If you have read this far, you may be thinking, "Your child is already 16 years old. He can go off on his own, so why doesn't he just go and let himself be insulted and ridiculed?"
I believe that in the future she will understand and will also take care of herself in this way to reduce the harm. It is just possible that at that time, as a young child, she will not protect herself in this way.
It might also be the case that the girl is very attached to her mother and feels that she is in the same situation as her mother and cannot be separated from her. She may feel that if she leaves alone, leaving all the embarrassment and humiliation for her mother to bear alone, it would be very distressing for her. So, compared to leaving alone, she would rather stay and bear it together with her mother.
As a mother, I don't believe she felt embarrassed or humiliated. It seemed that she was more concerned with the situation at hand and her daughter's well-being.
Maternal love is indeed great, and a mother's love and devotion to her child is truly great. However, it is also important to consider the love a child has for their parents. In fact, a child's love for their parents is no less than the parents' love for the child. However, perhaps the child is more naïve, and her love is also very naïve and may not be expressed. In such cases, it may be helpful to appreciate the love with our hearts and feel it with our hearts.
It may be helpful to wait until the child is able to communicate, just as it took time for her to grow up and become capable of earning money to buy her mother the first dress.
It would be interesting to know how many mothers fail to see this.
It's as if you're rejecting a child, yet presenting a model of the child you've created in your heart, using other people's children as an example. You praise other children for their ability to do housework, for their obedience, and for their friendly interactions with their mothers. Some parents stop here, thinking that they shouldn't encourage the child by criticizing them. So they stop here. Some parents, however, continue to criticize, saying, "You know better than anyone else what to do, but you can't do anything right. You're not very good at everything."
So, after sharing these thoughts, what would you like your child to say or do in response?
It's important to be mindful of the way we speak to our children. When we ask "How is everyone else's child?", it can convey a sense of disapproval or dislike of our own child. This can be hurtful and may cause them to distance themselves from us. It's essential to remember that every child is unique and has their own strengths and weaknesses. We can support our children to grow into the best version of themselves by offering encouragement and constructive feedback.
It is important to recognize that a child will never become exactly what their parents want them to be. Similarly, parents will never see their child become exactly what they want them to be. Some children may rebel, some may strive to be better, and some may shine in ways that parents may not anticipate. However, it is crucial to understand that parents cannot make their child become the person they want them to be.
It's as if parents are holding hands, which can sometimes impede the natural flow of love from children to parents. This can potentially stifle the blossoming love and efforts of children to love their parents, and it might distort the child's true appearance.
It's important to remember that children's love is a natural and enduring force. They may express it in ways that are more subtle or cautious, or even in ways that are a little more challenging to understand. It's also important to recognize that they love and care for their parents, even if they may not always express it in the same way as other children.
It appears that parents, who may not receive the same level of affection from their children as they would like, may express their frustration by expressing their thoughts and feelings to their children. This can happen on numerous occasions.
This kind of relationship can be difficult for everyone involved. Parents often have high expectations, which may not always be met. Children may face disciplinary actions throughout their lives and may not always receive affirmation or permission. It's important to recognize that children may also be struggling with their own emotions and needs.
I believe that true love is always about paying attention to people and seeing and feeling for their feelings. It's not about imposing one's own views on others or telling them what to do.
I wonder if we might consider the story of the mother and daughter? Dear readers, if the girl had taken care of her own feelings, turned around and walked away, rather than passively accepting it, then perhaps the next thing that happened would not have happened, the conflict between the mother and daughter would not have intensified, and she might not have attracted the ridicule of passers-by. She might have been able to save face.
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Perhaps it would be helpful to consider our own feelings first.
Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what we can do next.
3. Rather than forcing others to change,
I hope you will have the opportunity to read this article when you have a moment. I also hope that this mother can allow herself to be her true self, just as parents allow their children to be themselves.
It might be helpful to consider that if we are fortunate enough to have an inner parent in our hearts, we can hope that this inner parent will allow us to be exactly who we are and help us to believe that we are fully capable of getting along well with others, communicating effectively, raising our children well, doing our job well, developing our careers, and taking care of our families.
Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the role of labels and the question of what we should do.
I believe that only by truly being yourself will you never feel unnatural or fake.
I have always been on a path of self-growth and improvement, and I am happy to be of help in critical moments.
I am Jane Eyre, and I want to say that I love you, the world!
Comments
I understand how you feel; it's tough being in a situation where you struggle to connect with other moms. It's like there's an invisible wall that stops you from joining in the fun and making those connections, which is hard because you see everyone else doing it so effortlessly.
It's heartbreaking to hear that you're missing out on those moments and that your child might be missing out too. Sometimes we have to push ourselves out of our comfort zone for the sake of our kids, even when it feels uncomfortable or fake. I wonder if there's a small step you could take towards this?
The longing to belong and not knowing how to get there can be really painful. You're aware that staying isolated isn't ideal for your child, yet stepping into social settings feels insurmountable. Maybe finding a different kind of group, one that aligns more with your interests, could make these interactions feel more genuine and less forced.
You're right to worry about your child's social development, but remember, you're not alone in feeling this way. Many parents find socializing challenging. Perhaps seeking professional advice or a support group could offer some strategies to help both you and your child build those important friendships.
It sounds like you want to give your child the best experiences possible, but your discomfort with social situations makes it difficult. Have you thought about engaging in activities that don't necessarily involve direct interaction with other mothers? Sometimes community events or classes can provide a less intimidating environment to start forming bonds.