How to cope when a superior dislikes taking action but can provide useful advice?

After reading your question, I feel that you actually have both a psychological imbalance with your superior and a rational view that he has indeed helped you in a beneficial way. This is great!

Let's start with the good stuff! He helps you identify problems, and they're all helpful.

This is great! It shows that your superior still has a good grasp of the business. And the point he has seized on is precisely the area you have overlooked.

From your expression, I can tell that you absolutely love this part of him. I can see in your approval the qualities that made you an excellent doctor!

Let's talk about what bothers you. Your biggest discomfort is that everyone is a resident, and they are all peers, so why does he have to point out what you've done when he doesn't do any work?

I think it's totally normal for you to feel a little uncomfortable. What usually causes greater conflicts in the workplace is when everyone is similar, because we are in a competitive relationship.

But at the same time, there is a lot of work to be done together! The workload is there, and if he doesn't do it, you have the chance to step up and take on more.

I know it can be tough when you're busy and don't have time to stop, but I'm sure you'll be able to handle it! After all, you're an excellent doctor and I'm sure you'll be able to rise to the occasion.

I totally get it! In fact, many newcomers in the workplace are going through something similar.

It's really just a matter of first come, first served. And guess what? Your superior is actually quite nice!

He is willing to teach you the ropes! What's even more annoying is that some people don't do any work, they don't care about you, and then shirk their responsibilities.

Your junior position is actually pretty good compared to those people!

And there's another rule in the workplace that no one talks about but which does exist: seniority. In layman's terms, it means that he came first and did the work first, and even if he didn't get the credit, he also had hard work.

You have to work hard to get ahead, and it'll all be worth it in the end! As a latecomer to the workplace, you'll have to endure this period of hardship, but it'll be worth it.

And when new people come and you have also gained some seniority, you can stop suffering like this!

I really hope this helps! And don't forget, the world and I love you!

Hello! I'll give you a 360-degree hug!

It's evident that you're a bit surprised by your superior's concern. From your description, it's clear you've learned something from your interaction with him.

But you don't like it when he points out your mistakes. I think you probably have a question in your heart: Why?

I'm so excited to hear why you're pointing out my mistakes!

And you said that you are on the same level as him, but he has more experience. In fact, this situation is very common, which means there's plenty of room for growth and learning!

It's so common in the workplace! When a new person arrives, the leader will often ask an experienced person to show them the ropes. Everyone is on the same level, but the other person has the experience, so the leader may say, "Show him the ropes." Then I was in the workplace, I showed others, and I was shown the ropes by others!

I totally get it!

But just imagine for a second that someone else, someone in a higher position than you, were to give you advice. Would you be able to accept that? Would you benefit from their advice?

So you may not care about him pointing you out, and you also say that his pointing out is helpful to you. It's great that he's pointing it out because it means he's aware of it and wants to help. It could be because of his attitude or because it was supposed to be equal. Either way, it's a great opportunity for us to learn and grow together!

Actually, there's another way of looking at this. Our goal is to learn something new and exciting!

So, is there a difference between being coached by someone at our level and someone at a higher level? It seems that there is not much difference for us in learning, which is great news!

Of course, it's totally understandable to feel this way. We've all been there! It can be really uncomfortable going to someone at the same level as you for guidance, especially if they say something negative. You might even worry that if he keeps giving you instructions like that, you'll end up forming an invisible superior-subordinate relationship.

So in this situation, there may be nothing you can do. You can't say, "Don't give me pointers, because you really need his pointers." I think in the workplace, it may be difficult to go to your boss and say, "Give me someone else to give me pointers."

So at this time, I suggest you keep your eye on your goal! What is your goal?

Your goal is to make your residency a little better, so that you can learn more and become independent as soon as possible. And you can do it!

Focus on your goal! Don't worry about how to achieve it. Your goal is what you learn, so there's no need to fret. The difference between this person and another is not that great.

In this situation, I would definitely not recommend bursting the bubble and voicing your dissatisfaction. If you really feel uncomfortable, you can say, "Well, I'll study hard and strive to one day surpass you and become your superior."

And there's another question: if he does all these things, you'll learn more slowly. But if he does them himself and stops giving you pointers, that would probably be a bigger loss for you.

The workplace is different from school. There is probably a period of time when you need to be disappointed, then adjust your emotions, remember your goals, and make the most of the people you can use. But don't worry! This is all part of the journey.

I am often a Buddhist and a pessimist, but I'm also an occasionally positive and motivated counselor! And I love you, world!

Hello! I totally get the workplace difficulties you're facing.

First of all, it's clear from your description that you're just starting out in your career. This is a great time to learn from more experienced colleagues! It's important to build trust quickly, so be sure to respond quickly and reliably to the needs of your colleagues.

It's so important to be able to execute things well at this stage.

Second, there are two mindsets to avoid in the early stages of your career. The first is being afraid of making mistakes.

If you keep putting things off, your leaders and colleagues will think you're lazy and not up to the job. We all know how important it is to make a good impression! The second thing is to take basic work lightly. Basic work is a window through which you can show yourself, and it is also a prerequisite for whether or not others are willing to cooperate with you. It reflects the most basic professionalism, so it's important to do it well!

It's a great chance for people to get to know you and see what you're all about. If you don't do a good job, it might give the impression that you're a bit unsteady, unmotivated, and not the best team player.

Finally, senior colleagues in the hospital are not just colleagues, they also have the observational function of leaders. For the performance of newcomers, leaders may not always know, and usually the channel they get the information is from senior colleagues. If this person also has the function of guiding your work, then it's probably best not to regard him as a peer. He's probably more of a teacher or leader, and that's perfectly fine!

He's not in a position of authority, but he's definitely got the skills! From what you've told me, it's also clear that he's still got it together and that he can help you out.

I really hope this helps!

Hello, question asker!

I saw your question on the platform and I'm excited to help! It seems like you and your superior have different approaches to work. You mentioned that since you started, your superior has stopped writing medical records and has been playing with his phone after checking the rooms and recording the doctor's orders. He also doesn't come to the department in the afternoon, which has been a bit disappointing.

How do you view this relationship? How do you adjust your own state of mind to make it even better?

1. Learn to respect your superior!

The reason you dislike your superior is that, basically with the same title, he doesn't like to do things himself, but always likes to direct you, and is also very picky about many things, nitpicking over your medical records word for word. This is what you reject. But it cannot be denied that your superior is indeed more experienced than you and can catch many of your problems, and his advice is also quite correct. For this reason, you should usually respect your superior more and treat your relationship with an ordinary heart, which may make you feel much more balanced.

We may not like him as a person, but there's absolutely no need to resent his successful experience! After all, the reason why a person is a superior is because they have outstanding abilities. So, there's no reason to ignore the advice of a superior just because you don't like him!

2. Avoid direct conflict.

We all know that it is very bad to "focus on the issue rather than the person" and have conflicts in the workplace. But, there's no need to fret! Conflicts with others due to one's own willfulness really have a very bad impact and can only show that you do not have enough ability to handle workplace relationships.

No matter how much you dislike this superior, you should definitely try to avoid direct conflict and always leave a little room for things. Otherwise, in the end, you are the one who suffers. So, try your best to avoid that!

3. It's important to keep your personal and professional lives separate.

When you encounter a leader you don't like, there's no need to fret! Just talk about work-related matters in normal times and try to reduce contact as much as possible. You can also reduce a lot of unnecessary unpleasantness by doing your part.

4. Hone yourself

Always remain humble. You will definitely experience various setbacks on your career path, and you will encounter many problems that you cannot solve on your own. But don't worry! You can easily overcome these challenges by opening yourself up, adopting a low profile, and learning from experienced colleagues or superiors. If you don't understand something, just ask. If you don't know how to do something, just learn. This mentality will make you more stable and down-to-earth, and your abilities in all aspects will be greatly improved!

I really hope my answer helps! I love you all so much, and I'm sending you all lots of love and positive energy! ??

Hello!

Let me explain. Your colleagues' work habits are the reason you feel mentally oppressed and uncomfortable in the current workplace environment. So, it's time for a change! You and your colleagues can work together to make positive adjustments.

In other words, it's not about the questioner, it's about the colleague!

I'm excited to sort out my relationship with my superior and my own state of mind!

I'm thrilled to be working in the medical industry and am currently in the first year of a three-year residency program. My supervisor has just finished his residency, so to speak, and we are both residents. He has three more years of work experience than I do, which is great because it means he has a lot more knowledge and experience to share with me!

Since I started, my supervisor has made some changes. After checking the rooms and recording the doctor's orders, he now has more time to play with his phone in the afternoon. But he still pays close attention to every word in my medical records. When a new patient comes in, he doesn't go to the consultation room right away. He's very critical when I finish seeing the patient and write the doctor's orders, but I appreciate his attention to detail!

However, he really helped me identify a lot of problems. During one consultation, I overlooked the fact that the patient had a history of coronary heart disease, and it was he who asked me about it. During the filing of one medical record, the informed consent form for surgery was missing, and it was he who found it.

While colleagues play an important role in checking work and taking care of certain aspects, thereby improving work efficiency, they are not given the right to arrange for others to do things and give instructions on everything. This is a great opportunity for us to take control of our work and make it our own! Unfortunately, some colleagues cross the line and interfere with our work process, making us feel inappropriate and anxious. But we can take responsibility for our work and make sure we're not affected by their actions.

"When weighing two evils, choose the lesser of the two." Faced with the power of oppression, as adults, we have the incredible opportunity to make choices that are right for us without being limited by it. However, this choice will inevitably bring pain. For example, perhaps there will be less scrutiny from colleagues, which will increase the probability of making mistakes. But this is the pain of growth, and avoiding it will prevent us from truly growing.

1. Talk about the problem and work together to find a solution!

It's great to see colleagues using their "seniority" to elevate their status! Some people just love arranging for others to do things. But, of course, this isn't always in line with the rules. Rules are formed by systems. If individuals can change the rules, then the system is useless. Individuals cannot adjust their own positioning to adapt to the collective.

The pressure at work is not caused by individual factors, but by the problems of colleagues or unreasonable systems. This is your chance to express your own ideas and let the real bearers of the problem take responsibility! The first step is to give the problem to the person in charge (the real superior) to deal with it and redistribute the workload. Don't worry about putting friendship first. Work is the first need, and the mutual understanding and friendly coexistence formed by the group come second!

2. Take responsibility for yourself and be principled!

As a newcomer in the workplace, when encountering unfairness, I often choose to compromise because I feel inferior and weak psychologically. In fact, this just encourages an unreasonable atmosphere, allowing those who are used to shirking responsibility to continue to act arbitrarily. But there is a better way! The appropriate approach is to stand up for your principles, have a sense of boundaries at work, and when encountering unreasonable and unfair treatment, promptly express your thoughts and difficulties and refuse bravely in order to better develop yourself.

In most companies, there's a great tradition of senior employees mentoring newcomers. This is a wonderful way to share knowledge and help new colleagues settle in. But what if it's not mentoring? What if newcomers are unfamiliar with many work processes and colleagues are intentionally holding them back? This is something we should ask about.

3. Reflect on yourself and maintain an ordinary state of mind.

Work is a great way to challenge yourself and grow! It gives you the chance to discover your strengths and weaknesses, see where you can improve, and become a more confident and capable person. You can become a better version of yourself by taking on new challenges, developing your skills, and learning to handle problems effectively. Work is a fantastic opportunity to become a more mature and responsible person, while also learning to let go of negative thoughts and embrace a positive mindset. So, go out there and make the most of your work experience!

All right, let's do this! I'm rooting for you!

Hello, question asker! It seems that you are very dissatisfied with your superior's behavior of "not doing anything but finding fault." It seems that you are angry, but sometimes he can really get to the heart of the matter, so you are a bit torn. I can see that you have a lot of mixed feelings about this. It's totally normal to feel this way! I'm here to help you figure out the best way forward.

I'm excited to share some of my own thoughts in the hope that they will inspire you!

First, look at your dissatisfaction: the reason I don't like what he said is that "we're both at the same level, so why are you pointing out my mistakes when you don't do your own work?" This involves work boundaries and work attitude.

One, the boundaries of work: we are both at the same level, so why don't you take the lead and do some of the work yourself?

I'm not sure about the specifics of the hospital's workings or the division of responsibilities between you and your superior. Do you write medical orders and receive patients? It would be great if he could also receive patients and write them, rather than you receiving patients and writing them, and him examining them. In the text, you also call him your superior. Is there a potential rule in the hospital that, although you are of equal rank, he, as an old employee, does have a bit of a "privilege" and can give things like writing medical orders and receiving patients to the newcomer to do? You can observe the situation in other teams and talk to people in other teams. If it is a common situation, your mentality may relax a bit. If it is not common, you can try transferring to another team, talking to your superior, and reporting it to the director, etc., but this may damage your relationship with him.

You can also stay put for now, improve your abilities, and accumulate contacts at the hospital. When you are strong enough, you can seek an adjustment—and who knows what amazing opportunities that will bring you!

Second, his attitude towards your work: We are both at the same level, so what makes you qualified to give me advice?

You have doubts about this person's ability to give you advice. Do you not approve of his rank or his ability?

For example, imagine a person with a higher rank than you, but who may have been promoted through leadership, is giving you pointers. Or picture a newcomer who has also been in training for a year but is very capable and points out key issues. Which would you find more acceptable?

From your description, it seems like you were upset not because he was looking for problems, but because of his critical attitude. It's great that you're so thorough when writing doctor's orders after a consultation!

You are peers (although you call him your superior), which means you don't have to accept his authority. His strength doesn't make you feel inferior to him (it's only three years of experience). With this mentality, you may not respect him enough (not the attitude towards a superior), and he senses this attitude. He wants to prove that you are wrong by finding your mistakes, so that you will obey him. In the process of "picking on" him, you may feel that he is deliberately picking on you, and his words may suppress and belittle you.

This further stimulated your dissatisfaction and resentment.

If you want to break out of this cycle, you can do it! What can you do at each stage to make it happen?

For example,

Unconvinced:

He is my superior, and I don't want to damage my relationship with him, so I put on a mask of a social person and give him more respect.

Look at the parts he did that you couldn't do. There's definitely something worth learning!

Let's dive into the "pick fault" session!

When picking on the right things, he did avoid my mistakes and helped me grow!

When picking on trivial matters, he just wants to prove his authority. Forget it! I'm too lazy to argue with him.

……………

And there are so many other tips and methods for calming your emotions!

I'm Consultant Chenjing, and I'm thrilled to share some tips that I hope will inspire you!

Good day!

I am a heart exploration coach, and I believe that learning is a valuable process.

From your description, I can sense that you may be experiencing some inner dissatisfaction, confusion, discomfort, and a sense of helplessness.

I won't delve into the specifics of the challenges you're facing in your relationships with your superiors. However, I'd like to offer three suggestions for your consideration:

If I might make a suggestion, it would be to figure out what the main purpose of your current job is.

I believe that the purpose of this work is directly related to how you handle your relationship with your superiors.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider grasping the main contradiction and making your relationship with your superior serve your work purposes. This could be a beneficial approach.

I believe that now, during your residency at the hospital, it would be beneficial to focus on gaining experience and developing your professional skills. In the future, as a doctor, you may wish to consider ways of serving patients well, including the possibility of promotion to a higher title. All of these things could be valuable to you.

I believe that once you understand this, you will be able to get along with your superiors more effectively.

Secondly, it might be helpful to try to understand your superiors from a benevolent perspective, with the aim of serving your own work at this stage.

As you mentioned in your description, while your superior may not be the hardest worker, he can still provide you with some valuable advice that could be beneficial to you.

Perhaps it would be helpful to focus on his positive qualities, as this could facilitate your own growth and development.

Perhaps it would be helpful to look for the strengths in him and try to learn from him with an open mind and a kind perspective.

While you and your colleague are both at the same level, it's important to recognize that he has three more years of work experience than you. This gap can be an opportunity for you to actively learn from him and gain valuable insights.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to learn to communicate in a way that is "firm without being hostile."

As I mentioned previously, I encourage you to view your superior from a more benevolent perspective and learn from him. At this point, you may feel that his inclination to correct you can be a bit uncomfortable. How should you handle this?

I would like to suggest that you consider learning to communicate in a way that is "firm without hostility." This would entail expressing your disagreement with what he says, rejecting his viewpoint, and maintaining a firm attitude, while avoiding any hostile actions.

If you find that he has pointed out something you feel is unpleasant about your work and that you perceive as a display of superiority, you could consider responding in a direct and honest manner. For instance, you might say, "I know you have more experience than me, and I'm eager to learn from you. However, I hope you won't always dismiss my contributions. I'm committed to learning and growing."

Over time, and with repeated communication, it is likely that he will begin to change his approach to speaking. Additionally, your relationship may evolve in a positive direction, as he will gain a deeper understanding of your sincerity and authenticity.

Even if he is a little upset that you have spoken back, as long as you don't have any hostile feelings, just get along with him as you normally would. This will help him to slowly come to understand you, and the relationship will not become strained.

I hope my answer is helpful. If you would like to discuss further, you are welcome to click on "Find a coach" at the bottom of the page, and I will be happy to communicate with you one-on-one.

Good day, my name is Qinx.

The issue you are currently facing is that your supervisor is not taking action, yet is consistently criticizing you while also providing guidance. You are caught between the necessity of your supervisor's guidance for your job performance and the desire for your supervisor to provide more support for your professional development. However, you are frustrated by the lack of attention your supervisor is giving to their duties.

The issue you are facing is:

Your relationship with your superior appears to be that of a superior and subordinate. However, you regard your superior as a colleague. This is because you believe that he has only three years more experience than you. Consequently, you believe that you will be the same as him in three years. This is an inaccurate assumption. Imagine if your superior is the leader of the hospital. Would you still compare with him?

It is important to recognize that your superior possesses a greater degree of experience, age, and knowledge, as well as a more comprehensive understanding of the work environment. While you will undoubtedly develop and grow in the next three years, your superior has been working for six years, making them a more seasoned professional. It is unnecessary to compare the two.

Issues with the supervisor:

While three years of experience is not a reason for neglecting duties, it is a reason for exercising freedom. However, the impact of his actions on his own performance must be considered. His work habits are subject to observation by colleagues and leaders. For example, he may be perceived as slow to advance, and patients may have reservations about his competence.

He is accountable for his own actions and performance, regardless of how you approach the situation.

As for his tendency to criticize your work, it may be that you are still learning the ropes. Don't worry about it, take your time, and believe that you can do it. It's also possible that because of his personality, he will be willing to nitpick the details, or be a bit more forceful. You can find an opportunity to explain your thoughts to him. Don't worry too much about it, after all, this is something you must go through in your work.

His pointing out of your shortcomings and offering of help and guidance indicates that he is not a bad person and does not have the mentality of a master who neglects his apprentice. Secondly, this is exactly what you should learn from him with an open mind.

I extend my sincerest apologies for the inadvertent clicking of the "send" button, which resulted from my failure to complete the editing process. Allow me to rephrase:

The question posed by the original poster is one that is frequently encountered in the workplace. Indeed, this question is a matter of perspective.

The questioner's primary concern is the discrepancy between the substantial workload assigned to you and the lack of corresponding effort from your supervisor. This can be interpreted from two distinct perspectives.

One issue pertains to the distribution of workload. The questioner believes that the number of tasks assigned to you is unfair.

However, we must consider another perspective. It is widely acknowledged that a physician's growth is contingent upon a substantial amount of clinical experience. This necessitates the examination of a considerable number of patients and the completion of a significant volume of clinical work. As a novice physician, this is precisely what you are currently lacking and urgently require.

1. The supervisor is assisting the trainee in accumulating clinical experience, while simultaneously assigning these tasks. Based on the description provided, the workload appears to be within the capacity of a single individual. This suggests that the supervisor could either share the workload or even complete the tasks independently, allowing the trainee to simply observe or engage in other activities. In this scenario, it is possible that the trainee may not gain the full benefit of the experience and opportunities for growth that would otherwise be available.

2. The adage "the more you do, the more mistakes you make" implies that when individuals engage in tasks, they cannot entirely eliminate the possibility of errors.

The probability of making mistakes is higher with increased activity, and problems are more likely to be identified. If the supervisor wishes to assist in identifying issues, he must first discover them. This can be achieved by allowing the trainee to undertake more tasks, thereby facilitating the identification of problems and the provision of guidance on their resolution.

Hello, question asker!

After reading your question, I am convinced that you are having a conversation with two different versions of yourself. One is the rational adult you (professional and logical), and the other is the emotional child-like you (upset and angry).

When they come out together and start talking, they can really confuse you and make you wonder how you should respond. OK, let's replace the word "correct" with "appropriate." The appropriate thing to do in this situation with my boss is...

"I need to feel better. How can I do that?"

My supervisor is our leader. The other person has reached that position, so they must have an advantage over us. Besides, she has three more years of seniority than you. How many more cases has she written than you during those three years?

He needs to gain more work experience. We counselors also need to accumulate case experience over time. The more cases you have, the more experienced you become.

From my perspective, the doctor's work is even more demanding. As you noted, he identified issues during your examination.

From your description, I can tell that you are grateful, recognize and admire this. At this time, it is undoubtedly the rational you who comes out to talk to you and tells you what happened.

It is clear from the text that my supervisor has stopped writing medical records. After checking the room and recording the doctor's orders, he just plays with his phone. He doesn't come to the department in the afternoon. But he pays attention to every word in my medical records. When a new patient comes in, he doesn't go to the consultation room first. When I finish the consultation and write the doctor's orders, he is very critical.

In these situations, you may feel that a voice of comparison is telling you, "Look, other people are better than you..." You may feel rejected, and it may make you angry and upset! If this is the case, you will find that it is not the other person's actions that make you angry, but the comparison that makes you feel that you are not being treated fairly. You may even ask yourself, "Why does he get to be lazy and pick on me?"

Then we can become self-aware and ask ourselves if this voice is always there and where it comes from.

In an adult state, we act rationally, not emotionally. This allows us to deal with the reality of what is happening here and now.

In this state, we can think, plan, decide, and act. We can act rationally and reasonably.

When a person is in a state of childhood, it is also called a state of low self-esteem. At this time, there will be a voice in the heart saying, "Hello, I am not good." In this state, people often think that they are not as good as the other person, and they are in the mindset of a victim, feeling that they are being bullied and treated unfairly. It seems as if the other person is looking for trouble. They often feel depressed (feeling like they are always controlled by others), anxious (feeling like they are not good enough, etc.).

We must ask ourselves: how do we respond?

Accept and find the benefits of doing so for you. This is how your supervisor does it: they examine your case, point out your shortcomings, reduce unnecessary doctor-patient disputes, and help us improve our professional skills.

Think about what you have learned from your supervisor. Which of these things do you already have?

What don't you have? If you learn it, how will it help you?

Put yourself in his shoes. He is the leader, and if something goes wrong, he must take responsibility, especially in such a highly charged environment as a doctor-patient dispute. He is strict with his subordinates because he is in charge. If he had another subordinate, he would treat him the same way.

As a leader, I would ask my subordinates to...

Observation: After working together for so long, there's never a time when he doesn't find fault with you. What did you do at that time?

This is how you avoided being picked on.

I am confident that my response will be of some help to you! Best regards!

From the outset, it is evident that the original poster has put forth a potential solution to the current issue and has demonstrated a commendable capacity for introspection.

I hope that the following sharing will be of some support to you, focusing as it does on two aspects you have mentioned as being of concern: sorting out relationships and your own state of mind.

1. Consider ways to clarify the nature of your relationship.

From what I can gather from your message, it seems that your relationship with your colleague is somewhat complex.

It would appear that both of you have the same professional title, namely "resident."

It would seem that there is a difference of three years in their work experience, and that he is referred to as your supervisor.

From what I can gather from your description, it seems that he is more like a "master" who provides guidance than a "supervisor" who leads you.

In an informal relationship, it can be challenging to navigate the complexities that arise.

It is also worth noting that the other party has three more years of work experience, which may provide them with a valuable perspective on the existing medical records.

Based on the above, you might consider the following approach:

1. Could you kindly clarify the relationship between the job title and the name of the supervisor?

Some of the rules and regulations of the unit are relatively clear, but there may be some flexibility when it comes to practical matters and people.

If you're uncertain about the suitability of your current work style, it might be helpful to inquire with the system and colleagues who have comparable experience about the unit's established norms in this area.

Gaining an understanding of the rules and content of this part may help you to deal with inner imbalance more effectively.

2. It may be helpful to communicate with your superior and try to understand his perspective in a calm conversation.

It's important to be careful when judging a person by their actions, as it can lead to making assumptions that may not be entirely objective. A colleague with three more years of experience than you might be thinking and feeling similarly to you when you first started your current position.

Non-aggressive "small talk" can be a useful way to gain insight into whether his style of work is a personal trait or a continuation of the tradition of his predecessor, or whether there might be a hidden agenda behind his seemingly laid-back attitude, while you seek advice or improve your relationship.

2. Consider adjusting your state of mind.

If we allow ourselves to consider the opinions and experiences of others, we may find that trying the above methods will help us to see things in a different light.

Furthermore, the medical profession is one that relies heavily on practical experience. I admire your decision to pursue this profession.

It is often the case that the starting point of the medical profession differs from what one might learn in textbooks. Instead, it involves honing one's craft through constant interaction with patients.

Inner imbalance Perhaps it would be helpful to consider this from another perspective. The "lazy" superior has provided you with an excellent opportunity to improve your professional skills, and you have been able to continuously improve your professional skills since the beginning of your career. This is a rare opportunity in itself.

If the other party over-delegates and requires your assistance with a wide range of tasks, it may be helpful to discuss this dynamic.

It might be beneficial to consider taking on more of this responsibility within a reasonable range. Such guidance could also be helpful in advancing your career.

I'm not trying to delve into the depths of human nature, but rather to offer a psychologist's perspective on the human heart. I wish you well.

To the angel in white:

I have great respect and admiration for the doctor, as well as for your own authenticity and ability to consider things from multiple perspectives. This is worthy of my highest praise!

You're right to be distressed by the finger-pointing of your "superiors." At the same time, you're also right to point out that many of the problems they're pointing out actually exist and seem to be beneficial to you. This is really rare! It takes a lot of wisdom to see the faults in others without denying their strengths, so I really respect you for having this ability.

You will always be fair in the way you do things, and you will be very impressive!

Everyone is born free and equal. All inequality is set within us. Inequality is a lie. Someone is bound to say something: "People are inherently unequal. We are born into different classes, with differences between the rich and the poor, between the beautiful and the ugly, between the short and the tall. Don't talk to me about equality!"

I do not deny that these feelings exist objectively. Let me be clear, though: being short does not cause harm to society.

You feel inferior because you believe you are inferior to others. You compare yourself to others!

Stop comparing yourself to others. This is what we call a sense of inferiority.

Low self-esteem comes from comparing yourself with others and setting yourself against them. This is a hostile relationship.

The solution to the problem of inferiority is simple: stop comparing yourself to others and start treating them as partners. Remember, you're discussing a specific issue, and he's pointing out your flaws because of that issue, not because you're in a lower position than him. Think this way, and you can confidently refute his inappropriate way of speaking without attacking him personally.

You are equals! You must maintain friendly and cooperative relations!

I know it's difficult, but I will try my best to do so! I hope you will do the same. Don't let yourself be bothered by such problems. Continue to save lives and help the sick. This is more important in my opinion, and it must be more important to you too!

You deserve to be released from your troubles and to help more patients!

You are respected by someone who cares about you deeply.