How to communicate with family members about the cruel mother?

Hello. I am honored to answer your question and I am confident that my suggestions will be helpful to you.

We must be aware of our emotional state in a timely manner to navigate our current situation. Seeking the help of a psychological counselor is highly recommended to assist us in sorting out and adjusting.

We can alleviate the problems caused by the original family and some of the problems encountered in the parent-child relationship through psychological counseling. This will prevent them from affecting our own marital relationship and our parent-child relationship.

Avoid spending time together as much as possible to prevent uncomfortable interactions with our mothers or our fathers from escalating. During the counseling process, learn effective communication skills and find a way to communicate with our parents that is suitable for us.

If we ever have the chance, we should definitely go to counseling with our parents. It would help us to adjust our relationship with them. We could also go to marriage and family counseling together. That way, our father and mother can adjust their state of mind in all aspects.

If we cannot find a suitable solution to the problems in our original family, we must first focus on our own physical and mental health. Second, we must consider the impact on our small family and our relationship with our husband. Finally, we can try to solve the problems in our original family.

I will regulate my emotional state with self-awareness and the support of professionals.

I love you, the world!

Dear Sir/Madam, I empathize with your situation. I was in a similar position, dealing with depression and family issues, and I sought emotional support and guidance from my parents. However, instead of receiving assistance, I encountered mental abuse from my mother after confiding in them. Best regards, [Your name]

However, you remain a responsible child. The original family has caused you harm, and you have no choice but to resist and refrain from causing your mother distress.

As an alternative, you may choose to temporarily avoid the source of distress, maintain a positive regard for your parents, and continue to explore avenues for constructive communication. From this perspective, you can be regarded as a responsible, caring, and tolerant child.

The issues in the family of origin have their roots in the way they developed. It requires significant time and energy to resolve them, and in some cases, the input of a professional may be necessary. As a member of the family, you are a stakeholder in the resolution of these issues.

If your objective is to completely resolve the issues within your family of origin, it will require significant effort and may prove challenging. If your goal is to address communication difficulties between you and your parents,

I would like to offer a few pieces of advice.

1. When your parents cause you pain, communicate this clearly. Do not allow them to continue causing you distress.

It is essential to communicate your expectations and boundaries to your parents.

It is imperative that you do not allow them to cross the line. Once they have been permitted to do so, they will become accustomed to it.

Should they fail to cease their inappropriate behaviour, it would be advisable to remove yourself from the situation.

2. Psychologically, you must cease to depend on your parents. If you remain dependent on them, you will be unable to justify your boundaries.

Parents who challenge your boundaries may also be justified in doing so due to your dependence on them.

3. Show your parents love and respect, but ensure they are aware of your expectations.

Your love is a valuable asset. It is a sacrifice, a dedication, and it is not a means of bargaining for their love.

This will result in a greater sense of love from them towards you and a greater attention to your feelings.

When there is a power struggle between original family members, it is usually the result of a tug-of-war between them. As a family order restorer, it is essential to understand how to appropriately meet the emotional, spiritual, and material needs of family members.

It is important to maintain a healthy balance between giving and taking among family members. It is essential to refrain from taking advantage of others and to decline any unethical forms of giving.

It is also important to ensure that they understand what they should be giving in return. For example, this could include caring for others.

Caring for the needs of others, etc.

Hello! I just wanted to send you a 360-degree hug.

Firstly, I'd advise you to stay away from your family of origin and your parents, who are draining you. Don't expect them to change.

It's not easy for them to change, even if they know they're wrong. They won't change because they're parents and have to be the authority figure for their children. They just can't bring themselves to say they're wrong, especially in your case with your parents.

So, at this point, it's really important to stop hoping that your parents will change, that they'll understand you, and that you can still communicate well.

But that doesn't mean it's the end of the story. You have to accept that your parents won't change.

Next, let's look at how we can heal ourselves. I'd suggest talking to a counselor in your case.

You're experiencing a lot of conflicting emotions. In the past, you listened to your parents and gave them your unconditional support. Now you're being told to stay away from them. It's difficult to move past the hurdle of being unfilial, and at the same time, you feel powerless. These are things you can't solve on your own at the moment, and you need professional help.

To sum up, you need to let go of the idea that your parents will ever change and give yourself some space. It's time to focus on your own wellbeing.

When you're ready, you'll be able to deal with your parents.

Of course, staying away from your parents doesn't mean ignoring them. It means creating some psychological distance so that they don't affect your emotions and feelings.

I'm a psychological counselor who often feels depressed but also has moments of optimism. I love the world and everything in it.

I can tell the questioner is really struggling. It's possible that this is making it even harder for them to communicate with their parents and express themselves when they're with them. I'm sending them a hug.

Communication is both a way for two parties to interact and a way for the self to express itself through language and behavior. The way words and actions are expressed towards different goals will also be different. So, before communicating, you need to know why you're communicating and what you're trying to achieve. For example, when buying clothes in a mall, bargaining between the customer and the salesperson is a form of communication. Both parties are expressing their positions and defending their interests through language, repeatedly expressing their price range, and finally reaching a consensus on a basis that is acceptable to both parties to complete the transaction. Both parties have achieved their own goals and had a good communication.

If you want to communicate with your parents, you need to know why you want to communicate, what you want to explain, and what problems you want to solve. Think about what you want to say from a different perspective and it will come to you. But first, you need to solve your own problems. If you have too many repressed emotions, it will affect how you express yourself and how well you communicate. You can consider talking to a counselor. Once you've solved your own problems, it will be easier to communicate with your parents.

Good day, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you today to inquire about a matter that requires your attention. Thank you in advance for your attention to this matter. Sincerely,

You believe that your issues are a result of communication difficulties with your parents. You have recently observed a significant shift in your personality. You are seeking a solution to this problem and ways to improve your relationship with your mother, but you are unsure of how to proceed.

Let's examine the situation together.

[Conflict Eruption]

In that instance when you sought comfort and guidance from your parents, they provided a response that caused you significant distress. It is likely that the interaction unfolded as follows: your father placed blame on your mother, and your mother attributed responsibility to you.

You are concerned about being provoked by your mother and have chosen to disengage from her. While this incident is resolved, the underlying trauma remains unaddressed.

[Patterns from the original family]

The three of you are dealing with conflict in a similar way to the "kick the cat effect," whereby the father is under pressure to take it out on the mother, the mother blames the children, and the children kick the cat. The "kick the cat effect" can be defined as the transmission of negative emotions.

Backlogged emotions are transmitted from one social relationship to the next, from those in positions of strength to those in weaker roles. You are not merely a victim of your mother's actions; you are also affected by the wider dynamics of your family.

[Your transformation]

It is understandable that you hold your mother responsible for your negative feelings. However, it seems that you have not attributed your father's actions to the same extent. It is possible that your mother internalized your father's negative behaviors and projected them onto you. As a child, you were under immense pressure to please her, which led to significant distress.

As an adult, you are equipped with the strength to combat these situations. Your emotional response has shifted from sadness and grievance to anger and resentment.

[How to Let Go]

The wounds of the original family can be forgiven, but they need to be released. It is important to note that the harm your mother did to you was not her intention. You should not feel guilty for resenting your mother because it is a natural response.

Your current difficulties stem from attempting to persuade your mother to acknowledge the harm she has caused you and to alter her behaviour so that she treats you in the way you expect. This is challenging from a practical standpoint.

The question then becomes whether we can accept our mother in her current state. While she has a kind heart, she lacks the ability to change. Is it possible to accept her for who she is?

I suggest you consult the methods of trauma healing in the book It's Okay Not to Forgive and the section on self-nurture.

I hope this information is helpful to you.

I am your colleague, Potato Maling, who has had the privilege of growing up with you. Thank you for your attention.

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.

I am grateful for the opportunity to respond to your request for help. I am confident that my input will provide you with the support and guidance you need. It is clear that your emotionally immature parents have caused you significant harm, both physically and mentally. You have a right to feel the injustice, anger, and frustration that comes from being misunderstood, unsupported, and unloved.

Let me be clear: parents and the original family are not something we can choose. But we can choose to learn to accept them better as adults. Accepting yourself means growing up in a difficult original family. Accepting yourself means having parents who don't know how to love and have caused you harm in your growth.

As adults, we have the power to heal this part of the trauma and re-nurture ourselves if we choose to do so.

Take back from your parents that part of the emotional and emotional expectations and treat yourself the way you want to be treated. You can express the harm that your immature parenting style has caused to your body and mind by writing a letter to your former parents. Write the letter to allow you to accumulate emotions that have been well-hidden, expressed and released, and to help you to better perceive and sort out that part of the painful and uncomfortable emotional and emotional feelings that you have experienced because of your parents' immature parenting style.

Parents are unable to give you more emotional support because they are not capable of doing so. They may have been raised in this way during their own growth process: children who do not know how to love, children who are extremely lacking in love and are internally starved. They have merely become adults physically, but they are children who are full of fear and lacking internally, both emotionally and mentally. This makes it impossible for them to give you the response and support you expect.

You can and should actively learn and grow on your own, re-nurture yourself, and through your own growth, heal and give back to your parents.

You should read "We Have All Been Hurt, But We Have a Better Life."

I am Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. The world and I love you.

Hello, question asker! I am June Lai Feng.

Your question contains negative comments about mothers. I understand your feelings, but I advise against making such comments about mothers. Everyone has their own character and way of behaving.

From your narrative, it is clear that your family of origin has caused you negative emotions.

Family relationships are complex and require time and effort to resolve. You are currently trapped in your perspective.

You should try to understand the mother's feelings from her perspective.

From a psychological perspective, a vicious mother is caused by a variety of factors, including psychological problems, life stress, and emotional problems. These problems cause the mother to be unable to properly handle the relationship with her child, which leads to vicious behavior.

A vicious mother causes serious psychological harm to her child, including anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and fear. This harm affects the child's growth and development and can even lead to psychological problems.

We must help mothers find the root cause to trace the source of the problem.

Vicious mothers have likely been exposed to adverse influences during their own upbringing, which has prevented them from dealing with their emotions and behavior in a healthy way. They may lack self-confidence, security, and self-esteem, and therefore seek to gain these feelings through control and punishment of their children.

This behavior is unhealthy and must stop.

It is important to determine whether the mother may have a mental health issue, such as depression, anxiety disorder, or schizophrenia, which could be the root cause of her cruel behavior towards her children.

It is important to understand whether the mother's childhood experiences may have influenced their behavior. If mothers were abused, neglected, or otherwise negatively affected as children, they will almost certainly pass on these patterns of behavior to their children.

Mothers are under a lot of stress and fatigue, including financial stress, work stress, and family responsibilities. These factors cause them to become emotionally unstable and display hostile behaviors towards their children.

Mothers often lack support and help from family, friends, or society. They frequently feel lonely, helpless, and depressed, which can lead to them displaying cruel behavior towards their children.

Mothers may have personal problems, such as gambling addiction or alcohol dependency. These problems affect their behavior and emotions, causing them to show vicious behavior towards their children.

Vicious behavior is not a mother's nature. It is the result of a combination of factors.

Once we understand the mother's reasons, we can then resolve the relationship between you and your mother and family.

Remain calm and rational when communicating with your mother. Avoid emotional reactions; they will only make the situation worse.

Be honest about how you feel about your mother's behavior. Use "I" language to describe your emotions, such as "I feel hurt" or "I feel disappointed."

This will help her understand your position better.

Give your mother the opportunity to express her views and feelings. Understand her position and motives. This will help you communicate and understand each other better.

If your mother's behavior is causing you harm or is inappropriate, you have every right to set personal boundaries and not ignore your emotions and needs.

Finally, I want you to tell me where you think your mother's reactions come from when you feel helpless and driven crazy. Think back to any misunderstandings or emotional entanglements you've had with your mother, or any actions on your part that triggered negative emotions.

If there are, communicate and resolve them immediately.

You have every right to protect your physical and mental health. Communicating with family members can be a complex process, but you can work to improve your relationship with your mother or ensure your own well-being and safety by taking positive action and seeking appropriate support.

Let me be clear: mothers want the same thing as you do—to make each other happy. But there are other issues at play.

I love you, and I wish you happiness!

Hopefully, my answer can be of some help to you.

From what you've said, it seems like there's some conflict between you and your parents, as well as some inner anger towards them. You're hoping that they can find a way out, but after you've confided in them about your problems, you've brought up a lot of issues from your original family. The truth is, when we learn about our original family and understand our past, it's not to make our parents change, nor to be sad about the past.

It's tough to change, but we can't change our parents. But we can change ourselves. We can't change the past, but we can change how we think about it.

My advice to you is:

1. Work through the different feelings you have towards your parents. It's important to let go of any pent-up emotions and transform them, otherwise they'll continue to affect you in the same way.

You said you used to be a dutiful daughter and obey everything, thinking they were right. This shows you used to suppress your own needs and emotions to satisfy theirs. These emotions and needs you suppressed have actually been there the whole time; they haven't disappeared. You need to see them and channel and transform them in some reasonable way. There are many ways to do this. For example, you can find a matching psychological counselor for counseling, channel emotions and adjust cognition through psychological counseling, and gain inner growth. You can also find a listener on the platform to talk to. When you can pour out your inner emotions and feelings, that is

There are lots of ways to do this. For example, you can find a counselor who's a good match for you. Through counseling, you can release emotions, adjust your perception, and gain inner growth. You can also find a platform to talk to a listener. When you can express your inner emotions and feelings, it has a very good healing effect. You can also express these repressed emotions and feelings through writing. Writing is also a very good way to release emotions. If you persist in writing, your inner being will become more and more relaxed. The empty chair technique is also good: find a safe space and time, put an empty chair in a safe room, and pretend that the person you want to talk to is sitting in that chair. You can talk to the person in the chair (for example, your mother), whether it's abuse, frustration, or sadness...you can express it all.

2. You can try to express your true feelings and needs to your parents, but first, we need to adjust our expectations of them. We should communicate on the basis of acceptance and understanding, without judgment or blame.

We express our feelings and needs to our parents, not to ask them to solve our problems for us. After all, they don't have the ability to solve problems. Otherwise, they wouldn't have treated you the way they did, right? This is their limitation. We need to see that our parents are not perfect beings. They were also treated this way by their parents when they were young, so they will only treat you in this way. However, if you can change, this pattern can be terminated from you and enter a new cycle.

If we really want to communicate well with our parents, we first need to accept that they are just the way they are. Why are they the way they are? It's because of their own upbringing, educational background, family factors, etc. They can't change immediately if we want them to. In fact, it's difficult for us to change them if they don't want to change. As it says in "A Brick of a Thought," there are only three things in this world: one's own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of Heaven.

People get troubled because they don't control their own affairs. They worry about other people's affairs and the affairs of heaven. Our parents' affairs are other people's affairs. If we keep wanting them to live for a hundred years, then we'll be troubled.

We need to adjust our expectations of them. They're not what we expect them to be; they're just what they are. This will help you feel much more relaxed. When you accept and understand them, and don't judge or blame them, you'll be better able to express your needs and feelings, as well as theirs.

Maybe they won't change, but at least you'll feel better and get your message across.

I suggest reading the book Nonviolent Communication, which can help you communicate more effectively with your parents.

3. Learn to be your own inner parent. Parents have limitations. They can't give us what they don't have, but you have what you want within you.

Absolutely. We need to stop expecting our parents to be something they're not. A person's true independence begins when they learn to be their own inner parents, and a person's true freedom also begins when they start being their own inner parents.

So, what does it mean to be your own inner parent? It basically means treating yourself the way you would expect your parents to treat you: with understanding, care, support, acceptance, recognition, and warmth. Of course, you also need to take full responsibility for yourself, for your body, your emotions, and your choices.

Our inner being is complete and self-sufficient. You have all the mental nourishment you need. Just feel it. And practice it!

I suggest you read the books The Power of Self-Care and Embrace Your Inner Child.

You can find more information here. Best regards,

Hello, questioner! I'm Jiang 61.

First of all, thank you for trusting us and being willing to tell us your questions so that we can provide answers. You ask, "How can a cruel mother communicate with her family?"

"After reading your introduction and understanding your family situation and personal circumstances, we will discuss your questions together.

1. Introduction

1⃣️, Family situation

You said, "When I'm at my wit's end with depression and family problems, I come home and think that my parents will have the answer. I pour out my problems to them.

My father's blame game brought out a lot of problems in my original family. He was a bit old-fashioned, as I later found out, and he indiscriminately blamed my mother for these problems and brought her down. Then she unleashed her attacks on me. This was their usual approach: my father put family pressure on my mother, and she passed it on to me.

My mother was insane. She used the same methods I used to describe my husband's mental abuse, non-stop. It drove me crazy and made me leave. She didn't care. She was capable of anything except murder when she was unhappy. At one point, I even wondered if my mother was crazy.

Dad

Your father refuses to take responsibility. He always blames your mother for any problem. His solution is to beat her up.

Mom,

After feeling aggrieved, Mum won't confront Dad. Instead, she takes out her dissatisfaction on you, who have a lower status and less power in the family. She constantly cries to you and mentally abuses you.

You.

From your description, it's clear you're the weakest person in the family and the recipient of their emotions. You can no longer deflect or output. This is why you've been depressed before, driven crazy, and just walked away.

Your mother doesn't care about you either.

2⃣️, changes

I went to a friend's place later and my energy was distracted, so I didn't think about it anymore. She still kept sending me abusive messages on communication tools whenever she seemed to remember it, trying to provoke me in disguise. She said things like my husband and I were like country women who had found a treasure, and that I had a big villa in the countryside, while my husband was German and we had a house abroad before. I blocked her, and after that, she didn't mention these things again. I just forgot about it. I used to be a filial daughter who obeyed everything and felt that they were right, and I spent many years in a lot of pain.

I have recently noticed a significant shift in my personality. I have become noticeably malicious. There is undoubtedly something wrong with me, and I openly curse my mother in my heart. In the past, I was merely sad, thinking that she didn't understand me. Now that she has changed like this, I am certain that there is still a lack of communication between me and my family. I refuse to engage in futile discussions with my mother about how wrong she is, because she is indifferent to my feelings. I am prepared for her to provoke me again."

Slander

You've blocked contact with your mother to avoid further conflicts and prevent her from disparaging you in front of others.

There are communication difficulties.

After that, your mother did not mention the past, but you could never forget it. Your state of mind changed a lot. You hated them, complained about them, and cursed them in your heart.

They also can't communicate anymore. They know what their mother did was wrong, but they don't know how to tell her nicely.

2. Causes of expression difficulties

1⃣️, emotional isolation

Emotional isolation is a fact.

Emotional isolation is the result of children in the family system using various strategies to resist integration and seek independence. They may leave the family location and live elsewhere, maintaining a spatial distance from the family. They may also avoid communication with their parents and build a mental barrier. Alternatively, they may use self-deception to cut off actual contact with the family and convince themselves that they have broken free from the family's bonds.

The impact is clear.

The questioner is currently using the emotional communication barriers caused by emotional isolation. This is because expression is a way to express emotional feelings. When the emotional system is blocked, the ability to organize language decreases. This means that they do not know how to express themselves to the other person.

2⃣ Psychological defense mechanism

This is a psychological defense mechanism.

A psychological defense mechanism is an adaptive tendency that an individual has when facing frustrating or conflict-ridden situations. It is a conscious or unconscious way to relieve worries and reduce inner anxiety in order to restore psychological balance and stability. It refers to the self's repression of the id, which is a completely subconscious self-defense function of the self.

Shirking is a form of self-defense. It allows you to avoid taking responsibility for your own shortcomings by blaming them on someone else.

Let's be clear: shirking is a self-defensive mechanism. It's a way of avoiding personal responsibility for shortcomings or failures by blaming them on someone else. Your parents used this tactic to maintain their own peace of mind.

They blame others for their mistakes and make you bear their negative emotions, which you cannot eliminate. They isolate their emotions in response to their mother's shirking of responsibility.

3⃣, The influence of the original family

Your original family

From your description, it is clear that your father was often the one being blamed in your original family. He shifted the blame onto your mother and avoided taking responsibility for his mistakes. This was the influence of his original family.

Your mother was unable to rebel against her strong-willed parents in her original family life, so she transferred her resentment to others. In her new family, she chose you, who was weaker than she, to vent her dissatisfaction at you as an emotional substitute to achieve psychological balance.

There's a lack of communication.

It is clear that when your parents encounter problems, they avoid communication entirely. Instead, they deflect blame onto others, which is an ineffective and unproductive approach. This hinders your ability to communicate and resolve relationship issues with them, leading to resentment.

3. Any solution to problems and conflicts

1⃣️、Understand your parents.

Understand your parents.

The behaviors that cause parents to appear in your original family are not new. They are the result of the parenting style of their original family. We understand their past and the unintentional harm they have caused you.

Let go of your prejudices against them and your resentment. Live a carefree life.

Professional counseling is the solution.

You have already resolved the harm caused to you by your original family through counseling. It is possible that we have taken on too much in terms of understanding and sorting out family issues. If possible, you should also involve your parents, as this will be more beneficial for you to resolve family issues.

2⃣ Effective communication

Effective communication is key.

Communication is the exchange of information. It is the entire process of conveying a message to a communication partner in the hope of eliciting a desired response. If this process is achieved, effective communication is complete.

Verbal and non-verbal messages are both part of communication. It is the non-verbal part that often has the greatest impact. Effective communication is essential for dealing with family relationships and complex social relationships.

Effective communication is key.

Effective communication involves four steps:

Step 1: Express your feelings, not your emotions.

Step 2: Express what you want, not what you don't want. Make it clear that you are angry, not that you are angry about expressing it.

Step 3: Express your needs, not your complaints. Don't make the other person guess what you want.

Step 4: Express the direction you want to go, not the problems you're facing. Focus on the end result, not the obstacles in your way.

We can and should communicate effectively with our mothers. We can tell them what we want to say to them in a chat. Our mothers may resist at first, but that's natural. We understand that their resistance is a defense mechanism to protect themselves. As long as we don't use emotional or accusatory language, our mothers won't feel hostility from us and will slowly accept this way of communication.

Time changes people.

Time changes people's thinking. After many years, my mother has reflected on her past behavior and realized that her way of getting along with people was inappropriate and caused them harm.

My mother was also a very strong person in the past. She often blamed us for her mistakes, easily transferring her bad moods to us and not allowing us to explain or argue. We were very self-deprecating, lacked confidence, and were prone to anxiety.

Many years later, I talked to her about the past, and she finally admitted that she also sometimes reflects on herself and feels that she has not done everything right and has also made mistakes. That was enough.

I understood the difficulty of her bringing us up and let go of all my resentment towards her. I also believe that people can change.

3⃣️, Emotion management

Good emotional management is crucial for handling your emotions, family relationships, intimate relationships, and interpersonal relationships. Emotion management is:

You must recognize your emotions.

This is the first step in emotion management. You must recognize what kind of emotion you are experiencing, such as anxiety, anger, sadness, etc.

Accept the emotion.

Healthy emotions are in line with reality. When your feelings align with what's happening, the first step is to tell yourself, "This is normal." This is called accepting your emotions.

This will decrease emotional tension and return inner peace.

Express your emotions.

Emotional expression is about expressing your own emotions. It's about speaking from the heart. The subject is "I." You often use "I...," "My feelings..."

Cultivate your emotions.

You can cultivate and practice emotion management in the following ways:

1) Living a regular life will stabilize your emotions.

2) Develop a hobby to keep your emotions positive, love yourself and love life, and feel the beauty of life.

3) Care for and look after others. Let love dwell in your heart. Helping others is the greatest joy. Help people help themselves.

4) Connect with nature, embrace the essence of heaven and earth, and open your heart to experience soothing and stabilizing emotions.

5) Make executive friends and spend time with emotionally stable people. This will help you to reduce emotional interference and fluctuations.

Questioner, the problems of the original family will hurt everyone. We must think deeply about and solve the issue of how to deal with the harm caused by the original family. The questioner gradually solves the problem through counseling, which is the right way and worth advocating.

I wish the questioner a happy life!

Hello!

Dealing with a difficult mother is tough. It can make communication with family members even more complicated and painful. Here are some suggestions that may be helpful:

Stay calm. No matter how intense or unreasonable the mother's behavior is, it's important to remain calm and rational. Don't let her emotions get the best of you. Otherwise, you may find yourself in an even more difficult situation.

Try different ways of communicating. Apart from face-to-face, you can try communicating with her over the phone, via text message, or by writing a letter. Sometimes, communicating without face-to-face contact may make the other person more relaxed and willing to listen to your thoughts.

Pick a good time: Find a time that's convenient for her, and make sure she's not too busy or emotional. If she's dealing with some issues or mood swings, you might want to wait a bit before talking to her.

Avoid accusatory or aggressive language when communicating with your mother. Instead, express your feelings and needs in a positive way.

This can make conversations more pleasant and constructive.

If your other family members know about the problem and are willing to help, you can talk to them and ask for their support. They might be able to offer different perspectives and suggestions to help you cope better with motherhood.

Above all, don't give up on yourself. You can still find ways to live in harmony with your family through positive efforts, even though there will undoubtedly be difficulties and challenges along the way.

You've got this! Keep at it and you'll get through this rough patch. Best of luck!