How do you deal with and face negative comments and rumors from others?

Hello, I hope this message finds you well. I'm writing in response to your question.

From your description, it seems that not having found a job may be causing some anxiety and arguments with your family. I can understand how you feel.

It may be that your parents have high expectations of you and want you to have a satisfying job. Perhaps you haven't yet found the right job for yourself, and your parents are also experiencing anxiety and other negative emotions. I've actually encountered this situation before. It's possible that we may not have found the right job for ourselves, and on the other hand, we experience anticipatory anxiety, which can lead to a sense of loss of control and fear about the future. Of course, family members also have these emotional feelings, so the same negative emotions may be expressed through triggering conflicts.

Here are a few suggestions for how you can break the pattern:

[1] It may be helpful to learn to recognize negative emotions.

It may be helpful to consider what your parents hope for and what your own needs are when you see the reason why you argue with them.

It may be helpful to clarify your own needs and thoughts, find a reasonable way to communicate actively with your parents, and tell them what your goals are.

[2] It is not necessary to concern yourself with the opinions and judgments of others.

It is worth noting that many people in the village may hold this kind of view and evaluation. It could be perceived that ridicule and contempt are inherent in the rural people's mode. It is possible that they may not be as successful as they would like to be, but they may still be involved in the lives of others. They may laugh at others when they don't do well, and they may feel jealous or even resentful when they see others doing well. It may be helpful to remember that we don't have to care about such people and that we shouldn't waste our time on them.

[3] It might be helpful to consider what kind of work you need and what goals you have in mind.

In this situation, we have the opportunity to recognize our own strengths and weaknesses, fully utilize our strengths, learn from others' strengths to compensate for our weaknesses, and also consider a simple job to enhance our professional skills.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to learn to be aware of your emotions. It can be helpful to avoid being affected by negative emotions, to see your current state, to rationally analyze the nature of the work you need, to improve your skills, and to believe in yourself. With these things in mind, you may find it easier to find the work you need.

I hope the above advice is helpful to you.

I'm pleased to be able to answer your question.

I'm grateful for the opportunity to contribute to your proposal to address the challenges you're currently facing. Let's discuss it further below.

It seems that the questioner is saying that being unemployed at home, arguing with her family, and attracting onlookers from the village, and the villagers' attitude afterwards, have made you feel very upset, indignant, and even reluctant to see her again. Could you please clarify whether this "her" specifically refers to one person?

I'm not quite sure I understand if it's a group of people or just one.

I can empathize with the questioner's current emotional state. Being mocked, isolated, and ignored can evoke a range of feelings, including sadness, helplessness, and anger. It's evident that the questioner still cares about their relationship. Prior to this incident, your relationship with them seemed to be relatively stable, correct?

It would be beneficial if they didn't laugh at you or look down on you.

I hope you find these insights useful.

It is important to remember that being isolated is not necessarily a bad thing. It can be helpful to take some time to reflect on who we are living for. While staying at home and arguing with your parents is not a positive experience, it is also important to consider whether the people in your life are truly open to engaging in constructive dialogue and offering you a chance to make amends, even if it's for something as minor as this.

I believe that staying at home for an extended period of time may place some pressure on the questioner, which could potentially lead to misunderstandings and even rejection from those around them. This could be an opportunity for the questioner to reflect on their circumstances, consider their career aspirations, and explore what type of work would best align with their interests and abilities.

It might be helpful to find someone you can talk to, to help you relax and to give you a chance to think about what you really want.

Perhaps it would be helpful to remind yourself that unemployment is only temporary, that you will find a job, and that others' opinions are not a reflection of your true self.

I hope you find these suggestions useful. It is an honor to discuss the challenges you are facing and to wish you happiness.

I would like to extend my love and best wishes to you and the world at large.

I hope this message finds you well. I just wanted to send a quick note to let you know that this is the end of our conversation. I wish you all the best in your future endeavors.