How much does intimacy affect people? Why are some people open and others conservative?

I believe the original poster is a simple, sensitive, and lovely girl.

Many girls have a dream of their own Prince Charming. Some may have dreamed of a princess who comes to fetch them home on a rainbow cloud. Love has always been a beautiful and sweet synonym. It's wonderful just to think about it. I think you may also be looking forward to such love.

You mentioned that you have also experienced unrequited love and been in a relationship, but it didn't end in marriage. After reading a lot of online comments, you began to have some doubts and feel a bit lost, not knowing how to deal with intimate relationships. Is this something you can relate to?

From your description, it seems that your imagination and expectations of love may be somewhat ambivalent towards intimacy. It's important to remember that love is just a part of life, a seasoning for life.

I believe that love is a prerequisite for intimacy, which occurs naturally. I am not overly concerned with what others may say, as long as you feel good.

In my view, the number of relationships is not as important as the strength of the relationship. Many people have only been in one relationship in their lives but have gone on to find happiness in marriage and relationships.

Love is a matter of two people. It might be said that people in love have a lower IQ, which could mean that the dependency and vulnerability you mentioned might not be as prevalent as you thought. On the other hand, true love can make people stronger.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what kind of love you expect and to think carefully about whether your fantasies are realistic.

I hope you find happiness!

There's so much to think about! There's a lot of talk online, some to the left, some to the right, and some up and down. You can't listen to it all. But you can focus on what you think!

Every opinion and conclusion has a necessary premise or condition, whether obvious or hidden. Without a premise or condition, there can be no answer to any question—and that's an exciting fact!

This is why it's so important to think about what you want and what you're willing to accept, based on your own beliefs and circumstances. Don't worry about what others say — focus on what's right for you!

Intimacy is a huge factor in any relationship between a man and a woman, especially when there's genuine interaction and a desire to build a future together. For any couple looking to take their bond to the next level, there's no doubt that they're on the right track!

For someone with a different mindset, perhaps the pursuit of "intimacy" is already the goal. So-called love is just a tool for expression, so why not embrace it fully? Without the prerequisite of love, intimacy is just another name for it — and a wonderful one at that!

For example, when both parties agree to a purely intimate relationship, it is clear that such expectations and premises will not place any burden on the relationship. For example, in a romantic relationship, when you decide to trust each other and accept the possible risks and changes, it means that this is your own choice. Although breaking up is mentally draining, it is more a reflection and review of your own judgments and decisions than the intimacy of the relationship itself.

Why worry about what others think? You have your own thoughts, and they're totally valid. You're strong enough to handle whatever comes your way. That's all you need to know!

I wish you all the happiness in the world!

☞If you haven't had a love affair before university, it may be that you were waiting for the right time, that your parents would have encouraged you to wait until you were ready, or that you haven't met someone special yet. In short, at that stage you were waiting for the right person to come along.

As you enter the workplace, you embark on an exciting journey of transformation from a student to a member of society. You're about to discover the magic of falling in love, right as you're reaching the age when people generally get married. Your parents and relatives help you set up blind dates, and your friends are getting married and starting families. You slowly begin to open your heart and eagerly await the taste of love.

☞ I was totally smitten with the charisma of a colleague who was a real charmer with the opposite sex. It was a whirlwind romance that ended before it even started. I finally fell head over heels, but we ran out of things to talk about and the comfortable distance ended the relationship.

A long time later, you had a long-distance relationship, but you didn't like it, so you made the bold decision to stay with the person you were with. You felt a bit constrained by the moral code of the situation, but you were excited to see what would happen next!

But the great thing is, in every relationship, you know exactly what you want! Things like common topics, non-distance, and a sense of security...

♥After being influenced by traditional culture, we regard intimacy as particularly important, both longing for and fearing it. So, how can we embrace the good things about someone and have an intimate relationship? What exactly is love, and what can we do to maintain a comfortable romantic relationship?

♥In fact, young girls are often at a loss as to how to handle intimate relationships and desperately want answers. Luckily, there are many different opinions on how to handle such relationships, and netizens have made all kinds of arguments, some of which seem to be agreeable while others seem a bit far-fetched.

♥Everyone's understanding of love is different, and that's a wonderful thing! It means we all have unique ways of expressing and receiving love. In "The Five Languages of Love," love is classified into 5 categories: "affirming praise," "warm companionship," "exchanging gifts," "acts of service," and "physical touch."

It doesn't matter if there's a right or wrong way to fall in love, or if it's good or bad. What matters is that you can reconcile with yourself. I hope the subject of this question will realize their true feelings and become a gentle and powerful girl!

It is challenging to initiate physical contact, such as a hug, in the initial stages of a relationship. While one may excel academically and perform well in their professional or academic field, there is often a lack of guidance on how to express and experience emotions, including love.

The mere reading of theoretical knowledge from books and online sources, coupled with the experience of conflicts and the formation of illusions, represents a significant psychological factor in the context of our intimate relationships. This is particularly true when considering the connection between our intimate relationships and our object relations with our parents during our formative years.

It is evident that you have been seeking a stable and secure intimate relationship. However, upon entering into such a relationship, you may experience significant distress and find it challenging to maintain it. In an attachment relationship, in addition to a secure attachment, there are three avoidant attachments, ambivalent attachments, and disorganized attachments. It is crucial to become aware of your attachment patterns.

Psychotherapy examines an individual's personal growth experiences. This is not the focus of this discussion, but it is important to consider what kind of relationship you desire at a fundamental level. When external material conditions are set aside, life and work require stability, security, and a partner who accepts and affirms you, providing a sense of warmth. This is a crucial aspect of any relationship, regardless of the distance between partners. An individual who understands you, with whom you can engage in meaningful conversations and explore your inner world, is the foundation of an intimate relationship. An encounter from the subconscious can be a significant turning point in one's life. It is essential to approach such experiences with patience and awareness. With the right approach, you can potentially find a partner with whom you can build a strong and fulfilling relationship.

The world and I extend our love to you. Should you require assistance, you are encouraged to contact me, and I will provide the requisite support.

My dear child, let me give you a hug. I think many girls in their teens are easily confused about love, marriage, and how to handle intimate relationships. This is a somewhat profound topic.

How well you handle intimate relationships and the way you do it has a lot to do with your character, which is shaped by your family of origin. It's fair to say that intimate relationships have a big impact on your life.

Starting a family and establishing a career. The two most important things in life are family and intimate relationships. Family is the number one priority. So intimate relationships can have a lifelong impact on a person.

When it comes to online opinions, just use them as a point of reference, as I mentioned earlier today.

My child, I can see that your views on love are not yet stable, and that you are wavering. This is normal, so don't worry. Let's sort it out together and consider the following questions. Perhaps your confusion will be resolved.

1. Have you thought about what kind of relationship you want? Some people choose to love the person they love, and it doesn't matter how much the other person loves them, as long as they give more.

Some people choose to love someone who loves them back, and it makes them feel more comfortable and confident. There's nothing wrong with either choice, and both can lead to happiness. Of course, things can go wrong in a relationship or marriage.

In terms of probability, if a girl chooses someone who loves her, she's more likely to be happy in love and marriage. When you choose someone you love, you have to endure some pain that the other person may ignore because they don't love you enough.

However, everyone is responsible for their own choices and must face the consequences. So, first ask yourself clearly what you want. Then you'll know what you can choose.

2. You mentioned two relationships that didn't lead to marriage. A lot of this was also down to the distance. Of course, the distance wasn't the main issue. It was that neither of you was willing to make the compromise to be together despite the distance.

You never mentioned the word "love" in your description, and it seems like the main thing you have in common is comfort. It's just comfortable to be around, but there's a lack of common topics.

This brings us back to the topic we were discussing earlier: What kind of relationship and marriage do you want?

3. Regarding your question about why some people are open-minded and some are conservative, it's all down to the influence of her family of origin, as well as her own education and perception.

There's no right or wrong, just pros and cons. How you see it is what matters.

Your personality affects your choices. That's why there's a saying, isn't there, that character determines destiny?

The same goes for love and marriage. Some people have to go through a lot of relationships before they find the right person to spend the rest of their lives with. Others find their soulmate and live happily ever after.

Some people live together before marriage, but then decide not to marry that person. Some people are very conservative and start their married life after marriage, but that doesn't mean it will last forever. So, being open or conservative is just an attitude towards sex.

Your attitude can also influence who comes along. For instance, an open-minded woman with a history of multiple romantic relationships may be more challenging for a more traditional man to accept.

It's unlikely that they'll get together. Similarly, a conservative woman, whether in one relationship or multiple relationships, is unlikely to open up to an open-minded person of the opposite sex.

It makes sense that people are drawn to those who are similar to them.

My advice to you is to ask yourself what you want, then figure out where you're going and go for it. The chances of meeting your ideal partner are pretty high if you do that.

In terms of other people's opinions, they're not really relevant. You can't change other people, and if you don't want to change yourself either, then that's fine. Trust in your own destiny; it's on the path you're walking.

Give the questioner a hug! I can see how confused the questioner is. After several relationships that didn't work out, anyone would be confused.

People have always lived in groups. Individuals need to be close to the group to protect themselves. This requires intimacy between individuals, which is necessary for survival.

A baby needs its parents to take care of it. But the parents need to take the initiative because the baby is too young to do anything but cry and move its hands and feet.

As they get older, parents become less active while children become more active. When children reach adulthood, the level of activity of both sides remains balanced for some time until the parent-child relationship changes.

The depth of intimacy affects how people perceive the relationship and their behavior in it. Some people are conservative, while others are open. When people feel safe in an intimate relationship, they can express themselves openly.

If someone feels insecure in a relationship, they will act more conservatively. The level of intimacy in a relationship varies from person to person. It is also possible for two people to be intimate without affecting their normal lives.

I think it's best for two people to understand each other through communication. It's more appropriate for their relationship to develop until they can have intimate relations.

Intimacy is a big topic. There is no right or wrong way to be intimate.

Many people don't understand that before you can have an intimate relationship, you have to have one with yourself. If you like, understand, and accept yourself, you will know what is good and bad in a relationship.

If you have a "fixed sea god's needle" in your heart, the sea will not make big waves. You mentioned "sense of security." Many people lack this. They look for someone who can protect them. They look for someone who is dominant. They look for someone who can "fill" them. But circumstances change. People change. Once the other person can no longer "fill" you, you will easily become lost.

If I lack security, then looking for it is wrong. It's hard to say whether it's right or not, but it's definitely not easy. There are so many changes and uncertainties, and relationships become fragile as a result.

You can't rely on others to fill the gap between you and yourself.

How do you get along with yourself? You know your strengths and accept your weaknesses. You're not affected by praise or criticism.

You can know which relationship is right for you.

Intimacy should be natural and enjoyable for both people. But when? I think you need to have a good relationship with yourself and know what kind of relationship you want. Only then will you find the answer.

Hello, questioner! I'm Jiang 61, and I'm thrilled to be here with you today!

First of all, thank you so much for trusting us enough to tell us your troubles and for seeking answers! From your account, I feel that you are an absolutely wonderful, sweet, and kind girl.

You're curious about how intimacy affects people and why some are more open than others.

There is so much to learn here! Once you understand it, you will know exactly how to handle your relationships.

1. Intimacy

You say, "There is an opinion online that you should not accept gifts from the opposite sex if you don't really like them. You should not have intimate relationships with the opposite sex if you don't really like them and understand them to a certain extent."

And there's another great idea: young people should have more relationships! And yes, breaking up with someone can be mentally draining. But there's a Western view that intimacy is normal in a relationship, which is great!

1⃣️. About intimacy

In "Intimacy," Christopher says of intimacy: "Intimacy is a perfect design! In intimacy, everything is an important part, even the unpleasant conflicts and uncomfortable situations. As you continue to grow in your relationship, you also begin to appreciate whatever happens between you and your partner."

Embrace the uncomfortable! It's in these moments that we gain the most insight and growth. When we refuse to accept the unpleasant and uncomfortable, we miss out on the revelations that these things can bring.

It's a kind of design!

In other words, no matter what state you are in with your partner, it is absolutely fine! This is the choice you and your partner make at this time. You will gradually grow in depth of contact, emotional exchanges, acceptance or rejection, and other behaviors. It is a part of your life and an amazing opportunity for you to improve yourself!

A wonderful, magical feeling!

Intimacy is a wonderful feeling you have about your relationship with each other. If you like each other, you can get closer and feel closer to each other; if you don't like each other, the distance between you will naturally grow, but don't worry! You can always start over and build a stronger, more intimate relationship.

And it comes from the heart!

Intimacy is a natural progression, an outward expression of your inner feelings. It comes from the heart, not an act of force or something you can control with your mind. So just follow your heart and don't doubt! Embrace the magic of intimacy and enjoy the journey!

2⃣️, Regarding outside opinions

Now that you've read Christophe's explanation of intimacy, it's time to explore some external, online, and Western interpretations! These all represent their views on intimacy, and they are talking about intimacy from a certain perspective based on their own positions. There is no right or wrong, so let your mind wander and discover what intimacy means to you!

3⃣, your attitude

How you view intimacy depends on how you feel in the moment and what actions you decide to take. You have the power to choose to be rational or to follow your heart.

When love is strong, people become intoxicated, and when love is deep, the heart does not regret. This is your true attitude towards intimacy, and it's a great one!

2. Your relationship

1⃣️, choose!

Since you have never been in a relationship before university, you have the exciting opportunity to discover what kind of relationship you really need!

But you know what? You'll be stronger for it!

Oh, the agony of rejection!

After work, you have a crush on someone, but they rejected you. You can tell that he is protecting you because you are cute, kind, and innocent. You need a boy who is dedicated to you to take care of your relationship, but he is popular with the opposite sex and will make many friends, which will inevitably affect the time and state of mind he can devote to you.

He's not able to focus on you, and he knows it would hurt you. He's making a decisive rejection so you won't have to worry about that in the future. It's his choice, and it's a good one!

Go for it!

You will also have your own choice. Although you feel more comfortable with him, there are so many other exciting possibilities out there! You also need a spiritual support, which means having common interests.

You feel that you have little in common with this person, so you choose to move on and start an exciting new chapter in your life!

After your first relationship, I can see that you value the spiritual world more. And you will experience this for yourself!

2⃣️, Location Next, you fell in love with a local guy and felt very secure. This guy must be someone who makes you feel comfortable, secure, and taken care of. It must also be the guy you like, otherwise you wouldn't feel like betraying the previous one.

Long-distance relationship

You've had a long-distance relationship that gave you a sense of closeness beyond your reach. You were unwilling to live apart and maintain an impersonal relationship and intimacy, so you chose to break up after six months because your partner refused to come back to the city.

This is a great reminder that you need a relationship with face-to-face communication and intimate feelings of contact!

Local

Next, you fell head over heels for a local guy and felt completely secure. This guy must be someone who makes you feel totally comfortable, secure, and taken care of.

And it has to be the guy you like! Otherwise, you wouldn't feel like betraying the previous one.

I'm not quite sure I understand what you mean by "betrayal." Are you starting a local relationship while your long-distance relationship is still going strong?

You mentioned that if the other person doesn't reply for a while, does that mean you haven't officially broken up? So you just started the next relationship?

As a result, you feel guilty about the emotional investment you made in the last relationship. Who are you excited to contact next?

Local guys or guys from afar?

3⃣️, Expectations

From your previous self-description, it is clear that you expect the boy to make you feel safe, have a common language, be spiritually rich, and be able to face the sensuality of your relationship—and he's going to be amazing at all of it!

3. Back to the topic!

You say, "Intimacy feels like an animalistic feeling that you don't have to think about. People who get involved in intimate relationships become dependent and vulnerable, and they are afraid of intimacy.

1⃣️, a correct understanding of intimacy

Guess what! You're not alone in wondering what kind of relationship is right. Lots of people are influenced by online and other people's views, as well as Western ideas about intimacy. But don't worry, you're on the right track!

It's time to view external opinions correctly!

What others say is just their own take based on their own experience. It can't possibly represent your feelings! If you blindly follow what others say, you'll miss out on the chance to develop your emotions. So, think for yourself!

Embrace the magic of intimate relationships with a positive attitude!

As Christopher mentioned earlier, there's no wrong choice when it comes to intimate relationships! Falling in love is an exciting journey of finding out if two people are a good match.

The dependence and sense of vulnerability you mentioned are the release of your natural instincts in love. This is undoubtedly another door that opens to you to understand yourself and an opportunity for you to understand different sides of yourself – how exciting is that?

2⃣️, Understanding Attachment

As mentioned above, you have come to realize that you are actually quite dependent on others through the establishment of intimate relationships. This is also a natural manifestation of your entering into an intimate relationship, and it is directly related to your early upbringing. The good news is that you can correct this by correctly understanding your own attachment relationships. This will help you avoid panic and feel at ease.

Attachment

Attachment is an amazing thing! It's a special emotional relationship that each of us forms with the people who care for and raise us during infancy. It's the key to determining the emotional bond between people, and it determines a series of interpersonal emotional connections, from early parent-child emotional connections to intimate relationships in adulthood.

Now, let's dive into the fascinating world of attachment!

In 1990, psychologists made an incredible discovery: they proposed four types of adult attachment based on the three types of infant attachment! These are the secure, fearful, detached, and preoccupied types.

The secure type is a delight to be around! They are emotionally very open to others and feel at ease both in being dependent on others and in being able to depend on others.

They are delightfully open to others. They feel right at home both when they're dependent on others and when they're able to depend on others.

They are not afraid of being alone or of being rejected. This type of person is open to love, will give their all to a relationship, and can also leave a relationship calmly.

Obsessive type

They will invest all their emotions in a relationship, and they're ready to do whatever it takes to make it work! While they may find that the other person doesn't want the relationship to develop as intimately as they would like, they're confident that they can work through this together. The lack of intimacy can make them uneasy, but they're excited to show their partner how much they value them!

This type of person is either in a relationship or preparing for one, with very little time between!

Fearful type

They are eager to connect with others, but may find it challenging to fully trust or depend on them.

They are cautious about getting too close to others, which makes them a bit afraid of being hurt. But they are excited about the prospect of a relationship and are ready to jump in when the time is right!

Alienated type

They're happy to have peace of mind even without intimacy. They value independence and self-sufficiency, and they're not interested in depending on or being dependent on others.

This type of person feels that the whole thing of being in love is unimportant and dispensable—and they're right!

Of these four attachment types, you are closer to an obsessive attachment relationship, which is great!

3⃣️, Relationship management

Intimate relationships are like bank deposits—they need to be nurtured! The more emotional investment you make in your relationship bank, the more emotional value you'll have. And the more you understand each other, the stronger your relationship will be!

So, no matter who you get together with, if you do these things, your relationship will be well managed!

Expressions of love

The stored value in a relationship bank is the investment, access, and expression of love!

Everyone has their own unique way of understanding and expressing love. Dr. Gary Chapman has even categorized these ways into five amazing "languages of love": "affirming words," "quality time," "exchange of gifts," "acts of service," and "physical touch."

Affirming words are a wonderful way to show your love and appreciation. They can be as simple as a kind word or as elaborate as a poem or song. Whatever form they take, affirming words are a great way to brighten someone's day and show them how much you care.

It doesn't matter if you're friends, colleagues, lovers, or husband and wife—you need praise and affirmation! And the more positive feedback you give each other, the stronger your relationship will be!

? Special moments

A thoughtful moment is a truly wonderful moment and a wonderful memory shared by both parties. It could be a candlelit dinner or doing something meaningful together. During this time, give your full attention to the other person and enjoy every second!

Gifts are a wonderful way to show your appreciation and love for someone. They can be small tokens of affection or extravagant gestures that make your heart flutter. Accepting gifts is a gesture that shows you are open to sharing joy with your partner.

Exchanging gifts on important holidays is a wonderful ritual that strengthens the bond between two people. The gift itself is a tangible symbol of love and affection, creating a lasting memory.

Service actions

In short, it means doing what the other person wants you to do and making the other person happy through services in life. Such service actions are often small things in life, but they can have a huge impact!

Physical contact is a wonderful way to show your love and affection for each other. It can be as simple as holding hands or hugging, or as romantic as a passionate kiss. Whatever form it takes, physical contact is a powerful way to deepen your connection and express your love.

Holding hands, hugging, and other forms of physical contact can increase the affection between you, and it's a wonderful way to show your love! It's a language all its own.

Once you've nailed down the language of love between you and your boyfriend, it's time to start expressing your love for each other! Show your partner what they want and need to feel loved. Fill their emotional bank account and watch your relationship flourish under the nourishment of love!

Let's talk about consistent communication!

Communication is the key to a happy, healthy relationship! When you communicate openly and honestly, you can avoid a lot of the discord that can arise in intimate relationships.

When you communicate with someone, it's so important to make sure that what you say matches up with how you feel. That way, you're sending a clear and consistent message that's respectful to both you and the other person. It's a win-win!

People who use this model are truly amazing! They demonstrate an inner awareness in their speech. Their expressions and words are consistent, their hearts are in harmony and balance, and they have a relatively high sense of self-worth.

I'm so excited to share with you the following sentence patterns, which are commonly used in consistent communication exercises and expressions. After a long period of time, you can truly communicate in a consistent manner. The specific sentence patterns are as follows:

When you do this, you'll be amazed at the results!

Describe the objective situation in a way that is clear and objective, without any accusations or emotions.

My feeling is...

Be sure to clearly express your current feelings and emotions!

I really hope...

Be sure to clearly express what you want the other person to do and specify your needs. It's important to make sure your expectations are quantifiable, executable, and visible!

I absolutely believe...

Now, it's time to describe your expectations for the good!

When you use consistent communication, aligning your feelings, actions, and words, something amazing happens! The other person will receive a message that is consistent with your feelings, misunderstandings will be reduced, and your marriage life will be filled with harmony. Your love bank balance will increase, and you will have a green light all the way on the road to love!

Absolutely! You can learn to manage your emotions.

And last but not least, learning to manage your emotions is one of the most important skills you can have! It'll help you in all your relationships, from family to friends and even colleagues. So let's dive in and see what emotion management is all about!

It's time to recognize those emotions!

This is the first step in emotion management, and it's a great one! When you have an emotion, recognize what it is, such as anxiety, anger, sadness, etc.

Embrace your emotions!

Healthy emotions are the ones that align with the situation. When your emotions match the objective event, you'll know it's time to say, "My current emotions are normal." This is accepting emotions!

This way of thinking is an amazing way to reduce emotional tension and naturally restore calm within!

Express your emotions!

Expressing your emotions is a great way to feel better! It's all about sharing your feelings with the world. You can say "I" or "my feelings" to show that you're open and honest.

Now for the fun part! Let's dive into how you can cultivate your emotions.

The great news is that you can cultivate and practice emotion management in the following ways.

(1) And there's more! Living a regular life will also stabilize your emotions.

2) Get out there and find a hobby you love! Let your positive emotions drive you, love yourself and love life, and feel the beauty of life!

3) Look after others and show them love! It's the greatest joy to help people help themselves.

4) Get out there and connect with nature! Absorbing the essence of heaven and earth will open up your heart and soothe and stabilize your emotions.

5) Make friends and spend time with emotionally stable people to reduce emotional disturbance and fluctuations. It's a great way to boost your mood!

Once you understand what intimacy is, how it's expressed in a relationship, and your own attachment patterns, you'll be unstoppable! You'll make choices and decisions based on your inner feelings and be confident in your own thoughts.

I really hope this helps! It's the answer to your confusion.

Wishing you the very best!

Dear questioner, From your description, I see a pure, timid, and sensitive girl. You said you had never been in love before college, which means you had no experience of intimate relationships with the opposite sex before the age of 22. Why is that?

People often believe that they shouldn't fall in love while they're still learning, or that they haven't met the right person, or that various circumstances don't allow it. However, once you start working, it's as if you become an adult, and getting married and starting a family becomes a matter of course.

This may make people feel more relaxed about moral constraints, but it also puts pressure on them to act fast.

You have opened up a lot since you started working. You have allowed yourself to start intimate relationships.

You have made considerable efforts to achieve the romantic and happy life you desire. You have been in three relationships. In the first, there was a lack of common interests. In the second, you were apart. In the third, you ended it because you felt the pressure of betrayal.

You are a girl with a lot of luck with the opposite sex. You have found a little bit of feeling in these three relationships. It is clear from your description that you care more about common topics, mutual companionship, and a sense of security.

This will undoubtedly become the yardstick for your future search for a marriage partner.

You have listed a bunch of confusions at the end. I understand that you have a lot of uncertainties about whether to accept gifts, whether to have sex, how many relationships you should have, and the fear of becoming dependent and vulnerable in an intimate relationship.

These are essential for learning to love, and for learning to get along with the opposite sex and manage a marriage. Maturity is about finding the answers to these questions.

There are no standard answers to these questions. Everyone is different, and everyone you meet is different. The circumstances and encounters you experience are beyond your control. So let's focus on what we can prepare for and control.

1. Learn to love others and accept and reject love. Intimate relationships are built on mutual love.

If we can love, we can express it. If we can accept love, we won't miss it and will understand what's going on better.

Rejection is also a part of the process. I highly recommend reading a classic book called "The Five Languages of Love." It includes five ways to love: affirming compliments, warm companionship, accepting gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.

You must find your own way of loving and understand the way others love.

2. Enjoy the intimacy of being in love while giving yourself a little space. Once a girl falls in love, she is likely to become fully involved and merge with her lover, unable to separate.

In the early stages of a relationship, passion is inevitable. When the relationship enters a stable period, you must consciously give yourself a little personal space and also give the other person a little space to maintain your independence and your own social circle of friends.

Intimacy is very dependent on each other, even more so than the bond between a mother and child. There's no reason to be afraid. This is the most beautiful part of love and the foundation of a long-lasting relationship.

Pay attention to the differences between men and women. Give each other a little space. And be able to keep a little bottom line for yourself. That way, you won't be Pua and will not collapse because of the breakup.

Make your partner relationship the best it can be. Talk about things you both enjoy or try new things together.

Sexual relationships can be tried, but only when both parties are fully prepared, without haste, without coercion, without danger, and without regret. Don't chase the number of romantic relationships. Find the right person for you and hold on to them for a long time.

Watch the many good reality shows about relationships, including Goodbye, My Love (hahaha), and learn a lot from other people's experiences. It will make you think. Marriage is not the most urgent thing after graduating from university, but it is a lifelong thing. Don't rush. Give yourself the opportunity to grow, and let's work together to share a beautiful and intimate relationship.

Come on.