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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, question asker!
You always want to communicate with your friends in your own way, but others are wrong. If you keep going this way, no one will really get close to you. I also know that what others say is just their opinion.
But every time, it's just a lukewarm exchange. I've reached my limit. I'm also in a depressed state.
It's not about love. It's usually when you're chatting with friends. I'm still holding on, but I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown.
Psychological research proves that people's psychological and social development needs align with prevailing social evaluation standards. When an individual's self-perception level conflicts with these standards and the balance is lost, emotional problems such as anxiety and unease arise. This state of mind will only subside when the individual's perception level aligns with or conforms to social evaluation standards, resulting in a balanced state.
Apply the above theory to your own life. Your own way of doing things is at the level of individual self-awareness. The opinions of your friends represent the current standards of the social evaluation system. If you always want to communicate with your friends in your own way, you will be in the situation you are facing now. Change the way you communicate with others. This situation will ease.
The social value system requires us to have these factors: respect is the prerequisite for communication, empathy is the lubricant for continuing the conversation and maintaining a good relationship, and sincerity is the guarantee of maintaining a friendship.
Add your own individual characteristics, such as the pitch of your voice, inflections, humor, and eloquence, on the basis of respect, empathy, and sincerity. The sentence structure, such as declarative sentences and questions, is eclectic.
If you don't care about society's standards, want to be a maverick, and want to fit in, you'll fail.
You're already questioning whether there's something wrong with you, and that's a good thing.
This is the beginning of self-growth. Ask yourself directly: how are you doing in terms of respect, empathy, and sincerity?
You need to improve.
Read books such as Public Speaking and Eloquence, Don't Lose Out on Not Being Able to Express Yourself, and Three Social Skills to gain knowledge.
Choose a belief if you don't want to feel empty. Once you have a belief, you can perfect your character, fill yourself with charm and courage, and you'll never be at a loss for what to do when faced with difficulties or in times of pain.
My advice will nourish your heart like the spring breeze.
I am your guiding light. The world and I love you.
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I can totally relate to feeling misunderstood. It's tough when you just want to be yourself and it seems like others don't appreciate it. Maybe finding a group that shares your interests could help you connect more genuinely.
It sounds really hard. Sometimes we need to let others in a bit more, even if it feels scary. Small steps towards opening up might make those conversations warmer and more meaningful over time.
Feeling this way can be so isolating. Have you considered talking to someone who specializes in these feelings? A therapist might offer some guidance on how to bridge the gap between you and your friends.
I understand how frustrating it is to feel like you're not being accepted. Perhaps you could try expressing your thoughts and feelings more openly with your friends, letting them know what's important to you.
It's okay to have your own style of communication. At the same time, it might help to ask your friends for feedback on how you can improve the connection between you, without changing who you are.