How to confront conflicts directly and make my wife understand me, instead of avoiding them habitually?

Good day, question asker. I can see the confusion you are facing, so I extend my support.

How do you express yourself to your wife when you have a difference of opinion?

Please confirm whether you began the sentence with the word "you."

Starting a sentence with "you" can convey a sense of rejection to your wife.

In the future, when expressing your opinion, you may wish to consider starting with the word "I."

For example, "I believe your ideas are also well-founded. You have identified points that I had not considered. Going forward, we should communicate more effectively and strive to resolve any differences in a peaceful manner."

It is also advisable to select a time when both parties are in a calm frame of mind when communicating with your wife.

If you find that your wife is more negative on the day you want to communicate with her, you can try to express it like this: "I was also very busy at work today and I'm very tired, so let's discuss our differences tonight on another day, okay?"

I am optimistic that a solution to the problem you are facing will be reached soon.

I hope these suggestions are helpful.

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Hello, questioner!

We've all been there. When faced with conflict and contradiction, you feel resentful and angry. You might even choose to remain silent and avoid the situation. This can leave you feeling tired and worn out. Understandably, you cherish the relationship and don't want to hurt it with arguments. You're afraid that conflict will destroy your relationship and that you'll lose her love.

But backing down doesn't get you what you want, and it makes the problem worse, which makes you feel frustrated and powerless.

It's totally understandable to want to avoid conflict. It shows that you're a tolerant person who is trying to maintain the relationship. Take a deep breath and try to relax. There may be other reasons why you're avoiding conflict.

Then, find a good time to sit down with her and have a calm, honest conversation about how you're feeling and what you need. It seems like you're avoiding the issue because you're worried about hurting her feelings, but in the long run, this avoidance is actually hurting you and your relationship.

Let her know that you'd really appreciate her understanding and support, and that you'd love for her to work with you to find a better way of communicating.

At the same time, you also need to listen to her and try to understand her point of view and feelings. Communication is a two-way street, and it's so important to really listen to each other. You need to understand her, and she needs to understand you.

It might take a little time, patience, and courage, but as long as you have the same goal, you'll definitely be able to find a solution to the problem and make your relationship even stronger and happier!

It's also helpful to think about what makes it easier to reach an agreement when you're communicating well. We can learn from this! When conflict arises again, it's a great idea to remind yourself and the other person sincerely that you hope you can work together to find a solution that's good for both of you.

I really hope this helps! Sending love to you and the world! Take care!

To resolve conflicts, you must grow and change together with her. Learn to truly love others and correct your energy field so you can have a loving and suitable relationship. Don't let the other person satisfy you emotionally. Consider their feelings.

To truly love others is to wish and give them happiness. This must be done for everyone, the outstanding, the ordinary, and even the weak. You must mentally accept and approve, or let go of the ego to forgive and be forgiving. You must correct mistakes or shortcomings if possible. Everyone has the right to happiness. People can bring each other spiritual comfort and even joy. It is good to love and approve of others and oneself. You must tolerate shortcomings and lack of perfection. You must be kind at heart. This means being beneficial to others or society.

If you don't get along with most people, it will lead to negative energy and negative emotional problems. You must truly love others, adapt to people and things, and correct your energy field to be more likely to find and have a loving and suitable relationship and career. You can also share and exchange what you see, hear, think, and feel or your interests and hobbies, including books, movies, and music, etc., with others in real life and on the Internet, such as Douban communities.

Love your life and be content with the small things.

Negative energy affects your health. Keep your body comfortable and healthy with a full body massage, a head massage including the forehead and face (which also has meridians), a deep and forceful massage with your hands, a massage comb for the head, and avoid pressing on your stomach on an empty stomach. Then, take a walk.