I am a senior high school student who wants to study but resists being in school. What should I do?

First, let me give you a hug. You're going through an important turning point in your life. The future may take a different path, so it's normal to feel anxious. The vast majority of senior high school students (even the top students) will also feel anxious to a greater or lesser extent. This is completely normal, so don't worry about it.

From your description, it's clear you have several problems: 1. The anxiety of not being able to concentrate in class has caused you to lose sleep. 2. You don't want to deal with interpersonal relationships at school. You have a good reputation, but you essentially like to be alone.

3. Your grades have dropped significantly, and you think your teachers no longer have high hopes for you. You don't think they will care about you when you go to school, and you are even advised to keep your student status. 4. You want to see a psychologist, but you are afraid to tell your family.

You want to know what you should do. There are two options: improve the situation and return to school to take regular classes, or simply go home and review until next year. You didn't ask how you should adjust.

You need to escape these strong inner feelings.

Let's analyze the situation and make some suggestions. I'm confident they'll be helpful.

First of all, you have just entered your senior year and are beginning to feel anxious. As we have said from the beginning, most senior year students have this problem. Think about it: your future is at a fork in the road, your academic performance is important, what is the situation of the school you are entering, it will affect your future employment, life, and your survival in society, and so on, and so on. It's a series of problems, not to mention you. Just thinking about it gives me a headache.

You need to figure out how to handle your own feelings. You said that your grades have dropped too much, and you used the word "too," which shows that your previous grades were good and you were recognized by your teachers.

You are also one of the students that the teacher pays close attention to. The decline is due to anxiety, insomnia, and even temporarily taking online classes at home.

You have been suffering from insomnia for some time. If your insomnia is caused by anxiety and has lasted for more than a month, you should see a doctor to solve the problem.

You need psychological treatment, but first let's deal with the symptoms and give your body a chance to rest. Then we can combine psychological counseling with more effective and long-lasting changes. My child, your anxiety is an escape.

The workload in the third year of high school is heavy and intense. Without good resilience, it is not easy to persevere. Although everyone is still studying, the process has already begun to diverge.

Some children are strong and not afraid of failure, working hard without complaint. Some have an optimistic attitude and try their best without worrying about the consequences. Some are anxious and fearful, avoiding confrontation. In severe cases, there may be physical reactions such as loss of appetite, insomnia, and difficulty concentrating in class. You obviously belong to the latter group, although the severity of your condition remains to be seen.

My child, you want to escape the hard study and the upcoming college entrance examination. You are afraid that your parents will not accept it, so you are very torn. But your body is honest, with symptoms such as insomnia, so you are struggling and want to get help from a psychologist.

My child, a psychologist can temporarily relieve your anxiety and help you improve your sleep as soon as possible. But the one who can solve the problem is you. The root of the problem lies in your own perception. So you must first ask yourself these questions: 1. If you cannot attend normal classes due to your physical condition, your grades will not improve, and you will not do well in the college entrance exam. Without a desired major, your future career options will be limited. Do you accept this result? 2. If it doesn't work this year, it will definitely get better next year, and you will not have to take the college entrance exam.

If you still have to take the college entrance exam, it will undoubtedly repeat itself. You will be unable to sleep at certain stages.

3. You can't sleep and don't want to face it, but you don't want to face classroom learning either? (Not wanting to face your classmates is a minor reason.) 3. Let's take a longer view.

It doesn't matter if we do well or not in the college entrance exam. We still have to live. So what kind of life do you want?

You're struggling because you know you can't be a parasite or an old-age dependent. You're even afraid of your parents finding out if you see a psychologist. You know what they expect of you and you don't want to disappoint them. But if the exam doesn't go well or you can't take it, what will you use to survive and establish yourself in society?

You have other options besides the college entrance exam. You can start a business, but you'll have to face the consequences of failure. You can take professional skills training courses and find a related job. You can take a social exam and get a diploma. Many social job openings require a certain threshold, so this is a basic requirement.

I know a saying: If you don't study hard today, you'll have to work hard to find a job tomorrow. This is true for most ordinary people.

We have been studying for more than ten years, from junior high school to high school, from high school to university. Each step is like overcoming five barriers and slaying six generals. Many people will be eliminated with each step. Without continuous hard work, it is difficult to walk this path to the end. Those who do well are indeed a minority. But why do we still have to work so hard?

We must exercise our will, train our methods, and find our direction in this process of hard work. The college entrance exam is not the end of life, but rather the beginning of another period of life, whether successful or not. We must ask ourselves: is it really that we don't want to work hard?

If you don't want to face the competition, you'll have to deal with the consequences. Your parents have expectations, and you know it. You're experiencing conflicts, anxiety, and insomnia because of it.

Your grades are slipping. You don't want to face it?

You don't want to deal with the interpersonal relationships with your classmates, and you don't want to think about the competitive relationships within the association, do you?

I told my daughter, "It's okay to fail, but you have to try your best."

If you don't try your best, you won't succeed. It's that simple. If you don't want to make any effort and just think about the rewards, you'll never get anything good.

If you're willing to work hard, you can do your job well, even if it means sweeping the streets. Independence is key. Your parents will grow old, you will grow up, and you will face the world alone. Tell your parents about your situation so they know your physical condition and lower their expectations. Your parents want you to be healthy, and that's what matters most. You may be surprised, and gaining your parents' support will give you the motivation to move forward.

Tell your parents the situation so they know your physical condition and lower their expectations for you. Your parents want you to be healthy, both physically and mentally, and health is the most important thing. You will be pleasantly surprised, and you will gain the motivation to move forward from your parents!

You've got this, kid!

Hello!

You want to learn, but you're stuck. I'm here to help.

I understand your anxiety at school makes you lose sleep. You have to recuperate at home. This is the best way to cope. I appreciate you're listening and learning in your online classes.

If things continue like this, you can learn to do better. But after a period of recuperation at home, your parents have opinions. They want to ensure you have study time when you are still at home, as time is tight. As your time at home increases, conflicts have also begun to arise.

I think you also want to go back to school. That's why you've come here to seek a scientific solution.

You've come here to seek help from a psychologist. You want to solve the problem of being anxious at school and adapt to the environment. This is the best method you can think of.

You've thought of ways, but how do you bring it up?

Parents of this age may have a biased view of psychologists. You may be worried about this, so you don't know how to bring it up.

What should you do? I'll share my views.

If your family can afford it, tell your parents you want to see a psychologist. This will help you adapt to school and learn better. It will also help you avoid further problems at school. Have the courage to do this. Don't be afraid of your parents' reactions. They may scold you, but you'll know this path is not easy. It might seem hopeless, but it's worth trying.

You can also get help from other places. This is just one way. I think you will feel better if you post your issue here. You are already healing by writing. This is called writing to heal.

Next, I want to talk about writing therapy. It's about writing your thoughts in your own handwriting. Didn't you say you were anxious in class? Can't you sleep at night?

Isn't it your parents who don't understand you, not your teachers?

Didn't you say you'd go to school? And didn't you want to go to school?

Just keep writing without thinking. You can also come to the story session on the Yi Xin platform and tell all of it. This is the best way to let go of pent-up emotions. If you don't feel depressed, can you still feel anxious?

There are all kinds of situations in the senior year of high school, right?

Some teachers advise students to keep their school records. This is normal, so don't blame yourself. If you can do and persevere with writing therapy, you will do better than you are now.

I don't know which way you will choose, home learning or school learning. But I think writing therapy will help your studies. It's affordable and you can do it on your own.

You can learn more about writing therapy on this platform or Baidu. It would be good if you could also talk to your parents and go to a psychologist.

I hope you can get out of this difficult situation soon and find a way to learn that works for you. I also hope that next year, your dream university will accept you!

Fight hard, students! The world loves you!

Hello, my child! I'm so excited to share my answer with you and help you in any way I can.

After reading your description carefully, I can understand why you don't want to go to school now. For you, it is better, both in terms of your studies and your emotions. For example, at home you don't have to deal with the interpersonal relationships you don't like at school, and you won't be affected by the teacher's tendency to "only explain the knowledge points to students with good grades." At home, you can reduce our depression, discomfort and anxiety, and we can also listen to online classes. I think if I were you, I would also choose to study at home for the time being, because this seems to be the best choice for us right now.

But don't we still have some worries? Of course! We still have to go to school to study, and we still have to face people and situations that we don't want to face. We just feel inexplicably uncomfortable, don't we? In fact, this is perfectly normal! It shows that most of your anxiety, depression, and discomfort really come from the school environment and the people you have to face.

So, what should we do now?

My advice is:

First, accept your current situation and understand yourself.

We don't need to feel guilty because we can't go to school to study right now. As you said, the teacher has already persuaded many students to keep their places, which is great news! So, since we have chosen to temporarily recuperate and study at home, then we should just accept our current situation and learn the corresponding knowledge through online classes. Moreover, you will find that this may indeed be more helpful for you. Studying at school is both anxiety-provoking and depressing, and the effect is definitely not as good as studying at home, right?

So, don't doubt yourself! Accept yourself, your current state, and your choices. Adjust your mentality and use the existing resources to improve your academic performance. This can also lay a great foundation for your future! When you accept your current state, you'll have less internal conflict and greatly improve your learning effectiveness.

I'm thrilled to say that most of my current learning is done online! I studied for my "psychological counselor level 2 certificate" and "teacher qualification certificate" entirely online, and I passed both. Online learning is not ineffective; it can even be more effective than offline learning! We just need to make good use of these resources and target our studies to the needs of the real-world exams.

2. You can absolutely conquer your inner depression, discomfort, and other emotions with the right methods!

You feel like you have so many emotions inside, and you're not sure if you can tell your family that you want to see a psychologist. But these emotions have actually been there all along! When we are constantly troubled by emotions, it is difficult for us to do things with peace of mind. So, there's a saying that I love: "Deal with emotions first, and then deal with things."

There are so many ways to help ourselves release our emotions! When you can let your emotions flow and release the internal pressure, you'll be able to face life's challenges with a more relaxed state of mind. Your heart will become more fluid and powerful!

Here are a few amazing ways to relieve your emotions for you to choose from (just choose the method you like and keep doing it)!

It's time to talk! Find a suitable classmate, family member, or friend to confide in about your worries and confusions. Look for someone who can give you support and encouragement, and someone you feel comfortable with.

Psychological research shows that confiding in others has a very good therapeutic effect. So, if you speak your mind and tell the right person, you will feel supported and understood, and your inner pressure can be well released and relieved. It's a great feeling!

Go for a run, play some tennis, or do whatever sport you love! And don't forget to relax your body and mind while you're at it.

Writing therapy is an amazing way to express all your inner feelings and thoughts on paper! You don't need to worry about whether your handwriting is clear and neat, or whether the content is logical. Just go ahead and express your feelings as much as you like!

Punching pillows and sandbags is a great way to release your anger by hitting soft objects!

Here's a great way to release your emotions: Use the empty chair technique! Simply place an empty chair in a room and assume that the person you want to talk to is sitting in it. Then, you can express yourself to the chair—no limits! You can unleash your anger, vent about your frustrations, or even share your deepest secrets. It's a fantastic way to let it all out!

3. I'm ready to take the plunge and see a psychologist! How do I tell my parents?

Your parents might not know much about psychological counseling, but you can change that! You can tell them all about what psychological counseling is and why you need it. To do this, you'll need to have a good understanding of psychological counseling yourself.

Psychological counseling is an amazing process that uses the principles and methods of psychology to solve the psychological problems of the client. It doesn't just work on the symptoms; it also explores the reasons behind the outward manifestations of psychological problems. This allows the counselor to truly understand the root of the problem and help the client change and grow!

And there's more! Psychological counseling is for normal people, and it can help with two main things: normal intelligence and normal brain function.

If there's a lack of intelligence or mental problems caused by brain damage (such as schizophrenia), don't worry! You can simply go to the hospital's brain department or mental health center. These require medication and medical treatment, which will help you get back on your feet!

Then, you can use non-violent communication to communicate with your parents and express your true feelings, needs, and requests. It's a great way to get your needs met!

You can say to your parents, "Mom and Dad, I've been feeling particularly low recently. I don't have the energy to do anything. I think studying at home is quite good, but I'm worried about going to school in the future. I'd love your support and care. I hope you can take me to see a psychologist to help me adjust my state. I'd really appreciate it if you could take me to see a psychologist this weekend."

Through such communication, parents will understand your true feelings and thoughts. And if they are also willing to express their feelings and needs, then they can be invited to do so as well! This will promote deeper communication and connection between you, allowing you to understand and appreciate each other more.

If you're not ready to talk directly, don't worry! You can also express yourself by writing a letter. They'll understand you and feel your needs when they read the letter.

If your parents don't understand and you are really troubled, it is a great idea to find someone in the field of psychology to help you! You could look for a school counselor, a counselor or listener on our platform, or even someone in the psychological industry who is a relative. Who knows, they might just be the person to help you get out of the predicament!

And finally, I want to say that when you start to find a way out of your own distress, this is the beginning of growth and healing—and it is an amazing feeling!