How should the excessive use of "let go of the helping complex and respect other people's fates" be viewed?

Hello, question asker! I just wanted to say that I think your question is really interesting.

If you're not a fan of the phrase "let go of the help complex and respect other people's destinies," there are a few different ways it could be interpreted.

From the other person's perspective, they may feel that life is the most important thing. When someone is in a bad mood, depressed, sad, grieving, unhappy, anxious, or experiencing other negative emotions that are strong and long-lasting, they may give up or even end their life. At this time, some people may try to help them, while others will oppose those who try to help. They may say this:

The former would disagree with the latter's excessive use of this sentence. Some people may also want to do so temporarily because they can't stand the pain and suffering. Life is the most precious thing, and of course safety first is the main priority.

This question is about life safety and respect for others. Which is more important? When they conflict, you can only choose one. Which one? In this situation, different people have different choices and their own reasons for choosing. People who feel that this saying is overused will definitely choose life.

It's important to put yourself in the shoes of the person being helped. We all make mistakes when we're in a bad mood. If someone helps us correct our mistakes and get out of our predicament, we're grateful because we realize we almost made a big mistake. Fortunately, someone helped us even though it was diffused, but some people may not only not be grateful, but also blame the other person for interfering with and affecting their choices and their lives.

I hope this helps, Question Owner. The world and I love you!

Hello!

It's hard to give advice in less than 100 words. I hope my answer helps you see more possibilities.

What matters is what you think.

Some people dislike it when people say "let go of the helping complex and respect other people's fates." This has made you think about your views. You want to hear more views on this from the platform's respondents. Then you can use other people's opinions to confirm or adjust your own thoughts. Is that right? Before checking out other views, please write down your true thoughts on this matter.

Everyone has different opinions, even about the same thing. This is progress and shows diversity.

[There is no one right way to act.]

There are always different opinions. We have many words to describe this, such as: there are many different opinions, no consensus, everyone sticks to their own opinion, and there are many schools of thought. Coming back to the sentence you proposed, "let go of the helper complex and respect other people's destinies." From one perspective, it may be a kind of exhortation to people who like to be "teachers" and like to act as saviors. From another perspective, this sentence may represent the indifference of "everybody minding his own business."

People see things differently. Even if they agree, they will act differently in different situations.

You are in charge of your thoughts and actions.

You added "overuse" to the title, which makes it seem like you're asking the question carefully. It seems like your doubt about this is not only about the sentence, but also about how often and how much it's used.

If you don't use it a lot, it won't bother you. But if more and more people say this, you'll start to feel bad. At this point, go back to your center, think about what you're thinking, and decide what you want to do. You know yourself best and you're in charge of your thoughts and actions.

I hope the original poster can live a carefree life!

What do you think about letting go of the helping complex?

Thank you for the meaningful topic.

I'm Kelly.

Let's talk about the helping complex first.

There are a few reasons why we help others:

1: We have been helped and treated kindly before. This is the influence of the times, environment, and culture, just like the spirit of Lei Feng.

2: My dad helped others unconditionally. He was happy when he was needed and respected. He would stay up all night helping others write letters and couplets.

3: I was also influenced by what I heard and saw.

I had a strong helping complex. Before studying psychology, I often helped my family and friends unconditionally. It wasn't until these relationships started to have problems that I started to think about my helping complex.

1. About boundaries

My brother's kids used to follow me around when they were little and often came to my house. I always felt that their parents' educational methods were not good. My nephew liked my methods and began to resist his parents' education.

1: I don't understand. The kids are the younger brother and sister-in-law's. They'll learn to teach well with time.

2: Different educational philosophies can cause problems for children and parents.

3: I'm responsible for my child. I don't put myself in other people's shoes. How would I feel if someone else was looking after my child?

I realized I have a savior complex and am self-righteous.

The child's parents know the child better. So after I became aware of these issues, I learned to set boundaries, respect my younger brother, and also respect children.

[Moving oneself by oneself]

I like to help others because it makes me happy. I was always belittled by my parents, so I longed to be recognized and appreciated by others.

It's okay to pay attention to others, but find the right balance.

Later, I started paying attention to myself, to others, and to helping others. I can go to others or they can come to me.

If a friend has a problem and comes to me, I'll share my experience. If they have no experience, I'll let them find other solutions.

I realized I was helping others gain a sense of achievement. Was I also helping them solve their problems?

Teach someone to fish.

Later, I was a teacher too. I helped my students learn by talking about different ways of learning. I also noticed what each student was good at and gave them feedback.

In this process:

If someone is not confident, encourage and affirm them.

People with a lively temperament are encouraged to persevere.

Help someone with low self-esteem see their own merits.

I would answer my friends' questions about family and child-rearing so they would come to me for solutions.

I would also teach him some problem-solving methods. He knows his family and children best, so I would let him think for himself about how to help them grow. For example, he needs to keep learning to be able to solve problems better.

[Bole and the Thousand-Mile Horse]

We know the story: does the horse come first or the horse trainer? The horse trainer is good at spotting a talented horse, and the talented horse needs the same eye.

Bole is excellent, as is the thousand-mile horse. We let go of our helping complex, appreciate more, and recognize others' strengths.

Respect him. Don't pity him or try to change him. Teach him.

Trust him to inspire and guide himself.

[The helping complex and respect for others]

The helping complex is about being aware of your own thoughts and feelings.

The helping complex is about boundaries. Who is responsible, the helper or the other person?

In one of her articles, Xia Peng wrote, "What else can we find in poetry?"

Poetry can also help us become more self-aware.

In his essay "On the Relationship between Analytical Psychology and Poetry," Carl Jung discussed how the two can help people grow.

This also applies to the relationship between the poet and the reader. Those who seek help can explore their self-awareness with guidance.

When you awaken your true self, you can help yourself.

"Self-expression" is a way of showing his inner nature. He is saying things in a way he would not normally say.

In counseling, when someone confides in someone else, they are also opening up.

Analytical psychology calls this the "self-help complex." It's not pathological, and normal people can be controlled by it temporarily or permanently.

People can use poetry to heal and soothe their minds and hearts.

Some people can express themselves and have a helping complex.

The helping complex is neither good nor bad. It is neutral and may not be disrespectful.

It's about relationships and feelings in interactions.

We need to be aware and motivated, and we need to know our limits and how we relate to others.

Respect is mutual. Someone with a helping complex can't help someone who doesn't know how to respect or help others.

I hope we can keep thinking about this.

Hope you're well.