How should we perceive such parents when faced with cognitive difficulties and inability to recognize them?

Hello, question asker. Thank you for considering these issues and asking questions. I believe that exploring the relationship between the family of origin and personal cognitive development is a valuable endeavor.

The questioner also recognizes the profound impact that a strong emotional bond between parents and children can have on a child's development. A positive and nurturing parent-child relationship can foster a child's growth in numerous ways, while a less supportive dynamic may lead to less favorable outcomes.

As children reach the age of 18, they begin to transition from a dependent to an independent mindset. During this period, they may begin to question the beliefs and behaviors they were previously taught by their parents. This can lead to a sense of uncertainty and doubt about their own beliefs and values.

It is natural for children to seek independence, yet parents often retain control over many aspects of their children's lives. This can hinder children's ability to develop freely, leading to feelings of doubt and uncertainty about their own perceptions.

As the questioner mentioned, it is not appropriate to sell a child's property or body without their consent, regardless of their age. All people are born equal and have human rights. It is important to remember that no one, not even parents, can make decisions for you regarding anything that concerns you.

It seems that the questioner is experiencing a certain degree of conflict in their mentality. On the one hand, they view their parents as trustworthy, yet on the other, they find certain aspects of their parents' ideas and behaviors challenging to accept. How should one navigate this internal conflict? First and foremost, it is essential to recognize that parents are human, and as such, they are imperfect. It is not uncommon for parents to possess cognitive limitations. It is therefore important not to be disillusioned with our parents due to these shortcomings or to abruptly shift our perception of them from a pedestal to an abyss in our hearts.

Secondly, it is important to recognise that our relationship with our parents is equal. We have grown up and developed our own thinking abilities. We can discuss problems with our parents when we come into contact with new things in the outside world. We don't have to blindly follow their guidance, and they cannot assume that we are wrong. Finally, it is essential to nurture an independent personality. We are independent individuals with our own cognitive abilities, views and concepts of the world.

It would be wonderful if the questioner could find ways to make themselves happy.

Hello, question asker!

After reading your question, I really understand your dilemma. Let me give you a warm hug first.

The issues you're facing are:

Some parents mistreat their children and exploit them for their own benefit, such as selling them, which causes significant harm to the children.

2. How to understand parents who love us, but also sometimes do things that are harmful.

A quick look at the issue at hand reveals that:

The parents in question are the ones who gave us life and provide a safe haven for our emotional well-being. Mothers play a pivotal role in their children's lives, directly influencing the trajectory of our lives.

Children are based on parents, not just in terms of blood relations, but also in terms of their overall rebirth. Selfless love is based on biological instincts, which is in line with the natural order of things and the inherent goodness of human nature. Animals all have feelings of affection for their young, and humans are no exception.

2. It's clear that parents are born with a selfless love for their children. But, because of natural animal selection, there will also be an endless desire for material things. Reasonable desires are good and don't go against the laws of nature. But, on one hand, there's the pressure of life, and on the other, there's excessive selfishness. This can make some parents extremely controlling of their children. They might use their children as a way to satisfy their own selfish desires, which could be material or spiritual. These are just selfish human desires.

The key takeaway from the third question is to recognize that everything has two sides and exists dialectically. We must acknowledge the immense love parents have for their children, but also recognize the impact of societal norms on parents, the darker aspects of human nature, and the parents' unwavering biological instincts. It's essential to approach this objectively and with a rational mindset.

4. There's a communication issue between parents and children. It's important to maintain a healthy distance between them so that neither side becomes detached or loses their sense of self because of the other's desire to exert control.

Here's the analysis and solution:

(1) Manage your emotions. While appreciating your parents' selfless love, accept their limitations without making any unconditional compromises.

(2) You can tell your parents you love them, but you also have to explain that a young eagle will never fly away from its mother and that you need to be independent.

(3) It's important to understand our parents and our own human instincts, but we also need to recognize that people are multi-faceted and complex beings, and that they're driven by a variety of desires. While it's important to be filial, we also need to learn to say no to our parents sometimes.

(4) Stop the internal conflict with yourself and stop overthinking.

(5) Take a break by doing some homework, going for a hike, reading a book, or taking care of flowers.

(6) Be kind but assertive, and don't let your kindness be influenced by your surroundings or lose yourself because of your parents.

(7) If you have the chance, you might find it helpful to learn about Angela Zhang's life experience.

I hope my answer is helpful. I wish you the best and hope you'll soon be able to see the light and embrace love. The world is rooting for you. ?

Good day,

Host:

I am Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. I have taken the time to read your post carefully, and I can sense the pain and confusion you are experiencing.

At the same time, I also noticed that the poster has courageously shared his own experiences and actively sought help on the platform, which will undoubtedly provide him with a more diverse range of perspectives.

I hope that by sharing my observations and thoughts from the post, I can help the original poster gain a richer perspective.

1. I am responsible for your life.

From the post, I can observe that the poster is struggling to comprehend how some parents may abuse their children and dispose of their children's property and bodies at will, such as selling them. It's possible that they may be causing their children the greatest harm.

It must be very difficult to face all this. Perhaps we can explore together why parents are like this.

Given the nature of a Q&A forum, the information available may be limited, which could make it challenging to fully address the original poster's situation. However, there might be other perspectives that could be considered.

Some parents may believe that they have the right to control every aspect of their child's life, including their possessions.

Ultimately, it is up to you to decide how you wish to proceed. It would be beneficial to understand why they think this way.

It may be the result of what is known as "all-powerful narcissism." What, then, is meant by this term?

I believe this is a concept that has been mentioned in psychoanalysis.

It might be helpful to consider that we are all capable of making our own decisions and that we have the potential to be like gods, with the power to do whatever we want.

It would seem that in his eyes, there is no one else, and he thinks that others and himself are one. It may be the case that they do not think of themselves and their children as two separate individuals, but rather as one.

2. It might be helpful to try to separate the issues.

It would be beneficial to consider ways of preventing such parents from causing harm. When we were young, we may not have been able to rely on them for survival.

As we grow up, it is important to learn how to protect ourselves and prevent them from harming us. However, this can sometimes lead to internal conflict.

On the one hand, there is a great deal of anger and resentment that we would like to express. On the other hand, there is our sense of moral responsibility.

It could be that our culture places great emphasis on filial piety, which might result in a certain degree of internal conflict.

I believe it is important to respect our own inner feelings.

It is important to recognize that as adults, we have a responsibility to take control of our lives and make decisions that are right for us. We also have a responsibility to take care of ourselves and our own needs.

We must recognize that our own lives are our own responsibility, and that our parents have their own challenges and issues to navigate.

It may sound a bit harsh, but it's important to remember that we can't always shoulder the burden of others' lives. Taking care of ourselves is the best way to ensure we're in a position to support others.

3. It might be helpful to try to reconcile.

It is important to note that reconciliation is not about forgiving or excusing wrongdoing. Rather, it is about learning to take responsibility for our own lives and addressing our own needs, rather than relying on others to do so for us.

It is important to note that this is not about forgiveness. However, when our hearts are filled with negative emotions, it can be challenging to find happiness and joy.

I believe that reconciliation is not about forgiveness, but rather about taking control of our own lives, taking responsibility for our own lives, taking responsibility for our own needs, and taking responsibility for our own emotions.

I hope that these words have been of some help and inspiration to you.

It is certainly the case that such parents exist. They did not provide us with much material support, and at the same time, they did not offer us much spiritual guidance. It is a state of material and spiritual poverty, and living in such a family is really very challenging.

It might also be helpful to consider that you are currently experiencing some difficulty understanding yourself, particularly in the context of your family. We once heard a story about a cowherd. The cowherd allowed the cows to graze so that he could sell the milk to get a wife and have children. After having children, he then allowed the children to continue to graze the cows.

It is possible that forming a closed loop may result in some loss of personal freedom and sense of self for the children. Without some form of moral cultivation or cultural common sense and personal individuality, it may be challenging to enable the children to make a breakthrough to a higher level. It is possible that each way of thinking may influence the height of the person.

It might be the case that you are unable to recognize your family because your parents have caused you too much pain and trauma. It's also possible that you are easily lost in this trauma and have already suffered the greatest harm in the family, as if your heart has been hollowed out.

Such parents may also have the personality of a vampire. It would be advisable to distance yourself from them as soon as possible and focus on your own responsibilities. Additionally, it might be helpful to undergo psychological assessments to identify any underlying family issues or internal trauma. This could provide insights and facilitate healing.

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