How should you help your sister, who is being bullied by classmates at school?

Hello, question asker. Thank you for your question.

You care about your sister, and I can see how much you love her. When I heard that she was being excluded at school, I could tell how upset you were.

It is important to understand that everyone may face similar challenges during their growth, whether at school or at work. Every child deserves respect and should be treated fairly and inclusively.

Your sister is likely going through a very sensitive and vulnerable period. Being excluded from school will undoubtedly make her feel lonely and helpless, and it will almost certainly affect her self-esteem and self-confidence.

She needs understanding and support. Let her know she is not alone and that you are there to listen to her worries and concerns.

From the information you have provided, it is clear that your sister is a top student with a strong learning ability, and she also excels at the piano and dance. These achievements are reasons for pride, but they may also make her stand out among her peers and become the target of exclusion.

This is not her fault. It is a reflection of the social environment and people's mentality.

We can help her by doing the following:

Listen and understand. Make sure she knows there's always someone she can talk to, no matter what. Set aside time every day to talk to her, ask her how she's feeling and what she's thinking, and give her the support she needs.

Encourage self-confidence. Tell her she should be proud of her talents and achievements and not let others' opinions make her feel bad about herself. Encourage her to continue being good at what she does, but also to accept and respect others' differences.

Social skills: She is good at learning and art, but getting along with others is equally important. Share some social skills and experiences with her to help her better integrate into the group.

For example, you should teach her how to communicate with her classmates, share her thoughts and feelings, and how to deal with conflicts and contradictions in interpersonal relationships.

Seek external support. If the situation continues to deteriorate or affects her studies and life, you should communicate with the school or teacher to seek their help and support. The school will take measures to improve the class atmosphere or provide some psychological counseling resources.

Encourage her to develop new hobbies and participate in social activities. This will enrich her life experience and help her make more like-minded friends.

Pay attention to mental health. If she is persistently depressed or has other psychological problems, she needs to seek help from a professional counselor or psychiatrist. They can provide the guidance and advice she needs to get through the difficult times.

You have an essential role to play in this process. As her family member, your support and understanding are what will help her get out of trouble.

Be patient and caring, and support her through this difficult time.

Let her know that exclusion is not her fault. It is the problem of those who exclude her. Everyone has their own bright spots and value. She should not deny herself because of other people's prejudices.

She needs to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude in the face of challenges and difficulties in life.

I want to be clear: every child is a unique treasure and deserves to be treated with kindness and respect. Your sister is no exception. She will get through this difficult time and shine even brighter in the future. She will emerge from the darkness and grow up healthy and happy.

Hello. I can sense from your words that you are feeling anxious and helpless about your sister's current situation. First of all, I want to give you a hug and hope that my answer will be helpful to you.

You can first be seen as a caring and wonderful brother or sister. You were very worried when you heard your mother tell about your sister being excluded from school. In your eyes, your sister is an excellent student with good learning ability, and she is also good at playing the piano and dancing. She is a little school bully, but there is no description of your sister's personality. However, judging from the fact that you are far away from home and want to help your sister, it seems that your sister is the kind of obedient child who is often protected. So you want to help solve this problem in a more appropriate way.

It is fair to say that being excluded at school is a challenging situation, one that touches on some of the most fundamental aspects of interpersonal relationships and self-identity. From a psychological perspective, there could be a number of contributing factors, including a lack of social skills, misunderstandings among peers, or a discrepancy between personal characteristics and the prevailing group culture.

In this situation, my sister may feel isolated and helpless, which could potentially impact her self-esteem and self-confidence.

How might we best respond when we encounter this situation?

It might be helpful to consider ways to support your sister in developing her social skills. This could include offering guidance on topics such as initiating and maintaining conversations, interpreting nonverbal cues, and navigating group situations with greater ease.

It might be helpful to teach your sister how to recognize and express her emotions, as well as how to effectively manage negative emotions. This could be done, for example, through an emotion diary or emotion regulation techniques.

Cognitive restructuring: You might consider helping your sister change her perception of events, perhaps from "no one likes me" to "I can find like-minded friends," which could help reduce negative thinking patterns.

It might be helpful to reinforce positive behavior. When your sister displays positive social behavior, you could consider giving her positive feedback and rewards, which might encourage her to continue doing so.

It would be beneficial to help your sister build self-confidence by praising her efforts and achievements. This could be a valuable step in helping her overcome difficulties.

It would be beneficial to teach your sister how to understand and feel the emotions of others, as this will help her develop deeper interpersonal relationships.

It might be helpful to encourage your sister to consider trying out different social situations and groups to see if she can find some that suit her better, as this could help her to integrate more easily.

Family support is of great importance to her, and it is vital that she knows she can rely on you unreservedly.

It is important to be patient and allow time for recovery, as everyone recovers at a different pace. During this process, it is helpful to maintain an open line of communication and let her know that you are willing to listen to her at any time.

It would also be helpful to keep an eye on your sister's emotional changes and make any necessary adjustments to your support strategy.

In addition to the above strategies, at times like these, it would be beneficial to provide her with understanding and care. Let's explore some specific methods together, which I hope will be helpful to you and your sister.

First of all, I would like to emphasize that empathy and understanding are the key. You might consider telling your sister that it is completely normal for her to feel this way, and that it is not her fault. Everyone is likely to feel rejected or isolated at some point.

Let her know that although you are not by her side right now, you are always thinking of her and that you will do your best to understand how she feels and be there for her through the difficult times.

You might also consider starting the conversation in a relaxed way, for example: "Sister, I know that sometimes you encounter things at school that are not to your liking. Would you like to share them with me? I'm here and I'm willing to listen."

Such language can help your sister feel accepted and provides an opportunity for her to talk.

You might also consider asking her if there is something in particular that is troubling her, as this could help you to understand the problem more clearly. At the same time, you could gently encourage her to think about things that make her happy, such as her hobbies or her small achievements at school. This might help to distract her from negative events.

Additionally, you might suggest that your sister try some simple activities, such as inviting friends over to play or going for walks in the park together. This could help to increase her social opportunities and perhaps allow her to make new friends. At the same time, you could also remind her that everyone has their own unique qualities. You mentioned her talents in learning and talent shows, which are all things to be proud of.

If your sister is open to it, you might suggest that she speak with a teacher or school counselor, who could potentially offer helpful advice or solutions. It's also important to remember the value of your own support and encouragement. Your presence can be a great source of strength for her.

Your presence is a great source of support for her. Your care and understanding will be a great help to her.

In the process, you may also have the opportunity to grow and learn. By working together for our sister's future and our own inner growth, we can all benefit.

I hope my answer is helpful. With love, The world and I

Thank you for your inquiry. I hope that my suggestions will prove useful to you.

It is my hope that my sister will be able to thrive in a positive learning environment at school.

In the current situation, it would be advisable to obtain further information from your mother or sister. You may also wish to communicate with your mother to explore ways of assisting your sister. During this process, it would be beneficial to contact the teacher to gain insight into your sister's academic performance at school.

Secondly, provide your sister with suitable educational guidance.

Education is a key factor in ensuring the safety of your sister, preventing bullying or collective isolation, and providing guidance on how to deal with such situations. It is essential to communicate these concerns to the teacher and parents in a timely manner.

Providing guidance is an effective method for assisting your sister in developing social skills. Interpersonal relationships are a crucial aspect of personal growth, alongside academic studies.

Children's social interactions differ from those of adults. They typically have fewer social connections and less strong social motivations. In general, they are more emotionally labile and prone to having friends who are present for only a short period of time. They require the development of emotional regulation skills and an understanding of friendship at different ages.

As siblings, we have the opportunity to communicate more with our sister and provide her with a channel to express herself. Even if she lacks friends at school, she can still have someone at home to talk to, which will help to prevent her from becoming overly depressed.

I hope that through open and constructive communication, you will gain a deeper understanding of your sister's needs and be able to provide her with a more suitable support system.

I extend my warmest regards to you and your loved ones.

Hello! I'm Strawberry!

It's a wonderful thing to care about your family! If you can identify problems early on and work together to solve them, you can prevent minor issues from becoming major ones. Plus, you'll learn to face challenges head-on and grow stronger through the process of problem-solving.

She was confused about why she was being excluded.

When the questioner contacted her mother, she learned that her younger sister, a third-year elementary school student, had been excluded by her classmates at school. The situation was already quite serious, but there's no need to fret! While it's true that no one played with her, and her younger sister was sad when faced with the exclusion by her classmates, there's still plenty of time to turn this around.

The questioner goes to school elsewhere and will be home for a short time. The questioner is amazed that her younger sister is being excluded because in her eyes, her younger sister is a top student and is also very good at playing the piano and dancing. In theory, people who are good at something should be liked by more people. The distance problem makes the questioner wonder if there is anything she can do to help her younger sister.

It's a fascinating time in a child's life when they're still learning to distinguish right from wrong. Some bullies don't have any problems at all, but they're just pursuing their own goals in the way they know how. They're imitating some behaviors in a half-unaware and non-understanding way, but they don't know the impact it will have on the bullied.

I'm ready to help my sister!

The good news is that the problem of bullying in schools has always existed, and the impact it can have can be great or small. The even better news is that once it is discovered, it can be taken seriously and help given according to one's abilities, so that the person being bullied can get out of the influence as soon as possible with the help of those around them!

☀️ Understand the situation: The questioner also learned about her sister's situation when she contacted her mother. By the time the questioner and her mother knew about it, the situation of her sister being excluded had already become quite serious. It can be said that her sister is usually a person who hides her emotions. She would not confide in her mother if the situation she faced exceeded her ability to bear.

If you're concerned, you can start by finding out what's going on from your sister. You'll get a chance to understand why her classmates want to exclude such an outstanding younger sister! Is it because of her usual attitude that others feel uncomfortable? Or is it because others are jealous of your younger sister because she is so outstanding?

The Internet is a great tool for kids these days! It's convenient and offers a wealth of information. However, it's important to be aware that not all content is accurate or appropriate. Some children may use the Internet to bully their classmates in an attempt to gain attention.

☀️ Distinguish the issue: Being excluded by a few people may seem like a small thing, but it can have a big impact on your emotions and self-doubt, even if you are really as others say. This can lead to negative emotional depletion, which can have a great impact on physical and mental health over a long period of time. But don't worry! There are ways to overcome this.

Once you've taken in the situation, you can ask your sister to think about some of her usual behaviors. You can also help her understand how her actions affect her and others. Then, you can work together to change her problematic behaviors! When her classmates notice the difference and changes in her, the situation of being excluded will be alleviated or even eliminated.

If being excluded is a problem with classmates, then the questioner can let her know that she has the power to change her situation! She can tell her that the problem is with those classmates, that they are unable to recognize her excellence, that it is their own mentality that is the problem, and that has nothing to do with her. She can let her know that she does not need to bear the responsibility for the mistakes of others, and tell her that when she encounters unfair treatment, she must tell her teachers and parents as soon as possible. With the help of adults, this kind of problem can be solved early!

☀️ Provide companionship: We all love having friends to play and study with! The younger sister is only in the third grade, so she's at an age where she's especially eager to have friends. When she's excluded, it can make her feel more than just a little sad.

It's so important for family members who are close to your sister to give her more company, pay more attention to her emotions, find out more about how her classmates at school treat her, and communicate with her more. The question asker can chat with your sister online when you are both free, observe more of your sister's changes, let your sister know that everyone in the family cares about her, let her know that the family will always be there for her, and she can feel free to confide in you, so that her emotions can be appropriately relieved.

I really hope my answer is helpful to the questioner! Best wishes!

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I am Coach Yu, and I would like to discuss this topic with you.

First, let's discuss boundaries. It's helpful to understand the boundaries of others and to know your own boundaries. Boundaries help us distinguish ourselves from others and can contribute to positive relationships. Many emotional and interpersonal challenges in today's society may relate to difficulties in maintaining appropriate boundaries.

When our personal space is encroached upon, our bodies will often send out signals such as a faster heartbeat, a feeling of heat all over the body, restlessness, and sweating.

Sometimes we may be reluctant to offend others, damage relationships, or avoid potential risks like retaliation for bullying. We may also be hesitant to establish and maintain our own boundaries, which can prevent us from protecting ourselves.

The questioner wrote that her mother told her that her younger sister had mentioned that she was feeling excluded by her classmates at school and that she was sad.

First of all, we should commend our sister for taking the initiative to seek her mother's guidance on the situation at school. After listening to our sister's concerns, we should also gather more information to help us craft a response that will be beneficial to our sister.

We could inquire about the specifics of the situation and how it unfolded when the other students excluded her. How did she feel, and what was her physical reaction to their words and actions?

We could also inquire whether these individuals have previously excluded other students. Have you considered discussing this with the teacher?

We could also inquire as to whether our younger sister has considered responding to these verbal behaviors of her classmates. If she has responded, we might ask her to share her approach.

How would she handle it?

Perhaps it would be helpful to explain to her that it's not possible to rely on others to protect her. This is because, according to the principle of separation of topics, we cannot control what others say or do, and we cannot expect others to know how to behave. Instead, we need to take the initiative to establish our own boundaries and clearly express to others when we feel uncomfortable. If necessary, we could also consider using some warning words and methods.

Let's talk about bullying. School bullying generally meets three characteristics: first, it is intentional or has a clear purpose; second, it occurs more than once; and third, it can be clearly identified as bullying in words and actions. In other words, the bully causes physical and mental suffering to the vulnerable student through repeated hurtful words and actions.

We can communicate with our younger sister on a regular basis to help her understand school bullying and to encourage her to avoid or prevent bullying incidents.

It would be beneficial for our younger sister to develop self-confidence. We could encourage her to participate in school group activities and interest groups in her spare time, which would not only help her to make good friends, but also to improve her self-confidence and become a positive role model.

Finally, let's talk about the present. Based on our communication with my sister and some feedback, we could perhaps offer her some comfort and support in dealing with her feelings of anxiety and injustice. If she would find it helpful, we could also look into the possibility of finding a professional counselor to help her release her emotions and encourage her to face them bravely.

If it would be helpful, your mother could take your sister for a walk in the surrounding nature to distract her, soothe her emotions, and cheer her up.

I would like to suggest the book "5% Change" as a potential resource.

You used the perfect word: "help." Your younger sister is the one who needs it. She's only in third grade, but this is a big deal for her. You love her and want to help, and that's great! But it's important to know the right way and amount of help to give.

I'm excited to share my opinion!

1. Pay enough attention to the situation. During this period, pay closer attention to your sister's changes. From kindergarten onwards, children's social needs develop rapidly. It is very important for them to feel a sense of belonging and security in interpersonal relationships, such as in the family, and especially in school and among their classmates.

It's so important to make sure your younger sister feels like she belongs and is secure. This will help her to concentrate on her learning and also have a positive impact on her mental health. So, keep an eye on her emotional changes, create a relaxed atmosphere at home and have some casual conversations with her about her school life.

2. Determine the severity of the situation. Has she encountered bullying at school, such as physical harm or verbal abuse, or is it just a minor conflict with a classmate? Parents should let their child know how much the family loves her, that she has their support, and that they will support her no matter what happens. She can always turn to her parents for help if necessary, and they will be there for her!

3. When your younger sister is willing to talk about the situation, listen carefully to the circumstances and objectively analyze the real reason why she is being excluded. There are two things to note: first, remember that your younger sister is still learning and making mistakes just like everyone else. It's important to give her the space to grow and learn from her experiences. Second, don't forget to celebrate her strengths and achievements!

Let's start with some empathy! We know you're sad because you've had a little problem with a classmate. Then, it's best to use stories or examples that she can understand to compare the situation she's experiencing, so she can see the logic and learn the right way to do things.

4. If your younger sister can solve the problem herself, it is best to let her do so! Then, the teacher can mediate or the parents can intervene. There are generally two types of relationships in school: teacher-student relationships and peer relationships. Now that your younger sister is having problems with her peers, she should try to solve the problem among her peers first. Parents can give her guidance on the principles and suggestions on methods.

This is the perfect way to help her develop the ability to face and solve interpersonal problems on her own! If the matter is serious and the parents feel it's necessary to intervene, they should explain clearly what they plan to do and ask for her consent. At the same time, they should know what she doesn't want the parents to do and respect her opinion.

5. And finally, the most important thing is for parents to have the right outlook on life, values, and views on education. It's not just about the academic performance of the child — it's about so much more! It's about fostering independence and a strong sense of self. Independence includes being independent in life, in relationships, and in personality. It's about helping them integrate into social groups and find their unique value.

If parents only focus on academic performance, children will slowly come to believe that learning is the most important thing. I study well, so I am special, which is not conducive to integrating into my classmates. Encourage your child to be friendly, helpful, and united with their classmates. How they get along with their classmates, and how they view right and wrong when conflicts arise. Personally, I don't encourage going to the teacher for everything.

I'm so excited to share some of my views with you! Since the questioner is away from home, you can communicate these points to your mother. If necessary, you can even speak to your younger sister in your capacity as a brother to help your mother understand the situation and explain it clearly to your younger sister.

Good day. I extend my support and encouragement from a distance.

I am pleased to see that you have requested assistance and hope that my input will provide some support and guidance. I can sense your unease and concern when you learned that your younger sister was being isolated and excluded at school, and your desire to be able to provide her with better assistance, guidance, and support.

Third graders are prone to forming and changing friendships based on emotional factors. For instance, children residing in the same housing unit or community with parents who work in the same unit are more likely to become friends. Similarly, classmates who are frequently praised by teachers are more likely to form friendships easily.

Given that the younger sister is a high-performing student with well-developed social skills, the likelihood of being excluded or isolated by her classmates is relatively low. This is because she will receive more attention and praise from her teachers, and her classmates will be more inclined to approach her proactively due to the influence of the teachers' guidance. Children at this age are particularly eager to receive the attention, affirmation, encouragement, and praise of their teachers. What are your thoughts on this matter?

It is likely that your younger sister is being excluded from school because she is too outstanding and has received too much attention and praise from teachers. She has actively distanced herself from many classmates with whom she has a big gap, and these classmates, who already have low self-esteem, have felt rejected, ignored, and alienated by her. In order to protect their fragile self-esteem, these children can only protect themselves by staying away from your younger sister. Additionally, she may spend more time studying and rarely take the initiative to get in touch with other classmates. Other classmates also lack the courage to approach her because she is too outstanding.

It would be beneficial to encourage your sister to engage in social activities with her classmates, particularly those who share similar interests and hobbies. Additionally, it is important to facilitate assistance to classmates who are experiencing difficulties in their studies. It is not advisable to dedicate an excessive amount of time to academic pursuits and it is equally important to be proactive in engaging with classmates outside of the classroom. It is acceptable to socialize with classmates based on their positive attributes and your own preferences. It is essential to recognize that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. It is therefore important not to prioritize social interactions with classmates based on their academic performance.

Additionally, it is important to guide your younger sister to identify the underlying needs driving her emotional distress. For instance, she may be seeking acceptance, a sense of being needed, or a feeling of belonging. Once she has a clear understanding of her own needs, she can begin to interact with her classmates in a way that aligns with those needs.

As an older sister and a mother, you must first address your own anxiety after learning that your younger sister is being excluded by her classmates. It is possible that she does not require your assistance; she may simply wish to express her concerns because this type of exclusion is a new experience for her. The mother can provide a supportive embrace and inquire about her younger sister's need for assistance, allowing her younger sister to make the decision and take ownership of the situation. What are your thoughts on this approach?

Your younger sister is a great student, at least in your eyes. But is it possible that other people are jealous because your younger sister is good at something that they are not?

As an older sibling, you must be concerned about your younger sister's situation. When she's being excluded by her classmates at school, you can take the following steps to help her:

1. Find out what's going on: First, you need to find out why your sister is being excluded. Is it because of her personality, clothes, behavior, or because other students are picking on her? Once you understand the situation, you can talk to the teacher and classmates to get help and support.

2. Get your sister to talk to her teachers and classmates. When she's feeling scared or anxious, she might be too afraid to communicate with the classmates who exclude her. Encourage her to reach out to them, express her feelings and thoughts, and try to establish friendly relationships.

3. Give support and encouragement: Family members can give your sister the support and encouragement she needs to feel supported and empowered to face difficulties. At the same time, they can also provide her with some advice and support to help her better cope with being excluded.

4. Get help from the school and teachers: If the situation is serious, the family can talk to the school and teachers to share the situation and ask for their help. The school and teachers can provide resources like psychological counseling and social work departments to help your sister cope with difficulties.

5. Set up a support network. Encourage your sister to make friends with other students and join in with them on group activities. This can help to improve her situation. You can also get in touch with other parents or teachers to keep an eye on her and support her.

6. Keep an eye on your sister's mood and get professional help from a doctor if you think it's needed.

In short, as a family member, you should give her your support and encouragement, keep an eye on her emotional changes, and get help and support from the school and teachers. At the same time, you should also give her your understanding and care so that she feels supported and empowered to face difficulties.