How to cope with continuous discomfort, loss of motivation, and lack of focus at work?

Hello! I hope you know that you are in my thoughts and I am sending you a warm hug from afar.

I can sense your confusion, helplessness, and sense of powerlessness in this moment. At the same time, I can also perceive your inner inferiority, lack of confidence, and lack of acceptance of yourself from your description.

It may be helpful to allow and accept all of your current emotions and feelings, while understanding that behind any emotional feelings may be hidden unmet expectations and needs. You might consider trying to get along with these uncomfortable emotional feelings and explore the needs hidden behind the emotions.

One way to gain insight into your emotions is to keep an emotional diary. This can help you become aware of the underlying needs that drive your emotions and, in turn, find more effective ways to respond to and meet those needs.

It is often the case that having a fulfilling career, good interpersonal relationships and being in a foreign country are all important for a person's physical and mental health. These factors can help to alleviate feelings of loneliness and provide a sense of connection to loved ones who may be far away. From your description, it seems that this aspect of your life has been lacking for some time. It is possible that you may have experienced feelings of confusion, helplessness, loneliness and a sense of powerlessness. Without any external resources to support you, you may have had to face and adapt to life in a foreign country through your own efforts, especially in a job that did not align with your interests, while also dealing with a low mood.

This is the main reason why you may wish to consider ending this life of loneliness immediately. What are your thoughts on this?

It's important to remember that in order to gain something, you may have to give up something else. While quitting your job might temporarily make it challenging to support yourself financially, staying in a job you dislike and not being able to concentrate on your work might not be the best use of your time and energy. While work is not the only aspect of life that matters, if it's not bringing you the fulfillment you desire and you're not actively seeking new opportunities, it might be worth considering making a change.

If you are willing to consider letting go of what does not align with your needs, you may find that there are other options that are more suitable for you.

It might be helpful to consider what you are really afraid of behind the feeling that you will be ashamed to return to your home country. For example, you might be afraid of being disliked, rejected, laughed at, compared, and longing for acceptance and affirmation. It's possible that you are worried about the external gaze and evaluation of others, which could be a manifestation of your internal inferiority complex. What others say is not something you can decide, and it might be an emotional projection of your inability to accept yourself for not doing well in a foreign country. It doesn't necessarily mean that other people will reject you. It's also worth noting that everyone has their own things to do, and no one will care about you that much.

It might also be helpful to remember that, while your parents care about your well-being and happiness, other people are often more concerned with your external achievements. Your life is your own, and you are the best judge of whether you are happy. It can be beneficial to compare yourself with who you were yesterday, rather than focusing on comparisons with others.

At the same time, it would be beneficial to learn to accept yourself completely, cultivate self-confidence, and enhance your sense of self-worth. It may be helpful to avoid defining and evaluating yourself by what you do.

It is possible to identify areas for improvement, as well as strengths and talents. Developing a broader range of interests and passions can help to gain more control over one's life.

One way to cultivate confidence and enhance a sense of self-worth is to keep a diary.

It might be helpful to accept the possibility that you will need your parents' full financial and practical support for a certain period of time after returning home. At the same time, it's important to understand that you are not "biting the hand that feeds you," because people who do so may not realize that they are doing it. You may just need the financial and emotional support of your parents and family for a while, because family (parents) is often a person's strongest support and support when they are most vulnerable. When a person feels unconditionally accepted, supported and loved from their family, they may find the confidence to deal with any difficulties.

My name is Lily, and I'm one of the listeners at the Q&A Center. I believe that the world and I have a special connection.

Hello, question asker!

I'll give you a big hug from across the room to comfort your anxious, restless, and exhausted heart!

Let's start by looking at the things that are making you feel anxious in this difficult situation.

First, being in a foreign country without the support of friends and family can really make you feel lonely and isolated.

Secondly, you're in a job you don't particularly enjoy, which is really taking its toll on you. Despite your zest for life and your work, you're feeling the strain.

Third, you're planning to return to China, but you have a lot of concerns, like visa issues and feeling guilty for not wanting to rely on your parents.

Fourth, the confusion about the future and the lack of a life and career plan make it even harder for you to cope.

I'm not sure if you're a girl or a guy, but either way, I'm here for you!

From what I can see, you're a person with a strong sense of responsibility and your own life goals.

It's totally normal to feel anxious and exhausted when your interests and career don't align.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I really feel for you. The main reason is...

How can we help you break through this deadlock?

First, it would be really great if you could try to find a Chinese community in your work environment and make some Chinese friends who can support each other.

This will really help to give you lots of emotional support and take away some of that anxiety caused by loneliness.

Also, don't be afraid to call your friends and family to talk things over. They're always there for you, and they'll be happy to help!

Second, when faced with work you don't like, you may need to think in reverse, which can really enhance your living space and abilities!

Even if you end up going back to China one day, it'll be a great addition to your resume!

Once again, try to plan your life. If you want to quit your current job, what do you need to do to make that happen?

What can you do to make your future brighter?

Also, since you love creative activities like music, literature, and art, you might want to try them in your free time.

Why not get a part-time job and see if you can make a name for yourself in the part you're best at?

You've got two great options here! You can either kill some time or you can prepare for the future.

And if you want to go back to your home country, think about how you can manage your life and work for more than two months.

Two months will fly by in no time! Make sure you do something that's good for your physical and mental health to fill some of the time gap.

I truly believe it's not difficult.

And one last thing!

No matter where you are, you have the love and support of your family and a strong, proud motherland behind you.

So, there's no need to worry about the future being full of catastrophic events, is there?

Come on, you can do it! Give it your best shot!

Hello, I'm Consultant Yao.

I'll always be here for you at Yi Xinli!