf and pour out all your negative emotions to it. For example, say this: "I am very anxious and unhappy because of... Now I will let these negative emotions flow away with the water on this leaf..."

This is the psychological dissociation method, which is to visualize emotions and negative thoughts. It can turn you from a feeler into an observer.

Choose your favorite sport during your free time. Go hiking, run, play ball games, dance, etc. Sports effectively adjust our brain and make us more active and positive in facing life.

I am certain that the method of "dissociation" will help you relieve your emotions and find a rhythm that suits you and brings you happiness.

Hello, landlord. I've read your description and I understand what you're going through. I hope my suggestions will help. It's tough to deal with a lot of negative feedback throughout the day and various pressures in life and work. It can really make people feel low and helpless.

Here are a few tips to help you snap out of a negative mood and find ways to cope and improve.

1. Adjust your mindset.

As a doctor, you help patients every day. Even though you sometimes get negative feedback, it doesn't mean that people don't value what you do. Remember that your efforts and dedication are meaningful.

Try to jot down a few things you did well each day to give yourself a boost.

2. It's okay to feel negative emotions. Accept your emotional changes and don't be too hard on yourself. Allow yourself to feel sad, disappointed, and tired. These are all normal human emotions.

2. Look for support.

1. Communication: Talk to someone you trust, like your husband, friends, or colleagues. Even though your husband is busy, try to find time to talk and share your stress and problems. This can help you understand each other better and support each other.

2. Get some professional help. You're busy right now, but try to find time to see a counselor. They can help you deal with your emotions and stress.

3. Adjust your pace of life

1. Manage your time well: Try to balance your work and rest time to avoid overworking. Even though doctors have a lot on their plates, getting enough rest and sleep is crucial for physical and mental health.

2. Self-care: When you're busy at work, make time for the things you enjoy, like reading, listening to music, or going for a walk. These activities can help you relax and relieve stress.

4. Coping with change

1. Accept change: Changes in life are inevitable. Learning to accept change can help you adapt better to new environments and relationships. Try to see change as an opportunity for growth and development, rather than a threat.

2. Find stability: In a changing environment, try to maintain certain daily habits and rituals. These can help you feel secure in the face of change.

5. Health Management

1. Keep an eye on your physical health. Dizziness and fatigue might be related to physical health and emotions. It's a good idea to get regular physical exams so you can understand your physical condition better. Pay attention to a balanced diet, moderate exercise, and maintain a good lifestyle.

2. Emotion management: Pick up a few techniques for managing your emotions, like deep breathing, meditation, and mindfulness exercises. They'll help you stay calm when you're feeling stressed or negative.

6. Future planning

1. Figure out what you want to achieve: Try to clarify your short-term and long-term goals and work towards them one step at a time. When it comes to future changes, such as when your mother stops helping with childcare, plan ahead and find other support and solutions.

2. Build resilience: Keep learning and improving yourself so you can cope better with problems. Stay positive and believe you can solve any problem that comes up.

When you're facing negative feedback and pressure at work or in your personal life, it's important to stay positive and keep things in perspective. Affirm yourself, seek support, manage your time well, accept change, pay attention to your health, and set clear goals. These steps can help you gradually improve your mood and overall well-being.

I hope these suggestions are helpful and that you'll find ways to cope and regain inner peace and stability soon. Believe in your own abilities, and you'll be able to get through this difficult period.

It's so important to understand and accept your emotions when you're faced with negative feedback or emotional distress during the day. The frustration, stress, and anxiety you feel are totally valid and understandable. Here are some suggestions to help you feel better and get out of that funk:

When you're feeling stressed and anxious, try breathing exercises or meditation. It's a great way to relax your body and calm your mind!

It's totally okay to share your feelings! Talk to a trusted friend or family member about how you're feeling. Sometimes, just talking about it can really help.

Try to see feedback from patients as a chance to improve, rather than as a personal insult. After all, medicine is a field of constant learning and progress!

It's totally normal for work efficiency and completion to not always meet our expectations. Try adjusting your expectations to make yourself feel more satisfied.

It's so important to adapt to change! You mentioned that you like a stable environment, but there are always changes in life. Try to accept these changes and find new opportunities and challenges in them.

Self-care is so important! Don't neglect to take care of yourself amidst the busyness of work and life. Make sure you get enough rest and relaxation time, and do the things you enjoy!

It's so important to have a support system in place. Whether it's family, friends, or colleagues, it's good to let them know you're there for them and that you need their help when you're facing challenges.

If you're struggling with emotional issues that are affecting your daily life, it's okay to reach out for help. Professional counselors are there to provide guidance and support tailored to your needs.

It's so important to plan for the future, both for your child and for yourself. You can start thinking about your child's future education, or you can find other ways to deal with the fact that you won't be able to help with childcare anymore.

Stay positive, my friend! We all face challenges and difficulties in life, but it's so important to maintain a positive attitude. Believe in yourself and your ability to overcome these difficulties. Set some realistic goals for yourself and go for it!

And remember, you're not alone! We all face challenges and difficulties in life, but as long as we stay positive and face them head-on, we can overcome anything and embrace a brighter future.

Dear Colleague, As a medical professional, your work is inherently challenging and stressful. The recent series of problems you have encountered can indeed make you emotionally unstable. Here are some suggestions that I hope will be helpful:

It is important to maintain a positive sense of professional worth, even in the face of patient complaints. It is essential to recognize that everyone has different expectations and reactions. To ensure optimal patient care, it is crucial to communicate with patients in depth to understand their needs and concerns, and to provide clear and thorough answers to their questions.

Discuss your situation with your colleagues. Their understanding and support will help you regain a sense of professional value.

Adapt to the new environment. Forming relationships with new colleagues takes time and patience. Take the initiative to participate in team activities to enhance mutual understanding and trust.

Seek to gain new knowledge and skills from your colleagues, as this will foster greater openness and tolerance.

It is important to monitor your physical health. Symptoms such as dizziness may be related to emotions, but they may also have other physical causes. It is recommended that you have a comprehensive physical examination to rule out organic lesions.

It is important to maintain a good routine and eating habits, and to exercise appropriately. This will help relieve stress and anxiety. Learning some relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing and meditation, will also help you cope with stressful work and life.

Seek family support. Discuss your feelings and needs with your husband and collaborate on finding solutions. Despite his busy schedule, your happiness and health are of equal importance to him.

It may be beneficial to seek professional counseling from a psychologist or psychiatrist, who can provide more specialized advice and support. It is also important to communicate with your mother to understand her thoughts and plans, and prepare for childcare in advance.

Maintain a positive outlook. View challenges as opportunities for growth and development. Stay optimistic and confident, and believe in your ability to overcome difficulties and challenges.

It is advisable to develop some hobbies, such as reading, traveling, and sports, to enrich your life and relieve work stress.

It is important to learn to relax and rest. Proper organization of work and rest time is essential to avoid overwork. Outside of work, it is beneficial to engage in relaxing activities such as listening to music, watching movies, or spending time with friends.

Setting short-term goals and offering incentives for their achievement can help maintain motivation and a positive outlook.

I hope these suggestions will be of assistance to you. Please remember that you are not alone, and that there are many people who are willing to provide you with support and assistance.

It is my hope that you will find these suggestions helpful.

I hope that you have found these suggestions helpful. I am a listening therapist, Deng Hong, and I am available to listen to you should you wish to talk.

Hello! I'm thrilled to answer your question and I hope my suggestions will be helpful.

It seems that your current state of life is indeed very stressful. It feels like a lot is happening at once, and you are overwhelmed. But don't worry! There are ways to handle this.

First of all, it's essential to prioritize our physical well-being!

As medical staff, you have the incredible opportunity to be aware of this. This part is definitely the most important! You get to have regular physical examinations, especially when you feel uncomfortable, to check your physical condition and seek active treatment.

At the same time, it's also really important to look after our emotional state. If we're lucky enough to have access to psychological counseling, then that's a great thing! It's totally normal to be busy at work or at home and not have time to do it right now. We can always wait until we're free, or try to pick some time to regularly adjust our psychological state and relieve stress.

Second, let's dive into the exciting world of family structure!

Whether you are a healthcare worker or a family member of a healthcare worker, it is a very rewarding job and identity. There is a lot of pressure to deal with, but you can handle it! There are also many parts that need to be adjusted, but you can do it! Then the most important thing for couples is communication, mutual companionship, and support.

When we're not feeling well, our husbands will be there for us, showing concern and comfort. And when our husbands are not feeling well or are under stress, we can be there for them too, giving them positive emotions. Husbands and wives need to respond to each other, and it's so important that we respond in a way that benefits both of us. This may mean that one person has to compromise a little bit, or the other person may need to compromise a little bit in the next stage. But it's so worth it!

When both parties feel uncomfortable or are under pressure at the same time, it is even more necessary for the two to actively cooperate with each other. Even if each person gives the other some space and makes some adjustments, it is also a good way! The most important thing is mutual understanding and giving each other as much encouragement as possible, or an emotional connection.

When it comes to children, it's a whole other ballgame! It hasn't happened for us yet, so let's not put too much pressure on ourselves right now. Once we've taken care of the urgent stuff, we can start thinking about how to handle the next big thing. Don't let internal conflicts get in the way!

Now, let's talk about the work itself!

Any work can lead to burnout. For us at this stage, no matter what the cause is, we may now be experiencing some small changes in work-related stress or anxiety. But don't worry! We can adjust our emotions and perceptions in a timely manner.

We must understand that when it comes to curing diseases and saving lives, we can only do our best and leave the rest to fate. There is no criticism of this, and it is even common sense. Each of us has some professional skills, and these skills can help us in many ways. The only thing we can do is do our best to do what we should do and what we can do.

Sometimes when we treat an illness, it does not have an immediate effect. But don't lose hope! The cumulative effect of treatment is just as powerful as medication. It may not be effective after one or two days, but if we keep taking it, after a week or two, the effect will kick in and the patient will recover. This is how treatment works! Although I am not a medical professional, if we think about it this way, we will understand that all the hard work we do today will not be in vain. Someday in the future, it will show results and have a positive outcome.

Before he has any results, we also need to give ourselves some encouragement, not just to encourage the patient, but also to encourage ourselves. Our existence and the work we do has its own value and meaning, and it's so important to recognize that!

We really hope that through self-reflection or with the help of a professional, you can better regulate your emotional state and not let it affect your daily life and work.

The world and I love you!

Hello!

Even just reading all the different aspects of your message can make you feel exhausted. You might be aware of your body's warnings and know you need psychological counseling, and that all your needs can't be met right now, but you're still reluctant to give yourself a break. You'll wonder why you make such a choice. It seems like you only feel worthy of a good rest without shame when you've made yourself completely ill.

Where does this deep sense of unworthiness come from? Can you see your own neglect and harshness towards yourself right now?

When you really know yourself, you can then talk about the next step of "improvement." Right now, can you really see yourself—and your needs for love and understanding?

If you can't see your own unmet needs for understanding, warmth, and tolerance, how can you get it from elsewhere?

If you're not ready for professional counseling, you can try writing a "healing diary" (you can find the specific method on the Yi Xinli platform) to prepare for future counseling. I believe you're ready to relearn how to care for yourself, just as you've bravely asked questions. Take it step by step until you become more and more empowered.

During the ward round, three out of the eight patients indicated that they felt the treatment was not effective.

You may feel that your professional value as a doctor is being questioned.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider this event from a different perspective.

Perhaps the other person in your eyes is actually yourself.

I believe it's important to remember that these patients are not here to negate you.

It could be perceived as a mirror that is telling you: you are denying yourself.

It might be helpful to consider that this experience could be a way of returning you to yourself.

It may be helpful to consider whether you have been in a situation of constantly denying yourself.

Such a reversal could be beneficial.

With time, you may find yourself shifting from a negative state of mind to a more positive one.

In this way, these patients are so lovely.

Secondly, it seems that you have been seeking stability and safety.

It might be helpful to remember that you can't find it by pursuing it, because pursuing it is a judgmental state of mind.

You may have the perception that what you desire is not currently available, but rather somewhere in the future.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that change may occur when we stop chasing and enter a positive mindset.

You may then come to understand that you have been in a stable and safe situation all along.

I believe that what you want has never left you; it has always been with you.

Perhaps what you need to consider is that it is not the external environment that requires change.

Perhaps what would be most beneficial is to consider adjusting one's attitude towards the external environment.

There is a poem that goes: In spring, flowers bloom, in autumn, the moon shines bright, in summer, a gentle breeze caresses the air, and in winter, snow blankets the land.

If you are not concerned about anything, it is a good time in your life.

This poem offers insight into this particular state of mind.

Perhaps we could say that minding other people's business is a kind of judgmental mind.

Perhaps it could be said that familiarity breeds security.

It could be said that unfamiliarity breeds insecurity, which might be perceived as a kind of judgmental mind.

For instance, when it rains, many adults tend to feel less enthusiastic about it.

It is understandable that adults might be concerned that playing in the rain could lead to their clothes becoming wet and items becoming moldy.

Children are often free from the constraints of judgment.

They see that they can play in the rain and jump in the puddles.

It would seem that they are quite happy.

It is interesting to note that the same scene can be perceived quite differently depending on the mindset of the person observing it.

A person with a negative mindset may perceive the world as full of malice towards them.

People with a positive mindset tend to feel that each season has its own unique charm.

Spring is known for its vibrant flowers, while autumn is associated with the moon. Summer is often thought of as a season with a gentle breeze, and winter is often seen as a time for snow.

One might say that life itself is a flow.

It could be said that different times and places have different wonderful landscapes.

Perhaps if we were to stop judging it, we might find a way to appreciate it more.

Hello, doctor. I can see from your description that being a doctor is not without its difficulties.

It's also possible that you may experience feelings of anxiety, a lack of self-confidence, doubt, headaches, a need for care and attention, and worry about your family while at work.

From my perspective, you seem to be a highly sensitive person. It seems that you are sensitive to other people's comments, which causes you to pay particular attention to negative comments about you, while forgetting the reactions of the other five people. It also seems that you are sensitive to changes in colleagues, which causes you to constantly miss your old colleagues and find it difficult to get along with new ones. Additionally, you seem to be sensitive to changes in your family, which causes you to start thinking about how you will cope when your husband goes on a business trip before he even leaves, and how you will cope when your parents leave before they even go.

For a highly sensitive person, the workplace presents a unique set of advantages and disadvantages. On the one hand, they possess a keen ability to observe and empathize with patients, which can be a valuable asset in their care. This emotional sensitivity and perceptiveness can provide a level of comfort and understanding that is essential for patient well-being. On the other hand, this same sensitivity and perceptiveness can also present challenges in a professional setting. It can lead to heightened sensitivity to criticism or negative feedback, which might require a different approach to navigating workplace dynamics.

On the other hand, highly sensitive people in the workplace may sometimes experience internal conflict. They may tend to focus on negative comments and uncertainties to a greater extent than others.

In the family, highly sensitive people may tend to rely on others emotionally and could benefit from having a lot of company, otherwise they may feel lonely.

It is also worth noting that highly sensitive people may be more prone to perfectionism. To illustrate this, we can consider the following example: you may feel that you could have left work earlier and completed your tasks more efficiently, but that you still fell you could have done more.

How might one go about breaking free?

You might consider beginning by breaking through some of the least important rules and standards. For instance, you could reflect on what time you "should" get off work, what you "should" achieve faster, and what you "should" get out of negative emotions faster.

All these "shoulds" can sometimes limit our perception, not only helping us feel better, but also creating a sense of restriction and urgency, which can sometimes make us more anxious.

When you catch yourself thinking "I should," take a moment to reflect on whether this is truly the most important thing, if you can temporarily set it aside, and if you can give yourself a break.

With continued practice, you may find that your nerves relax a little, which should help to reduce the strain on your already highly sensitive nerves.

For instance, when a new colleague arrives, you may believe you will get along well, but it is perfectly acceptable to maintain a polite and courteous attitude and interact in a polite and appropriate manner. It is not necessary to be close friends. Within the scope of your abilities and energy, you can help each other out, and if it is beyond your abilities and energy, it is perfectly fine to refrain from doing so.

I believe that each person doing their own job responsibilities is the most important task in the workplace.

It is beneficial to consider both the positive and negative aspects of a situation. On the one hand, it provides a sense of accomplishment and professional value. On the other hand, it allows one to recognize and accept the limitations of one's abilities.

You might also find it rewarding to pursue your own interests. For instance, if you engage in more conversations with patients who provide positive feedback, you may feel more positive and gain deeper insights into medical details. It's also helpful to understand the specifics of your own achievements.

As for negative comments, as doctors, we must take them seriously. We should also be grateful to those patients who give us honest feedback because it allows us to identify areas where we can improve our medical skills. When your focus is on improving your medical skills, rather than on the quality of the comments, you will find that the emotional impact of the comments on you will be much weaker, and the comments will take on a more neutral tone.

It is important to recognize your dependence on your family and to speak up about it. It is natural to feel dependent on others, just as you would advise your patients to feel comfortable about their illness and to openly discuss their needs with their doctors. Similarly, you should not feel ashamed of your emotional needs. If you have a need, it is perfectly acceptable to speak up about it. Sometimes, just the act of speaking up can make you feel a lot better because it allows you to see that others see you and feel more at ease.

If you have reservations about your husband going on a business trip, you might consider expressing your concerns directly and politely ask him to come home safely as soon as possible. Similarly, if you're not comfortable with your parents leaving, you could express your attachment to them and hope that they can help more with taking care of the children.

Have you ever considered what you would do if they were no longer around? It might be helpful to think about this and to acknowledge your feelings. Instead of dwelling on your emotions, you could try to address them directly. This is what I am going to suggest next.

It might be helpful to try to be mentally independent for a short period of time and in a small scope. It could be beneficial to face uncertainty by not preparing and calculating too much, as this might increase internal friction. Immersing yourself in the uncertainty could be a good approach.

If you are concerned that you may not be able to manage on your own, it might be helpful to try it out in a smaller setting first.

For instance, while your husband is away on business and your parents are still around, you might consider learning to be alone for a while, arranging your own pace of life, and seeing if you can handle it. Once you can handle loneliness and isolation better and better, your confidence in facing your romantic life alone might also increase.

Consider giving your parents a day or two off. During your holiday, you might like to try taking care of your child independently. If cooking is not your forte, you could always order takeaway from a trusted brand. You only need to worry about your child's learning and playing. You can always start cooking independently later on.

As you become more comfortable with the experience of raising a child on your own, you may find that your confidence in independently running your family life increases. Even if one day your parents return to their hometown, you may find that you are able to cope with that situation.

Sometimes, our growth often comes when our parents let go. We may experience temporary discomfort, and at times, we may feel that they are being indifferent. However, once we can face it alone, we may feel more at ease.

I wish you the best of luck! I hope that you will soon be able to break free from the shackles of your spirit and gain spiritual independence and freedom.

Dear questioner, Your words are clear and I am confident my analysis and suggestions will help you.

1. You began to doubt your character and work ability during interpersonal interactions while working with patients.

2. You are both mentally and physically exhausted from family chores. Your husband's lack of care and the greater family pressures you will face in the future lack security.

3. You are driven by a need for stability and security, which has caused some resentment towards your work environment. However, you are unable to leave your current workplace.

I have the following suggestions for the problems identified above:

1. Affirm the efforts you have made, don't care what others say, don't be a perfectionist, allow everything to happen, don't be serious. In short, affirm your own value.

2. Your life rhythm has been disrupted by life, and you need to communicate with your family. You should also set aside time to connect with your family and discuss the future development of the family and the care of your children together. Take the initiative and don't put yourself in a disadvantaged position.

3. Accept yourself. There is nothing wrong with wanting stability and security. Don't doubt yourself. This is part of your personality. You can reconcile the two. Work towards achieving a balance.

You will wake up full of energy. The world and I love you.

Dear question asker, I can perceive the confusion you are facing, and I extend my support to you.

The work of a doctor is undoubtedly challenging.

I can particularly empathize with your circumstances, as my husband is also a physician. He frequently encounters patients during weekend telephone consultations outside of his regular work hours.

During the course of morning rounds, three out of every eight patients will assert that the treatment is ineffective.

It can be stated that patients have expectations of healthcare professionals, and this is not inherently problematic.

Nevertheless, it may be necessary to communicate with the patients more effectively, as their perception of an effective treatment may differ from yours.

It is plausible that the patients perceive the efficacy of the treatment to be inadequate due to the lack of immediate results, despite their ongoing medication regimen.

It is, however, widely acknowledged that the efficacy of a treatment may not be immediately apparent.

Indeed, patients anticipate favorable treatment outcomes due to their impatience, rather than as a reflection of your professional competence.

It would be beneficial to record your current concerns on paper with a pen, in order to gain a clearer understanding of the emotions you are currently experiencing.

For example, the mother indicated that she would not be taking the children with her, but this is a matter for later consideration.

In one's daily life, maintaining an emotional diary, in which both positive and negative emotions are recorded, can be a beneficial practice.

Additionally, one may search online to ascertain the existence of mutual aid groups with which one might affiliate.

Should you be interested, I would encourage you to join them.

In mutual aid groups, individuals with comparable experiences can provide assistance and support.

It is my sincere hope that the problem you are currently experiencing can be resolved in the near future.

At this juncture, my thoughts are limited to the aforementioned points.

It is my sincere hope that my above response is both helpful and inspiring to you, the inquirer. As the answerer, I endeavor to provide thoughtful and well-researched responses on a daily basis.

Best wishes from Yixinli!

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Hello, question asker!

First, I want to talk about negative feedback. What is meant by negative feedback? As you said earlier, three out of eight people said that the treatment was not effective. Do you consider this negative feedback?

Of course not. If the three people had lied and said the treatment was very effective, that would be negative feedback. It would cause the treatment to be diverted and delay the treatment, which could have very serious consequences. So their feedback is actually positive.

What should you do if the treatment results for three people aren't what you expected? They said the results weren't good, but they didn't say the doctor was at fault. They just need to make some changes to improve the results.

Self-blame is not helpful. It doesn't improve the treatment effect. What can be done at this time to improve the treatment effect is what can be done at the moment.

On top of that, worrying isn't going to help.

If the three people are eventually cured, there's no need to worry.

If you've referred the three patients to other doctors, there's no need to worry.

I'd like to move on to emotions.

Simply put, emotions are like water currents. If you keep holding back your emotions, they'll become stagnant and slowly rot and decay. But if you can let them flow freely, like a river, then life will be full of vitality.

So, laugh heartily when you're happy, cry unrestrainedly when you're sad, and release your anger (by playing ball games, shouting it out, or some strenuous exercise).

As long as you can let your emotions flow freely, your life will be free and easy.

It can take a while to let your emotions flow freely. It might take years, so you need to start small. For example, you could try laughing or crying once in a safe environment and then repeat it again and again. If you can control your emotions as well as your medical skills, happiness will come as promised.

Hello, question asker! I understand your frustration. Receiving a lot of negative feedback in one day is challenging.

As a doctor, you may feel particularly vulnerable when patients question the effectiveness of your treatment. It's natural to experience a sense of professional worthlessness in the face of these challenges, especially when coupled with the various changes in work and life. However, it's crucial to recognize that these feelings are temporary and that you are an excellent doctor.

First of all, I want you to know that you are not alone and that your feelings are normal. You are an excellent doctor, and your dedication and hard work are worthy of recognition.

Every patient's feedback is based on their personal experience and does not represent your full value. You are a professional, dedicated, and respectful caregiver who cares about every life.

Now, let's take a look at the reasons behind these negative feedbacks and changes together. They're not as terrible as they seem.

You can learn from feedback from patients, but above all, you should believe in your professional abilities. The effectiveness of treatment depends on more than just the doctor. It's also affected by the patient's situation and disease progression.

Don't blame yourself too much.

You can adjust your work plan and methods to improve efficiency. This includes reasonable time management and optimizing work processes. You can also ask colleagues or students for advice on better suggestions or methods.

Teamwork is the key to solving problems.

It can be challenging to adjust to changes in the department and get along with new colleagues. But remember, every change is a new beginning. You can do this.

Embrace these changes with an open mind and foster strong communication and collaborative relationships with your new colleagues. You'll discover that these changes present new opportunities and possibilities.

Your dizziness and fatigue are undoubtedly related to your emotional state. You need to go to the hospital for a comprehensive examination to ensure that you are physically healthy.

It is also important to arrange reasonable rest and relaxation time. Set aside a period of time every day to do activities such as deep breathing, meditation, or walking. This will help you to fully relax your body and mind.

Next, I'm going to give you some specific suggestions that you can try and slowly find a method that suits you.

1. Give yourself some positive feedback every day. Tell yourself what a great job you're doing, or write down all your strengths and achievements.

2. Develop an emotional management plan. Set aside a period of time every day to deal with your emotions. This could be anything from keeping a diary, painting, or doing yoga. Give yourself a regular time and space to release negative emotions.

3. Communicate with family and friends. Tell them how you feel and what you need. They need to understand your situation. Their support and understanding will make you feel warmer and more at ease.

4. Develop some hobbies. You need a life outside of work. Make time for yourself by developing some hobbies, such as reading, traveling, and sports.

5. Seek professional help. If you feel you cannot cope with these negative emotions and changes, seek help from a professional counselor. They can provide professional advice and support to help you cope with difficulties.

I want to be clear: life is always full of challenges and changes. But you can overcome them. Have a positive attitude and approach, and you will be able to find your own happiness and stability. Believe in yourself and the future.

Come on!

Dear Sir/Madam, I am Li Di, the respondent, and I am grateful for this opportunity to engage with you.

From your description of your workday, it seems that you are experiencing fatigue and a decline in mental energy. You have received feedback from your patients, your colleagues are adjusting to new routines, your husband is about to embark on further studies, and your health is not optimal. Your husband is providing care, and your mother has indicated that she will cease assisting with childcare in two years. It appears that these circumstances have coincided, resulting in feelings of being overwhelmed. Many individuals in similar situations would express concern. They are apprehensive about potential changes to their lives and lack the time to seek counseling. What is the recommended course of action? After reviewing your description, I have formulated some suggestions, which I hope to discuss with you.

Firstly, as a medical practitioner, I am naturally hoping for a speedy recovery for my patients. However, today I have scheduled appointments with three patients who have provided feedback indicating that the treatment is not effective. I must admit that I am somewhat uncomfortable with this feedback, but I still have five patients who have not provided such feedback. Should I therefore dismiss the value of my profession? Alternatively, could this feedback be an opportunity for me to improve? Perhaps I can make a more significant breakthrough?

Secondly, my husband will be pursuing further studies in July, which has caused me concern as I am currently unwell. I am unsure if I will be able to cope with this on my own. Should I discuss this with my husband? I feel sorry for him when I see how tired he is, but I also know that I require his care. Perhaps if I speak to him, he will provide me with more support and assistance?

☞Third, I am not yet well acquainted with my colleagues in the new department. I will therefore adopt a more measured approach to getting to know them, prioritising the completion of my work and allowing myself more time for this later.

Fourth, my mother will cease providing childcare assistance in two years. However, this is two years from now. I now have a husband and a mother, so I should appreciate the present more. The situation may not be stable, but if I can maintain stability of mind, will it be different?

It should be noted that the above discussion represents only a preliminary set of considerations. Should any of the ideas presented cause you discomfort, you are free to disregard them. These are merely preliminary assumptions.

Let's examine the underlying psychological factors influencing your emotions and needs together, with the goal of fostering a deeper understanding and acceptance of yourself.

From a psychological perspective, what you are experiencing is a complex set of emotional and mental processes involving multiple levels of needs and challenges. Let's explore this in more depth.

Attachment theory posits that your desire for stability reflects the need for a secure attachment. A secure attachment is an individual's need for continuity and predictability in close relationships, which provides emotional security.

When this stability is threatened, individuals may experience feelings of anxiety and restlessness.

Self-concept: Your dissatisfaction with your work efficiency and sensitivity to feedback from patients reflect the self-efficacy and self-esteem components of self-concept. Self-efficacy refers to an individual's confidence in their ability to complete tasks, while self-esteem is a feeling of one's own worth.

It is possible that the negative feedback may have temporarily weakened both.

Coping Mechanisms: It is a common psychological phenomenon to exhibit a defensive reaction when confronted with change and stress. Defense mechanisms are unconscious behaviors that individuals utilize to safeguard themselves from psychological distress. However, at times, these mechanisms can impede our ability to confront and resolve issues effectively.

Emotion regulation: Your resistance to change and need for stability indicate a challenge in emotion regulation. Emotion regulation is the ability to manage and adjust our emotional responses, and when this ability is challenged, it can lead to anxiety and stress.

It is important to have a strong social support network in place, particularly during challenging times. Your reliance on family members and colleagues, as well as your concerns about their well-being, highlight the value of having a reliable support system in place. A robust social support network is essential for maintaining mental health, especially in the face of stress.

Based on the above analysis, we suggest the following strategies:

It is important to establish a safe base for yourself psychologically. This can be done by imagining a warm place or recalling a happy memory, which will serve as a haven for dealing with stress.

Self-affirmation is a technique that can be used to rebuild self-confidence and self-efficacy. This can be achieved through positive self-talk and recalling past successes.

It is important to accept your emotions and understand that they are normal reactions. There is no need to feel ashamed about your emotions.

It is important to adapt gradually when faced with change. This should be done by starting with small steps and gradually expanding your comfort zone.

Seek assistance from a trusted colleague or supervisor. Share your feelings and concerns with them, and request their understanding and support.

It is important to ensure that you have time to relax and recharge, for example through meditation, yoga or other stress-reducing activities.

It is important to recognize the significance of your feelings and needs, as they represent the voice of your heart. In order to navigate this process successfully, it is essential to seek understanding and support, as well as a method that can help you find inner strength.

I hope this information is helpful to you.

I hope this information is helpful. Best regards, [Name]

Hello, relationships change, but we can learn to adapt. Try to understand and be tolerant of others, and express your feelings.

This can help relationships.

Having someone to lean on can help relieve stress. We can also try to regulate ourselves.

We can relax by listening to music, meditating, or going for a walk.

We can also talk to friends about our worries. Facing negative feedback can make people feel bad.

If we learn to take feedback in the right perspective and learn from it, it can be a source of growth.

We can try to understand others and see things from their perspective. If this feedback has seriously affected your mental health, seek professional help.

We need to accept change and uncertainty. It can make us feel uneasy, but it's part of life.

We can try to find the good in it. For example, we can be grateful for what we have and for the people around us.

We can change how we see our surroundings. Don't focus on what makes you anxious. Find the beauty and joy in life. Spend more time with family or go on more trips.

I wish you a happy life, good health, and success!

Good day.

They can comprehend the negative emotional experience of feeling bad after receiving a substantial amount of negative feedback.

For this reason, please find a few comments for your reference below:

The cause of this negative emotional experience may be attributed to a number of factors, which require an individual assessment.

As an example, you have indicated that you feel disrespected as a doctor and that you are not as productive as you would like to be, despite having worked for many years and having students to assist you.

This may be due to a negative self-image of one's worth and abilities.

As a result, when they encounter setbacks and experience negative emotions, they tend to compare themselves to others and question their abilities.

Another possibility is that you have a tendency towards perfectionism.

Individuals with perfectionist tendencies have high expectations and demanding standards for themselves in their pursuit of excellence. Consequently, they may be overly self-critical if they fall short of these expectations.

From the perspective of "being afraid of change, wanting stability, needing people to care for, comfort and keep company with," it is also possible that they will pay excessive attention to their actions, appearance, and performance due to their strong sense of self.

As a result, when I encounter setbacks or conflicts, I experience significant anxiety and self-blame.

Furthermore, it is important to consider your description of "I seem to particularly like stable situations and like everything to be as I know it" and "I long for stability and a safe environment so much that even the slightest changes in my environment and interpersonal relationships can greatly affect my mood."

It may be helpful to recall your own growth experience and consider whether you have ever received negative feedback or criticism from parents, teachers, or leaders for making mistakes or failing. It is possible that you may have overreacted to setbacks in the past.

It is also possible to confuse past negative experiences with the current situation.

Based on the aforementioned insights, how can you expeditiously recuperate from unfavorable feedback? The following recommendations are offered for your consideration:

First, develop a positive self-image.

It is important to maintain high levels of self-esteem and self-confidence, and to recognise that mistakes are an inevitable part of the learning process.

It is recommended that you cultivate a positive mindset and habit. Rather than focusing on mistakes and shortcomings, focus on and affirm the positive aspects of yourself.

For instance, if three out of eight patients indicate that the treatment is ineffective, the treatment outcome of the five patients who have observed positive results should still be fully acknowledged.

It would be unwise to overinterpret the temporary lack of efficacy in the treatment of the three patients, given the various reasons that may have contributed to this outcome.

Secondly, it is important to accept your own shortcomings and vulnerabilities.

Nobody is perfect.

If you feel that you are unable to cope with the ever-changing nature of the relationship and are unsure how to proceed, do not attempt to deny or avoid it.

Instead, aim to be aware of, understand, and accept your own shortcomings and vulnerabilities. In doing so, you can learn and adapt.

This will assist you in identifying areas requiring continuous improvement and in acquiring valuable life experience.

It is important to set realistic goals and measures.

It is possible to set yourself achievable goals and avoid overestimating your abilities.

In the event of a setback, it is advisable to reflect deeply on the cause, formulate appropriate improvement measures, and implement them.

For instance, in the event of an overlap in work hours, such as "I already did some of today's work yesterday, but I still didn't leave work until 13:30," a comprehensive review of the work in question is essential. This should encompass both the preceding and subsequent work, as well as an analysis of the factors that contributed to the extended hours. Once this has been done, the next step is to clearly define the goal and formulate measures to achieve it. This should be followed by a period of improvement, during which the measures are put into action and their effectiveness is evaluated.

It is also important to seek out social support where necessary.

Additionally, you may wish to discuss your feelings with friends and family, who can provide support and advice.

They should be able to provide emotional support and specific advice to assist in coping with the situation.

Nevertheless, if these negative emotions have a significant impact on your daily life and persist over an extended period, it is advisable to seek the assistance of a psychologist in a timely manner.

They will provide you with more professional, specific, and personalized support and guidance.

I hope this information is of some assistance.