How can I live in peace with a child going through puberty or a rebellious phase?

Hello, question owner! I'm a counselor, and I usually work with teenagers. I also have a lot of contact with their parents, so I can especially empathize with your worries, especially as a mother!

I know, I know! It can be so tough, especially when it comes to relationships with kids in junior high school.

I'll be totally honest with you: it's not realistic to think you can live in peace with your child in junior high school and be best buddies! It's totally normal for kids this age to have frequent conflicts and to fly into a rage.

I'm so excited for you! When she reaches high school, she will become more stable, and I'm sure your relationship will improve too.

Let me help you understand your child's unique characteristics as they navigate the challenges of junior high school.

It's totally normal for kids to start acting out at this stage, which is usually in the upper grades of primary school. It's related to their physical development and the way their brains are wired at this age.

It's totally normal for kids this age to have trouble controlling their emotions. It's all down to their bodies! And as they grow mentally, they're starting to figure out who they are and what they want. This is a great time for them to learn to be independent and to take control of their lives.

All of this is preparing them to spread their wings and fly! They'll be leaving their parents, going to boarding school, and eventually leaving home to study and work far away. They'll also be facing the prospect of starting a family with another person and completely severing their ties with you. There are also changes in the content and requirements of junior high school studies, changes in interpersonal relationships, and changes in the school environment. All of this is quite a lot for children of this age to handle!

It's so hard for kids at this age! They're under so much pressure!

Let's circle back to the practical issues you mentioned. From your description, it seems like you have high expectations for your child.

I totally get it. I would understand that a child raised in such circumstances, and a girl at that, will mature a bit earlier. I suspect that you have already helped her develop better study habits during primary school. In that case, for a child seeking autonomy, you can let her make her own decisions about learning.

When it comes to playing with electronic devices such as mobile phones, you can sit down with your daughter and come up with a suitable plan that gives her some space. After agreeing on the rules, you will have to work hard to help her enforce them, because after all, her self-control is still underdeveloped. But don't worry! You can do it together.

And, Mom, you should be prepared: the agreement won't be easy to implement, and there will inevitably be conflicts. But you'll get through them together!

I'd also like to suggest a book that I think you'll find really helpful: "Reconciliation with Adolescence." It's a very practical book!

I really hope this helps!

Dear questioner,

I'm Kelly, and I want to offer you a hug. I can see that you're being hard on yourself, and I can also see that you're confused and feeling guilty. Let's take a moment to analyze this together.

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My dear, had I not had the opportunity to study family therapy this year, I might not have been aware of how demanding I can be. When you see a friend being demanding with their child, what are your thoughts?

Do you find the term "demanding" to be a bit of a turn-off?

Perhaps you have some challenging memories of being demanding? You can observe how your friends interact with their children, and they can serve as a reflection.

If I may, I would like to share my story with you.

My mother was a demanding person, and after I got married, I found myself being quite demanding of myself. I can see now that this may have influenced my interactions with my husband and children.

I came to understand that there is a concept in psychology called intergenerational transmission, which suggests that the way our parents look can influence our own appearance over time.

For instance, when my daughter was in primary school and junior high school, I didn't allow her to drink alcohol. I always thought that I loved her very much, but in fact, a child who has never tried alcohol will always be eager for it.

One day, I met my daughter coming home from school, chatting with her friends and drinking a drink. She seemed to view me as if I had made a mistake, and she quickly put the remaining drink with the lid closed into the trash can.

I could see she was feeling a little down, so I gave her a hug and told her I was sorry.

I believe that I have no right to restrict her freedom, even though I am her mother.

I recall that my mother did something similar to me when I was younger. I believe it's important to allow children the freedom to explore and play.

When I was in primary school, I was not permitted to go out and play with my friends.

At one point, I did try to restrict my daughter. I saw her looking enviously at the children running freely downstairs as she leaned against the window, but I immediately sensed that it wasn't the right thing to do.

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I wonder why I feel guilty when I see my daughter flustered.

I once made a vow that I would never emulate my mother, and I believed I was superior to her. However, had I not observed my daughter's gaze, I might have remained unaware of these nuances. Her eyes reflected a similar sense of disillusionment that I had once experienced.

[Regarding adolescent children]

Just as our lives have different stages, so do families. Junior high school students begin to change, or rather, they become better, with their own thoughts. Could this be when the "independent movement" begins?

Let's consider a scenario where, during junior high school, I began to challenge my mother's authority. My parents discouraged me from reading novels, so I resorted to reading under the covers with a flashlight.

Children at this age present a unique set of challenges that can test our wisdom. They are no longer the child who depended on us 100% when they were young.

I recall that when my daughter was in junior high school, I tended to be quite irritable and often felt that she was disobedient and less compliant than she had been in the past.

Perhaps we could consider trying to connect with them in a more friendly way, communicating with them more actively, or finding ways to distract them.

1: It might be helpful to cultivate the habit of reading for ourselves as a way of distracting ourselves.

2: It might be helpful to understand what books junior high school students like, and you could consider recommending them to your children. You might also find it beneficial to read the books recommended by their teachers. This could help you to keep up with your children, have common topics to talk about, and occasionally help them understand.

3: It would be beneficial to show respect, trust, and understanding towards children, and to foster a friendship with them.

It would be beneficial for parents to consider that, in many cases, they are the primary influence in their child's life. This is particularly relevant in families where there is only one child. It is therefore important for parents to be their children's friends, and to be a positive role model.

4: We do our best to be good examples for our children.

I would suggest reading "Why Families Get Sick" and "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychologist." These books are accessible and provide valuable insights into psychology, which can help us gain a deeper understanding of ourselves.

It might be helpful to consider the following: [Children playing with mobile phones]

My daughter is already in her senior year of high school, and I recall having some differing opinions with her about this when she was in junior high.

In our time, the mobile phone has become a source of contention between parents and children.

It's possible that they feel lonely and that their friends are on their phones. It might be that reading is not their preferred activity and that they feel under pressure. It's also possible that they feel that their phones help them to forget their worries.

1: It might be helpful to take the initiative to communicate with your child, and you could then play with your phone after homework is finished.

2: It might be helpful to make good use of the "mobile phone," for example, by encouraging children to watch some of the things they like on their phones, and at the same time, they can record it.

3: I remember that my daughter enjoys listening to music and frequently uses her phone. For instance, I encouraged her to research her favorite band and how these individuals have established their own unique space in the music industry. I then inquired about the qualities she admires in them.

Could you kindly shed some light on the advantages and disadvantages?

It might be said that the same is true of literature. Not only do they learn about the content of a book, but they also gain insight into the author's background and information. This could be seen as a way of satisfying their desire to look at their phones, while also providing an opportunity for them to develop the ability to think independently.

4: You might consider encouraging your child to read more biographies of famous people, to learn more about other people's stories, to understand what a person's life entails, to open up their inner world, and to enrich their minds.

(Perhaps someone he looks up to will offer him support in this process.)

It might also be helpful to observe the children's inner world and see who they like.

I wonder if you recall our school days?

We wonder if there are certain things our parents don't allow us to do.

The topic of youth is one that never truly ends.

The questioner might also find it helpful to read "The Biography of Yang Jiang." I personally find her parents' educational philosophy very inspiring, and I believe Mr. Liang Qichao's approach to family education is also worth exploring.

✍️[Daddy's relaxed management]

The questioner has a strong sense of awareness and feels that her and her husband's educational philosophies for their child are somewhat different, which is perfectly normal for first-time parents facing their adolescent child for the first time. You and your husband come from different family backgrounds, so it would be really helpful to communicate with your husband about this.

1: Could you please share which parenting styles you found effective during your upbringing?

2: Could you kindly share some of the positive qualities you see in him? Do you think they might have been influenced by his parents?

3: It might also be helpful for the questioner to consider which of their parents' virtues when they were young have influenced their lives.

4: On the other hand, there may be a few areas that we could improve on, and it would be beneficial to work on breaking some of the intergenerational problems that our parents have handed down to us.

5: It might be helpful to communicate more with your husband, go for walks, cook together, and even watch movies occasionally, so that your children can see that you are a team, and not just you and your husband.

6: It may be helpful to look for the child's strengths and to encourage, affirm, appreciate, and trust them.

Perhaps we could consider giving them some space to grow by staying a little bit away from them.

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I would like to take this opportunity to mention that this is a common problem faced by countless families. Many parents are unaware of it, but it is encouraging to see that you are already looking for answers and unravelling the confusion. Learning is a lifelong process. As long as we, as parents, are observant and reflective, we can trust that our children will grow up happily.

It is important to remember that children will grow up too, and that they will eventually leave home to go to university. It is a good idea to make the most of the time you have together, and to support each other in this journey of growth.

I would like to extend my heartfelt congratulations to you on your well-being!

My name is Kelly.

I would like to express my love and appreciation for the world.

Hello. I hope my answer helps.

As a mother, I understand how you feel. Adolescents need respect and understanding, and the freedom to make decisions. They can't make mature decisions due to a lack of experience. We can't ignore them, but we also can't over-control them. It is important to strike the right balance.

The general principle is to accept, understand, and respect your child. Give them more encouragement and support. There should be less control and less blaming. As long as the general principle is under control, give your child the freedom to choose.

For example, phone games.

The child doesn't need to rely on the phone, but the more we control it, the more he wants to play.

What should we do if our kids are addicted to their phones?

1. Understand and support them emotionally and psychologically, and control their behavior.

1. Understand and support them emotionally, and control their behavior.

Many parents do the opposite: they don't support their children, they criticize and humiliate them, and they show extreme disgust. This makes the children feel alienated. They are also indulgent, for example, when they see their children playing with their phones.

Many parents do the opposite. They don't support their children psychologically. They criticize and humiliate them. They even show extreme disgust. This makes the children feel alienated. They are also indulgent. For example, when they see their children playing with their phones, the mother may show hysteria. When she realizes that this doesn't work, she says, "You can play as much as you like, but when your father gets back, I'll give you a good beating!"

If you were the child, you might keep playing with your phone after hearing your mother say that. You might think, "You hurt me, so I'll keep annoying you."

If you were the child, you might have put the phone down, but after hearing your mother say that, you might keep playing with it. He will think: You hurt me with your words, so I will keep annoying you.

We need to support and understand.

We need to support and understand.

Even for strange behavior, we should try to find the reason behind it.

Even when it's hard to understand, try to find the reason behind it.

Think about when the child started liking playing with the phone. We need to take responsibility for this and tell the child.

You can say, "You play with your phone because your parents argue," or "Your parents treat you badly, which hurts your self-esteem," or "You have trouble at school, so you play with your phone."

When we understand why our child is acting a certain way, it helps them feel understood and close to us.

This will help us work together. Once we do, we need to make a plan.

If a child loves playing with their phone, it's not a good idea to ask them to stop suddenly. This will make them lose confidence in themselves. So, the plan we make at the beginning must be realistic.

We can make a schedule and stick to it to help the child get better. When the child wants to break the rules, we need to say no without being mean.

Tell your child, "I understand you're struggling, but we need to work through this together. If you can wait a little longer, I believe you can do it." When your child makes progress and completes goals, give them positive encouragement. This provides support and control.

2. Fix the parent-child relationship

Don't boss your kids around. Listen to them and show them love.

Hug your child.

Hug your child for 2-3 minutes. Hugging releases oxytocin, which makes you happy. You'll feel good, and your relationship will improve.

To repair your parent-child relationship, you need to understand the problem and make changes.

The parent-child relationship is the basis of all problems. If the parent-child relationship is good, the child will listen to you.

3. Find a substitute for the child's mobile phone.

Children like playing with their mobile phones because it satisfies a need. We can find a substitute in real life that also satisfies those needs. This helps children find ways to satisfy their needs in real life.

This substitute must bring the child pleasure or stimulate their interest. Even if the interest is small, we can cultivate it little by little. This way, the attraction of the mobile phone will not be so strong.

Some children like to draw, some are good at playing the piano, and some are good at writing. Help the child find a substitute that will make them happy. Then they will become good at it and maybe even an expert.

This is just a suggestion. Best wishes!

Good day. I appreciate the challenges you're facing. It seems that neither approach is ideal, and you're facing a dilemma.

Firstly, I would like to invite you to consider your reasons for seeking to exert control over your child. Is it because you feel it is your duty as a guardian to do so?

Do you still wish to facilitate your child's growth and development? Do you have high expectations of your child?

The aforementioned motives may be the reasons why parents are unable to relinquish control and allow their children to make their own decisions. However, adolescent children possess a strong sense of autonomy, and these two motives will inevitably result in conflict and a power struggle.

Let us begin by examining the developmental characteristics of adolescents.

1. Incomplete brain development

While adolescents may be intellectually on par with adults, they are not emotionally mature. As detailed in the book "The Troubles of Adolescence," the frontal lobe, which controls judgment, insight, and impulse control, develops later in adolescence. The impulsive, hot-tempered, and emotionally unstable behaviors of adolescents are all related to the incomplete development of the frontal lobe.

The amygdala is active and therefore susceptible to hormonal influences, particularly sex hormones and adrenaline, which can contribute to emotional volatility.

Therefore, depending on the cause of the child's emotional swings, if parents adopt controlling behaviors, serious conflicts are bound to occur. The most direct impact is the destruction of the parent-child relationship, which is what you have described as "standing on opposite sides" and becoming "so-called enemies."

2. The child is emotionally dependent on the parents.

Adolescents are in a transitional phase and rely on their parents for guidance and support. To establish a positive relationship with your child, it is essential to understand their needs and communicate effectively.

In fact, by the time children reach this age, there is very little that can be done to assist them, so it is more important to provide them with emotional support.

From your description, it is evident that a controlling approach is ineffective. This may be the root cause of your confusion regarding how to maintain a peaceful relationship with your child.

Let us now turn our attention to the question of how to improve the relationship.

Firstly, it is important to treat your child as an independent individual.

It is important to respect and accept children for who they are. Many parents have been strict and controlling from an early age, only to find themselves in a difficult position when their children reach adolescence.

The current situation between you and your child is not indicative of a problematic dynamic. Your child's ability to rebel demonstrates a robust inner strength.

The first step is to view the child as an individual and accept them for who they are. It is important to set aside our expectations and avoid placing unnecessary demands on the child.

First and foremost, it is important to recognize that today's children possess a greater level of knowledge than their predecessors. As long as they maintain a positive mental health, their future prospects remain promising.

Secondly, provide your child with additional psychological support.

Provide additional support and encouragement in daily life, identify the child's strengths, and offer sincere praise and assistance.

The child's heart will naturally be filled. Attempting to control the child blindly is an ineffective use of resources, as it burdens their mind and body. If the child's focus is on avoiding control, they will be unable to engage with the world with a positive outlook.

3. Respect boundaries.

In regard to the use of electronic products, it is important to recognize that this is a matter that falls outside the scope of our direct control. While we may offer suggestions, the decision to follow or disregard these recommendations ultimately rests with the child.

It would be more beneficial to provide guidance than to resort to force. Rather than engaging in debates about the use of mobile phones, it would be more constructive to set an example and influence others through our own behavior.

The most important objective for parents is to develop themselves.

I appreciate you asking the question. I'm grateful to have met you.

From what you've said, I can see that you feel powerless and helpless about your child's current situation. It seems like you can't relax or be strict, so what's the best way to approach it?

Your current situation is a result of your past actions. So if you want a different outcome in the future, you need to start taking steps to make that happen right now.

So, you start by picturing a happy future where you and your child get along great. Then, you think about what you need to do now to make that happen.

You might be thinking, "Why should I be the one to make the changes, and not the child?" My friend, whoever is suffering is the one who will change.

If you want your child to change, you have to get him to admit that he's wrong. But everyone's subconscious mind thinks what they're doing is right. Unless he feels pain, he won't think about what's going on and ask himself, "What should I do?"

Or find out that your current behavior isn't quite right before you can make the change.

Of course, at the beginning of the change, it will be a bit tough because some behaviors or beliefs and values have already taken root in your subconscious. Often, you'll respond the moment something happens, before you even realize it. So, it's important to be aware at all times. When emotions come up, be the first to recognize them, take a deep breath, and then see the message behind them to make gradual changes.

If you can't change it for now, don't beat yourself up about it. Just accept that you can't do it yet, accept that you're still learning, and then do it a little bit at a time. You'll get there eventually.

I wish you the best of luck!

Hello, I'm Dapeng.

Laozi said, "One gives birth to two, two give birth to three, and three give birth to everything." I'd like to add that when a mother gives birth to a child, the child is then separated from the mother and becomes two individuals. Then the father joins in, and the world of these three people is the prototype of the child's future world.

From this perspective, in the world of three people, we can deduce all kinds of relationships, expressing both love and hate. We can fully express our personal emotions and feelings because we know that we can encounter all kinds of situations in the real world.

From an early age, kids sometimes play the role of mom or dad, as well as baby, and then ask their parents to play the role of child. They're trying out different roles and experiencing different relationships.

As kids get older, they start to crave independence and want to spread their wings. They need to find their own identity and figure out who they are as individuals.

It's not unusual for a child to form an alliance with one parent and view the other as the enemy. They're going through a period of intense experience in this relationship, and it's not a fixed, unchanging one. It's probably changing.

In primary school, kids start forming relationships with people of the same sex. In secondary school, they may become more interested in the opposite sex.

Don't worry about becoming your child's enemy. She's just trying to experience different relationships to prepare for the future. You're her mother, and that's not going to change. The most important thing when dealing with a child going through puberty is to give yourself and the other person a little space, and let him gradually learn to make his own decisions.

Hello!

It is a fact that getting along with an adolescent child is a significant challenge. It cannot be explained in a few words. Here are some suggestions that will help you navigate this stage of your child's life:

1. Adolescence is a necessary stage for children. Children today know a lot more than we did when we were young, and they no longer blindly believe that their parents and teachers are always right. This makes the rebellious behavior of adolescents more obvious than it was in our time. Children who have not experienced adolescence are difficult to truly grow up. Adolescent rebellion is really because they have ideas and different ideas. Some of these ideas are right, and many times they are not, but this is a normal process. We must accept this process and understand them so that we can formally face them.

2. Adolescents are known for rebelling against their parents. They will do the opposite of whatever you say. A great example of this is in a book: You tell him to go to bed early, and he might be able to go to bed at 12 o'clock, but because of what you said, he will insist on staying up until 2 or 3 o'clock. This is a normal characteristic of this period of time for them. At that time, we should not be hard on them, because they are also stubborn, and it is useless to confront them head-on.

3. We must understand, trust, communicate, and be there for them.

Understand this is a special period in your child's life. Communicate with them at the right time.

Give him your company when he needs it.

Children can't stay in a rebellious phase forever. Talk to them at the right time. If you can't communicate well with him, then hand over the task to his father and tell him that he is in a rebellious phase, sometimes has a bad temper and doesn't listen to his parents, which is normal. Mum and Dad know this too, so in the future they won't nag him endlessly and won't argue with him head-on. But that doesn't mean that what he does is necessarily right. I am certain that when he calms down, he will also consider his parents' opinions and think objectively, not rebelliously. You will find that when you calm down, you will have the ability to judge.

Trust your child. Treat him like an adult.

Learn to communicate with your child. Talk to them. Don't fight.

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These words are annoying, so communicate with your child normally. Treat him as a friend, not a child. Give him respect. He will share things with you.

It's crucial to be there for them. They're not children anymore. They often think they're already adults and can be left alone. We have to learn to keep our distance. They're still somewhere between adults and children, sometimes still a child. When they need our help, we must seize the opportunity to help. Some mothers will sneer, "You're not growing up anymore, you're pretty capable, don't need our help anymore." These words may seem like a joke, but they push away the opportunity to get closer.

Dealing with an adolescent child requires careful and cautious attention to every detail.

There is a lot more to say, and I strongly suggest that the poster read more books on the subject to find solutions. I am certain that you can get along better with your child! Best wishes.

Good morning. The Emperor's Internal Classic states that we should follow nature when raising children. This means that parents should develop their children according to their nature, not their temper. This is because all children experience this stage at this age. Do you agree?

How can we reconcile these differences? During adolescence, the child's hormone levels change. They may become silent and often shut themselves in their rooms, rarely talking to their parents. This is a well-known phenomenon. In Western medicine, this is said to be caused by changes in the five internal organs and six bowels, and a deficiency of blood and Qi. In Chinese medicine, it is said that the child will become depressed, rebellious, play truant, fight, etc., because the four major false unions in the child's body are out of balance. We can see that there is a discrepancy between the two perspectives.

As parents, it is our responsibility to provide guidance in a constructive manner. When a child displays negative behaviors such as anger or discrimination, it is evident that the parents have not provided adequate support. In some cases, the use of inappropriate methods and verbal stimulation can result in a lack of self-confidence, fear of examinations, and a reluctance to embarrass the parents. This can lead to rebellious behavior in the child, which may be perceived as a lack of care and protection. Apart from mixed doubles, what other options are available to address this issue? This can potentially result in the child engaging in confrontations and other forms of aggression.

As parents, you are aware of this, but you still protect your child and allow them to do whatever they want. You do not communicate with them in a timely manner when there are problems. You want all your children to get into Tsinghua or Peking University, but that is not a realistic expectation. Excessive communication, nagging, and complaining from parents, coupled with a desire to compare yourself to others and focusing only on the subjects that the child does poorly in, instead of looking at the child's strengths first, is not an effective approach. You should start by looking at the child's strengths. How can you effectively guide a child like this?

It is important to be gentle and quiet, avoiding nagging or scolding. Showing love and care is crucial, demonstrating that the child is accepted and understood. This can help overcome unease and anxiety. Encouraging travel in China can provide valuable insight into society and studies. However, it is essential to avoid excessive exposure to the sun, as this can be overwhelming. Can a child with these characteristics handle the pressure?

If you notice that your child is experiencing a problem, it is important to communicate with them promptly, provide support and guidance, and avoid falling behind. Collaborating with a trusted friend or relative to assist with problem-solving can be beneficial. This approach can offer psychological comfort and reassurance to the child.

"Personality" is guaranteed, and the child's values will be very correct. Parents serve as guides, activating the child's correct mentality.

It is imperative that parents do not attempt to alter their child's natural disposition through the use of grades or by deviating from the established norm. Their inherent interests and hobbies represent their most valuable strengths, fostering optimal growth and development. Any inclination towards self-comparison must be promptly addressed. By fostering mutual respect and consensus between parents and children, the child can flourish and excel.

I totally get you! I really do! And I'm here to help you through this confusing and anxious time!

Landlord, my family also has a child in a rebellious stage. I have encountered all the problems you have encountered, and I have some great solutions! I also studied to become a home education instructor in order to get along with her. Through continuous practice, I have finally been able to solve many problems! Let's take a look:

1. How can I get along with a middle school student? To be more precise, how can I get along peacefully with a child in the rebellious, adolescent stage?

This is a common problem for many parents, and it's a challenge that can be overcome! It's not easy to get along with an adolescent child, but it's worth it. One minute everything is fine, and the next minute they could be jumping up and down with extreme mood swings and a short fuse.

This is why it's so important to understand what's going on with your kids during this time. They're entering a new phase of life, and it's a wild one! Their hormones are raging, and they're navigating a world of new emotions. They want to spread their wings and fly, but they still need their parents to catch them when they fall. They're bursting with ambition, but they're also grappling with a love-hate relationship with school. They crave understanding, but they're also afraid to let it in. It's a rollercoaster!

So, parents at this time must not rush to reject their children. Instead, we must try to accept and understand their current situation, respect and understand them, and gently but firmly enter their hearts!

2. It's almost like permissive parenting, but you can't let go, and the tight rein is always there.

I totally get this mom! She's afraid of sparking a fight with her kid, but at the same time, she can't let go. So she's constantly repeating this mantra. What's the result?

Of course, children don't buy into our methods, even if we are doing it for their own good. But that's okay! They will think we are controlling them. But we can let them feel respected and recognized by letting them go at the right time, and they'll respect our opinions and suggestions in return.

When we get along with our adolescent children, we have the incredible opportunity to lower our guard, try to understand what they like, and give up lecturing and criticizing. We have the amazing chance to let our children feel that their parents really want to understand them. You can talk to your child more about topics she likes, not just about schoolwork. Get to know your child's values and accept her sense of beauty. Sometimes, affirming someone's sense of beauty is the same as affirming that person—it's a beautiful thing!

3. The biggest problem is control over electronic products.

Here's a great idea: use something of equal value in exchange for the right to use the phone!

In contrast to her father's laid-back approach,

I have become her opposite – her enemy. #

Have you had the chance to chat with the father of your child about this? I bet he'd be really interested to hear about the impact electronic devices can have on children!

I highly recommend you set aside some time to chat about how much time we spend using electronic devices as a family. It would be great to get Dad on board in advance. Pick a time when everyone is in a good mood and keep emotions calm during the meeting!

During the meeting, remember to focus on solutions, not criticism. Let the child speak more and express their own opinions. At the end, work together to come up with a method that everyone finds feasible. And you can let the child be the monitor!

And here's another thing to think about: if we adults are constantly holding our phones, how can we possibly expect our children to not play with electronic products? It's a simple equation!

And another thing! Why do children love electronic products so much? Could it be because they're looking for companionship?

Could it be a lack of recognition? Or maybe it's peer influence!

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Don't worry, this mother! You love your child so much, and your child can definitely feel your love!

Just try to change our approach a little, think of ways to become friends with her. Children at this age are especially cute and full of ideas. You will find that by constantly getting close to her and interacting with her, our hearts will also be influenced and slowly become younger. Believe in the power of time and the power of perseverance.

I know you can do it! I'm excited to hear the good news!