I always prefer to hide things, what should I do? How do I face their relatives?

Hello, I am Bai Li Yina, and I hope that my response can offer you some warmth and help.

The questioner shared that she has a loving husband, but is concerned about the potential for gossip from relatives and friends. Therefore, she feels a certain level of pressure when her husband insists on putting only her name on the birth certificate. On the one hand, she is very happy about her husband's love for you, but on the other hand, she feels somewhat uneasy when she thinks about the possibility of other people's gossip. What would be the best way for her to handle this?

[Situation analysis]

When you see a couple who seems to have found a deep and loving connection, what are your thoughts? If someone were to say, "This woman doesn't do anything, so why does she deserve a husband who loves her so much?"

Could I ask you to reflect on your feelings? Do you think this girl is worth it?

I wonder if I might ask your opinion of people who gossip?

In a couple's relationship, it is important to remember that you and your husband are the most important. Were you happy when your husband insisted on writing your name alone? Do you think his choice was an expression of his love for you?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you are worthy of being loved and whether you truly recognize this love within your heart.

A sense of inferiority can sometimes prevent us from recognizing our own efforts and the good things we do for our partners. This can lead to feelings of undeservingness. However, it's important to remember that this mentality can be changed.

When you truly love yourself, you will be proud of your husband's love instead of feeling uncomfortable. You will be able to see their envy in the gossip and teasing from everyone, and you will know that you deserve to be loved. You will not care about people who don't love you.

It seems that you may benefit from developing a more cohesive sense of self.

The concept of a cohesive self was proposed by American psychologist Kohut and is also translated as "core self." It could be said that this cohesion ensures that the various components of the mind converge inward to form a whole, with a centripetal force that maintains the self's integrity.

This sense of belonging is based on the feeling that "I am basically good."

It could be said that if a person can feel from the bottom of their heart that "I am basically good," they may be less likely to be overly self-critical in response to external criticism, negativity, or other negative comments, and they may be less likely to fall into deep self-doubt. It is possible that they may be able to coexist "harmoniously" with themselves and may not feel lonely.

First and foremost, it is important to recognize that we are fundamentally good.

Many people who feel lonely when they are alone may find it challenging to identify with themselves. They may worry that being alone will make them seem strange to others, and they may long for the feeling of being accompanied. It's important to recognize that loneliness can affect anyone, even those who were loved as children.

Secondly, it is important to have the confidence to control your own life.

If we are always trying to please others, we may feel that our lives are out of control, as we may be neglecting our own needs and feelings.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider expressing your needs.

Due to a lack of self-confidence, they may worry about being rejected or about their needs hurting others, which can lead to a tendency to suppress their needs. Over time, this can result in a loss of self-identity. It is important to recognize this and to dare to speak our true thoughts.

2. Consider allowing yourself to express your aggression.

Many people are reluctant to say "no" because they are concerned that their assertiveness may be perceived as hurtful or damaging to the relationship. However, it is important to recognize that while humility is a valuable quality, it should not be viewed as an initial goal, but rather as a natural consequence of expressing one's needs and desires in a respectful manner.

In other words, perhaps the key to building deep relationships with others and escaping loneliness is to live authentically.

Everyone has the capacity to follow their heart and make choices that are true to themselves. However, it does require a certain level of courage. It is my hope that we can all find the courage to do so.

With courage, we can find ourselves and be at peace with who we are.

It is my sincere hope that the above methods will prove helpful to you.

Please be aware that change takes time and patience. There is no need to worry or be afraid. Many people are experiencing or have experienced similar problems, so you are not alone.

I'm here to support you. You are not alone. I hope you find a solution to your problems soon and find your own comfort zone.

I'd like to express my gratitude to those who have taken the time to like and respond to my posts. I wish you all peace and joy.

Now, look at this from your husband's perspective. He chose to put both the shop and the office building in your name because he trusts and respects you deeply!

This is so much more than just a material gift! It's a heartfelt expression of his emotions and a recognition of your long-term dedication and hard work. His actions show that he believes you are capable of managing this property and is willing to share the responsibility and glory with you.

However, you have decided that this trust is a burden you are ready to shed. You may feel that your personality is not suitable for owning such assets in a high-profile manner, and you do not want to become the focus of attention because of them.

This worry and unease may stem from a sense of inferiority within you and an over-concern with what others think. But please understand that your husband's love and trust are not reasons for you to feel burdened. They are sources of pride and happiness!

Next, let's dive into your communication with your family. You mentioned that you were a little upset when your husband told your parents that the property was in your name.

But in reality, it may be a misunderstanding caused by poor communication between the two sides. Your husband may have thought it was good news and wanted to share it with the family, without fully considering your feelings and concerns.

This also reminds us that communication is very important in close relationships. It's so important to express your thoughts and feelings honestly and to understand each other's positions and needs. This helps you avoid similar misunderstandings and conflicts.

So, how do you deal with the opinions of your relatives? This is a matter of wisdom and courage—and you can do it!

First, remember this: everyone has their own way of life and values, and you can't control what other people think or say. But you can choose how to face these opinions!

You can try responding to your relatives' inquiries and teasing in a calm and confident manner. Tell them that this is a decision you have made together with your husband, and that it is a reflection of your mutual trust and love. Be proud of your decision and let them know that you love and trust your husband.

At the same time, you can also express your own values and attitude towards life! This is a great way to show your husband that you are not a person who likes to show off or be ostentatious.

And there's more! We also need to learn to let go of our inner burdens and face ourselves and life bravely. We should not care too much about other people's opinions and judgments because everyone's life is unique and there is no absolute standard or template.

As long as we do our best and stick to our principles and values, that is enough. And there's more! We should also learn to cherish and be grateful for the love and dedication of the people around us. And most importantly, we should never ignore our inner feelings and needs because of external factors.

In the process, you can also try to look at the problem from a broader perspective. Property is only a material manifestation, while true happiness and satisfaction come from inner peace and contentment—and you can have that!

It doesn't matter whether you have these possessions or not. You are a unique and valuable person. Your husband loves you, and your family cares about you. These are all invaluable assets that cannot be measured in monetary terms.

So, don't let material things become a burden on your mind! Learn to find happiness and satisfaction in them instead!

Finally, I would like to say that life is an incredible journey of continuous learning and growth. When faced with this problem, you can see it as an amazing opportunity to improve your self-awareness and communication skills!

Reflection and communication are your keys to understanding your needs and concerns, and to building a closer, more harmonious relationship with your husband and family. And that's not all! You'll also learn to face challenges and difficulties in life with more confidence and ease.

In short, when faced with this problem, we have the exciting opportunity to think and analyze it from multiple perspectives. We get to understand the deep meaning behind our husband's love and trust, and we also get to learn to let go of our inner burdens and worries!

At the same time, we should absolutely make time to strengthen communication with our family and relatives. When we do, we'll be able to face their opinions and comments with a calm and confident attitude. And that's the only way to truly feel the beauty and happiness of life!

We're so excited to share these new ideas and perspectives with you! We hope they'll be a great source of inspiration and help.

Hello, my name is Zeyu, and I'm so happy to be here!

Now, let's dive into the question, "What should I do if I always like to keep things to myself?"

First, we try to understand the meaning of my husband's behavior. We all express love in different ways, and this is something that can be a bit confusing at times! In the book "The Five Languages of Love," it mentions five languages: quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, physical touch, and praise.

By describing it as "accepting gifts," we may be seen by the other person as someone who loves you and gives you all the material support he can. In reality, we may feel pressured by this gift from the bottom of our hearts, but for him, this kind of giving itself can bring him a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, and make him feel that my love for you is sincere. Here, there may be a certain discrepancy between what the other person gives us and what we need, but fortunately, the questioner can handle the other person's love and appreciate the true feelings behind it.

Let's take a moment to talk about our feelings. It's totally normal to feel a bit pressured and worried about this gift. It's okay to share our feelings with our husbands and tell them what we're worried about, anxious about, and afraid of. Sharing our feelings is a great start, but it's also important to let our partners know what we need from them. This involves understanding each other's love language. If we're not totally sure what this means yet, we can try asking our partners how they feel and what they need, and listen to what they need us to do to show them our love. The goal here is to support each other and avoid becoming the old couple in the story of the fish. The old man liked to eat the head of the fish but had been eating the body for his whole life, while the old woman liked to eat the body but had been eating the head for her whole life.

When it comes to relatives, it's so important to remember to maintain our self-respect, live our own way, and live each day at our own pace. For families, relatives can only ever be considered outsiders. Whether they can get used to it or not is not a reason to interfere in our lives. If the teasing from relatives has already aroused our emotions, we don't need to tolerate it, let alone feel that it is our problem. We only need to tell the other person that we don't like this teasing and ask them to pay attention. If the other person doesn't care, then we don't need to be polite and just respond back.

At last, we can try to gently accept our own hidden feelings and allow for inferiority. We can kindly ask the questioner to believe that the real self is still worthy of love.

Dear questioner, I understand your feelings. You have been married for many years and have endured challenges together. Your husband's love for you is profound and genuine, and it has left a lasting impression on your heart.

The shops and office buildings he bought for you are not just material gifts; they are a manifestation of his deep love for you. However, this heavy love has brought you some unnecessary burdens.

You worry about how your relatives will perceive you, that they will misunderstand you and even form a bad opinion of you. This is a normal concern, but you can overcome it.

We live in a society, and it is inevitable that we will be influenced by the comments and opinions of others. But you must believe that your value is not defined by others, nor is it measured by the material wealth you possess.

You are an independent, thinking, emotional individual, and your value is not for sale.

When faced with the opinions of relatives, you can and should face them with a more peaceful and open mind. Take the initiative to share your life and relationship with them. Show them how much you love your husband and how you have supported each other and gone through these years together.

By sharing, they will get to know you better and understand you more.

You can also adjust your state of mind. Don't care about what other people think, and don't let other people's comments affect you.

You must believe that your happiness and the sincerity of your love for your husband are your own business, and that other people's opinions cannot affect you.

I have some suggestions for you on how to deal with your relatives. First, prepare some topics in advance, such as your daily life as a couple and your common interests and hobbies. This will help you communicate more naturally and smoothly with your relatives.

Secondly, you must remain sincere and humble. When they raise questions or express opinions, you can patiently listen and then respond to them in a calm tone of voice.

If they have misunderstandings or prejudices, you can clarify them with facts and figures. There's no need to force them to understand.

Furthermore, I advise you to focus on your own feelings and ignore what others say. Everyone has their own way of life and values, and you can't please everyone.

Be yourself and live your life to the fullest. When you have enough confidence in yourself, you'll realize that other people's opinions don't matter.

Finally, I want to be clear: you are not alone. We are all here to support you and be with you.

You can overcome any difficulties or challenges you encounter. Your happiness and joy are the most important things. Don't let other people's opinions stand in your way.

You will face life with an open and confident attitude, and you will enjoy the happy times that are yours.

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

It's so important to remember that the key to this problem is that our sense of self-worth is relatively low. We can even say that our sense of self-worth is too low! As you said, we are relatively inferior, so we care about what others think of us and whether others think we are not good enough. But there's no need to worry! If you want to solve this problem fundamentally, you need to enhance our inner strength, improve our sense of self-worth and value, so that you will not care so much about what others think of you. You'll be able to calmly accept your husband's love for you and face any comments or ridicule from others with equanimity.

I really want to help you, so here's my advice:

It's not so much about whether your relatives tease you or your husband's family worries that you're manipulating your husband. It's more about how they see you and whether they'll recognize and like you.

Reading your description, I also thought of my former self. I also always had the same concerns as you. Over the years, I have continued to explore, learn, and grow, and finally I have come to see that behind these superficial concerns, what I really worry about is actually what others think of me, whether others will recognize and like me. It is also precisely because of this that I would focus on other people's reactions to me in many big and small matters, making my life very tiring and difficult.

Later on, I came to understand that it's not really possible to control other people's thoughts and actions, because that's their own business. As the saying goes in "A Change of Heart": there are only three things in the world—your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven. People get troubled because they don't control their own affairs, but worry about other people's affairs and the affairs of heaven.

It's so important to remember that what other people think of you and how they judge you is none of your business. There's nothing you can do to control it, so don't worry about it! What you can control is how you think and what you think. In fact, we need to look within, not outside. There's a law in psychology that says when you lack something inside, you look for it outside. When you long for others to recognize and like you, it's because you don't recognize and like yourself enough.

The outside world is a bit of a rollercoaster, and it's not always easy to get the approval and affection of others. You can't control what others think or say about you, but you can control your own inner world. When you give yourself enough love and affection, and when your inner world is full, you won't be so concerned about what the outside world gives you.

2. When you feel strong and worthy inside, it's easier to accept your husband's love for you with an open heart. You can even face any comments or teasing from others with kindness and understanding.

So, let's work on enhancing our inner strength, sense of worthiness, and value. Let's allow ourselves to become the kind of person who is accepting, approving, and supportive of ourselves. When you have a sense of certainty within, you'll realize that what others think of you doesn't matter as much. You'll be able to calmly accept your husband's love for you and face any comments or teasing from others with equanimity.

This of course requires a process, and constant practice and learning. The good news is that there are lots of resources out there to help you on your journey! For example, you can learn and practice the exercises of "enhancing self-worth" and "breaking away from the pleasing personality" in the pocket exercises on the platform. You can also read related books and articles, such as "The Miracle of Self-Affirmation," "Rebuilding Your Life," "Accepting Your Imperfect Self," "The Courage to Be Disliked," "The Power of Self-Care," etc. I have also written related articles, such as "How to Become Confident?" and "What Is Self-Acceptance and How Do You Do It?

You can also check out the Psychological Glossary, which I think you'll find super helpful!

I hope this is helpful for you! Wishing you all the best!

Dear, I'm writing to express my concern about your husband's decision to share the information that only your name is on the house deed without your consent. Even if it was his parents, it can cause discomfort for others.

It's understandable to have these thoughts and to dwell on them.

Perhaps your husband could have been more considerate at that time. It's understandable to feel like you're being grilled over a fire.

I'm unsure how to navigate the differing perspectives of my loved ones on this matter.

It is important to allow yourself to experience all the emotions that arise in this situation.

It is understandable that you would feel angry when your husband tells your parents about this.

It was agreed that this information would be kept confidential, but without prior notice, they chose to breach this agreement.

It is possible that you may feel somewhat taken aback and uncertain about how to respond. It is understandable that you may feel flustered and even a little scared by the sudden exposure of something you had been keeping hidden. It is also natural to feel a certain degree of anger in such a situation.

People often prefer to keep good things to themselves and not share them.

You are pleased that your husband has put the house in your name, and you are willing to keep this information private for the time being.

However, when your husband announces this for your own good, it may cause him some concern.

It's possible that you might be feeling a little concerned that

Some people may find it challenging to see others succeed and may resort to creating difficulties.

It is possible that the positive aspects that have attracted attention may be at risk of being lost. This is a way of thinking that people often have.

My dear, it is important to remember that all decisions about letting go or taking control are yours to make.

As long as you feel strongly about it, it's important to remember that no one can sway your decision.

It is best for decisions made between husband and wife to be shared, and it is important to remember that what others say is not necessarily the final word on the matter.

I believe the house deed is in your name, and this was a decision you made together.

Every family has its own ideas and ways of doing things, and in-laws may have their own opinions.

Parents-in-law with a broad mind will likely be understanding of this situation. They just hope that the couple in their small family have a harmonious relationship, share the same goals, and work together.

Some parents-in-law may have concerns about their son's assets being managed solely by their daughter-in-law.

If your in-laws have a narrow-minded perspective, they may say things that are not entirely constructive. However, as long as you and your husband have a deep understanding of each other's hearts, these external opinions may not be as significant as you might think.

Your relationship with your husband is of the utmost importance. You may wish to remind yourself that this is a matter between you two, and that the opinions of others do not necessarily matter.

For instance, the wealth generated by the in-laws is under the mother-in-law's control. This is an indication of the father-in-law's trust in his wife, which is a common and understandable occurrence.

It is possible that other relatives may express their opinions in a way that is not entirely constructive. It is important to remember that they may be envious or jealous and may not be able to enjoy such treatment.

In terms of dealing with relatives, it might be helpful to be natural and authentic, and there's no need to explain anything.

With time, they may gradually lose interest in this matter. You have the right to believe in yourself and to act according to your own wishes.

If you are able to control your husband, it is a skill you possess.

Even if your husband is the one who is kind to you, it is still a talent you possess.

People with abilities may find themselves the subject of gossip.

It would be beneficial to discuss the matter with my husband, given that he did not consult me before speaking.

One possible approach could be to use the method of non-violent communication.

Step 1: If it is helpful, you can set the scene.

Step 2: Present the facts as you understand them. What you saw...

Step 3: Consider discussing your feelings and emotions.

Step 4: Talk about thoughts and reasons

Step 5: Talk about expectations.

For example,

You might consider expressing your gratitude for his decision to put the house deed in one person's name and offering praise for his actions.

[Set a tone that is relatively firm but respectful.]

I must admit that I was somewhat taken aback when I heard you discussing with your in-laws the question of who should be listed as the owner of the house.

[Please recount the events that transpired and your emotional state in response to them.]

I'm afraid this may not align with the decision we originally discussed together. I must admit I was taken aback by your actions.

Originally, it was said that the names of two people were written, but now it has become the name of one person. Given the previous concealment and misunderstanding, I'm unsure how to proceed.

[Please explain the reason and your thoughts]

I hope that in the future, when we discuss a decision, if you want to change it, you'll let me know in advance. That way, I can make some preparations and take some countermeasures.

[Let him know what you would like him to do]

It is important to remember that the key points of communication are not to criticize, not to accuse, and not to argue about right and wrong. Instead, it is valuable to express your feelings, thoughts, and expectations.

I hope this sharing is helpful for you in some way.

Hello, question asker

You are sensitive and care about what others think. You don't want to be seen as a shrew. You should be more gentle. Your weakness comes from low self-esteem. This is part of you, and there is nothing good or bad about it.

We don't need to deny ourselves. We just need to accept our emotions.

Your husband mentioned that the house is in your name. Are you worried about what other people will think? Have you gained control over your husband?

Is this too public? Is this a display of affection?

People who think like this are actually expressing envy. Not many men hand over all their assets to their wives.

This isn't about showing off. It's about your husband trusting you and wanting to do this willingly. Enjoy this love. You're worth it.

He trusts you and favors you, so he must have reasons.

You decide what to do with your property.

You can't control whether people envy, jealously, or slander you.

How to understand their words and deal with your emotions is your topic.

Some people are jealous and try to ruin others' lives.

Stay away from such people.

You and your husband can talk about your concerns and he will understand.

Show him love too. Don't be angry with your husband.

Good luck!

Hello! I'm June.

You have mixed feelings about your husband registering the shop and office in your name. You feel uneasy about the property being registered in your name.

Your feelings are normal. Everyone has different attitudes towards property and attention. You are angry with your husband because he doesn't consider your feelings. You are worried that your relatives will add to your burden.

Your feelings for your husband are real, and he has good intentions. Don't worry about what others think. Live your life to the fullest.

Your feelings are normal. You're right to be concerned about the property being in your name only and others misunderstanding you.

You have a right to your feelings, and your husband should respect them.

Your husband probably had good intentions when he told his parents about the property. However, he may not have thought about how you would feel.

Have an honest conversation with him. Express your feelings and concerns. Let him know your thoughts and needs. Discuss how to handle this issue to avoid misunderstandings and distress.

When relatives tease you, stay calm and don't worry about what they think. Smile and respond to them while also sharing your thoughts.

You could say, "This is between us," or "My husband and I trust each other, and this is our choice."

Our negative emotions come from:

You feel inferior, which makes you doubt your own value. When you're around others, this can make you stressed.

Accept your feelings and don't be too hard on yourself.

You care a lot about what other people think of you and are afraid of being misunderstood or judged negatively. This can make you feel nervous and uneasy in social situations.

Interactions with relatives can cause social stress. You are worried that they will have different views on property ownership, which may make you anxious.

Then, things change and your husband doesn't tell his parents what you agreed. This can make you feel out of control and increase stress.

Finally, some cultures and social situations may make you feel stressed because they are different from your personal values.

Understanding these causes can help you cope with stress.

Your feelings are real. They are related to your personality and experiences. Accept your feelings of introversion and inferiority. Understand how they affect you.

The first step to change is accepting yourself. Work on improving your self-awareness and accepting your strengths and weaknesses.

Boost your self-confidence with positive thoughts. Remember that your value is not based on your wealth or other people's opinions. It's based on your personality, qualities, and relationship with your husband.

Tell your husband how you feel. Tell him you're worried about the property being registered in your name and that you want him to consider your feelings when talking to his family.

Also, tell him you love and appreciate him. Let him know you're not ungrateful, but you'd like him to be more understanding of how much you care about what others think.

Talking about it together will help you work it out.

Look at the issue positively. Your husband's decision to register the property in your name shows his love and trust in you.

This is between you and your husband. Don't care what others say. Believe in yourself.

Focus on your marriage, not other people's opinions.

If you're worried about what your relatives think, you can choose an appropriate time to communicate with them. Explain your feelings and thoughts so they understand you're not trying to put your husband on a pedestal or manipulate him.

You can also say this is a joint decision between you two and hope they understand. Set boundaries and learn to say no. Define your boundaries with relatives and learn to politely refuse teasing or excessive attention.

Focus on your relationship with your husband. Working together to maintain a happy marriage is more important than what others think.

Respect your feelings and needs. Don't hide them or try to please others. Find a way to face the situation that makes you feel comfortable and confident.

A relationship of mutual understanding and support with your husband helps you cope with external pressures.

I love you! I wish you happiness!

Hello!

When I read your story, I was first impressed. You've been married for over ten years, and your husband still loves you dearly, putting a set of shops and office buildings in your name alone. This shows a great trust in your relationship.

But you feel a little down. All of this shows that your husband really does love you, but you just want to keep that love to yourself, just between you and your husband.

This isn't about feeling inferior. It's more about your introverted personality and tendency to keep things to yourself. You're concerned that your husband's family might think you've used some tricks to deceive him and make him love you so much, but that's not the case.

From your perspective, your husband is a stand-up guy who loves you. When buying the house, you asked to have both your names written on the deed, but your husband wanted only your name on it.

Maybe your husband is trying to show you how much he loves you. Later, you agreed not to tell the truth and told his parents that you had written the names of the two of you.

I think you did the right thing by avoiding any misunderstandings or speculation from your in-laws. It's always best to address things head-on.

Love is meant to be between just the two of you, and you don't want to make a fuss about your relationship. But then he still told his parents, and only wrote your name. This made you a little angry.

Your story reminds me of the Journey to the West, "The Black Bear Monster Steals the Robe." Tang Monk knew that Sun Wukong was a bit of a show-off, so he reminded him not to mention the precious robe.

But how could Sun Wukong not show off? He showed it to the abbot of the monastery, and the black bear monster stole the monk's robe.

I think you're thinking the same way the monk Xuanzang did: if you show off, you'll be the target of jealousy, suspicion, and mean rumors, which will drive a wedge between you.

Now, even though your in-laws haven't yet responded, it's already had an impact on your relationship. You've started to think about it.

One idea is that you've already talked about this, so why did he tell his parents the truth? This kind of speculation might create some distance. Another idea is that you're more concerned about how you'll respond.

You know that your in-laws know that only your name is on the account, so should you be honest about it or try to explain the situation with a long explanation?

Take a deep breath and ask yourself what you really want to do. The house is a shared asset, so it doesn't matter whose name it's in.

From the Journey to the West, the monk's robe was only stolen once and never lost again. I think your husband will also learn from this and will definitely keep the secrets of the two of you in the future. He'll stop revealing things that you only want the two of you to know and don't want his parents to know.

Your husband likes to show off a bit more than you do. He likes to show his parents that he's very capable and accomplished. He's like the Monkey King in that he's very capable himself and he goes out of his way to show off his abilities.

You're more low-key and humble, and you know that people can be unpredictable, and that not everything should be bragged about.

Since you two have a slight difference in this regard, you can discuss with your husband how to adjust a little better between high profile and low profile. Love—as you both know, that is beautiful enough.

Also, is there a bit of a competition between the mother-child relationship and the husband-wife relationship? It's good to be aware that this might not necessarily promote unity in the extended family.

I love you, the world, and everything in it.

Ocean Sonic Analysis:

1. The source of the issue is not external, but internal. The question of how to interact with relatives is not the primary concern.

The key is to address the underlying issue of excessive concern about external perceptions. Once this is resolved, it will be possible to respond with composure and impartiality to feedback, comments, and teasing from others.

Otherwise, if you care too much about what other people think, it will cause pain and confusion. It is important to remember that everyone is different and that the same thing can be interpreted in different ways.

2. Self-denial: An inferiority complex can be caused by a tendency to deny one's own needs and desires. Individuals who habitually deny themselves may seek external affirmation as a means of compensating for this internal lack. Affirming oneself can help to reduce the desire for external positive evaluation. It can also help to foster a sense of ease and comfort with the affection one's partner shows. In this case, the desire for external validation and the fear of being seen as unworthy may have led to a situation where the individual feels burdened by the love and attention from their partner. This can manifest as feelings of unworthiness, unease, and fear. Additionally, it can result in a tendency to internalize and project the teasing or criticism of others onto oneself.

3. [Opportunity for growth] Given your concern about how your actions are perceived by others, why did you still tell his parents? His intention was to demonstrate his love for his wife to her parents.

Furthermore, his approach is also known as "not covering up one's faults." He is treating his wife with care and respect, while also addressing her shortcomings. This is a prudent and perceptive individual. Your vulnerability lies in your tendency to "care a lot about what others think." His approach presents an opportunity for personal growth, as weaknesses cannot be concealed. Fire cannot be contained by paper. The most effective solution is to resolve your own inclination to prioritize the opinions of others.