I am a pleasing personality and want to fall in love and care about others?

Hello, questioner! You've asked some great questions so far.

1. You're wondering if your pleasing personality is holding you back?

2. Your parents don't approve, saying you're too young.

3. You care about other people, and you're excited to see what they think about you!

These three questions show that you're ready to fall in love and experience the amazing feelings that come with it! It seems like you're already in the ranks of those who like the other person.

You start to actively care about the other person and express your affection for them, but they respond indifferently, which makes you wonder why.

So you start looking for reasons why the other person doesn't accept you.

So you always think that it is because of your ingratiating personality, and the second reason is that your parents don't agree, saying that you are too young.

It sounds like these two reasons are preventing you from falling in love. But don't worry! When you sum it up, you'll feel empowered and ready to take action.

Now, let's dive into the fascinating relationship between love and a pleasing personality!

The two are actually not directly related. Everyone has different personality traits, which makes the world an exciting place! There is nothing wrong with loving someone, and there is nothing wrong with being rejected. If you want to pursue someone you like, but your personality is not the type the other person likes, then the question becomes how to pursue the other person and how to cater to their interests so that they fall in love with you!

Absolutely! You can definitely try to understand why the other person rejects you.

If you care about the other person but don't get a response,

It all depends on whether your concern is for a purpose. If your concern is to get the other person's consent to your love affair, then the other person will be indifferent and reject you. This is a matter of drawing a line, of expressing consent to the relationship. But before you fall in love, the other person can only choose to keep a distance. So, don't worry about that!

You can do this! All you have to do is adjust the way, method, and frequency you care about it. Then, you'll find a way to get along with the other person.

As for your parents' disapproval, don't worry about that! You're still young, but you're already showing signs of becoming a great lover.

This is totally normal! It's probably related to your age and the age of the other person. I don't know if you are a student, but if so, you can totally relate to this problem.

Finally, when you really like someone, then go for it! Take your love and warmth and get to know each other's habits and preferences, gradually. Be bold and brave for your love. If the other person really doesn't like you, no problem! It's not your problem, nor is it the other person's problem. This is about attraction.

Just because this person is not suitable does not mean the next one is not! You can continue to move forward and find a lover who is right for you. Don't stop and doubt yourself. Just because you like someone doesn't mean they have to like you right away—but they will!

Hello! I'd like to extend a warm hug from afar to you.

I am grateful to have the opportunity to assist you in any way I can. I hope that my input can provide you with some support and guidance.

I would like to suggest that it is not always helpful to label ourselves with any personality traits. As we all know, labels can have a guiding effect, especially when they are negative. This can unintentionally influence our behaviour.

It's possible that you're simply displaying some of the behaviors associated with a people-pleasing personality. Determining whether someone has a personality disorder requires a comprehensive assessment and diagnosis of a number of factors.

Once you have identified certain traits associated with a pleasing personality, you may choose to consciously adjust your behavior to better align with the needs of the situation. For instance, if you feel that you are trying to gain the other person's love in an intimate relationship by catering to their needs, you may consider making some adjustments to your overly pleasing behavior.

For instance, you might consider expressing your discomfort in a constructive manner, particularly when the other person's words or actions evoke a negative emotional response. It may be helpful to take a moment to pause and reflect on your own views, rather than immediately identifying with and agreeing with the other person's perspective.

It might be helpful to consider that your behavior of pleasing others in intimate relationships may be an attempt to respond to and satisfy a part of yourself that lacks something. Could there be a better way to respond to and satisfy this part of yourself? For example, being accepted, affirmed, loved, valued, or cared for...

It is possible that a person's desire to please others in a relationship may stem from a lack of self-acceptance, self-confidence, and low self-esteem. When we are not clearly aware of this part of ourselves, we may unconsciously project our feelings of inner self-rejection onto the people around us, thinking that they will not accept us either.

It would be beneficial to acknowledge that the reason why you may continue to use the pleasing mode in relationships is largely because this mode of pleasing has functions. For example, it may make it easier for you to establish relationships with others, and your empathy in relationships is very popular, which may give you a strong sense of being needed.

It may be helpful to consider that the first step towards change is acceptance. This could involve identifying the positive aspects of your pleasing personality, as well as acknowledging the challenges it may present in your life. By doing so, you may find it easier to approach change with a more objective attitude.

My name is Lily, and I'm one of your devoted listeners at the Q&A Pavilion. I'm grateful for the world and for you.