How do you not live in your own world? Do people who live in their own world live with discrimination?

Hello, question asker!

I'm Sunny Dolphin Floaty, a psychological counselor.

I don't know how old you are, but your childhood memories are so clear, and they are all bad memories. Give yourself a little pat on the shoulder to comfort you, based on how you're reacting. You're not someone who lives in their own world.

You worry too much about what other people think.

People who are really in their own world aren't affected by the outside world. They have their own life plan and will live according to it, regardless of what anyone else says. You have a personality, after all.

?‍♂️When the other person yells at you, it's not that your actions are extraordinary. It's just that the other person's perception of you is such that they can't understand your actions. Or it could just be the other person's verbal tics.

"Verbal abuse" just means that the person saying these things is used to using these kinds of swear words. It's got nothing to do with you.

?‍♂️ Give yourself a pat on the shoulder to comfort you. The fact is that the way your parents brought you up has hurt you in an invisible way. This is a fact. Many children in that era grew up this way, and many parents also educated their children this way. This was due to the background of the times.

?‍♂️ When their parents were young, they also went through this. In those days of scarce resources, people had problems just getting enough to eat and wear. The only thing people wanted was to survive, to find a way to survive, and nothing else mattered as long as they were alive.

Can you imagine what it was like back then? Everyone was struggling just to survive, and they had to work really hard to keep their families alive. Labor was especially important, which is why there was a serious phenomenon of son preference. After all, in those times of scarce resources, men had a higher labor value.

Put yourself in their shoes. If you were in your parents' shoes, growing up in that environment, going hungry and having to take care of your younger siblings, while your parents did their best to keep the family alive, exhausted from day to day, how would they be able to keep a good face? How could they control their emotions?

When you think about it, can you understand your parents? Do you think you need to resolve your childhood trauma even more?

If you're having trouble understanding it yourself, I suggest you seek help from a counselor. I believe that a counselor can help you break free from the shackles of your childhood and return to reality. Best wishes.

I'm with Psychic World, and I care about you.

Hello,

Your question brings to mind a topic I discussed with my colleagues yesterday.

If you grow up in an environment where you're disapproved of, suppressed, and negative, it'll inevitably lead to a lack of self-confidence. The way your family educates you and the way your parents interact with each other shapes your own personal model of personality.

From a human development psychology standpoint, it's all about survival. That's the most important point. So, you have your own unique pattern.

We all have our own patterns, which is what makes us different from each other. But everyone lives in their own world, there's no doubt about it.

The thing is, the world is different in size, area, and scope. Human interactions are all about defense against defense. What you consider to be bad may be what some people aspire to.

It's clear that you feel emotions when your behavior is judged by others. This shows that you're not happy with this part of yourself. It also means that you agree with what others say about you.

To put it another way, why isn't this part of yourself accepted, and what does this unaccepted part of yourself represent?

Let's go back to the beginning of the question. It says that your parents blame you for various bad things, which matches the judgment of others. You need to experience what your inner feelings and thoughts are when others say you are bad.

How did you respond? Once you've identified this pattern, you'll be able to pinpoint the point at which you need to make a change.

Happy birthday! I hope you have a great day!

Hello. I can relate to what you've shared. Kudos to you for seeking help and taking the initiative to improve your situation. Let's explore some solutions to your challenge.

♥First of all, whether you choose to live in your own world or come out is up to you. It's not about what other people think. When making a choice, do what's right for you and make yourself happy and comfortable.

Life is long, life is your own, and so is your life. It's good to be happy and comfortable. At the end of the day, what other people think doesn't matter.

And don't feel embarrassed or suffer because of it.

Secondly, if someone makes you feel uncomfortable, you should be brave and say "no." If others feel that you are living in your own world and attack you for it, you should stand up for yourself and speak up.

If you say "no" to hurtful comments, it'll be harder for others to hurt you. If you keep tolerating and backing down, you'll just encourage them to keep hurting you.

Finally, it's not your fault that you live in your own world. You were neglected by those around you since childhood, suppressed by your parents, and never taught how to be in the spotlight and live in the sunshine.

How can they expect someone who has been neglected, unloved, and unencouraged since childhood to enthusiastically open their arms to those around them? It's like a child who has never been given candy before. How would they know what candy tastes like, let alone offer it to others?

So don't beat yourself up about it. It's not your fault. When those around you make you feel uncomfortable, say "no" firmly. Speak up for yourself, let others hear your voice, and respect your feelings.

Hello, question asker!

From what you said, it seems like it's not fair to discriminate against someone who lives in their own world. But the opinions of others are beyond our control, and we can only control ourselves.

Now you're thinking about how to get out of someone's way. You're aware of your own problems, and that's great! Let's take a closer look.

Do you ever feel like you're living in your own world? Is that how you see yourself?

It might be that because of what you went through as a child, you had to stay at home alone, which made you feel like you were living in a world of your own. But now that you're grown up, you don't just stay at home all the time; you've made connections with the outside world, so you might as well let yourself out of your own little world.

2. Do you think you might have a mental illness? When someone says things like "you're crazy," do you feel discriminated against?

In my life, I've also been told things like "you're crazy" by others, but I don't think it's discrimination. Sometimes, depending on the situation, it may be because of my actions or because of what I say or do that makes others think I'm "crazy." Although it's an insult, there is also a joke in it.

Now, think back to when you encountered such words. What was the context? What was your behavior at the time?

What was the other person thinking when they said something like that to you? It might not be what you think.

3. You might think that living in your own world is a defense mechanism, and that the root cause is deep inner pain.

Living in your own world is a way of protecting yourself. You're afraid of connecting with the outside world because you're worried about being hurt by something unfamiliar. This makes you feel miserable because your subconscious is eager to connect with the world and be seen by others.

You were forced as a child, which is what you mean by "your own difficulties." You're not that child anymore; you've grown up. You can take a step back, take a look at yourself, redefine yourself, and get to know yourself again.

If you think it would help, you can also speak to a professional counselor. Best wishes!

Dear questioner,

Hello! Let me give you a big hug first. I want to tell you that in this world, no life has the right to discriminate against another life. Everyone is unique and deserves to be cherished!

Yu Hua said it best: "Life is how each person feels it, not how anyone else sees it."

From your description, I understand the environment you grew up in. I feel for that little helpless you, who grew up in an environment you could not choose for yourself, trying hard to adapt and grow cautiously. It really hurts my heart. But I really hope to travel through the long time tunnel to your side, give you a hug and encouragement, and tell you: friend, although your own world is lonely, it is also full of strength. And although the outside world is full of dangers, it is also full of excitement and will inject the essential nutrients and endless vitality into our lives. So, get out there and live your life to the fullest!

Is a world of your own bad? Absolutely not!

Of course not! A world of your own is a wonderful thing. It's safe and can shelter your sensitivities. It's quiet and can avoid the hustle and bustle of the world, so that you can hear your most sincere voice. It's simple, and you can spend more time and space alone, so that you can handle your relationship with yourself well. Many people are caught up in various roles nowadays, but you can break free! You can extricate yourself from those roles and hear your own voice again. You can even handle your relationship with yourself well!

But is a world of just one person good? Absolutely!

Dear friend, I truly believe that a life that is trapped in a world of one's own, lacking the experience of interacting with the outside world, is incomplete.

I'm so excited to tell you all about this amazing 75-year Harvard study on happiness!

The key to a person's happiness is having harmonious interpersonal relationships!

We get to know ourselves and others through relationships. It's through relationships that we get feedback, whether positive or negative. And that's all part of life! It's how we experience the many flavors of life. We experience love, hurt, betrayal, giving, gain, hope, disappointment, and even despair in relationships. And all of these things ultimately make up a colorful life with flesh and blood!

Dear friend, I wholeheartedly encourage you to take the first step and boldly extend an invitation to this colorful world! Invite all possibilities to come to your small world. Experience life to the fullest! It's a process of continuous experience and self-healing.

Nietzsche said it best: You might as well take a bit of a risk with life because you have to lose it anyway!

Absolutely!

My friend, you are amazing! It takes a lot of courage to boldly interact with the outside world. In fact, from the time you realized you needed to solve the problem to the time you came to this platform to ask a question, I believe you have already done something that many people dare not do – change yourself!

Ask yourself, is it difficult to change yourself? It is difficult, really difficult — but so worth it!

Our nature is to seek out the benefits and avoid the harms. We are born to like to stay in the comfort zone. But there is a wonderful, constant truth: except for death, which is certain, everything else is full of possibilities! In other words, in this exciting, ever-changing world, except for death and change, everything else is constantly evolving.

Therefore, we must adapt to the laws of survival, force ourselves to step out of our comfort zone, and constantly change ourselves to adapt to the ever-changing environment.

You mentioned in your question that because you are the second child, it is the original family's fault, and it has given you painful experiences. But, friend, you are great! You have found the root cause of the problem. Being in a world of one person has given you the strength to be sensitive and think, which is a rare advantage you have.

We've found the cause, and it's given us a chance to reflect on how we can make the most of our situation. We can't change the fact that we were born into a certain family, but we can choose how we react to it.

Let's try to look at it from a different perspective. Perhaps the family conditions and love provided by our parents were the best they could offer within their means. After all, they were also limited by their own family backgrounds, the level of education they received, and their own knowledge and horizons. And on some difficult days, they probably did their best to give us a better life!

We have the amazing opportunity to live in our own world, or we can live in a broader world!

Dear friends, I want you to know that we can live in our own world or in the vast world—and it's a great thing to do!

There's a famous "control dichotomy" in psychology that I'm excited to share with you. It's all about controlling what you can control, changing what you can change, and adapting to what you cannot change. For those things that we cannot change, such as parents, origin, growing environment, and other people's opinions, we choose to accept them and let them go. For those things that we can change, such as personality, knowledge, state of mind or attitude, we try to learn, socialize, get feedback and help, so that we can become better, stronger and more tolerant.

Friends, let's shed the heavy burden of our family of origin so we can embark on a journey of self-discovery with a spring in our step! This platform is your gateway to understanding psychology and interpersonal relationships. Learn about yourself, love yourself, and then you'll be ready to love others. Reading is a great way to expand your knowledge. Read books about celebrity biographies and personal growth. Use your eyes to explore the world and let role models inspire you!

Friends, I really hope my words can help you, and I really hope my answers can heal you. Let's cheer together and grow together!