How can I strengthen my own views and make them less susceptible to the views of others?

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing a conflict between your desire to adhere to your own ideas and your apprehension about being subjected to judgment and ridicule.

As a psychological counselor, I would like to present my understanding from a psychological perspective.

The initial step is to gain an understanding of one's own personality traits. These traits are closely linked to an individual's upbringing and their object relations with their parents.

The inability to express one's own thoughts and the fear of being judged are also the result of interactions with parents during childhood. These interactions may have involved being ignored, denied, belittled, or otherwise treated in a way that made the child feel inadequate. This can lead to feelings of self-blame, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness. As a result, the child may unconsciously identify with the object relationship model. Once this model is internalized, it becomes a fixed belief. This is a challenging process to change at the conscious level. Professional psychological counseling can help make the unconscious content conscious, allowing for a change in cognition, adjustment of the model, and a more flexible application of it to interpersonal relationships.

Secondly, it is essential to accept oneself. Having a comprehensive understanding of one's character traits, along with an awareness of one's strengths and weaknesses, provides the foundation for developing one's strengths and mitigating one's weaknesses. One's strengths can foster confidence, while one's weaknesses are an inherent part of the self. Growth and development can be achieved through a combination of learning, communication, and interaction.

Only through self-acceptance can one truly listen to the advice of others and facilitate one's own personal growth.

Thirdly, it is important to be true to oneself. External evaluations are merely the product of another's thoughts and feelings. It is possible to pursue one's own desires while maintaining inner stability, which in turn reduces the influence of external emotions. This is a process that requires time and effort.

Ultimately, your request for assistance marks the inception of your inner growth. Your expression will facilitate others' comprehension of your needs and provide support and assistance from diverse perspectives. The world and I love you, and you must also learn to love yourself. Come on.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am writing to inquire about a matter that has arisen. Kind regards, [Your name]

After reading your question, you are unable to express your ideas with conviction. You are concerned that your opinions will be dismissed and that you will be subjected to unwarranted criticism. Additionally, you are afraid that others will offer irrelevant and cryptic comments. It is not uncommon for individuals to exhibit this behavior. It is important to note that not all negative feedback is untruthful. It could also be based on objective facts. Therefore, it is essential to assess these issues and ideas objectively.

Rather than evaluating subjectively and then objectively assessing the work from a third-party perspective to identify issues, we can also objectively refine the opinions and feedback of others. While not every detail requires correction, it is essential to consciously assess and identify the areas that require improvement.

My recommendation is as follows:

[1] Learn to view other people's evaluations objectively.

As previously stated, it is essential to maintain an objective perspective when evaluating the opinions of others. This can be achieved by avoiding the tendency to place oneself in the other person's shoes.

[2] Have confidence in your ideas and work diligently to achieve them.

First, evaluate your own ideas without considering factors such as maturity or naivety. It is important to recognize that everyone has unique ideas and that these qualities are not absolute. Then, examine the matter from various perspectives and determine the best way to achieve the desired outcome.

[3] Develop your own judgment and decision-making skills.

For instance, it is necessary to evaluate the accuracy and objectivity of the information being presented. Subsequently, one must apply their own judgment and subjective awareness to determine whether revisions are necessary, how they should be made, and whether the revised version aligns with their own ideas.

[4] indecision is not a productive approach.

To be determined is to move forward with a plan and accept responsibility for the outcome. To waver is to fail to achieve results. Being determined to follow through on an idea may lead to success, and even if it does not, it means that we have tried our best and have no regrets.

It is my hope that the above opinion will prove useful to you.

Greetings.

The adage "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is a well-known and widely circulated proverb.

The proverb in question is undoubtedly familiar to many. Xi Shi is regarded as one of the most beautiful women in ancient Chinese history. Her beauty was widely admired, described as both enchanting and heavenly. In the context of romantic relationships, the phrase "the lover sees Xi Shi in the eyes" is often used to describe a situation where one partner perceives the other as perfect, without acknowledging any shortcomings.

Indeed, the appreciation of "works" is analogous. It can be posited that "each flower is in each eye." It is a matter of opinion. Individuals who appreciate the same works must have certain commonalities. For example, they have a similar sense of value, aesthetic sensibility, and even a shared worldview, whereas individuals who appreciate different works have very different ideas.

This also demonstrates that when a particular idea is strongly advocated, there will invariably be individuals who espouse opposing views. Given that no absolute phenomenon exists, there will always be minority opinions. This also necessitates a period of deliberation. The rationale behind the judgmental approach of "the minority obeys the majority" is that everyone strives for common ground while maintaining differences, but this does not entail rejecting the other party.

What is the optimal method for moving past negative commentary?

1. Accept diverse perspectives.

Upon forming an opinion that something is good, I will also inquire as to the specific reasons for this assessment. However, upon encountering an opposing viewpoint, even if it is merely one individual's opinion, I will experience a sense of apprehension and hesitate to maintain my initial positive assessment. Despite being aware that no work can elicit unanimous approval and that negative reviews are inevitable,

As previously stated, the notion of what is perceived as "good" by one individual may not align with the same concept as another. This is a fundamental aspect of human nature. It is unlikely that if this were not the case, individuals would exhibit identical characteristics and behaviors. Individuals possess unique perceptions, concepts, and values, which inevitably lead to disparate evaluations of the same subject. While this may elicit feelings of discomfort, it is crucial to recognize that such an evaluation is merely an opinion and does not reflect personal judgment.

2. Identify the internalized voice that impedes self-acceptance.

This section requires an aptitude for discerning emotions. Individuals who do not internalize a self-deprecating voice will not be easily disconcerted. It is precisely the existence of this self-deprecating voice that causes one to internalize the negations of others and experience internal negations. In early years, parents' accusations and negative evaluations may have been more prevalent than encouragement, becoming internalized as part of one's self-perception. During one's upbringing, fear of a negative environment may often arise. In later environments, negative voices may outnumber affirmations, preventing one from affirming one's own sense of value.

3. The individual must gain an accurate understanding of themselves and accept their inherent characteristics.

In regard to one's professional endeavors, the questioner often correlates their sense of self-worth with their work performance. Consequently, it is essential to understand how the questioner assesses their own capabilities and how those they trust evaluate their abilities.

The question thus arises as to whether it is possible to evaluate oneself in an objective manner.

If the questioner has never considered this issue, it is now time to embark on a process of self-discovery and learn to evaluate oneself objectively. This process will reveal that strengths and weaknesses coexist, yet neither affects the essence of one's identity. One can work to enhance one's strengths and avoid one's weaknesses, improve one's sense of inner value, and encourage oneself with more positive feedback. As a result, one will feel more self-confidence in the crowd and will not have to worry about or pay too much attention to the negative voices of others.

I wish you the best of luck and encourage you to persevere in your endeavors.

Hello! I totally get how you feel.

Your key problem is not whether things are good or not—it's whether you have self-confidence!

You have so much to offer the world! All you need is to build your self-confidence and ingratiate yourself with others to gain their approval. This will help you maintain good relationships and a positive image.

You understand the reasoning, but you haven't analyzed it deeply yet!

You always put others first to make them happy!

That's why you're tired, mentally and physically, and you're very dissatisfied with yourself.

In this world, perhaps only the renminbi will make everyone happy. But we are not all like that, so there's no need to worry!

To change this passive state, it is recommended that you first enhance your self-confidence and adjust your own ideas.

First, build strong self-confidence! It's clear you're rational and wise, and you know what you want.

Based on this, you can cultivate your own strong self-confidence! There are so many great books out there that can help you, and there are also lots of fantastic methods you can try.

Second, it's time to transform your distorted thinking! You live for yourself, not for others. Your way of living is entirely up to you and your own sense of well-being.

Third, it is important to coordinate the people and events in your circle to obtain an environment for harmonious development. However, it also requires emotional intelligence and intelligence. While it may seem like a good idea to please others at the expense of your own happiness, it's actually the worst strategy!

It's a great idea to improve your emotional intelligence, demonstrate your intellectual ability, live life to the fullest, and when conditions permit, achieve and help others a little!

People like and respect people with character! Most people think, "Take advantage of the nice guy," when it comes to "nice guys." This is the naked human nature, and it's something we can all work with!

You get to decide what kind of person you want to be!