How do I adjust myself when I feel emotionally drained and physically and mentally exhausted?

Dear Sir/Madam, Thank you for your question. Best regards,

From your description, I can discern a slight sense of anxiety in you. At the same time, you also have a very good ability to perceive. When you perceive your own problems, you proactively seek solutions to them, which is commendable.

You indicated that you had been in depression/it-was-fine-the-first-few-times-but-this-time-after-the-counseling-i-couldnt-sleep-25665.html" target="_blank">counseling for two years and that your counselor had helped you to overcome the depressed emotions that had been plaguing you for ten years. Your counselor felt that you had adjusted well and ended the counseling. You were at home for the Chinese New Year, and because of pressure to get married, your family relationship was not harmonious. When you were physically and mentally exhausted, you were unable to adjust yourself after returning to work. You had no one to confide in, and you felt helpless. At the same time, you felt that during the two years of counseling, you not only received counseling but also learned a lot. However, you were unable to apply it yourself, which made you feel even more uncomfortable inside. You didn't want to affect other people, but you had a lot of things to do yourself, which made you overwhelmed. Is that correct?

I would like to extend my sincerest congratulations on your courage in seeking professional psychological counseling. Your decision to seek help has undoubtedly been a significant step in relieving yourself of ten years' worth of uncomfortable emotions. This is a commendable achievement.

It is important to note that there will always be circumstances in life that may make us feel less powerful. However, you are now an adult, and circumstances have changed. You are taking the initiative to find solutions to your problems, and as long as you are willing to do so, things will undoubtedly improve.

I empathize with your situation. I have been studying psychology for seven years, and it has also alleviated my inferiority complex for ten years. However, there are still some unresolved issues, and I also experience anxiety. Nevertheless, this is a natural part of life, with periods of both growth and challenge. Most importantly, we are stronger than before, and that is a positive outcome.

I have some suggestions that I believe will be of assistance to you in addressing your issues.

Firstly, it is recommended that you continue to seek professional psychological counseling.

I believe you are aware that a psychological counselor is there to provide support and empowerment, to delve deeply into the roots of the subconscious, and, most importantly, to assist in problem-solving. When we feel discomfort, it indicates that we have identified another level of the issue. We can seek guidance from a counselor who is a good fit for our needs.

Should you be interested, you may also wish to consider undertaking a course of study in psychology, which will enable you to address your own issues while you are studying.

Secondly, it is advisable to seek out positive experiences.

I am aware that you are present and that your emotions are currently unstable. This is perfectly normal. If you wish to make a change, we recommend seeking out positive experiences, or things that make you happy and feel good. When you are immersed in happy feelings, everything will improve.

It is also important to learn to release negative emotions.

It is important to promptly express negative emotions when they arise, rather than allowing them to accumulate. Otherwise, they can have a detrimental impact on our well-being. We can discuss these emotions on this platform or engage in physical activities such as walking or sports to relieve stress. During exercise, the brain releases dopamine, which creates a sense of pleasure and helps us adjust our mindset and face challenges with resilience.

Furthermore, it is important to learn to accept yourself.

It is not uncommon for individuals to experience feelings of inadequacy and negative emotions in their personal lives. Learning to accept oneself is an important step in managing these feelings. By accepting oneself and tolerating one's shortcomings, it becomes easier to recognize one's strengths, adjust one's inner self, and achieve a sense of calm, regardless of external pressures.

Ultimately, trust in the value of compounding.

It is important to understand that progress does not occur immediately. Despite the benefits of psychological counseling in alleviating ten years of depression, there are still many emotions that require attention. It is possible that your current experience is more profound. It is essential to believe that with consistent effort, incremental progress, and a focus on self-improvement, we can become stronger internally, believe in ourselves, and recognize the power of accumulation. This approach allows us to face challenges with confidence and resolve, leading to greater personal resilience.

Ultimately, I would like to emphasize the distinction between knowledge and action. It is crucial to recognize that success often requires persistent effort and the ability to overcome challenges to achieve breakthroughs and a fulfilling life.

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, your personal coach, Fei You! 2023 is going to be your best year yet!

I totally get it! I long to return to the amazing, supportive environment of being understood, accepted, and embraced that I experienced while working with the counselor. This environment made you feel confident in life and empowered!

But when the counseling is over and you return to "real" life, you are overwhelmed by the onslaught of "problems" that you cannot handle, and you feel deeply exhausted, a sense of being drained and exhausted. But don't worry! Hugging from a distance, let's share and discuss together:

1. Take a moment to think about all the ways psychological counseling has helped you.

After more than two years of counseling with a counselor, you've gained so much! You've felt the warmth of empathy, listening, and companionship, and you've received unconditional acceptance and understanding from the counselor.

It may seem like a simple chat, with you pouring out your heart and the counselor listening, but this is the amazing power of psychological counseling! You get to listen to the other person with all your heart and soul, guide them to become aware of the problem through some questions, and at the same time stimulate their original wisdom so they can find the answer themselves.

In other words, it is not the counselor who truly heals you. She is just like a walking stick, someone you need to protect you and support you in difficult times in your life. In the end, you are the one who discovers the problems that trouble you and the solutions to them.

At this moment, I also feel your longing for the counselor, not the person, but the comfortable and warm feeling of working together. However, one day you will have to let go of the crutches, and you will have to bravely continue on your life's journey on your own—and I know you will succeed!

?2. Be your own strongest support and achieve self-nourishment!

You've made an excellent point about how ending the counseling relationship and returning to reality has made it challenging to cope with some things. It's true that the impact of your family's negative emotions on you, the pressure from outside interference and transgressions, and how to coordinate between study, work, and life can all be difficult to navigate. But you've already taken the first step by recognizing these challenges and seeking support.

Many people who have received psychological counseling have had similar feelings. This is totally normal! The emotions caused by the problems that previously troubled them will reappear. When this happens, the first thing that comes to mind is the psychological counselor. This is a great sign of trust and reliance in psychological counseling. It also reflects the client's desire to return to reality.

The book "The Healing Power of Writing" introduces an amazing method of "free writing" that has a very powerful "awareness" effect. Express your true feelings freely (anytime, anywhere, in various forms and with various content), and from this you can think about and summarize your core emotions. Next, you can achieve self-healing through "dialogue" with important people in your life, and ultimately reinvent yourself!

This includes meditation and mindfulness, developing your own sense of perception, and staying closely connected to yourself, so as to stimulate your innate wisdom. At this time, you need to have firm confidence and faith in yourself, and you will!

You have received the strength and guidance of a counselor, and you have personally dealt with many emotional and life troubles with her by your side!

When you feel powerless, imagine that the counselor is not far away, silently watching you and cheering you on. She has full confidence in you, and with her empowerment, you are completely capable of "walking" independently and dealing with these problems. You have already dealt with these issues more than once in the course of working with the counselor, so you have the ability to do this—and you can do it!

Now for the fun part! It's time to list the problems that are currently bothering you, sort them, and categorize them. This is where the magic happens! You'll find some amazing ideas for solving them. And don't worry about those overwhelming problems that seem to be piling up and suffocating you. You can conquer them too! They're all familiar to you and have been successfully solved before. So, let's get started!

I really hope the above is helpful to you! And I just want to say that I love you, and I love the world too! ?

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Dear question asker,

From the content of your post, it appears that since the cessation of counseling and subsequent re-integration into family and social structures, you have experienced a profound sense of internal depletion.

The aforementioned symptoms include excessive anxiety and depression, fatigue, helplessness, and confusion.

Firstly, it is important to acknowledge that undergoing counseling can facilitate the overcoming of a decade-long depressive episode, which is a rare and valuable achievement.

The counseling you have received has been beneficial.

Furthermore, it is unclear which therapeutic approach you are currently following. What specific techniques could assist you in moving forward from your current state?

The objective of this discussion is to:

Please describe the circumstances that led to your decision to terminate counseling and subsequently sever ties with your counselor.

Did you also remove the contact information?

From a professional perspective, the counseling process is not yet complete, as there are still social skills that require improvement.

Furthermore, a dynamic explanation posits that

It is possible that transference and countertransference may occur, which could potentially disrupt the counseling relationship and result in the repetition of emotional patterns.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether there are any discernible patterns of activity.

Moreover, it is noteworthy that despite having acquired a substantial amount of knowledge from the counselor, there seems to be a lack of integration of these insights into one's approach to navigating challenges in daily life.

Subsequently, it may be necessary to engage in a process of deep digestion and reflection to ascertain the potential for utilizing previously acquired techniques.

One might consider whether it would be beneficial to utilize this approach once more for the purpose of self-healing.

What is the most effective method for disrupting this cyclical pattern?

Given that you are currently experiencing a state of internal conflict, it is essential to gain insight into its underlying causes.

It would be beneficial to ascertain the source of external pressure and that of internal pressure.

External pressures may be social or may result from life events, such as the intensity of one's work obligations.

The pressure of interpersonal adaptability? The pressure of marriage, etc.?

The term "internal pressure" is used to describe an internal complex of striving for perfection, characterised by exceedingly high expectations for specific outcomes.

This can result in a profound sense of disappointment and loss, as the adage suggests, "the heart is high as the sky but the life is thin as paper."

The second meaning of internal conflict is the ongoing conflict between two opposing mental forces.

To illustrate, if one aspires to love and marriage on the one hand

Alternatively, is there a method for overcoming the fear of intimacy? Can an individual persuade themselves to form an intimate relationship, thereby avoiding a state of entanglement and conflict?

It is akin to a tug-of-war: the desire to resolve the situation is present, yet the ability to do so is lacking, and letting go is an impossibility.

This kind of internal conflict is actually caused by the subconscious fear of being unable to make a choice, which in turn leads to a lack of courage to choose. This requires consideration of systematic counseling.

It is imperative to regain the capacity to make decisions and choices in order to confront the consequences and assume responsibility for the risks involved.

Furthermore, if the pressure is derived from realistic factors, it is possible to prioritize the difficulties in reality and ascertain whether

It is essential to determine which problems can be solved immediately and which require a longer period of time.

It is also necessary to determine which problems can be solved independently and which require the assistance of others.

In addition, it is essential to evaluate the following aspects among the issues that cause anxiety:

It is also necessary to determine which problems are caused by anxiety due to real difficulties and which are caused by one's own assumptions and speculations, which expand and exaggerate the catastrophic and difficult nature of the problems.

The catastrophic and difficult nature of real-life problems.

In conclusion, it is recommended that:

It is essential to distinguish between the actual sources of distress and those that are merely perceived as such. This entails identifying the genuine challenges that require personal intervention and are beyond the scope of external assistance.

For example, these might include activities such as job hunting, taking exams, or decorating a house.

Please identify the psychological problems you are currently experiencing.

For example, the act of repressing one's feelings and subsequently failing to express them.

How might one address feelings of self-blame and guilt?

In the presence of negative emotions, which emotions should be identified and acknowledged?

Are the emotions in question anxiety or depression?

Is the emotion anger or sadness?

What are the cognitive processes occurring in the mind when these emotions arise? What are the external environments and situations?

What is the underlying motivation for these feelings?

In the presence of negative emotions, which bodily regions are indicative of the emotional state and fluctuations?

Does the application of deep breathing or relaxation techniques result in an improvement in emotional state?

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether modifying one's environment and cognitive processes could potentially alter the state of negative emotions.

It should be noted that the aforementioned analysis and recommendations are intended as a reference point only, given the limitations of the author's understanding of the individual's personal circumstances.

It is advised that you consider professional counseling as a means of facilitating your recovery and extrication from your current situation.

I am counselor Yao, and I will continue to provide you with the support and care you require.

Hello.

I'm Kelly, a counselor.

You wrote that after ten years of depression, you resolved many problems through counseling.

Our emotions will change. Counseling and your cooperation with the counselor have helped you grow.

Depression can be treated, but our hearts will still be vulnerable.

I get depressed sometimes.

When things change, it can be hard to cope. We need to be aware of this to avoid falling back into depression.

Our depression is often due to a lack of understanding from family and friends.

After leaving the counselor, we are vulnerable and long for love and understanding from our family and friends.

The "Neurotic Personality of Our Time" says we need support from society, family, and friends.

If family members don't understand, it can make us feel worse.

This time, for example:

The Chinese New Year, pressure to get married, and family quarrels have exhausted me.

These things also bring up your past. You've carried a lot alone, and it hasn't been easy.

Accept your emotions and give yourself more affirmation. You've done well.

Have you taken medication in the past? Some friends who have been depressed for many years keep taking it even after they stop seeing a counselor. When you feel low, you can also see a counselor again.

If you lack understanding from family or friends, you're more likely to relapse.

When you feel very depressed, emotions can be honest.

A professional counselor can help you release pent-up emotions. You can try another counselor on the platform.

[Depressed]

My suggestions:

1: We need to be happy. Happiness takes time. Don't mistake happiness for being high on stimulants, which is excitement and pleasure. A person is naturally calm and stable.

It's okay to feel down. Many people just had the Spring Festival, and they'll feel down after what you mentioned.

Be aware of your own emotions and those of your family members. Learn to differentiate yourself to avoid being overly emotionally involved.

2: Make more friends, grow yourself, learn to read, and do the things you love.

For example, travel, make new friends, do things you like, stay curious, and develop good habits.

Yoga, meditation, painting, sports, cooking, and making life fulfilling will also keep you in a good state.

3: Know yourself, take a break when you're tired, and take care of your body and mind. A healthy lifestyle is key!

We can think about the meaning of life when we're quiet. Our health, wealth, freedom, and learning are important. We can achieve a balance.

4: Keep a journal and write about what you don't accept.

5: Love yourself, appreciate your past achievements, and you will realize you are great!

Accept the bad for the betterment of yourself.

6: Ask yourself why you worry about how your bad state affects others.

Take care of yourself. Don't set the bar too high. This will make life easier.

Learn to accept what you can't change. Are you worried about affecting others because you want to be perfect?

It's an idealistic fantasy. Learn to compromise with reality and you'll have a resilient life.

It's good to talk to friends about your stress.

7: You say there are still many things waiting to be done, such as exams, job promotions, and renovating the house. Most things we worry about won't be done all at once.

Make a plan and do them one by one.

If you want to renovate your house, think about how happy you will be to have a home of your own.

8: Everything has two sides. If you only look at the bad side, you will feel bad.

Look at things in a positive way to feel better.

The future is bright. You still have your goals, and you will accomplish them. When you get tired, rest.

I like this quote, so I'll share it with you:

Yesterday's sun can't dry today's laundry. There are endless landscapes in the world, so people must have the mood to move forward.

Look up and move forward. Tomorrow's sun will rise again.

I recommend these books: Deep Rest, I Like the Hardworking Me Better, Fall in Love with Bad Moods, and The Courage to Be Disliked.

You deserve it.

I love you, world.

Good day, question asker. My name is Evan.

From the description, it can be seen that the questioner, after recovering from depression, is facing numerous challenges in her life and work, and feels emotionally drained and physically and mentally exhausted. The questioner has difficulties in her close relationship with her family and is unable to cope effectively with problems at work and in her personal life.

This has resulted in the questioner's concerns and anxieties about their future life.

It is my hope that this response will offer the questioner some encouragement and support. It is evident from the questioner's own account that they have previously experienced depression. Furthermore, the psychological counselor has suggested that the questioner has the capacity to resolve the issue independently. However, this assessment is based on the current situation alone. Should circumstances change, for instance through relocation or a change in employment, the questioner may require additional resources to cope with the resulting pressures.

Intimate relationships, problems at work and in life, which also give rise to related anxiety, are all comprehensible. When a multitude of issues converge, it is not uncommon for individuals to experience confusion, and the challenges associated with these problems can be significant, particularly for the questioner.

As the question was posed on an online forum, it is not feasible for me to provide a comprehensive response. Therefore, I will offer some straightforward guidance.

It is essential to ascertain the underlying cause of the anxiety.

It is essential to ascertain the root cause of the questioner's anxiety. Are the underlying factors related to concerns about one's future, difficulties at work, the inability to establish a fulfilling intimate relationship, or apprehensions about the prospect of aging alone?

This necessitates a meticulous examination of the factors contributing to the questioner's anxiety, with a view to identifying the underlying cause. It is essential to ascertain which negative emotions are the source of the anxiety and to determine the root cause of these emotions.

To illustrate, the questioner may be concerned about the recognition of their sexual orientation or the prospect of their future life. Only through the identification of the underlying cause of their actual problem can the questioner make the necessary preparations in accordance with their specific issue.

It is recommended that the individual focus on the most significant issues currently facing them.

The questioner may also experience anxiety about future events, such as concerns about their career, romantic relationships, or other aspects of life. One strategy for addressing these concerns is to write down a list of issues that require attention. This can help the questioner identify the specific problems they need to address.

Subsequently, the tasks should be prioritized according to their relative importance, with the most significant and pressing issue currently facing the individual being identified.

Once the most pressing issue has been identified, it is essential to ascertain whether it can be resolved independently. In the event that this is not feasible, it is crucial to determine whether external assistance can be secured. Additionally, it is vital to assess the availability of local resources that could potentially contribute to the resolution of the problem.

One may attempt to discuss the issue with friends in order to ascertain potential solutions. It is important to confront one's anxiety, avoid dwelling on it, and refrain from discussing it. Instead, it is beneficial to engage in positive thinking. With time, one's perspective will shift, and the problem will become less daunting.

It is recommended that a list be compiled of the worst possible outcomes.

It would be beneficial to identify the most unfavourable potential outcome, as well as the most unfavourable outcome for the questioner. A comprehensive list of these outcomes should be compiled, and an evaluation should be made as to whether any coping strategies exist, or whether the outcomes are unacceptably unfavourable.

In lieu of ruminating on potential outcomes, the questioner would be well advised to devise a response strategy at the earliest opportunity and prepare themselves to face their future life. When the time comes, they will be better equipped to respond in a way that aligns with the strategy they have developed, thereby mitigating the impact of anxiety.

In order to achieve a favorable outcome, it is essential to confront one's authentic self and strive for personal growth. Only through this process can the questioner's life attain a positive trajectory.

Seeking assistance from external sources

Should the aforementioned methods prove ineffective, it is imperative to seek external assistance from a qualified professional counselor. It is crucial to convey your current circumstances to these professionals and ascertain potential recommendations or intervention strategies that could assist you in overcoming your challenges and addressing your needs with fortitude.

It is recommended that the individual in question explain to their parents how their anxiety affects them, how they perceive their current situation, and how they cope with the symptoms. If necessary, ongoing communication with the aforementioned professionals should be maintained until the anxiety has abated.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the individual who posed the question.

Dear questioner,

I admire your awareness and proactive approach in seeking help.

I'm sure many respondents have already given answers, and I would love to add a few more for you, in the hope that I can be of some small help to others.

1. It might be helpful to consider your own expectations of yourself.

Could I respectfully propose that we consider why we have internal conflicts?

Often, it seems that we long for change and are dissatisfied with ourselves.

It may also seem as though we lack the strength to change.

I believe we all have the capacity to be strong.

It may be worth considering that our constant self-criticism, self-denial, and self-doubt could be a contributing factor to mental and physical exhaustion.

It might be helpful to consider how this can naturally lead to physical and mental exhaustion.

You have clearly identified some challenges in your life, and you are seeking a solution that aligns with your personal goals and needs.

Perhaps it would be beneficial for us to take a closer look at our own expectations.

It is possible that our expectations of ourselves may sometimes be excessive, which could result in our goals becoming more challenging than they should be.

This is how stress can sometimes arise.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what kind of life you would truly like to lead.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether this is a life that others would consider successful, or whether it is a life that you are truly satisfied with.

I believe this makes a significant impact.

This does not imply that we disregard the opinions of our family. Rather, it suggests that we can distinguish between what our family expects of us and what we expect of ourselves.

For instance, would you be amenable to the suggestion of getting married?

The topic of marriage is a very practical one.

Sometimes, it's just not possible to hurry things along.

It's not advisable to get married for the sake of it.

Perhaps if we were to break down all the problems we have to face one by one, we might gain a new perspective.

Perhaps it would be helpful to adjust your expectations of yourself and treat yourself as your best friend, rather than a tool for achieving a certain goal or completing a task.

2. Perhaps it would be helpful to streamline your goals and focus on the present.

You may be feeling overwhelmed by the number of tasks on your to-do list, including exams, work promotions, and home renovations. How can you best manage your time and priorities?

It can be challenging to maintain a sense of calm when we look at our to-do lists and feel like there's so much on our plates.

You enjoy thinking and are also considering how you might adjust yourself.

Perhaps it would be best to leave one of the most important things undone.

One possible way to adjust your state might be to focus on doing one thing at a time.

For instance, recently there has been a focus on balancing emotions and state of mind.

It would be beneficial to ensure you eat well, sleep well, and engage in some form of exercise.

It would be beneficial to strive for harmony between the body and mind.

We have so many things we want to do, but we often find ourselves with limited time, which can make it challenging to get everything done effectively. This can lead to feelings of frustration and anxiety.

It may be helpful to remember that when one's state of mind is better adjusted, many previously difficult problems may no longer seem as challenging as they once did.

Perhaps another example would be that the recent focus is only on renovating the house.

Perhaps it would be more productive to focus on decorating the house, rather than trying to do everything at once and worrying about work promotions, exams, etc.

When we complete a task, we may feel a sense of accomplishment and gain confidence in ourselves.

It might be best not to try to get everything done at once.

Perhaps it's not about getting everything done, but rather about embracing the journey and enjoying the process.

It would be fair to say that there is never any end to the things we want to do.

Once this is complete, we may still have new pursuits and desires.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to focus on enjoying the process of doing things.

It might be helpful to consider being more flexible with your schedule.

It is worth noting that the timing of obtaining a certificate may not have a significant long-term impact.

I believe this also applies to job promotions.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that sometimes we can become so focused on the end result that we lose sight of the reasons we initially set out on our journey.

We may sometimes move forward with great haste, but we would do well to remember the original motivation behind our undertaking.

Perhaps if we learn to focus less on the result and more on our actions themselves, our state of mind will slowly return.

Please feel free to share these as you see fit.

If it is of interest to you, you may wish to read "It's Okay to Slow Down."

I send you my blessings!

Hello. I give you a 360-degree hug.

From your question, I can see a confused but trying-to-help-yourself you. You are aware of your problem, which is related to your emotions. It is likely related to your previous depression/it-was-fine-the-first-few-times-but-this-time-after-the-counseling-i-couldnt-sleep-25665.html" target="_blank">counseling, as well as the pressure to get married and return to work, and the lack of someone to talk to for support.

I'd like to share my thoughts on your question.

First of all, it is clear that there is still some unfinished business between you and the counselor.

You said at the beginning that when the counseling ended, the counselor said that in your current state, there are no more problems.

The counselor likely wants you to know that you may still encounter problems, but you can handle them with your abilities.

You may feel some pressure when you interpret it as "you no longer have any problems." It is impossible to have no problems at all. We all define problems differently.

Some people are so worried about the same problem that they can't even eat. Others don't even think it's a problem.

I believe that even after the end of counseling, you will still encounter some problems. This is a normal situation, and you are capable of dealing with these problems.

If you demand that you cannot have any problems, your subconscious mind may feel that this demand is too high. But I refuse to let that happen. I will not let my counselor down.

You deleted the counselor's contact information, which seems to imply a breakup. I don't know the reason, but it's not good. You should have said the counselor's contact information here.

This may also lead to you complaining about the counselor, which negates the counselor's role. You mentioned "more than two years with the counselor" three times in the short question, which seems excessive.

I don't know the specifics, but you should contact the counselor again to formally end the counseling or find another counselor to talk to.

Second, accept your current state and tell yourself that from the end of the counseling to when your life is completely back on track, you need a little buffer time. During this period, you allow yourself to not be in such a good state, you allow yourself to be a little lost, etc.

You've been depressed for 11 years, and the counseling ended last November. That's only three months. Depression has taken up a long period of your life. You need to give yourself more time to accept its departure.

You need to give yourself time to recuperate, just as someone who has just recovered from a serious illness needs time to recuperate.

During this period of recovery, you can allow yourself to experience the full range of emotions. This process may be challenging, but it is essential to give yourself the space to work through them. It is okay to feel distant and occasional, but do not avoid your emotions. Give yourself the time you need to say goodbye.

Discuss with your emotions and set a buffer time, which can be half a year or 10 months. During this period, you are allowed to feel lost occasionally, have occasional bad moods, occasionally not want to do anything, or get caught up in your emotions, etc.

Set a time for depression. I recommend 10 months, 3 times a week, 30 minutes each time. Set the time and intervals according to your own situation, but have certain standards.

You have to set a time limit. You can't just do it casually.

Third, create a plan for your current life and forgive yourself.

For example, work, study, promotion, home improvement, etc. Make a plan and stick to it. Allocate time to the things you need to accomplish each day.

This is the only way to ensure your life doesn't get stuck in a rut and you don't get caught up in your emotions and unable to extricate yourself.

Fourth, set aside time for exercise, reading, etc. This is your chance to be alone with your mind and body. But be careful not to get caught up in your emotions.

You must exercise, read, pay attention to the present moment, and devote yourself to it wholeheartedly.

You must distance yourself from your family, especially your parents and younger siblings with psychological problems. This distance can be both physical and psychological.

Keep your distance.

They cannot support you and will have a negative impact on you. You are preoccupied with yourself, so keep your distance. Wait until you have recovered and can be free from their negative influence before getting in touch with them more often.

You need to take care of yourself first and be selfish during this period.

I strongly recommend that you talk to a counselor.

I am a psychological counselor who is often depressed and sometimes optimistic. I love the world and I love you.

Hello!

From your question, it seems like you're caught up in your emotions and can't get out of that mindset. We're all controlled by our emotions, and we often find ourselves in a dilemma that we can't seem to get out of. This can lead to confusion, a blurring of right and wrong, and an inability to see our own thoughts and perceptions clearly. This is a normal phenomenon.

Because you're in such a rough spot, everyone has to break free. But the more you try, the harder it may be. We often try to force ourselves out, but that just makes things worse. If we don't know what we need for our inner selves, we might stay stuck.

So, to improve self-confidence and sense of security, it's not difficult and can be solved one thing at a time. For example, renovating a house is not complicated, and we can find ways to learn from some planning on the internet, etc. For work and exams, we may need more energy to maintain these two things. Of course, we need to see whether the exam is more important or work is more important, balance the relationship between the two, and consider allocating time for both and implementing our own plans.

When it comes to marriage, it's important to find someone with whom you have a similar fate. It's not always easy to meet that person, and it's okay if you don't. It's often easier to live a good life alone than to manage a life for two people. If you do meet true love, it's important to learn to manage a relationship and see how it develops.

Finally, to get out of emotional depletion, we need to want to see the inner self, first stabilize our feelings and emotions, not let ourselves panic and be anxious about the things we encounter, solve them promptly, and do the things we want to do, one by one. In fact, you'll find that things are not that difficult. Give yourself confidence and believe in yourself.

Wishing you the best!

Hello, question asker. I can see you're feeling confused right now. I'm here to support you!

It's totally normal to experience some growing pains. Let me give you another warm hug.

First of all, thank you very much for trusting me and inviting me to answer your questions.

Let's start by looking at why you're feeling depleted emotionally.

It's because you've got too much pent-up negative emotion.

As a matter of fact, negative emotions are a natural part of being human.

I've found some ways to deal with negative emotions that work well for me.

For instance, I might go to the gym to exercise, lift weights, or go for a run.

When I focus on fitness, my body produces endorphins and dopamine, which helps me to stay focused.

I also keep less attractive items at home, such as pillows, boxing gloves, and footballs.

It's not uncommon to feel negative emotions when you're overwhelmed. Sometimes, you might even feel like punching a pillow or putting on boxing gloves and punching the walls of your house.

Or you might want to let off some steam by playing football at the front door of your house until you're soaked through.

You're feeling anxious because you have a lot on your plate and aren't sure where to start.

Some of the things you've listed are within your control, while others are not.

For instance, passing an exam is something you can control. If you put in the effort, you can pass it.

But if you've also got career advancement on your plate, you might feel overwhelmed and under a lot of pressure.

Then, put together a plan for yourself. For instance, you could focus on passing the exam this year and then tackle work promotion next year.

Sometimes you may need to lower your expectations. For instance, if you're renovating a house, you could set a deadline of one year instead of six months.

Sometimes, delays on the part of the renovation company may result in an extension of the construction period. And sometimes, for whatever reason, it's necessary to rework the work.

For instance, I started renovating my house in Shanghai in the summer of 2019 with the goal of moving in by June 2020. However, due to the pandemic, the renovation had to be put on hold for six months. As a result, I didn't end up moving in until November 2020. In total, the renovation took more than a year.

If you're renting, you might need to extend your lease. It's better to talk to your landlord and say you might need to rent for another year, rather than six months. That way, even if your place isn't ready after six months, you'll still have a place to live.

This should help to reduce your anxiety levels.

If your family is pressuring you to get married, you can also try to express your true thoughts and feelings to them. For example, you could tell your parents that you want to focus on work and exam-related matters for the next two years, and then after that, you will consider getting married.

And when it comes to relationships, you can't make fate happen.

If you don't tell your parents what you think about marriage, they might think you don't have any plans in that area. That could lead them to keep pushing you to get married.

I'd recommend you write a list of your goals and then prioritize them. For example, you could list getting a degree within a year, renovating the house, and working on a promotion next year.

If you're still struggling to cope with your emotions, don't hesitate to reach out to a professional counselor.

I used to have depression and often felt down. I felt like I was really terrible and that I couldn't do anything right.

Later, I remembered what my mother, an American Chinese pastor, often told us in church: "A happy day is a day, and an unhappy day is also a day; so, why not live each day happily?"

Why do you think being in a bad mood will have a negative impact on other people? It'd be worth looking into why you think that.

In fact, we only need to know that there are three kinds of things in the world: our own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven.

The above ideas come from the book A Change of Heart.

It's your decision whether or not to get married. If your parents want you to get married now but you don't want to, there's no need to force yourself to meet their demands.

There are one-on-many chat rooms on this platform every night after 8 pm, and they're free. If you feel like you need someone to talk to, you can join the chat. You can enter anonymously if you want.

I really hope you can find a solution to the problem you're facing soon.

That's all I can think of at the moment.

I hope my above answer is helpful and inspiring to you. I'm here to help, and I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love you and the world. Best wishes!

Hello!

From what you've told me, it seems like you're struggling with some big emotional challenges, and it's understandable that you're worried about how these issues might affect those around you. With so many things on your plate, including exams, a job promotion, and home renovations, it's no wonder you're feeling overwhelmed. I'm here to offer some suggestions that might help you find a way to adjust and cope.

It's so important to find someone you can talk to. You mentioned that you don't have anyone to talk to, which can make you feel even more lonely and anxious.

So, why not try to find a trusted friend, family member, or colleague to talk to? This can be a great way to get things off your chest and also get some much-needed support and comfort.

It's so important to practice relaxation techniques! They can help you relieve physical and mental stress, like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and yoga.

You can practice these techniques at home or anywhere quiet to relieve tension.

It's so important to take care of your body! Your physical health and emotional health are closely linked, so make sure you're living a healthy lifestyle.

This includes things like getting enough sleep and waking up at the same time every day, eating a balanced diet, and doing some moderate exercise.

It's so important to accept your emotions. I could tell from your description that you might feel like your feelings are telling you that you don't accept yourself, and I just wanted to say that's totally normal!

This could mean that you're pushing down or turning away from your emotions. It's really important to accept your emotions and not try to suppress them.

When you accept your emotions, you'll feel so much more relaxed and able to deal with them.

I think you'll find it really helpful to set yourself some achievable goals. I know you said there are lots of things you want to do, but you're not sure how to go about it.

I know it can be tough, but you've got this! Right now, try breaking down your big goals into small, achievable steps and complete them one at a time. This will help you stay positive, motivated, and confident while also reducing stress. You've got this!

You've already done so much to take care of yourself! You said you worked with a counselor for more than two years and resolved many issues, including ten years of depression.

If you feel like you're in a bit of a rough spot emotionally, it might be a good idea to keep seeing a therapist or look into other forms of psychological support.

I really hope these suggestions help!

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm pretty modest and unassuming, just like a valley.

There are so many different aspects to consider.

It must have been a lot to get through ten years of depression. It's great to have this victory, even if it's just a kind of victory. But there are still a lot of problems to deal with.

As I mentioned in my previous message, we had no problems when we were with the counselor. However, when we faced many problems on our own, we found that there was no good way to release our emotions, and there was always a lack of acceptance.

My advice is not to be too anxious or self-defeating. Problems will arise after every event. Find the best way to solve them and maintain a balance.

Just a quick tip:

It's important to face your emotions head-on. This helps you understand your emotional points and prevents your emotions from accumulating. This can help you reduce stress and gain a lot of relief.

It's better to focus on the problem at hand and avoid getting overwhelmed by the whole situation. Parents may have their own psychological issues, but that's their problem, not ours. If it doesn't affect us too much, we can accept it and get along well.

The best way to deal with emotional depletion is to focus on the present. It's not about suppressing our emotions, but about finding a balance and adapting to them.

Hello!

You finished counseling less than three months ago, but you've already overcome a lot. You've experienced the easing of the epidemic and reunited with your family during the Spring Festival. Despite the current emotional distress, you've come a long way. Ten years of depression, and you were able to recognize yourself and seek help. That's great!

You mentioned certification, job promotion, and home improvement at the end of the question. Many people need to do these things. This is our daily life. I know you feel like you've been held back for ten years and want to catch up quickly. But some people have also suffered great losses and lost their lives during the pandemic. Compared to them, we have a healthy life. Is it okay to take things slowly?

How can we take things slowly without getting too emotional? Let me share my views based on my experience!

Be aware of your thoughts and emotions.

You came here to ask a question, which shows you are aware of your emotions. You know that being aware of yourself is the beginning of healing. The emotional distress you experienced during the Spring Festival, the inability to get into a work mode after the New Year, and the emotions of wanting to do all sorts of things but not being able to do them are already on the path to healing. You have learned a lot from the counselor. By clearly expressing your emotions, awareness, and thoughts here, you are putting into practice the methods the counselor taught you. You have the ability to become aware of yourself.

Second, keep improving yourself. This means making adjustments based on awareness. Take getting a certificate, for example!

I don't know what kind of certificate you mean. Let's take the driver's license as an example. What's next? We can focus on this and look at driving schools to see where to register. Is now enough time?

You can also look at the content of the exam on the app and break it down into little goals. This is to improve yourself, so that every day is different. And, do the things you are interested in first.

Finally, try to improve more and more. Work hard and don't give up. You will have setbacks, but when you do, go back to the first step: know yourself. Then you can recover and keep improving. This is a spiral of growth, so have confidence and persevere. You will surpass your current self in a year, not just in three months.

I don't know if you know about Buddhism, but do you know about the Sixth Patriarch Hui Neng? He spent 16 years in the mountains with his master before becoming the Sixth Patriarch. You must also be prepared to spend the next few years practicing the methods your counselor has given you. You will become like Hui Neng and lead a happy life.

Work hard for your future! The world and I love you!

Greetings.

From your description, it is evident that you are currently experiencing a state of emotional exhaustion under the influence of significant external pressures. These include the termination of a two-year counseling relationship (it should be noted that the dissolution of a long-term and stable counseling relationship can also result in a state of distress, characterized by feelings of loss and loneliness, among other emotions), conflicts with family members, and the imposition of pressure to enter into marriage.

It is important to recognize that we are all vulnerable and that we are subjected to a multitude of pressures, some of which are chronic and daily. These pressures can potentially lead to a state of vulnerability that is difficult to overcome. In addition to acknowledging our current state of vulnerability, it is essential to prioritize self-care and interpersonal nourishment to replenish our energy and resilience.

The practice of self-care begins with the fundamentals of clothing, nourishment, and shelter. For instance, it is essential to ensure that one receives an adequate amount of sleep, consumes a diet that is both appetizing and nutritious, wears attire that is both comfortable and appealing, and maintains a clean and comfortable living space. Additionally, it is beneficial to engage in activities that promote emotional well-being and a sense of support, activities that align with one's personal preferences.

For example, one might consider engaging in activities such as taking a hot bath, listening to one's preferred music, going for a walk on a sunny day, exploring the city's culinary offerings, watching a favorite movie, or purchasing flowers to enhance the aesthetic appeal of one's home.

Interpersonal nourishment encompasses the act of confiding in friends about one's concerns and receiving their understanding and support. It also includes engaging in activities that both parties enjoy with friends, lavishing friends with love, praise, and assistance, and, on occasion, the act of giving can also serve as a source of empowerment. In the event that one experiences a pronounced decline in energy, it is important to recognize that self-criticism may not be the most constructive approach.

It should be noted that the aforementioned techniques can be employed at this juncture, allowing the individual to discern which methods are most conducive to their needs.

The aforementioned techniques should assist in the gradual transition from a state of low energy. It is also important to identify the factors that contribute to feelings of vitality, such as recharging a mobile device, and those that result in feelings of depletion, such as providing a plant with water and nutrients. It is advisable to limit exposure to individuals and circumstances that may exacerbate these feelings.

Should these methods prove ineffective or even result in a deterioration of the condition in question, it may be advisable to seek the assistance of a qualified professional.

You articulated a concern regarding your perceived inadequacy, specifically, "Am I not good enough?" It is unclear, however, what your personal definition of "good enough" may be.

Has a full recovery from a previous depressive episode been achieved? Are you now able to cope with the typical challenges and difficulties that arise in life independently?

Does it entail having a stable psychological structure, a mature personality level, and the capacity to construct a support system and recuperate from adversity? It is plausible that there is a discrepancy in how this concept is perceived.

What would be your response to this question?

To reiterate, we are all susceptible to vulnerability, and we all confront problems and dilemmas that we are unable to resolve independently. We all experience periods when we emerge from one dilemma and subsequently encounter another. This does not imply that we have not undergone growth or change, and we are not obliged to blame ourselves for this.

Dilemmas signify that one has reached the limits of one's abilities, thereby creating an opportunity for change.

P.S. Should you still require assistance and wish to resume treatment with your previous counselor, that is an acceptable option. It is possible that some unresolved issues remain between you.

The majority of counselors will not hold you responsible for returning to them so soon. Indeed, they may view your decision to do so as a positive indication of your trust in them and their ability to provide support in challenging circumstances.

Hello, I hope this helps.

You've been working with a counselor for over two years and have learned a lot. But you've also encountered some challenges and feel exhausted. You're struggling to get into the swing of things at work and don't have anyone to talk to. You're feeling depressed and unsure of how to adjust. If your counselor were here, what would you ask him/her?

You know that your emotions are affecting you. You feel like you're not accepting yourself and worried that your bad mood will affect others. You have a lot to do and feel like you're struggling to do well.

Hug yourself. I hope you feel some warmth and support. My advice is:

We need to regularly release our emotions and nourish our minds.

Counseling is not a one-time fix. You still need to take care of your emotions regularly. Just as we need to eat healthy food every day, we need to eat emotional nutrients every day. These are the kinds of things that we need to do every day to maintain a healthy state of mind. We also need to supplement our mental nutrition every day, so that emotional release, positive mental suggestions, etc. become a way of life.

You can also use other ways to help yourself release your emotions. For example, you can ask questions, find coaches, listeners, and consultants on our platform, go to our group chats, go do some of your favorite sports, set aside some time every day to write, and express yourself as much as you like.

When you can release your emotions, they won't stay fixed. We can't repress or let them out. We need to know why we feel this way and accept it. Then we can let it go. Read my article "How to regulate yourself when you're feeling down."

2. Accept yourself, and see if your expectations of yourself are reasonable.

Psychology says we should accept ourselves, but it's not easy. We often criticize ourselves. This makes us doubt ourselves and make us feel worse. When we can't accept ourselves, we should accept that we can't accept ourselves. This is also accepting ourselves.

It takes practice to accept yourself. Give yourself a process and some time. Read "Rebuilding Your Life" and "Accepting an Imperfect Self." These books have exercises that can help you accept yourself.

We also need to make sure our expectations of ourselves are realistic. We need to see ourselves as we really are and then set expectations based on our situation. If our expectations are too high and we are not good enough, we will feel inferior and depressed.

3. Do what you can, change what you can, and let go of what you cannot control. You will feel more relaxed.

Write down your worries on paper. Then, decide which you can change, which you can change a little, and which you cannot change. Focus on the things you can change and let go of the things you cannot.

We can't change things we can't change. But we can change things we can change. This gives us confidence and strength.

4. Do things that make you feel good to boost your energy.

When you're depressed, it's tempting to lie down and do nothing. But this will only make you feel worse. Cognitive therapy says you should do things that make you feel good. This will make you feel happier.

Set three important things to do every day and a way to achieve a result. This will help you adjust and improve your emotions and thinking. It can also help you accomplish things like certification, renovating your house, or getting a promotion at work. When you're taking action, your anxiety will be reduced.

For reference. Best wishes!

I'm Duo Duo Lian, and I hope my reply can be of help to you.

After two years of psychological counseling, you're in a good place. You've expressed what you want to say from the bottom of your heart, and your emotions have been released. In real life, though, various disappointments, relationships with your parents, and work have troubled you. People are influenced by their environment, so you'll continue to deny yourself and seek help. This is also the beginning of change.

After some time in therapy, I've learned to recognize and accept that I can't do it all on my own. These feelings are weighing you down. How can you move forward? Both your parents and younger brother have mental health challenges. How do you usually communicate with them? You must feel helpless. You can temporarily distance yourself from them. For your own sake and for the sake of your family, there are many things that are beyond our control. Life is unpredictable. Separation is also for a better reunion.

I've done counseling, and I know that emotions can't be suppressed. They need to flow. If you suppress them, they'll come out one way or another. You can write them down or resolve them through self-dialogue. You feel like you're not accepted, and you're worried about affecting others. If you don't accept it, how can you change? You don't want to expose your imperfections, so how can you be true to yourself? As a result, you're drained.

If you focus on what's going on inside, you'll find it's easier to see the way forward. But if you're always looking outside, you'll end up feeling drained. And if you're always worrying about things that don't matter and letting them get to you, you'll lose your power. Focus on what's important to you and what you need, and you'll find the mental nourishment you need to keep going.

You won't have anyone walking with you through life. You'll often be on your own. Give yourself the power to succeed, believe in yourself, and move on from problems you can't solve. Let go of expectations, accept your current situation, and understand that not everyone's life is easy. Having experienced so much in the past, you can only hope for the best if you want to live.

When you take a good look at what you've got and what you've done, you'll see that paying attention to the present and having a passionate love affair with yourself will make you love yourself. When you change, others will change along with you and influence others.

I wish you the best of luck.

Good day. I am Gu Daoxi, also known as Fengshou Skinny Donkey.

Being constrained by one's own emotions can significantly impede one's ability to cope effectively, and I can empathize with the questioner's sentiments.

The questioner may wish to consider the potential origins of this tendency to become easily drained and depressed.

The questioner's tendency to become easily drained and depressed may be attributed to an excess of pressure. It is evident that the questioner has numerous tasks to complete, including marriage, examinations, employment, and renovation.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether the family atmosphere is overly depressing. It was observed that the questioner mentioned family quarrels.

- Is the issue that the work is not to your liking? It would appear that the questioner has indicated that they are unable to settle into their work routine upon returning to the office.

It is possible that the issue stems from the questioner's failure to adjust from the restful state of the New Year's holiday. I am aware of colleagues who have experienced similar difficulties in adjusting their work and rest schedules after returning to work. They have reported relying on two cups of coffee a day to cope with the resulting fatigue.

The questioner reports feelings of depression. What specific factors contribute to this emotional state? Can these issues be addressed through personal adjustment strategies?

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether the questioner has prioritised these tasks. It is important to recognise that human energy is limited. Attempting to complete multiple tasks simultaneously can impede the ability to receive positive feedback, which can subsequently lead to feelings of overwhelm and a lack of self-confidence.

The questioner expresses concern about the potential consequences of a negative emotional state on others. What are the specific effects? Can these effects be quantified?

What is the least favorable potential outcome? Would this be an acceptable result?

It is recommended that the questioner first identify the source of this emotion, which will allow the questioner to more specifically adjust their state.

First, it is important to trust the advice provided by the consultant and to instill a sense of confidence in oneself. Psychological factors have a significant impact on individuals. Positive psychological states lead to positive emotions and behaviors, whereas negative psychological states lead to negative emotions and behaviors.

Secondly, it is advisable to take the time to understand the emotional state one is currently experiencing, as well as the underlying reasons for this state and the changing circumstances that may be influencing it. One effective method for doing so is to maintain an emotional diary in which one records their feelings on a daily basis. There are two key benefits to this approach. Firstly, it provides a means of releasing pent-up emotions. Secondly, it allows one to identify and address emotions that may be emerging or intensifying before they have a chance to escalate.

Third, it is important to recognize that there is no such thing as a purely good or bad emotion. All emotions should be acknowledged and understood. It is not realistic to expect that one can maintain a consistently positive emotional state and high levels of motivation on a daily basis. Periodic mood swings are a normal and acceptable part of the emotional experience. It is essential to avoid harsh self-judgment when experiencing these emotions.

Fourth, it is important to acknowledge that humans are mortal beings, not omnipotent deities. It is a natural aspect of the human condition to experience afflictions and confusion.

Fifth, it is important to learn to accept oneself. If one is unable to accept oneself at the present time, it may be necessary to temporarily set aside this inability. One should accept those aspects of oneself that one is able to accept, and refrain from dwelling on those aspects that one is unable to accept.

Subsequently, one should address the remaining emotional issues that are challenging to accept.

Sixth, one must ascertain which objective is of greatest importance at this juncture and then prioritize the numerous tasks at hand. It is imperative to prioritize important and urgent matters, which should be addressed first, while other tasks can be temporarily set aside. This process is analogous to filling in a business grid. Given the inherent limitations of a company's resources, it is unfeasible to pursue every potential market opportunity. Instead, it is essential to focus resources on the most promising opportunities, thereby avoiding the pitfall of attempting to pursue too many avenues simultaneously and failing to achieve any of them.

Seventh, with regard to the pressure to marry, it may be helpful for the questioner to consider their most pressing needs at this stage. It is important to recognise that not everyone's life trajectory is the same. I have colleagues who have divorced, colleagues who are dual income no kids (DINKs), and colleagues who do not marry around me. As long as the decision has been carefully considered and is a personal choice, the opinions of others do not need to be a determining factor. It is not necessary to compromise one's own values for the sake of another person's happiness, as the responsibility for meeting their expectations lies with them, not with the individual.

Eighth, it is advisable to act promptly upon inspiration. It is unwise to delay action until all conditions are optimal, as this may result in the loss of numerous opportunities. A case in point is that of large companies, which act upon new ideas with alacrity and maintain focus on the process of correction and alignment with the desired trajectory.

One of my colleagues desired to purchase a mop on Singles' Day. However, the plethora of available options led to confusion, resulting in the purchase being delayed until after 5 a.m. the following morning.

Ninth, focus. Some argue that while it is relatively simple to ascertain one's desired actions, it is considerably more challenging to identify those which should be avoided. In the face of a multitude of potential distractions, it is not uncommon for individuals to experience a sense of being overwhelmed.

In the event that the surrounding environment is excessively dispiriting, it is advisable to take a brief respite from it. This can be achieved by seeking out a period of solitude, during which one can regain composure and engage in thoughtful reflection regarding one's desires and actions.

Eleven, it is recommended that one considers the potential worst-case scenario, whether it is something that can be accepted, and what measures could be taken to address it. Having a psychological foundation may facilitate greater ease.

The aforementioned information is presented for your consideration. I extend my best wishes to you.

Good morning! I extend my warmest regards from afar.

I am grateful for the opportunity to assist you. I hope that my input will provide you with the support and assistance you require.

I would like to take this opportunity to congratulate you on your progress. After more than two years of counseling, you have successfully overcome a ten-year depression, which is a significant achievement. From your description of seeking help today, it is evident that you have recognized a discrepancy between your thoughts and actions. You have acknowledged that you tend to dwell on the present but take few concrete steps, resulting in a persistent state of emotional depletion.

Awareness is a key component of change management. It entails recognizing the areas that require modification and learning to discern and acknowledge physical and mental sensations through counseling. This process of emotional awareness fosters present-moment consciousness and serves as the foundation for self-care and self-love. When individuals have a clear understanding of their emotional states, they are better equipped to avoid emotional distress and make informed decisions about self-care.

As a result of your counseling sessions, you have gained valuable insights and demonstrated effective use of self-awareness. However, you also recognize that the transition from knowledge to action requires consistent practice.

In other words, while you are aware of your emotional feelings, you need to accept them with an open mind. This includes accepting all your negativity, pessimism, and emotional feelings that make you feel pain without any judgment. This is a challenging task for all of us because it is human instinct to seek pleasure and avoid pain. We are used to accepting only positive emotions that make us happy and rejecting those emotional feelings that make us feel pain.

It is important to understand that emotions are neither inherently good nor bad, nor are they always right or wrong. Often, emotions are a result of unmet expectations or unfulfilled needs, particularly in the case of negative emotional feelings. Therefore, it is essential to recognize, accept, and respond to emotions in a constructive manner.

It is important to note that fully accepting negative emotional feelings requires a process of growth. It is not reasonable to expect this to be achieved in a short period of time, as this may result in feelings of failure and doubt regarding the effectiveness of the counseling. Furthermore, the greatest benefit that counseling brings to the client is the cultivation of self-awareness. When the client is able to recognize their own problems, they often find the resources to deal with these issues. It is important to recognize that everyone has the ability and resources to change and overcome challenges. However, they may temporarily be stuck due to emotional pain and unable to see their own resources and abilities. What are your thoughts on this matter?

For the current tasks at hand, it is possible to prioritize them according to importance and urgency, and complete them in a sequential manner. Attempting to complete everything at once is unfeasible and will likely result in increased internal stress, anxiety, self-defeat, and self-negation.

Additionally, maintaining an emotional diary can assist in understanding and managing depressed emotions. This approach allows for awareness, experience, and expression of emotions, as well as identification of underlying needs and development of appropriate responses. This method also facilitates acceptance of emotions. Furthermore, engaging in activities that align with interests and passions can help relieve emotional stress and shift focus.

It would be beneficial to engage in activities that promote a sense of comfort and happiness, which can enhance your perception of control and pleasure. This, in turn, can foster increased confidence.

I suggest you read "The Seven Emotions We Are Born With."

Hello! Thank you so much for taking the time to talk about your feelings, especially in the midst of your busy life.

I hear you, and I'm so sorry for what you've been through.

You've been through a lot, sweetie. Depression, ending a counseling session, pressure to get married, family conflicts at home... the list goes on. And now, even though you're back at work, you're still struggling to switch gears and feel depressed.

But don't worry, your problem is very common and many people have similar problems. And you have consulted for more than two years, made a lot of progress, and ended a decade-long depression, which is very impressive!

Let's dive in and talk more about the challenge you're facing.

The situation you're in is pretty complex, but from what you've said, it seems like your previous consultation was really helpful. You said, "Or am I just thinking too much and doing too little?" and "My biggest problem right now is emotional depletion and a tendency to become depressed," as well as "My problem right now is that I get caught up in my emotions."

You've done a great job of identifying the root of the problem: emotional depletion, a tendency to become depressed, getting caught up in emotions, and the impact of your bad mood on others. We counselors usually recommend the following approaches in response to this problem, and you can choose the one that feels right for you based on your feelings and analysis.

First, we can also help you feel better emotionally by encouraging you to take care of yourself and get some exercise. This could mean going for a walk, doing some yoga, or playing tennis. It also includes making sure you get enough sleep and eat well, and scheduling some time for yourself to relax, like taking a hot bath, getting a massage, or listening to some music.

Second, we can accept our emotions. This involves acknowledging our emotions, not trying to suppress or hide them, and trying to understand them in an objective and gentle way. Here are some of the more common ways I know to accept:

It's so important to recognize that emotions are normal. We all have a wide range of emotions, and we can't always control them.

Give yourself plenty of time to feel your emotions. Don't rush to get rid of them; just let yourself experience them.

Use observational language to describe your emotions. This is a great way to avoid judging yourself and instead just observe what you're feeling. For example, you might say, "I feel frustrated right now."

It's so important to try to understand the source of your emotions. Once you've done that, you can start to find ways to improve them.

Finally, we can also deal with emotional depletion and vulnerability by asking for help. This can include staying in close contact with family, friends, and colleagues and talking about your feelings. Specifically, you can do the following things:

It's so important to communicate your thoughts and feelings. When you share what's on your mind, your family, friends, and colleagues can better understand your situation and offer you the help and support you need.

It's so important to try to understand their situation. When you show your concern and understanding, it really boosts their support for you!

Please, don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. They'll be happy to help you!

Another great way to bond with your family, friends, and colleagues is to find things you all have in common.