How to become a qualified "adult" and stop viewing the world in a "black and white" manner?

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When you find out someone has an unacceptable side, you show it, which makes you feel awkward around them, right?

We usually show our kind side and make everyone feel comfortable. Sometimes, though, we pay attention to the other side of someone, the dark side.

For example, social news often reports on the bad side of society. When this happens, everyone attacks it. Everyone feels uncomfortable and wants to distance themselves from this negativity.

When you face annoying people and things, you usually want to reject them. I disapprove of such people and things!

This makes you seem unstable and immature, which is what you mean by not being an adult.

What does a qualified adult look like?

A mature adult may not see things in black and white because there are usually two sides to a story.

A qualified adult may ignore another person's bad qualities because he has similar ones himself.

To become a truly qualified adult, we need to understand ourselves better. We usually show only the sunny side of ourselves to the world. But do we have another side?

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For such adults, it's not really worth learning or aspiring to. From childhood to adulthood, I've always envied children. It seems like I've never had the life and opportunities of children. Since childhood, I've learned to read people's expressions and put on an act to create a relatively peaceful living environment.

This kind of maturity and understanding isn't necessarily the best in terms of quality.

So when we have the so-called vigor or aggression of youth, it's actually a good thing. It means we're in our prime.

We only reach a certain level of maturity when we reach a certain age, have had certain experiences, and have even suffered many setbacks. This maturity can be called both sophistication and disappointment and powerlessness, as well as the lack of a safety net.

We know that even if we express our unhappiness or deal with things in a black-and-white manner, things won't change as we wish and it will also hurt us. For example, at work, if we don't get along with our colleagues and communicate with our leaders in a peaceful manner, we may lose our jobs, which will damage our financial situation and affect our daily expenses, even the basic necessities of life.

So when we go through these kinds of experiences, we naturally learn to hide our emotions.

We need to be aware of this so-called adult state and decide if we want to actively transform it.

In other words, even if we don't make such changes this year or next year, maybe in five or ten years, we'll still be in the same place. This may be the only way for every society.

This is something we can achieve through life experiences, and we can choose to make individual adjustments along the way.

For the former, it's like the growth that comes from the lessons mentioned above.

For the latter, we are our own person. It's important to be aware of whether we want to make changes.

If we're not going to be seriously affected by the way we act now, and we can still socialize or work smoothly, then there's no need to change. It's also good to maintain the way we should be as young people.

But if, after becoming more self-aware, we realize that our work has been negatively affected or that we want more maturity and stability for ourselves, then it's okay to make changes.

The key to change is that we can look at problems from different angles and come up with different solutions. For instance, we can try watching more debate competitions. In fact, there are many things in life that aren't so straightforward. Apart from the legal aspects, there are many gray areas in moral issues and even in how to get along with others.

The essence of a debate is to see the same event from different positions and perspectives and to understand what each person thinks. This is a way to train our ability to look at problems from different perspectives.

It doesn't matter what stage of life you're at, you're an adult now. The key to adulthood is taking responsibility and having the courage to do so.

It doesn't matter if it's right or wrong, we need to know what's right and what's positive. Even if things get smoothed out by life, we can't stop young people from staying young and letting them do the right things we wanted to do when we were their age.

We hope that self-awareness will help you find a way of being and acting that suits you, and to follow your heart and become the person you want to be. You are the best you that you can be!

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I totally get it. You don't like it, but you have to put on a happy face and pretend to be friendly. It's a bit tricky, but you've got this!

Adults absolutely don't need to give up their emotions!

Because of her emotions, she makes your life more real—and more exciting!

So, how do we deal with people we don't like?

And what we really need is compassion!

We can see his strengths and his weaknesses. He is not a perfect person, but he also has some great qualities!

Some people become annoying, but they may also have suffered in ways we are unaware of, which makes them all the more intriguing!

For example, when someone goes out to dinner with colleagues, they are just not willing to pay. They will calculate very clearly, and if they didn't drink the drink, they don't want to pay for it. Maybe she has a heavy family burden and needs money, which means she's got a lot of love to give!

Or she may have experienced financial challenges from an early age and is now cautious with money.

Absolutely! We can have emotions, but we also need to be considerate of the situation.

For example, if the leader is daydreaming while you are on stage, even if you don't care, you should hide your expression. After all, there are other colleagues present, and this will make the leader feel very embarrassed. In the end, you may even make things difficult for yourself at work—but you can avoid that by keeping your cool!

It would be a huge loss!

Absolutely! If you have a private meeting with your leader and you disagree with his advice, you can express that too. Express yourself with dignity and reason.

You don't have to be nice all the time and smile all the time! Expressing your true feelings and not repressing yourself is the best way to live.

The great news is that you don't have to express your emotions at that moment. You can also vent in other ways!

Sometimes we get angry when we feel aggrieved or encounter injustice. But don't let that get you down! You can take control and deal with it yourself. Write it all down in an emotional diary! Write down what happened, who you met, and how you felt.

And there's more! You can also talk to friends, counselors, etc. to let out your emotions.

For example, let's say there's a sudden situation on the show—like changing clothes or grabbing seats—on such an important occasion as the Spring Festival Gala broadcast. What can other colleagues do in that moment?

And they still have to maintain the big picture!

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"How might I become a qualified adult and stop seeing the world in black and white?" This could involve opening our eyes to the world.

Everyone in this world has an unknown side. If we see this side of the other person, if we lack rationality and objectivity, then reality is likely to be seen in a "black or white" way. In this regard, we can try to take a step back and move our focus away from a single event. This is similar to the difference between standing on a rooftop and standing at the top of a mountain and looking at the scenery. The higher the position, the more comprehensive the things we can observe. Here, we need to work hard in reality to absorb all kinds of knowledge and avoid an information cocoon.

To avoid falling into the "black or white" way of seeing the world, we could perhaps consider improving our ability to accept new things and the ability to allow things to be different from what we expect. It might be helpful to try to see the differences and disparities between people, and to accept that what is happening in front of us is not what we want. This is easier said than done, and it is not an easy or even difficult thing to do. Many people have remained at the level of "black or white": "I want, I think, I don't want, you think." This is obviously not suitable for a qualified adult, but such individuals do exist in reality.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider that before becoming a "qualified" adult, the first thing we do is actually be true to ourselves. We are all ordinary people who have our own emotions and preferences. It may be helpful to recognize that there is no need to be too obsessed with becoming a "qualified" adult, because this is actually a kind of label and a framework. It is important to be mindful of the potential consequences of wanting to become completely like this kind of person, which could result in losing ourselves.

While it may not be possible to become a fully qualified adult in the universal sense, we can certainly strive to become the kind of adult we aspire to be. The former approach may result in a loss of self, while the latter is about achieving one's true potential. Now is a good time to start planning, setting reasonable goals, and taking steps towards making our dreams a reality.

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Ready to become a more mature and tolerant adult? You can do it! Here are some simple ways to improve your attitude and approach:

1. Be aware of the amazing complexity of the world!

The world is a rich tapestry of colors and nuances. There are so many dimensions and factors in people and things! Being aware of the diversity and complexity of things can help you better understand and accept others.

2. Accepting your emotions:

First of all, accept your emotions and don't try to control them completely. It's totally normal to have emotions! Learn to manage and express them appropriately.

3. Examine your own prejudices and stereotypes:

Be aware of your own prejudices and stereotypes, and get rid of them! They're holding you back from being the best you can be. Think more about the positions and backgrounds of others, and you'll see that you can understand their behavior and attitudes.

4. Listen and respect others!

It's so important to listen to other people's views and feelings, and to respect their rights and choices. When you're communicating with others, keep an open mind and respect each other's differences – it's a great way to build stronger relationships!

5. Cultivate empathy!

It's a great idea to try to put yourself in the other person's shoes and understand their feelings and situation. This is a fantastic way to better understand and accept others and reduce conflicts with others!

6. Get the help and support you need!

If you feel you are unable to cope with your emotions or change your attitude, don't worry! You can easily seek help from a counselor or other professional. They can provide guidance and support to help you better deal with challenges.

7. Continuous learning and growth:

Becoming a better adult is an amazing journey! It's a continuous process, and it is so important to keep learning, reflecting, and growing. Embrace challenges, learn from experience, and constantly improve your cognitive and emotional intelligence.

This is how you can gradually improve your attitude and approach and become a more mature and tolerant adult!