I always think too much at work. How can I work happily?

Hello, question asker!

After carefully reading your question, I'm thrilled to see that you're taking the initiative to seek support and help on this platform to solve your doubts in the workplace. This is a fantastic sign of your serious and responsible attitude towards yourself!

I'm excited to share some thoughts with you!

[Being aware of oneself as one grows up]

This is the perfect age for a newcomer to the workplace! It's about two years in, which is a great time to be starting out.

In the process of personal growth, the questioner can promptly realize that she always thinks too much, which is an amazing realization! It causes internal conflict and makes her feel tired, but it also means she's on the path to growth and change.

The questioner is actively seeking ways to "adjust so that they don't have to think so much, and even if they don't do it well, they won't be immersed in all kinds of emotions." These clear feelings and descriptions are a positive action of the questioner's self-awareness and acceptance during the growth process.

And the great news is that you can absolutely do this! Being able to perceive and experience these emotional changes is a prerequisite for being able to manage your emotions and change your behavior.

[Being aware of others in interactions]

The subject's work involves cross-departmental coordination, which is really exciting! He also describes the situation of "when communicating and collaborating with others in the work process, always thinking about one thing: Is this good? Is that good? What will other people think? Should I do it or not? If I do it and something goes wrong, will my boss scold me?"

The questioner is actively engaged in the process of interpersonal communication, which is a fantastic way to grow and learn!

However, it is unreasonable for you to project your own thoughts and assumptions onto the thoughts and actions of your colleagues and even your leaders, thinking that this is how it should be. This kind of irrationality, in turn, leads to passivity in making choices. But there is a way to break free from this trap!

The existence of selective difficulties

Because of unreasonable perceptions of colleagues and leaders, there will be selective difficulties in specific work.

Selective difficulty is a fascinating phenomenon that occurs when we find ourselves facing a dilemma between two options, or when we're trying to determine whether something is good or not, and both options can achieve the same result.

It leads to a waste of time, repeated thinking, and mental exhaustion.

This leads to a fascinating situation where work is in progress but the choice is stalled. As the questioner said, "the result is that the final result was not followed and the customer complained."

[Growth of self-identity]

The situation described by the questioner is a challenging one, but it's also an opportunity for growth. It's normal to face criticism from a leader when you're striving to achieve the best results.

As you embark on your journey of personal growth, it's essential to embrace the fact that there might be a gap between your ideal self and your current reality.

You can absolutely improve your work ability! All you have to do is keep your eye on the goal and make decisive decisions.

The good news is that you can improve your ability to be your true self, so that it is closer and closer to your ideal self. All you have to do is make use of platform consultation, repeated self-reflection, and constant practice! Alternatively, you can choose to modify your ideal self to make it more in line with your true self, so that you can eventually achieve unity and realize your self-identity.

I absolutely believe that through these efforts, you will definitely find happiness at work!

I really hope this helps you!

If you think too much about things, it means you have concerns and anxiety.

To work happily, you must first understand why you think too much. Once you know the reason, you can solve the problem.

Reason 1: At work, there are always problems related to interpersonal relationships when dealing with people. Thinking too much about it is related to interpersonal relationships. There are several situations that fall into this category:

It could be a lack of interpersonal skills.

I have unrealistic expectations of others.

This can also lead to overburdening relationships.

I care a lot about what other people think of me, and I'm going to prove them wrong.

Reason 2: At work, I'm not sure of myself.

I can't do it.

I will do it well if I do it myself.

I know I'm doing the right thing.

Or perhaps I need the approval of others.

Reason 3: I'm caught in a conflict.

I never liked this job.

I am leaving this job. I know what I want to do next.

I am leaving this job. The current environment is not good, and I will find a good job.

Reason 4: I'm torn between gain and loss at work.

I am going to do it, and I will do it well.

I am ready to take responsibility, even if it means facing some challenges.

You want to do it, but you're afraid that if you succeed, it will cause jealousy in others. Don't let that stop you.

I've overthought this.

You must work happily.

Invite humor into your daily work. See how work can become more interesting.

Start your day with a cup of fragrant coffee and fill your space with a sense of ritual.

Make your desk a place you like. Put your favorite flowers or mugs, or some models.

Make the chair more comfortable and take care of your back.

Or find a sunny desk to keep the sunshine company.

You need to love your work and gain a sense of accomplishment, value, and meaning from it.

Stay focused and engaged at work.

Find like-minded partners at work.

Wake up. Don't let your body go to work. Let your heart do the work.

Everyone is unique, and getting to know them personally is the best way to understand them better. If you have more questions, send me a private message.