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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, question owner. I can sense your confusion and sadness about this relationship from your writing. I will describe my views and hopes, and I hope that the following answer will be of some inspiration to you.
First of all, in a relationship, we always want to grow and gain something from it. The main reason why we have all kinds of relationships is that we are social animals. We are in this emotional state just to get what we want, and it is relatively easy to get. So why do you want to be with him? It might be helpful to figure it out. Then, after figuring it out, you could try to understand the growth he can give you, and try to reject the influence he brings to you.
It is possible that when a relationship breaks down, there are many things that he is unable to meet your needs, or he is not as good to you as you think, or the interaction between people may be more a collision of the two people's different experience patterns and different ways of dealing with things, which leads to situations where you cannot accept his behavior. In such a case, you have two options for accepting his way of dealing with things: one is to accept his way of acting, and the other is to try to resolve the fear and sense of dread you feel towards his way of dealing with things. You may think that there is a false mentality in the way he treats you, but it is important to be aware of our feelings and to trust them.
It might be helpful to consider the psychological effect known as the projection effect. When we find it challenging to accept certain shortcomings and problems within ourselves, we may unintentionally project them onto others. Our own brain's interpretation of events can often shape the outcome or occurrence of things. This can be seen in the example of someone who laughs at another person's struggles, perhaps because they find it difficult to accept their own challenges. In essence, the two individuals may share similar underlying issues. It could be beneficial to reflect on whether there are any related problems.
How might you resolve the kind of mood you are experiencing? One approach could be to try writing down the story and then analyzing it carefully. Over time, you may find that you learn more about him. This might require a gradual development of the relationship, rather than a one-size-fits-all approach that assumes he is just like that.
I wish you the best of luck!
I hope you know that I love you, World.
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I can totally relate to feeling hurt when someone you trust lets you down. It's hard to reconcile the person you thought they were with their actions. Maybe it's time to have an open and honest conversation with her about how you feel.
Sometimes people grow apart, and it's not always easy to see it coming. I think it's important to be true to yourself and address your feelings. Perhaps talking to her could help clear up any misunderstandings between you two.
It sounds like a tough situation. If she's really your good friend, she should understand your concerns. Maybe try to communicate your feelings without making accusations, and see where that leads.
Friendships can be complicated, especially when expectations don't match reality. It might help to reflect on what you value in a friendship and discuss those values with her. This could bring you closer or help you realize if it's time to move on.
I get that it's painful to feel used by someone close. However, instead of focusing on the negative, maybe focus on the positive aspects of your relationship and decide if it's worth working through the issues together.