How can one change their lifestyle, work, and study habits from being lazy?

Hello, host! I'm July.

After reading your description, I have a better idea of what you're asking. I'd like to give you a hug in the four-dimensional space.

From what you've said, it seems like you have a pretty good understanding of yourself. So, don't worry too much because I think I know what the solution to the problem is.

From what you said, it seems like you like to use online entertainment to help you cope with different emotions. This suggests that you're more interested in short-term happiness. You do things that make you happy for a while, but there's often an element of escape involved. When you're doing these things, it's important to understand why you're doing them. Once you know this, it'll be easier to solve the problem.

Regarding your point about binge-watching dramas as revenge, I believe many people have done this and it never fails. When you feel like binge-watching dramas as revenge, you can assess what's going on with yourself at the moment. It's also important to note that while you can binge-watch dramas, you should also be disciplined and not stay up too late.

In this regard, I have also put together a few tips to help you deal with your current situation better.

(1) You're doing great. Sometimes, it's best to stop comparing yourself to others and just love yourself. When you love yourself more, you'll find that your studies and life are more efficient and happier.

(2) Give yourself a break. Accept your current self, warts and all. Don't be too hard on yourself.

(3) When you're feeling overwhelmed, it's good to release the pressure in your heart through exercise, music, chatting, etc. rather than letting it build up.

(4) You don't really need to prove yourself all the time. Trying to do so too much will tire you out and put you under a lot of stress. So, for now, it's better to give yourself a break and just do the best you can with what you have.

(5) Moderate self-discipline is something you've been given, and it's reflected in separating work from entertainment. That means having boundaries. It's about knowing when it's time to work and when it's time to play.

I love you, world! ?

Wishing you the best!

Hello, host! I hope my answer helps.

You've already seen your laziness and want to change it. Good!

There are two kinds of creatures that can reach the top of the pyramid: eagles and snails. You can be a talented eagle or an average snail. The two words you need to reach the top are diligence and hard work.

If you're lazy, even an eagle with talent can't fly. If you work hard, even a snail can make a living.

I have some tips to help you overcome difficulties.

Get enough sleep and stick to a routine. This will make you feel good all day.

Exercise more. It's important for work and study. If you don't, you'll fail.

Third, make a time plan. Set a time limit and break down tasks into smaller steps. This will help you work more efficiently and overcome laziness.

The early bird catches the worm. Be diligent and you'll succeed.

I hope you can beat laziness and become better. Go for it!

Good evening. I extend to you a 360-degree embrace.

It is evident that you are endeavoring assiduously to effect a change, and you have already undertaken certain initiatives in that regard.

In point of fact, however, you are striving even more assiduously to preserve the status quo. You might consider the ways in which you maintain your status quo and what you have done that has sustained you in this cycle of self-doubt.

It is important to understand that a state can only be maintained if some effort is made to keep it in balance. To illustrate this, consider the example of students in a classroom setting. Some students consistently perform well, and it is likely that they have invested significant effort into their studies.

However, there is often a lack of attention paid to those who consistently maintain a middle ground. How do they ensure their grades remain at a satisfactory level? It is important to recognise that if they apply themselves more diligently, they may advance. Conversely, if they do not exert sufficient effort, they may fall behind.

However, if he maintains his position in the middle of the group, he is also exerting effort to prevent falling behind or being overtaken.

What measures have been taken to ensure the continued equilibrium of this system? Inaction is, in itself, a form of change, as it precludes the possibility of maintaining the status quo.

The preceding sentence may be somewhat perplexing, but it is evident that you have striven assiduously to preserve the status quo.

However, this situation is causing you a certain degree of psychological distress, and you are motivated to implement changes. Therefore, I recommend that you begin with minor alterations.

To illustrate, one might consider initiating a reading routine today. One could establish a daily reading goal and then cease reading. The objective would be to read a specified number of pages per day, reading each word with precision. Once this goal is achieved, the task is complete. It is not necessary to concern oneself with whether the information is retained; that is a matter for another time.

Another example is going for a walk every morning for approximately half an hour. It is not necessary to concern oneself with the number of steps taken or the distance walked; instead, it is sufficient to monitor the time spent walking. Even if the pace is relatively slow, as long as the walk lasts for approximately half an hour, it can be considered a valid exercise.

In essence, one should engage in activities that do not necessitate immediate outcomes but rather emphasize the accumulation of experiences. This could entail noting the number of pages read in a book, the duration of a walk, or the amount of time spent without checking one's mobile phone.

As for the result, I am uncertain. You may wish to attempt this approach and then inform me of the outcome.

I frequently identify with Buddhist principles and, on occasion, adopt the role of a positive and motivational counselor. I hold a deep affection for the world and all its inhabitants.

Hello! I can see that your current living situation is making you feel a bit uncomfortable. It's great that you've been able to identify and summarize many of your own problems. Let's take a slow and gentle look at these together.

I'd love to share this quote with you: "Effort is addictive."

A few years ago, I couldn't understand what this sentence meant. Even now, I love taking naps, but I want to give up this time to study. I'm not the type to just immerse myself in a book. I have so many things I want to do, and I really like to dress up. You can feel that my busyness comes from my passion for life.

I've been there, too! I used to be lazy and not like to bathe or move around much. I was always on my phone, and it felt comfortable at first, but it also made me feel anxious. It was uncomfortable in every way.

I used to hate the kind of life where you can see the end at a glance. But I discovered something really beautiful along the way. The beauty of life needs to be created by oneself.

The questioner doesn't like to dress up, but I'm sure there's a girl out there who doesn't like to be beautiful. Don't be afraid to waste time when you're willing to invest in yourself. You'll thank yourself in the future, I'm sure!

It's so important to get a good night's sleep! Staying up late is really harmful to our bodies, especially as we get older. It's so hard to switch off when you're used to staying up late, but it's so important to try!

And we all know that staying up late can really affect your mood.

I work hard and really want to get certified and get a job with a good salary. But, you know, life gets in the way sometimes! We should seriously think about how we can improve our environment or squeeze out fragmented time to learn.

It's so important to be in control of your emotions so you can grow and develop in the way you want to.

Day by day, you'll be amazed at how you'll become the person you've always wanted to be!

You've got this! Stay strong!

Hello,

Host:

My name is Zeng Chen, and I'm a heart exploration coach. I've read your post and I get where you're coming from. You want to change but you don't know how, you feel like you've never changed but you always fail.

At the same time, I also noticed that you've been really open about your problems and actively sought help on the platform, which will undoubtedly help you better understand and recognize yourself, so that you can adjust yourself to meet a better self.

Next, I'll share some observations and thoughts from the post that might help you view yourself from a different perspective.

1. Could it be that you need to be a bit more lazy?

From what I can see in the post, the person is lazy in their own life and uses online entertainment to soothe various emotions. They want to change but always fail. I don't know where to start.

So, where do I start? I really want to be satisfied with myself.

After reading this, I can see why you feel so powerless and anxious.

Now let's look at why we're lazy. Do we really need to be lazy?

Is there any benefit to laziness that we don't realize? Why do we ask such questions? It's because we often do things that are useful to us, but we may not realize the benefits that "bad habits" bring us.

The host said he's tried to make changes with the host, but he's always failed. Does this failure make him feel like a failure?

Could this damage your self-esteem or narcissism?

But it's different when you're lazy. It's as if you have an excuse: it's because you're lazy that you can't do it, it's because you're lazy that you can't change.

This gives us the wrong idea that if we're not lazy, we can do it and change. This is something the original poster needs to understand.

2. Give yourself a chance to accept yourself.

The poster also said in the post that she couldn't see any vitality or vigor in me. She could see other people being handsome and beautiful, dancing and taking pictures, but she was becoming more and more shy, hesitant, and embarrassed, and lacked confidence. I can understand the poster's lack of confidence. Indeed, it is difficult for many people to be confident at such times.

I think you've also figured out that the more you lack confidence, the more dissatisfied you'll be with yourself. And the more dissatisfied you are with yourself, the more you'll attack and dislike yourself.

When we attack ourselves and dislike ourselves, we use up a lot of energy. This leaves us feeling tired and lacking in vitality or vigor, right?

So how can we avoid or reduce internal depletion? The answer is to accept yourself, warts and all.

It's important to understand that acceptance is the first step towards improvement.

When we accept ourselves as we are, accept our shortcomings, recognize our strengths, accept the parts of ourselves that we cannot change, and focus our energy on the parts that we can change, we naturally become a better version of ourselves and gain more confidence.

3. Don't push yourself to change, but focus on learning and growth.

Often, we want to change ourselves, but when we realize we can't, we feel negative emotions. If we don't want to face those emotions, we may try to relieve our inner pain through entertainment.

So what does it mean not to force yourself to change?

It's about accepting who you are and focusing on learning and growth. We need to adjust our perceptions to solve problems using higher-dimensional thinking to solve lower-dimensional thinking.

So, we need to take a step back and work on growing and learning. We also need to learn to manage our emotions and adjust our perceptions when they're not realistic.

If you're interested, you can learn more about psychology. Learn more high-dimensional thinking to grow and develop yourself. When your own cognition is sufficient, change will slowly happen.

I hope this is helpful and inspiring for you. If you have any questions, you can click on Find a Coach to get one-on-one help and grow together.

Hello! I'm Wei Zhi Peng from Yixinli. I'm excited to tell you all about one of the four main schools of modern psychotherapy: systemic psychotherapy! This school of psychotherapy mainly does short-term counseling, usually around 10 sessions.

You say you want to "change." After reading the whole article, I'm excited to hear more about what kind of life "you" want to live after you've changed!

What was mentioned was the life of "other people." I don't know if I understand it correctly, but it sounds like you're trying to become the other people in your eyes, which is a great idea!

Do they seem to be living more fully? If you want to live like "other people," it's a challenge, but it's worth it!

Becoming someone else is an amazing journey that requires far more energy than becoming "yourself." This means that you get to spend more time expending the negative energy that is pressing down on you. Staying up late and binge-watching TV has become your way of releasing this energy.

Now you have an incredible advantage! You're close to home and have parents to rely on, which means you have more time to think about what kind of life you want to lead. Imitating others is also a fantastic way to grow. You can imitate people you think are good, but I suggest you go slowly and don't learn so fast. Try it for 20 minutes a day!

Then, take five minutes to think about what kind of life you want to live! Leave the rest as it is.

I'm excited to see how it goes for a week!

Hello there!

It can be so frustrating when we feel like we're always worse than others and that we're trying our best but just can't seem to make any progress.

If you're truly serious about your reason for returning, it's because you've never had the feeling of "wearing a crown." That's the most basic desire of human beings—the desire to be recognized by others. Because you've never had it, you'll work hard to pursue it. When you can't catch up even if you shout yourself hoarse, we'll experience self-doubt and give up trying. In fact, it's because we don't know the methods to affirm our own value and reject criticism that are hindering our development.

Let's take a moment to think about some of the ideas we have about self-worth.

Life is full of surprises, just like a coin has two sides. When something unexpected happens, it's natural to hope that the outcome we desire will come true. We can't predict the future, but we can choose to look for the good in every moment.

Like writers, astronauts, entrepreneurs, and those who work hard every day and night to make a living...

They all have one thing in common: they need to fight with themselves every day to get through each day. Because there are unpredictable events in life, they work even harder. They regard the challenges and pressures in life as fuel for the future, which is why they can keep going. At the core of it all, they believe in their own value and that through continuous learning and growth, they can achieve self-fulfillment and a better life.

I'd love to know where the value of the questioner comes into play. And why do you work hard every day?

I truly believe that when you find the answer, something amazing happens. The driving force in your body ignites, and your heart becomes less full of complaints and grievances. It fills with calm and seriousness instead. And you know what? People who work hard, without asking why, just to make their lives better, live happier lives.

How do you handle those not-so-great feelings that come up in your life?

1. Be kind to yourself and identify the main problem.

It's clear from the questioner's question that pressure from oneself and the surroundings can lead to depression. But when we face a strong environment, we often respond with our own weaknesses or even weaker aspects. This can prevent major changes and breakthroughs. When we have a sense of the big picture and understand our basic attitude towards dealing with life's problems, we can adjust ourselves. We can overcome our lack of abilities one by one and succeed in changing ourselves.

Let's take the nightly study routine as an example. It can easily turn into staying up late to watch dramas. After watching, you might feel guilty, which can make it even harder to handle. This is a vicious cycle! It's important to recognize this cycle and then change your plan to jump out of it.

It's totally normal to feel a bit demotivated at first because you can't see the positive results. But don't give up! This is something everyone goes through. First, take a week to measure the results. See where your behavior and time management could be improved. Circle them, and make a new plan. The plan needs to be strictly implemented, but you can set aside some flexible time to relax each day. If you can persist for one week, assuming that the shortest period of time you can persist, it means that your willpower has passed the test! The feedback from the results can also motivate you to keep working hard and feel positive energy. You might still find various excuses to escape, and then the results won't be too dramatic. This is totally normal. The most important thing is that because of a moment of indulgence, you feel hard to give up your efforts. In the future, the gap between you and your peers will become bigger and bigger. By then, it may be too late to regret. This is another reflection and inspiration that the problem brings to you.

2. It's so important to eliminate comparisons and temptations.

If you keep the same mindset, life will not bring you any surprises. After all, life itself is the result of creation. If you want to change, you must first accept yourself from the bottom of your heart. Don't blindly compare yourself to others. Instead, focus on improving yourself and enhancing your missing abilities as soon as possible. As for the temptations in life, they may be the first challenge you face. You have to know that everyone lives in the same environment. How do those people who are knowledgeable and do things at the top of their game exercise themselves? How do they eliminate temptations and prevent themselves from degenerating?

It's not just some basic "Chicken Soup for the Soul" that can help you succeed. These people have discovered the secret to changing themselves. They've realized that the best way to improve is to focus on higher and more difficult requirements. They're not trying to suppress their own needs or eliminate temptations. They're simply choosing to spend their most precious time improving themselves. Watching dramas is certainly relaxing. Who doesn't love a good drama? But those who constantly think about what others need to create something good-looking and fun must have a rich enough content space. They must explore new projects and new requirements. And if you want to enrich yourself, you must first fill yourself up. Otherwise, how can you achieve high-quality output?

3. The most suitable is always the best. Don't be afraid to talk to more people around you and gain experience!

We all know that a task that is difficult for one person to persevere with becomes much easier when done together. So, what is the secret?

It's tough when you're on your own. You don't get the encouragement or companionship you need to keep going. It's so easy to lose confidence when you're working hard. That's why we love to treat ourselves from time to time. We need to replenish our energy and give ourselves a little pat on the back. Working with someone else is even better. You can support each other and encourage each other. You can give each other a boost when you need it. So when you're facing a challenge, it's worth finding some friends to stick with you. You'll gain so much from it.

Effort is the positive energy that people show, and perseverance is a great quality to have. But, if you're pushing yourself too hard and not achieving the goals you've set for yourself, it can feel like you're not good enough. It's important to remember that everyone has their own unique strengths and things they excel at. Instead of focusing on rigid requirements and pushing yourself too hard, try finding a goal that suits you and that you can feel happy with. This will help you to shine and feel the happiness in life.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello! I'm sending you a hug.

I applaud you for being aware of your situation. Awareness is the first step to change.

To change, you have to accept yourself. If you can accept that you are imperfect but also see your good qualities, you will not be too hard on yourself. You will use your weaknesses to become better and grow.

You need to learn to accept yourself. It's clear from your description that you can't accept who you are now.

If you know your current behavior is bad for you but you can't stop, it's because you get a kick out of it. You indulge because you don't accept your needs and think they're wrong.

When you see that your behavior is a response to unmet needs, you will be more accepting of it. Instead of fighting against it, you will try to find a better way to respond to your needs.

For example, try to find more interests and passions in your work and life.

We work to live, and we live to work. Work is about living better. It's important to be able to care for and accept yourself.

Keep a diary to record your emotions, growth, and changes. You can understand your emotions better and explore the needs behind them. You can also see your progress, enhance your self-confidence, and improve your sense of self-worth.

I'm Lily, the listener at the Q&A Center. I love you.

We all have our own unique ideas and characteristics, and that's a beautiful thing! You might be feeling a bit lazy right now, and there could be a number of reasons why. It's not something that can be changed overnight. Take a moment to reflect on some of the things in your life, including your habits, personality, family, and work nature.

It's so great that you're ready to make some changes in your life, work, and studies! It's totally normal to feel like you've reached a point where you can't accept your laziness and you're ready to make a change. It's also totally normal to feel like you're avoiding things in your life.

Also, taking a bath every five days might be a sign that you could stand to be a little more active. If you can, it's a great idea to take a moment to recognize your current challenges. For instance, if you tend to stay up late, are you really giving your body the rest it needs? If you don't get enough sleep, you might find it tough to muster the mental energy and motivation to pursue your goals.

This is a tough spot to be in. It can feel like you've lost your vitality at a young age, and your eyes are full of bloodshot circles. It's normal to rely on your parents for support or help making decisions. But it's also important to realize your own responsibilities.

It's totally normal to want to work hard and make changes in your life. But it can be really hard to concentrate when you're feeling down. Maybe the desire to change isn't something that came out of the blue. It might be helpful to talk to your coach about some of your life goals and try to do things yourself. You've got this!

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