How can someone with a confused mind, unable to grasp the situation, and no actual ability bring happiness to others?

I give the questioner a hug and I don't know what kind of thing the questioner has encountered, so I ask this question.

If it's not too much trouble, I'd like to learn more about what's really going on behind the scenes.

How can someone help others be happy if they don't have the practical skills to do so themselves?

We can break this down into separate issues. Without practical ability, there is no work, which is a problem of the underlying economic foundation.

If you don't have a job, you can still support yourself and your family, and you can still give others happiness.

Happiness isn't about how much money you make or how many houses you own. It's about having a rich and abundant mindset.

Even if they have a job, many people are not happy, so we can't say that having a job causes happiness.

In fact, there are more and more ways to support yourself in the modern era.

There are also plenty of part-time jobs you can do online.

If you don't have the right skills, you can use your time to make money and use your free time after work to learn a skill that can earn you more money in the future. The most important thing is to take action. For many people who can't support themselves, the problem is that they spend too much time thinking and not enough time doing. Just go for it, adjust your situation according to what's actually going on, and you'll find your own path.

If you're lacking motivation to work, consider the happiness of the person you're giving it to. This could be a great motivator for you. To bring happiness to the other person, you can also push yourself to work hard.

In closing, I'd love to hear more specifics from the questioner to give a more tailored answer. Best of luck, and I hope you find your own happiness!

Don't be too hard on yourself.

God doesn't create junk. Everyone comes to this world with a purpose. Some are obvious, some are hidden. Everything that exists is reasonable. No one should put themselves down.

There's no real difference between someone who seems to be a failure and someone who becomes successful at a young age. The Buddha said that all living beings are inherently complete, and that everyone is inherently full of wisdom and wealth.

The differences in circumstances are due to the fact that everyone's thought processes and cognitive abilities are different, which leads to different external manifestations.

Successful people choose the right path and stick to it. They get results.

Those who are unsuccessful haven't found their own path, or have found it but not stuck with it.

What is happiness?

There's no set way to measure happiness. You either feel it or you don't. If you're happy, you're happy. If you're not, you're not. So, happiness has nothing to do with other people. It's all about you.

Simply put, you can't make someone else happy. The feeling of happiness is something that only you can experience.

The best thing you can do is make yourself happy. If you live in a state of joy every day, you'll be able to give off positive energy, and those around you will be influenced by you and slowly feel happy too, because happiness is contagious.

If your happiness makes everyone around you happy, then you're really valuable. Would people call you the god of happiness?

This is what success looks like, what makes life valuable, and it's pretty remarkable.

The truth is, you haven't done anything. You just let yourself live joyfully, live happily, become happy, and everything around you becomes happy.

Thank you!

The concept of happiness is not easily defined. Material possessions, actions, and words can all have a positive or negative impact on one's sense of well-being.

As the Internet continues to evolve, an increasing number of individuals are utilizing online platforms to express their views. Similarly, we can leverage the power of words to document healing emotions and provide support to those facing personal challenges.

Emotional bonds between people can be maintained without the need for physical contact. The power we possess is often underestimated. In the eyes of those who value us, our words and actions can provide them with strength.

If you feel that you are unable to provide others with happiness at this time, then it may be necessary for you to make some changes to yourself. You should allow yourself to interact with those whom you previously sought to provide happiness to.

There is a significant discrepancy between theoretical understanding and practical application. Without a commitment to action, speculation will not yield the desired outcomes.

The current state of affairs is the result of past decisions, and the future is uncertain. However, you have the power to decide what kind of self you want to experience the future with. The path to change has been clear to you for some time.

I am unsure of the best course of action. Ultimately, the only thing that can change your life is your own decision. This could mean continuing on your current path and pursuing happiness in the way you are now, or it could mean becoming a person who can bring happiness to others.

Good morning, My name is Xin Tan, and I am Fei Yun's assistant coach. I am pleased to have this opportunity to discuss with you the issue of how to provide happiness for others when one is unable to do so for oneself.

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First, let us examine the concept of "ability" as it pertains to judgment.

First, let us examine the concept of "ability" as it pertains to judgment.

It is customary to evaluate individuals, objects, and occurrences based on one's personal standards.

It is customary to evaluate individuals, circumstances, and occurrences based on one's personal standards.

Judgment is the process of evaluating a person or situation based on one's own values and standards. Having values inevitably leads to judgment, and judgment is a form of belief.

Judgment is the process of evaluating a person or thing based on one's own values and standards. Having values inevitably leads to judgment, and judgment is a form of belief.

In any given field of knowledge, there will inevitably be discrepancies when making judgments. Having one's own values will inevitably lead to the establishment of standards, and having standards will, in turn, lead to the making of judgments.

In the context of one's own scope of knowledge, the act of making a judgment inevitably results in some degree of deviation. Similarly, the establishment of one's own values gives rise to the formulation of standards, which in turn leads to the making of judgments.

"You're very pretty" is an evaluative statement. "No job, no contact with reality = no ability" is also an evaluative statement.

Judgment is a valuable tool that can provide direction in various aspects of life, including career development, networking, and personal growth.

Judgment is a valuable tool that can provide direction in various aspects of life, including career development, networking, and personal growth.

However, once judgment is fixed, each fixation has a "limited belief." Fixation can be defined as a fixed obsession, which is caused by limited cognition.

"Fixation" will impede progress and lead to distorted relationships. It is easy to "walk the same old path in new shoes" and view new situations with old rules.

If an individual is unyielding in their beliefs, they will remain at the same level of understanding and lose their curiosity. This lack of flexibility will hinder communication in relationships, preventing open dialogue and potentially leading to misinterpretations. To foster effective communication, it is essential to be open to new perspectives and let go of preconceived ideas.

Advice:

1. Enhance your awareness to modify your "fixations," expand your perspective, and gain deeper insights.

2. Conduct a self-evaluation rather than self-denial. Provide yourself with a comprehensive assessment, enhance your sense of value, and reinforce your self-confidence.

Please advise.

Let us examine the concept of happiness.

Let us examine the concept of happiness.

Happiness can be derived from the seemingly insignificant aspects of life, rather than from material wealth alone.

The secretion of hormones (dopamine) has a direct correlation with an elevated happiness index and a corresponding improvement in overall health and well-being.

For example, being understood is a key aspect of the emotional support that is fundamental to a healthy relationship. Meeting an individual's emotional needs is an essential element of providing love and care.

Happiness stems from the four pillars of our being: body, mind, emotions, and spirituality. It is not something that can be externally owned. Pursuing fame, fortune, and wealth diverts our attention from the pursuit of inner happiness.

Even if an individual is financially disadvantaged, they can still contribute to the happiness of others. One way to do this is through the seven acts of charity without wealth:

Eye charity (encouraging/warm gaze), ear charity (listening), body charity (giving a handshake/hug), face charity (kind and pleasant expression), heart charity (conveying kindness), speech charity (gentle and loving words), housing charity (giving someone space).

I am unsure of the specifics of your situation. Many individuals experience feelings of guilt and self-blame due to their inability to provide a more substantial material foundation for their parents, loved ones, and children.

It is not necessary to pursue this course of action, as people from all walks of life will inevitably face challenges and will never be fully satisfied. Once we have achieved the desired standard of living, we will naturally set new goals in life.

It is therefore important to live in the present.

The future is contingent upon the present. If one is not satisfied with the present, it is unlikely that one will be satisfied with the future.

"Do what you can, accept what you can't." Make every effort to contribute to the best of your ability, and recognize that there will always be limitations.

I hope the above is helpful to you, and I wish you well.

I hope the above is helpful to you. Best regards,

Should you wish to continue the conversation, please click "Find a Coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom. I will then be happy to communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

If you wish to continue the conversation, please click "Find a Coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom of the page. I will communicate with you and work with you on an individual basis.

I have a life issue.

I'd like to ask you a question.

I want to know how a person who has no practical ability, such as no job, no contact with the many people in real life, and no ability to bring happiness to others can possibly be happy.

The host can see your anxiety, confusion, and distress.

From this question, I would like to ask you directly: What do you mean by "people without practical ability," and what is your definition of "practical ability"?

Tell me, what is your definition of work? Surely you don't mean sitting in an office for 8 hours a day.

As long as you can earn money, it's work.

I'd like to know what you mean by "not contacting people in real life."

I'm not sure if you mean not meeting in person or not communicating with people online. Either way, people online are also an extension of people in real life. We're communicating now, so I don't understand what you mean by not contacting people in real life.

I'd like to understand your perspective on this. Your question is quite broad.

I need you to explain it to me so I can understand it and explore the issue.

Let me be clear: is the happiness you talk about the happiness you think is happiness, or is it the happiness of the person you want to give it to? Is that person's happiness defined by the happiness you think is happiness, or is it the other way around?

There is a question mark.

Hello, let me give you a hug. I am Shu Yaqingzheng, and I'm going to share my thoughts with you. I'm going to give you food for thought.

If you feel inferior when you want to help others but feel that you don't have the means or strength to do so, hug yourself again!

You are amazing for being able to reflect on yourself, understand your needs and feelings, analyse your willingness and situation to help others, and seek help to grow!

01. Let's be real. Most people are troubled by low self-esteem. If you can recognize these feelings, it means you're actively exploring and thinking about them. You want to change the situation.

Together, we will learn how to become confident even if we lack the means to help ourselves and others.

First, recognize that low self-esteem is a feeling of weakness and powerlessness, and in many cases it refers to a person's internal state. When a person feels low self-esteem, they are wrong to think that they can't do anything well.

Second, being aware of the persistence of these feelings drains us of too much energy, and conflicts arise that further deplete our inner energy, making it impossible to resolve the conflicts within.

Many of our feelings do not exist in isolation. For example, when we feel inferior, we also feel ashamed, and when we feel ashamed, we also feel fear, and when we feel fear, we also feel anger, and when we feel anger, we also feel hurt, and when we feel hurt, we also feel very powerless, and when we feel powerless, we also feel very inferior.

A closed loop about inferiority is formed within us.

We must put a stop to this cycle and get to know ourselves objectively, without focusing on our shortcomings.

We know that every person has shortcomings. People tend to focus on these shortcomings at certain times.

If you do 10 things and only one is not done well, people will focus on that one thing.

You must take a few steps back and objectively view yourself. Overemphasizing and magnifying your shortcomings will damage your self-confidence.

02. Be excellent at discovering your own strengths.

People tend to overlook their strengths when they focus on their imperfections.

Discover your strengths. You already have them, but you've been blind to them. They could be things you've done in the past, or they could be qualities you have.

Take the time to discover them and look at them properly.

These are your unique qualities. They make you who you are. They will bring you nourishment and energy. In the past, you were too concerned with inferiority, and you neglected your valuable guests, causing them to feel lost and humiliated.

Do the small things well.

The most amazing thing about people is not what they have done, but that they have done small things well, slowly accumulating and growing themselves. You can gain small but certain self-confidence by doing small things well.

You can achieve these small things with ease and will receive positive feedback. They are not easily overturned and are not as risky. Just move forward slowly and steadily, a little at a time, and you will find joy in every inch of progress.

The slowest way is also the fastest.

04. Improve your strength in all aspects.

Confidence must be put into practice. It can only be considered truly confident when it is confirmed at the practical level.

Improve your ability to live your life. You can do this. Even if there is only a small improvement, don't forget to praise yourself. Your encouragement and actions will become the cornerstone of your confidence, sending you to the position you desire and allowing you to reap the good things you want to have.

05. Do things that bring value to others.

People with low self-esteem are wrong. They feel that they have nothing, that they cannot see what they have, or that what they have is not good enough. This is not true.

Everyone in this world is unique and can bring value to others. Don't limit yourself. Do things that can bring value to others and increase your self-confidence.

For example, give your mother a hug before dinner and say, "Thank you, Mom, your food is delicious!" After dinner, take the initiative to do the dishes, clean the dining room, make your mother a cup of tea, etc.

You will enjoy the satisfaction of a job well done when you cook a dish for your family that you have learned from the Internet.

Money is not a prerequisite for these paths to self-confidence. You can go as far as you want to under the existing conditions.

If you want to be seen, don't be afraid to show up. When you allow yourself to present yourself to others, to embrace your strengths and weaknesses, you're already on the path to confidence.

You must be brave and make breakthroughs, as well as continuously learn and grow. Identifying a problem is the first step to solving it. Take your time, but don't hesitate.

You will meet a better version of yourself. You will become a loving and powerful person, overflowing with love to nourish your relationships and let them feel the happiness you give.

Best wishes!

The world and I love you, and we will help you.

Good day, host. I hope my response proves useful to you.

From the landlord's description, it is evident that the landlord is experiencing self-doubt and a sense of inferiority. The landlord questions whether someone without practical ability, a job, and the ability to interact with people in real life can truly bring happiness to others.

I would like to take this opportunity to reiterate the value of every individual, despite the fact that we often fail to recognise it in ourselves. Furthermore, it is important to recognise the potential for growth and development in all of us. The current state of employment or social interaction does not necessarily reflect long-term circumstances. Similarly, the capacity to bring happiness to others and to care for others does not preclude the necessity to care for oneself.

To maintain a healthy work-life balance, it is essential to overcome the negative mindset that often hinders personal growth. By challenging the self-limiting beliefs and building a sense of inner confidence, individuals can navigate challenges more effectively and achieve their goals.

I would like to offer you the following advice:

The initial step is to accept yourself. Accept your own character and acknowledge your imperfections. Identify both your shortcomings and your strengths.

The initial step to becoming confident and stronger is to accept yourself.

It is important to understand that accepting oneself is not a simple process. However, it is essential to persevere in this practice. When negative self-talk arises, it is crucial to maintain an attitude of acceptance. It is vital to recognize that one possesses both strengths and weaknesses. By leveraging one's strengths and addressing weaknesses, it is possible to lead a fulfilling life.

When you accept yourself, you can live with your shortcomings and your confidence will grow.

It is important to note that many individuals are imperfect, yet they are able to live fulfilling lives despite their shortcomings. It is essential to recognize the complete, true, and comprehensive self, accept one's imperfections, and strive for a comfortable and fulfilling life.

The second step is to identify your strengths and value, and to provide yourself with positive psychological reinforcement on a regular basis.

It is only through self-affirmation and self-support that confidence can be cultivated.

When there is a lack of internal resources, individuals tend to seek external solutions. However, external resources are inherently unstable and beyond our control. The only thing we can control is ourselves and our own actions and thoughts.

The necessity of external recognition indicates a lack of self-recognition. It is therefore essential to practise recognising and encouraging oneself. When sufficient recognition and support are given to oneself, the importance of external recognition and evaluation is diminished.

When you accept and recognize yourself, you will also gain the recognition and trust of others. Your confidence and personal charisma will be evident, and this will have a positive impact on your professional relationships.

In conclusion, you are the source of everything. If you change yourself, you will change your world.

Additionally, it is essential to cultivate self-confidence and a sense of security, while continuously enhancing abilities and knowledge.

Confidence is derived from strength and hard work. When we become the person we aspire to be through our own efforts, we will become more confident and feel more secure.

By setting appropriate goals and achieving them in a step-by-step manner, you can gradually improve your abilities, accumulate knowledge, and gain rich experience. This will naturally lead to increased confidence and a greater sense of control over your life.

By "suitable goals," I mean those of moderate difficulty, the kind you can reach by taking a moderate amount of effort. If the goals are too small, you may not find them challenging and may lose interest in achieving them. If they are too big, you may encounter too much resistance and lack the confidence to achieve them. Goals of moderate difficulty are the most motivating. When we work hard to achieve them, we feel a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence.

As an example, if your current walking level is 4,000 steps per day, it would be advisable to set your daily goal at 4,500-5,000, rather than less than 4,000 or as high as 10,000.

When setting goals that align with your abilities, it is crucial to persevere in your actions. Only through action can you overcome difficulties and truly experience your value.

Please continue to encourage yourself, provide yourself with positive mental suggestions, and believe that you can succeed.

Furthermore, the following tips may assist in managing the challenge of connecting with individuals in a more personal capacity:

1. Be aware of the impact of the "spotlight effect" on your own behaviour.

The term "spotlight effect" is a psychological concept that describes the tendency to unintentionally magnify one's own perceived shortcomings. To illustrate, you may dress neatly and look refreshed when attending a social event, but the breeze may have slightly messed up your hair.

As you are about to enter the premises, you notice your reflection in a nearby mirror. You perceive your attire to be disheveled and your hair to be a mess. You suddenly become aware of the fact that you are the center of attention, and that your appearance is being commented on by others.

You are experiencing a heightened level of anxiety, despite the absence of any actual cause. This is a phenomenon known as the "spotlight effect," a psychological phenomenon that causes individuals to perceive their own actions, appearance, and emotions as being more significant than they actually are.

The spotlight effect occurs when our perception of reality differs from our perception of ourselves. In other words, we tend to overestimate the significance of our actions, appearance, and emotions in the eyes of others.

The "spotlight effect" is the reason you feel nervous when talking to other people. You believe that other people are paying special attention to your every move. When talking to other people, you feel as though a spotlight is shining on you, which causes you to feel nervous.

It is important to remember, however, that we are not the most important people in the world, and that other people will not pay that much attention to us. Therefore, it is advisable to relax, take it easy, and be true to yourself.

It is important to understand that the more you can be yourself, the more relaxed and comfortable you will be. People who like you will like, accept, and support you regardless of your personal attributes, while people who do not like you may still reject and not support you, even if you behave in a way that is in line with their expectations. It is not possible to gain the approval of everyone, but it is possible to be the person you want to be. The closer you are to your true self, the more you will like yourself.

2. Respond to other people's comments in a professional and appropriate manner, and engage in selective socializing.

What is the appropriate response to feedback from others?

We are all individuals with our own unique set of values and standards.

When others meet our evaluation standards, we offer them our support and approval. When they do not meet our standards, we express our disapproval and doubt.

Conversely, when our actions align with the other person's evaluation standards, they will approve of us. Conversely, when our actions diverge from the other person's evaluation standards, they will disapprove of us.

It is therefore evident that the recognition of an individual by another is not a factor that can be influenced by the former, but rather a consequence of their alignment with the latter's evaluation standards. However, it is not possible to control the thoughts and actions of others. It is not feasible to consistently meet the evaluation standards of others, nor can they be expected to align with every individual's standards.

It is important to remember that everyone faces challenges and has different needs and circumstances. There is no need to adhere to other people's standards or to expect others to align with your own. It is not necessary to seek external validation in every situation.

It is therefore unnecessary to sacrifice oneself in order to gain the approval of others, or to maintain interpersonal relationships. It is also irrelevant whether one is liked or disliked, as there will always be individuals who hold positive and negative views of the self. The key is to be able to accept this duality.

It is important to remember that we do not live to satisfy other people's expectations. If we continue to seek approval and care about what others think, we risk living other people's lives. If we place too much hope in being recognized by others, we may find ourselves living according to their expectations and losing sight of our true selves. This can lead to challenges as it may not align with our genuine aspirations.

It is essential to reassert control over your self-evaluation. You can treat yourself as an impartial observer and evaluate your performance comprehensively, objectively, and truthfully. This approach will enable you to gain a deeper understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, and to identify your core objectives. At this stage, the opinions of others become less influential.

When you cease to be concerned with the opinions of others and instead live your life in accordance with your true self, you will find that your relationships improve. Those "bad relationships" that you have formed by pleasing others and suppressing your own needs will no longer cause you concern.

It is advisable to engage in selective socializing.

It is important to note that socializing is a fundamental human need. Socializing can provide a sense of belonging and security, but it is essential to be selective about who we socialize with. It is not advisable to socialize with individuals who constantly criticize and discourage us, as this can cause significant distress. Instead, it is beneficial to socialize with people who consistently offer encouragement and support, as this can foster a sense of care and support in social interactions.

When you feel stressed about socializing, adjust the frequency of socializing appropriately until it suits you. Avoid forcing yourself to socialize when you are not ready, and learn to take care of your own feelings.

I am confident that after a period of adjustment, you will be able to navigate social situations with greater confidence and ease.

Indeed, I can relate to your situation. I experienced a similar lack of self-worth, inferiority complex, and fear of communication. Additionally, I was unemployed. However, through a combination of self-acceptance, constant affirmation, and proactive action, I gained confidence and became more open in social settings. I have found that these changes are attainable, and I am confident you can do the same.

I encourage you to persevere and wish you the best of luck!

Good morning,

In response to your inquiry, I extend my support and encouragement. There is no cause for concern.

Let's change the subject for now. Individuals who lack practical abilities, who are not inclined to interact with others, and who are unemployed have been known to achieve a state of happiness.

When we lack the ability to generate new ideas, we are unable to provide support and assistance to those around us. Even if we do provide assistance, it is akin to a loan shark, requiring a twofold return.

Embrace self-acceptance.

It is not uncommon for individuals to experience challenging periods in their lives. Many people can relate to these difficulties.

Sometimes, you may neglect personal grooming, such as not combing your hair or washing your face. Your attire may also reflect a lack of attention to hygiene, with your clothes covered in grease. You may experience a lack of motivation and energy, and even develop dark circles under your eyes. This is similar to the situation of the toad in the book "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychologist" before he entered the consultation room. However, the toad took action, actively discussed the reasons with professionals, and gradually identified the reasons to start changing. As a result, he regained his happy and energetic self.

You may also find it beneficial to read this book. By observing the transformation of the toad, you can gain insights on how to navigate change effectively.

What are the reasons for hesitating to alter the status quo?

Every action is driven by a desire or motive. I believe that, despite the current circumstances, you still have the desire and motivation to bring happiness to others.

It is likely that someone who is important to you must have appeared. And before that?

It is important to understand what occurred, what type of stimulus or harm was experienced, and how this affects the mind.

It is as if I failed an examination and missed the bus stop. My day is over, and the idea that I am a terrible person and a failure has been born.

It is important to note that whenever we experience discomfort or a desire for recognition and reassurance, there is likely a underlying trigger related to past experiences. It is crucial to understand that trauma does not simply disappear without a cause.

It must be acknowledged and addressed. If the reason for not embracing change is a perceived inadequacy, then consider an area where you have a skill set that can be leveraged.

Even the act of eating three meals a day is a commendable achievement.

I hope my response is of some assistance to you. Best regards, [Name]