How to enhance emotional intelligence for smoother relationships with others?

If you want to have a smooth relationship with others, it's really important to understand the laws of interpersonal relationships. The golden rule of interpersonal relationships is: if you want others to treat you a certain way, you must treat yourself and others a certain way. In other words, if you want to gain the respect, trust, understanding, recognition and acceptance of others, you must first respect, trust, understand, recognize and accept the true self and others. If you want others not to bully or mock you, you must not bully or mock yourself and others.

It's also a good idea to be aware of your emotional feelings, especially when you feel uncomfortable. Do you want to express your uncomfortable feelings, or do you want to express what you want the other person to say or do? It's important to understand your true thoughts and needs, and then express them to the other person through appropriate verbal and behavioral means. If you don't know what to say, you can usually listen more and pay more attention to how others speak, especially how those with better interpersonal relationships speak and act.

Listen, watch, think, and speak more. If that doesn't work, you can practice verbal and behavioral expressions on your own when you have nothing to do. Practice makes perfect! You can try doing it in your interactions with others and see how they react. If you do all of this, I truly believe your emotional intelligence will naturally improve.

I just wanted to share my thoughts on this, in case they help you.

It is understandable to experience a certain degree of emotional discomfort when one is the subject of ridicule.

It is common for individuals to experience emotional responses when they are the subject of ridicule by others.

1. [Regarding emotions, being mocked will elicit a robust physiological response]

In regard to the typical mutual ridicule, it was previously possible to accept such interactions, but on this occasion, this was not possible, which may have resulted in the activation of a specific emotional memory.

It would be beneficial to attempt to recall the images that appeared in your mind before you became angry. What were the thoughts and ideas that you experienced at that time?

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether a similar voice has ever manifested previously.

To illustrate, I was once enraged when I overheard someone say, "Why don't you go to the front and just take advantage of the situation?" This prompted a profound surge of anger.

If, in response to a given situation, one experiences an intense emotional reaction, it is acceptable to acknowledge that such a response is a natural and instinctive bodily reaction, and that there is no inherent right or wrong in it.

If one can identify the anger, take a few deep breaths to calm oneself, and refrain from immediate emotional response, it may be helpful to remind oneself that this interaction may be limited to the game and does not necessarily indicate that the other person views one negatively or bullies one.

The image that emerges in my mind when I am angry or before I become angry is that of my mother pointing at me and reprimanding me, "Why don't you go...what's the use of hiding here!" I maintain my gaze averted and accept the lecture.

At that time, I experienced a profound sense of injustice, despair, and desolation. I was paralyzed by an overwhelming reluctance to act.

"These words may be present in one's consciousness, yet they remain unspoken and one is thus rendered inarticulate and constrained."

The reason for the intensity of emotions when making fun of someone is that past emotions and current emotions are superimposed on each other, thereby triggering and activating the emotional switch.

2. It is imperative to remember that self-criticism is to be avoided at all costs.

It is acceptable to have low emotional intelligence at this time, and it is also acceptable to be unable to perceive the intentions of others for the time being. The hearts of people are inherently unpredictable. It is challenging to understand our own minds, let alone the minds of others.

3. [Regarding high emotional intelligence]

High emotional intelligence is a skill that can be enhanced through deliberate practice.

The acquisition of this skill occurs at varying rates and necessitates a period of practice.

Similarly, some children are able to walk at 10 months of age, while others require additional time to achieve this skill.

It is therefore important not to be excessively self-critical. Change takes time, so it is essential to adjust one's mindset gradually and to maintain the belief that it is possible to develop more harmonious relationships with others. It is important to recognise that everyone has their own unique process of growth.

The initial phase of attaining elevated emotional intelligence is to cultivate empathy. This process commences with the observation of one's own emotional states.

Upon the emergence of emotional states, what visual representations emerge when one inquires of themselves the aforementioned questions? What are the accompanying thoughts?

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether you have previously encountered a similar voice.

It is recommended that the reader consult the following text: "Making Peace with Your Emotions."

The second step is to develop effective communication skills. The recommended resource is "Nonviolent Communication."

The objective is to provide a factual account of the situation, including a clear and objective description of the statements made and the actions taken.

I experience a range of emotions and engage in a variety of cognitive processes, including feelings, thoughts, and sensations of discomfort. These experiences may include feelings of being despised or belittled, which can result in feelings of low self-worth.

It is my expectation that I will be treated with respect, as an equal, and that I will be valued and cared for.

It is my hope that you will have expectations of what the other person can do.

It is my hope that the aforementioned information will prove to be a source of inspiration for you.

Hello!

You want to get along with your friends but things don't work out. You're confused. What should you do? Let's talk about it.

You seem to be a self-reflective person. You said, "Sometimes I don't show enough respect." You lashed out because you were "afraid of being looked down upon or bullied." We need to face our thoughts and find solutions to resolve our confusion.

Ask yourself, "How can I show respect for the other person?" Respect means recognizing the other person.

This means finding the good in others and ignoring the bad.

We often focus on the bad things about each other and ignore the good. This is a common bias. Once we become aware of it, we can remind ourselves to change.

When you praise and appreciate someone, they like you. Everyone likes people who like them.

If someone is acting strange or getting emotional, ask them what you said that made them feel that way.

Be brave and express yourself. Try to change the way you speak or offer some explanation. This can help you understand each other better.

"I get defensive when people mock me." This is normal. Take a few deep breaths to calm down.

Tell the other person how you feel. Sometimes it's better to laugh at yourself than at others.

Tell the other person that you're upset and don't want to hear that again.

Another way is to strengthen your self-identity. Your abilities lie within you. Others' approval or disapproval does not affect your abilities. When you know yourself, you are not affected by others' words or actions.

Games are virtual, and seeking a sense of existence in a virtual world may distract us from real-life interactions. This essay mainly draws attention to the need to interact with people in real life, improve our abilities, and learn how to truly get along with others.

Some people are still difficult to get along with, so you have to give up. You can't make everyone like you, and you can't like everyone. Making reasonable choices shows that you've grown up.

This is just a reference.

I hope it helps. Best regards!

Good morning, I appreciate your desire to enhance your relationships and your frustration with the challenges you are currently facing.

Firstly, it is important to recognise that each individual possesses a unique personality and upbringing, which can influence their interactions with others. The challenges you have outlined in your communication are not uncommon and many people face similar difficulties.

From your description, I can sense your sensitivity to others' comments and your concern about being bullied. This concern may be based on your past experiences, but it should not impede your ability to build a harmonious relationship with others.

Let us examine together how you can achieve inner peace and improve your interpersonal relationships.

First, develop the ability to listen to yourself. When you feel angry or uncomfortable, do not immediately react; instead, pause and ask yourself, "How do I feel right now?"

Asking "Why do you feel that way?" will help you gain deeper insight into your own thoughts and emotions, as well as fostering greater ease in your interactions with others.

Next, enhance your communication skills. Attempt to utilize more gentle and open language to express opinions and feelings.

For instance, if an individual makes a joke that is not to your liking, you can respond with a smile and say, "Haha, that joke took me by surprise a bit, but I believe our relationship can be more relaxed and enjoyable." This approach allows you to express your feelings without causing offense.

Furthermore, cultivate empathy. Attempt to view the situation from the other person's perspective and consider how you would feel if you were in their position.

This will assist you in comprehending the actions and statements of others, thereby reducing the likelihood of misunderstandings and conflicts.

I would now like to provide you with some more detailed and practical advice.

[1] Document daily interactions: It is recommended that you record your daily interactions with others, including details of your conversations, your feelings, and the other person's response. This can assist you in identifying your own interaction patterns and behaviours that may potentially lead to conflict.

[2] Regular reflection: Set aside some time each week to review your interactions with others this week and identify both your strengths and areas for improvement. Documenting your reflections can help you gain a deeper understanding of your performance.

[3] Seek external feedback: Identify a trusted colleague or family member and request their input on your efforts to enhance your emotional intelligence. Solicit their advice or feedback, as their perspective may offer valuable insights.

[4] I advise you to read the books "Human Nature" and "Nonviolent Communication." Doing so will help you gain a deeper understanding of human nature and communication skills.

[5] Participate in social activities: Joining social groups or participating in social activities will provide additional opportunities to interact with others and facilitate the development of social skills.

[6] Learn emotional management techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, and yoga. These techniques can help you calm down quickly when you feel angry or uncomfortable.

In conclusion, I would like to reiterate that developing emotional intelligence is a long-term process that requires patience and persistence. However, with the right commitment to hard work, you will undoubtedly see results.

Have confidence in yourself and you will become a more graceful, composed, and popular person. Remember, you have the ability to overcome any difficulties you encounter.

I encourage you to take the initiative and get started on this process.

Hello, I'm Xintan Coach Fly Free, and I'm here to tell you that life is an amazing journey! It's not just about appreciation, it's about blooming and flourishing!

Having good interpersonal relationships helps us in our studies, work, and life! The business world says it best: "networking = money networking." Even students and company employees have their own "circles"—a great way to get social support. Let's share and discuss your worries together!

?1. Unlock the secrets of your "full of thorns"

It reminds me of the mimosa plant. If someone touches it, it closes itself up as if it were shy. Isn't that fascinating? We also know that skunks fart and geckos cut off their tails as a way for animals and plants to "protect" themselves.

You become "full of thorns" as soon as you are mocked by others. This is your "protective color" because mockery makes you feel threatened and attacked, so you put on your "armor" to protect yourself.

First, it's totally normal to have this sense of self-protection! Everyone has a "defense mechanism," and it's so interesting how we all have different methods.

Second, we need to focus on what emotional needs you are trying to satisfy by hiding behind this "protective color." As you said, you are "afraid" of being looked down upon. In other words, you long to be recognized, accepted, and liked.

Once you become aware of the pattern of "attacking" and "counterattacking" when you feel "attacked," you can start to see the emotional needs behind it and make changes within your capabilities! That is, you can find alternative behaviors and gain the affirmation and recognition of others, rather than habitually attacking/counterattacking when things happen.

?2. Let's dive in and explore how to improve emotional intelligence!

Have you heard about emotional intelligence? It's a fascinating concept that corresponds to intelligence quotient. It's all about a person's ability to control their emotions. And it includes five amazing aspects of ability!

(1) Self-awareness: the amazing ability to perceive one's emotions! This is the key to living in peace with your emotions and displaying good temper.

(2) Self-control: It all starts with self-awareness. You've got to be able to perceive your emotions, understand their characteristics, and then live in peace with them.

(3) Self-motivation: the amazing ability to grow and develop endlessly! Unfortunately, we are often negatively judged and rejected by the people around us, which can slowly become our own internalized evaluation of ourselves.

(4) Empathy: an amazing ability to feel the emotions of others! It's something you're born with. You can put yourself in another person's shoes and share their feelings.

(5) Interpersonal relationships: a comprehensive reflection of the above four aspects, and an outward expression of emotions. Get along with people and make them feel comfortable!

The great news is that since emotional intelligence is a kind of ability, it can be changed and improved through conscious effort. For example, when you encounter another person's attack again, you can put yourself in their shoes. They are not targeting you personally, but only the act and result of playing the game.

Perhaps this is just a "pattern" of his reaction, and the same goes for you and others. At the same time, you can also put yourself in his shoes and "see" his limitations, thus separating people from things.

And most importantly, no one can define your value! Your self-worth is a subjective evaluation of yourself, and has nothing to do with others.

We are not "Chairman Mao," and that's a good thing! We cannot be liked by everyone, and that's okay! We maintain our self-confidence, and that's great! We focus on the inside, not the outside, and that's what makes us special!

I highly recommend the book The Power of Self-Growth to you! May your life be filled with love and light!

I really hope the above is helpful to you, and I love you and the world!

If you want to keep in touch, you should definitely check out my personal homepage, "Heart Exploration Service"!

Good morning. I am a psychological counselor at Yixinli. I can discern the courage you wish to exhibit in your description, as well as your efforts to achieve autonomy and self-esteem in your life. It appears that, on the one hand, you desire greater proficiency in interpersonal interactions, and on the other hand, you also attach significant importance to your inner feelings and self-esteem. As a result of these conflicting desires, you will likely define a self-image for yourself. Individuals with low emotional intelligence may not respect others.

By providing this definition at the outset, I believe you are allowing the reader to empathise with the confusion and doubt you are experiencing. It is as though you are questioning your own identity and how to interact with others in an appropriate manner.

It is important to recognize that everyone has a natural desire for smooth interactions. However, it is also essential to understand that conflicts and contradictions are an inherent part of life. Observe how individuals who are well-liked by all, those in prominent positions, or those who are highly influential tend to interact with others. Do they encounter difficulties in their relationships?

Second, interpersonal communication is an interactive process, which means that it involves two or more people. It is important to recognise that everyone has a different personality and way of expressing themselves, and that everyone also receives information differently. It is common to oversimplify situations and attribute problems to oneself or others. However, it is more productive to understand that conflicts will always exist and that different personalities will lead to differing perspectives.

Finally, social interaction is a process of continuous practice. We always progress from being unfamiliar to becoming proficient, just like riding a bicycle. When we first attempt it, we may appear awkward and inept. However, defining ourselves in this way hinders our ability to learn and may discourage us from trying again. Conversely, accepting that there is a process to learning and that we will initially fall over and be laughed at for being bad at riding a bike, but that we can improve with practice, is more likely to help us learn and become more proficient.

It is important to note that our culture also has an impact on us. We will always have some local customs and folkways, as well as some human etiquette. These are some common ways of behaving that have been formed by the culture in which we live. Understanding these can also help us to be more adaptable.

I recommend reading "The Art of Social Interaction." I hope it will be helpful. If long-term self-adjustment does not improve, you can also seek help from a professional counselor.

Hello!

I understand how you feel.

You wrote that you lack respect and feel your emotional intelligence is low. These are two different concepts. People often excuse disrespectful behavior by people with low emotional intelligence.

If someone with high emotional intelligence behaves disrespectfully, it is seen as worse than if someone with low emotional intelligence behaves the same way. This creates unfair treatment.

You also wrote that you get angry when people make you feel uncomfortable. This shows a lack of emotional intelligence and respect.

It's not always your problem if you make someone feel uncomfortable. Everyone has different experiences, and there will be some things they don't like. If you do those things, it can cause problems. Smart people will use their skills to defuse the situation. Dumb people will offend people.

Intelligent people will use their skills to diffuse the situation after someone touches the "forbidden zone," while low-intelligence people will be suspicious.

You wrote that teasing is normal during games, but you get defensive when teased. It was fine before, but you were afraid of being bullied.

As you wrote, the teasing was fine, but suddenly it got out of control.

Advice:

1. Think back and record the words you'll avoid. You'll find it easier to change them when you know what they are.

If you don't respect yourself, who will?

3. All relationships need to be nurtured. Take the initiative to draw people closer and lower your attitude to improve the relationship.

4. Lowering your attitude doesn't mean losing your dignity. Attitude is important too.

This is just for reference.

The scenario you described is not uncommon. Many individuals experience confusion or discomfort when interacting with others for various reasons. In your case, it is possible that past experiences have made you particularly sensitive to ridicule from others, which has led to an exaggerated reaction.

However, it should be noted that this is not an immutable situation.

Firstly, it is important to recognise that individuals possess unique personalities and ways of reacting, which may not always align with the expectations of others. This does not imply any wrongdoing on the part of the individual, but rather a necessity to identify a mode of relating to others that is more compatible with one's personality.

The following suggestions are offered as a means of facilitating improvement in one's relationships with others.

It is important to enhance one's self-awareness, which entails understanding one's emotions and reactions, as well as attempting to comprehend the underlying causes of these reactions. This process facilitates the ability to regulate one's emotions and avoid overreacting.

It is imperative to develop the ability to listen effectively. When communicating with others, it is crucial to prioritize active listening, which entails listening more than speaking. By listening attentively, individuals can gain a deeper understanding of the other person's views and feelings, which in turn reduces the likelihood of misunderstandings and conflicts.

Practice empathy by attempting to adopt the perspective of the other person and to comprehend their feelings and position. This will facilitate more effective interpersonal relationships and prevent the infliction of emotional distress upon others.

It is important to learn to express oneself. When one feels uncomfortable or offended, it is advisable to express one's feelings and needs in a calm manner. It is unwise to use aggressive language, as this may lead to increased defensiveness on the part of the other person.

It is recommended that individuals seek feedback from trusted friends or family members regarding their interpersonal skills. This can assist in identifying areas for improvement and developing strategies for growth.

It is essential to maintain an open mind when engaging with others. This entails respecting the views and feelings of others and refraining from attempting to alter or control their actions.

It is important to note that the process of improving interpersonal relationships is a time-consuming and laborious one. It is unwise to anticipate that one can become an expert overnight; however, with perseverance, one can gradually become more confident and at ease.

I wish you the utmost success.

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

You say that sometimes when someone mocks you, you become prickly and your attitude changes immediately. Then the other person will feel puzzled and uncomfortable because of your change in attitude, and they will become emotional too. If you say that every time it is because of someone's behavior or words that trigger your emotional button and make you uncontrollably prickly, this is not actually a low EQ, nor does it mean that you do not respect people. It is just that we have some internal complexes that need to be dealt with, and there are some emotional hooks within us that will react once they are touched by the outside world. At that time, you actually become prickly and lose your rationality in order to protect yourself, because as you said, you are just afraid of being looked down upon or bullied. Therefore, you will automatically become prickly, which is a way of defense for you.

However, you may also find that while this approach may seem to offer some protection in the moment, it can cause problems in your relationships and make your relationships with others less smooth. So, I have an exciting suggestion for you:

The first step is understanding why you are like this. Once you know yourself, you can start to change!

When someone makes fun of you, you become defensive and aggressive because you are afraid of being looked down upon or bullied. I believe that the words you say at that time will hurt more, and the other person may believe these hurtful words. If the other person cares about your comments, they will indeed feel sad. But in fact, you know that your intention at the time was only to protect yourself, and that is why you attacked the other person. Moreover, at that time, you were emotionally overwhelmed, and your emotional brain had already taken over, or our "fight-or-flight" mode had been activated. The words you said could not be rational, but would be very aggressive, because at that time you only wanted to fight. Out of instinct, you needed to protect yourself, and this is based on physiology.

However, humans are not animals after all. We still have a rational side! When the emotions pass and we return to rationality, we will regret what we did in the heat of the moment. This is why there is the kind of inner conflict and contradiction you describe. We absolutely need to change and grow, but the prerequisite is that we need to understand and understand ourselves, why we are like this. In fact, this is a protective mechanism we have formed for ourselves during the process of growing up. In this way, we can protect ourselves from some of the harm in relationships and avoid others bullying us. Although this approach would have helped in the past, it is now, obviously, no longer applicable. So, we need to upgrade our defense mechanisms, so that we can both protect ourselves and get the good relationships we want!

2. Amazing news! You can easily avoid being triggered by the outside world by simply seeing your emotional buttons, learning to explore inwardly, seeing your deep needs, and satisfying your needs in a reasonable way.

The good news is that you can take control of your emotions! From your description, it seems that all conflicts arise because the outside world has touched your emotional buttons. Once your emotional triggers are set off, you begin to "explode." At that time, your reaction is automatic, very fast, and even difficult to perceive. You can only see it after returning to reason afterwards. And if we want to make our emotions less easily aroused, we need to explore inwardly.

This is why it's so important to understand that our emotions are driven by our unmet needs. When the outside world fails to satisfy our inner lack of needs, we are prone to getting emotional. But here's the good news: if our deep inner needs can be met in a reasonable way, we will no longer feel so deprived. And we will not be so easily made emotional by a comment or event in the outside world.

Let's find out what the corresponding need is for fear of being looked down upon or bullied by others! Could it be respect?

You can also be aware of and record your emotional ups and downs every day to see if, once you feel that you are not being respected by others, you become very uncomfortable and want to attack the other person and become full of anger. And guess what? You want to attack the other person and become full of anger, but ultimately, the need you want to obtain is also to be respected. However, in life, there will always be people who do not respect us, and there will also be people who, at certain times, cannot give us the respect we want... We often feel uncomfortable and angry because of this, but there is a way to turn this around!

The truth is, looking outside ourselves is always a bit of a gamble. We can't control how others will behave or what they'll think. But there's a whole world of possibilities waiting for us inside! When we shift our focus inwards, we can find lasting fulfilment in ways that make us feel secure and happy. Let's say you deeply desire to be respected. What an amazing journey it is to learn to respect yourself! When others don't respect us, it's so important to remember that we still deserve to be respected. We can't let the disrespect of others make us feel like we're not good enough. We need to keep practising to maintain a healthy sense of self-worth. When we consistently boost our self-esteem, our inner world becomes more fulfilling. We become less dependent on external rewards. In relationships, it's so freeing to accept other people's occasional negative comments about us. We can be our own best supporters. We can't be swayed by a negative comment from someone else. We know who we are, and we know we're worthy of love and respect.

3. The great news is that if a conflict occurs in the relationship, you can adjust in two ways to help you establish a good relationship.

It takes time to change, and it takes practice to develop new communication habits. But it's worth it! In the future, if a similar situation arises, we can adjust in two ways:

First, when a conflict is about to happen, remember to be aware of it. When you see your emotions rising, you can say to the person next to you, "I'm sorry, I'm a little uncomfortable right now and need to leave for a while." Then, leave that space and go to another open place to take a few deep breaths. Deep breathing is an effective way to quickly calm you down. When your emotions have returned to calm and your rational mind has returned, you won't be full of anger and speak to the other person with a sharp tongue. At that time, you can calmly express yourself to the other person and tell them your true feelings and needs. This kind of expression will allow the other person to receive the message you really want to convey, which is that you hope to gain the other person's respect and understanding, rather than the attacks and blame you received before. Only then will they be able to truly give you what you want!

Second, if you really can't control your emotions and a conflict has already broken out, accept yourself and tell yourself that this is how you have protected yourself in the past. It's okay! Since it has already happened, there is no point in blaming yourself. What we need to do is communicate with the other party actively afterwards. Tell the other party your true feelings and needs, express your apologies, and expect the other party to understand you. In this way, although the conflict has broken out, with effective and positive communication afterwards, it will make you two become better friends because of the argument.

I hope this is helpful for you! Best wishes!

Hello, I am Qu Huidong, a psychological counselor who employs visual imagery as a tool for understanding.

The original poster expressed a desire to improve their relationships by enhancing their emotional intelligence, with the aim of becoming more perceptive and maintaining composure in the face of sarcasm. When we seek solutions from external sources, have we taken the time to recognize our own resources?

From what you've said, it seems that you sometimes find yourself reacting defensively when teased. This suggests that not every instance of teasing is as intense for you. It's possible that you've come to recognize that teasing is often just a game and that it's okay for the other person to tease you, just as you can tease others. In these moments when you feel particularly defensive, is there a difference in how you perceive the teasing words you hear?

Could it be that being mocked at the same time as losing a game has the same meaning?

It is helpful to identify these moments so that you can see that you are not as emotionally unintelligent as you think. It is understandable to feel angry sometimes, and arguing back can also be an indication of a need for respect.

It's wonderful that you're aware of the fear of being looked down upon or bullied. From a psychoanalytic perspective, this kind of thinking may stem from "projection," a kind of psychological defense mechanism. It's possible that we project our dissatisfaction with ourselves onto external people and things, which could indicate a low sense of self-worth.

It is often the case that low self-esteem is formed in relation to the environment in which we grow up. However, this does not mean that it is impossible to overcome it.

A person with self-esteem will not alter their fundamental belief in their own goodness simply because they are in an unfavorable environment. We can choose to stop ourselves when negative thoughts arise, accept the objective facts, and accept ourselves.

If you feel it might be helpful, psychological counseling can provide a way to gain a more objective and in-depth understanding of yourself.

I wish you the best!

Hello, and thank you for taking the time to share your experiences and thoughts.

Emotional intelligence is generally understood as a person's ability to understand and manage their own emotions and those of others, as well as their social interaction skills. I can empathize with the interpersonal challenges you mentioned.

Everyone strives to have smooth and harmonious relationships with others, but sometimes differences in emotions or communication styles can lead to misunderstandings or conflicts. I hope the following suggestions will be helpful.

First, it's important to understand that improving emotional intelligence takes time and practice. It's a process of continuous learning and growth, and every step is worth celebrating.

It might be helpful to consider enhancing your self-awareness.

Have you ever found yourself feeling irritated or restless in a particular situation? This could be a sign that there are some underlying emotions or needs that are not being met.

By taking the time to understand yourself better, you can become more aware of the situations that tend to evoke certain emotions and be better prepared when similar situations arise.

When you feel mocked or challenged, you might find it helpful to stop and take a deep breath, and ask yourself, "How do I feel now? Why do I feel this way?"

This kind of reflection can be a helpful way to gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your emotions, which can in turn help you to manage them more effectively.

It would be beneficial to learn to manage your emotions.

Everyone experiences emotions, and they are not inherently good or bad. Rather, it is important to recognize, accept, and manage them. When you feel an emotion, try to shift your attention from the emotion itself to the problem-solving.

As an example, should you find yourself the subject of teasing during a game, you might consider responding with humor. This could help to defuse the situation and demonstrate your generosity and wisdom.

You might also consider trying relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or simple stretching exercises to help you stay calm in tense or stressful situations.

It would be beneficial to improve social awareness and empathy.

It might be helpful to try to put yourself in the other person's shoes when interacting with them. This doesn't mean that you have to completely abandon your own position, but it might be beneficial to try to understand the other person's feelings and needs.

For instance, when someone expresses dissatisfaction or a complaint, it might be helpful to try to understand their feelings before looking for a solution.

It would also be beneficial to learn to listen. When communicating with others, it is advisable to maintain eye contact, nod to show understanding, and avoid interrupting.

This may help the other person feel respected and understood, which could make them more willing to share their thoughts and feelings with you.

It would be beneficial to consider ways of improving relationship management.

It is important to remember that everyone has their own opinions and positions, and that trying to accept and respect others' differences can help to create more harmonious relationships.

It may be helpful to avoid being overly sensitive or defensive, as this could facilitate connection with others.

When conflict or misunderstanding arises, it is best to avoid hasty judgments or avoidance. Instead, it is often helpful to calmly explain your point of view and seek a solution together.

It is important to remember that communication is about understanding each other, rather than winning an argument.

I believe that effective communication skills are:

It is important to express your thoughts and feelings clearly. This does not mean that you have to convince the other person to accept your point of view, but rather that you ensure your message is accurately and completely conveyed.

It can be helpful to express your feelings and needs using "I" language. For example, you might say, "I feel hurt because I feel you are belittling me." This kind of expression can help reduce defensiveness and encourage a deeper dialogue.

It would also be beneficial to learn to listen to feedback. When the other person expresses their views or feelings, it would be helpful to try to keep an open mind and try to understand their position.

It is important to ensure that you fully understand the other person's meaning. You can do this by asking questions and giving feedback. For example, you could say something like, "Is that what you mean?" or "I have the impression that you might be angry about this. Is that right?"

If I might make a suggestion, perhaps we could try the following approach:

It would be beneficial to continue learning and practicing.

It is important to remember that improving emotional intelligence is a continuous process that requires constant learning and practice. There are many ways to learn, including reading books on emotional intelligence, watching relevant lectures, or attending training courses.

These resources may be of assistance in helping you gain a deeper understanding of the various aspects of emotional intelligence, and in providing practical tips and methods to improve your emotional intelligence level.

It would be beneficial to consider putting what you have learned into practice in your daily life. Every interaction with others presents an opportunity to learn and grow.

It would be beneficial to pay attention to your own reactions and behavior patterns in different situations, and to make adjustments and improvements as needed. It is important to remember to be patient and open-minded to accept challenges and failures, because they are opportunities for growth.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to avoid being too demanding of perfection. After all, no one is perfect, and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. Improving emotional intelligence is a gradual process, and it's important to enjoy the journey. Striving to become a better version of yourself is worthwhile, but it's also important to remember that building good relationships with others takes time and effort. Treating others with an open, understanding, and respectful attitude is essential for establishing deep and lasting interpersonal relationships.

I hope these suggestions are helpful and wish you ever more ease and enjoyment in your relationships with other people!