I am always daydreaming, not knowing what my real needs are?

Hello, host! Fantasy isn't just a negative thing—it can also be a positive one! It's a way to experience different possibilities.

It's a place where you can gradually clarify what you really want and see the path you should take! In other words, you can see the feasible and

And now for the really exciting part!

You say, "I actually don't know what my needs are." This is an amazing process of self-understanding, self-assessment, and self-positioning!

The future is bright! We may have fantasies and impractical ideas, but we can also try various possibilities to clarify what we want.

In fact, what you want here is directional and instructive. If you go in the right direction, you will become more down-to-earth and determined—and you will be amazed at how much better you feel!

And you'll also find things you like and find useful along the way!

You seem to be in a state of confusion, but there's no need to worry! In this world full of millions of possibilities, there are things you can control and things you cannot.

A city where there are things you can't control, and you will fall into a state of self-doubt and ask yourself, "Is this really what I want?" But, Beijing is also

A tolerant city! Whether you're just passing through or you're planning to make a big splash in this land, you can live here for a short period of time.

But it's not as easy as it looks! You've got to put in the work, seize opportunities, and develop the right skills. It's a big decision, but an exciting one.

It's temporary, but that just means you have the chance to take control and make a change! Your uncle can help, but you can also take the initiative to seek out the answer on your own.

If you want to establish yourself independently in Beijing, you need to be motivated!

Failing the postgraduate entrance exam is just a bump in the road! It shows that you didn't have a clear career plan before, but that's easily fixed. Your current employment can be described as

You've got this! You're on your way to doing well in the design industry. The purpose of taking the postgraduate entrance exam or entering the workforce

It's all about becoming more professional, having more choices, and having a better career prospect! Taking postgraduate entrance exams is a great temporary solution to employment.

But it's not a solution that can fundamentally solve the problem. Studying at school may not be more efficient than learning on the job.

The road to postgraduate entrance exams is still open! You can continue to take the exams. After working and discovering your own deficiencies in understanding industry knowledge and the advantages and disadvantages of design majors at various schools,

A school design major, and then go to graduate school, it will even be more beneficial to your development! Going to school is temporary, learning

And the great news is that employment is inevitable!

Forget about problems with love for now. Love is worth putting in the effort for! Solve the basic problems first, and the love problems will slowly

You can do this! You just need to make yourself face fewer and fewer problems, just like answering exam questions. Now get the score you can get, and improve efficiency.

And the best part is, you can do it at your own pace!

Life is complicated, but it's also exciting! Your future career should be your top priority, because it's the foundation for everything else. All the other superstructures are based on this, so it's important to make sure you're putting your career first!

Make sure you stay on top of things to keep your foundation strong and your life stable.

Make yourself happy, learn happily, work happily, and live happily! You've got this! Gradually integrate into the new environment and adapt to the work rhythm.

Everything is going to be just fine!

Hello!

Host:

After reading the post carefully, I can feel some of the confusion the poster is feeling from the content. At the same time, I also noticed that the poster bravely expressed his own confusion and actively sought help on the platform, which is really admirable!

This will undoubtedly help the poster to better understand and recognize himself, so that he can adjust himself and encounter a better self—and it's going to be great!

Now, I'd like to share my observations and thoughts on the post, which I'm sure will help the poster gain a richer perspective on themselves!

1. What kind of amazing benefits does fantasy bring us?

If something doesn't benefit us, why do it? This is something the original poster can think about.

From the post, it can be observed that the poster failed the postgraduate entrance exam, became a management trainee, and is not very satisfied with his work. So what is the source of dissatisfaction? I'm excited to help you figure it out!

I totally get it. You're not quite able to accept your current self and your current job. Is that right?

From another perspective, being dissatisfied means you haven't met your real needs yet! You may not know what they are, but they're not the ones in front of you. So what can you do if your needs aren't being met?

Then we'll find ways to satisfy our needs! If we can't satisfy our needs in reality, we can definitely satisfy them in our imagination.

After exploring this, the poster will surely gain a deeper understanding of their own fantasies! From observing the post, it's evident that what the poster thinks about is a life that truly satisfies them.

This is so important! It not only satisfies our needs, it also maintains our self-esteem and gives us a sense of worth. Isn't that right?

2. Return to reality

Absolutely! In fact, from fantasy, the host can also find their true needs. Just imagine having a good job that is both decent and relaxing!

And isn't this an expression of a sense of worth? Feeling different from others is not a way to maintain one's self-esteem?

Is fantasizing about living a sweet life with your boyfriend an expression of your intimate needs? Absolutely!

And these are actually the needs of the host! They look for it in their imagination because they're unable to find it in reality.

But we also need to realize that imagination is not reality. This is an exciting opportunity to return to the present and see what the current self can do for one's life and needs!

Now, let's see what resources we have available!

I really hope these comments have been a little bit of inspiration for the poster! I'm a psychological coach, Zeng Chen.

Be realistic and start from reality. For example, the original poster mentioned that they fantasize about being a famous interior designer and that their uncle can help them.

Then this is your own resource! You can absolutely make use of these resources!

This is something the poster needs to figure out for himself. We are adults, and it's time to find our own needs and learn to satisfy ourselves!

I understand your aspirations and recognize the challenges you face in reconciling them with the realities of urban life. When there is a discrepancy between one's ideal and actual circumstances, it is natural to seek solace in fantasies.

Allocate time each day for creative thinking and visualization. With sustained focus, you may find that your aspirations eventually manifest.

The remainder of the time is spent returning to the demands of the real world, where work and personal responsibilities await.

The process of becoming a management trainee is competitive. This demonstrates that the company values its employees. If you gain a certain degree of influence at work, you will receive a promotion and a pay increase more quickly than the average employee.

Further reading on the subject of the workplace may be beneficial, as it offers insight into skills such as work reporting, PPT presentations, and cross-departmental cooperation.

While your previous professional and technical abilities are relevant to your work, it is more crucial to focus on long-term development of your soft skills.

There are several ways to develop your professional network in Beijing.

1. The work circle: Individuals in this circle can assist in enhancing one's workplace skills and facilitate access to additional contacts and resources.

2. Interest circles: If you have an interest in design, you can expand your learning beyond your immediate circle. Online resources on Bilibili and Xiaohongshu can help you connect with like-minded individuals and develop your design skills outside of work, creating a second career path. If you are unhappy in your current role, you will have the confidence to pursue other opportunities.

3. Hometown Circle: It is not uncommon for individuals who relocate to experience challenges in establishing new social networks. Having a support system in place, whether through friends or other connections, can facilitate a more seamless transition.

You have also likely discussed the future with your boyfriend in a different city. The two of you can envision the future together and then return to reality to focus on making progress.

You may still pursue your goal of pursuing postgraduate studies. Currently, there are opportunities for full-time postgraduate study at various universities, as well as some MBA and EMBA opportunities that arise in the workplace. Companies will pay for training such senior management personnel, and there are still many opportunities for learning.

Each challenge presents an opportunity for growth and development. It indicates a need for greater satisfaction and a commitment to hard work to achieve one's desired outcome. While it is not straightforward, it is a journey with potential for success.

To attract a beautiful butterfly, it is not necessary to pursue it with great intensity. Instead, create a beautiful garden and the butterfly will be drawn to it, often surrounding you.

Similarly, if you want to achieve an ideal life, you just need to be realistic, self-disciplined, and persistent every day, doing things that are meaningful to your goal. Over time, you will see the beginning of this life, and gradually come into contact with it.

Once you achieve this goal, the next goal in your life will appear, because you have had a successful experience. You will find that achieving goals is not difficult. To do so, you just need to follow a plan and implement it step by step. Then you will become more and more calm about the difficult problems that life gives you, and you will have a way to solve them one by one.

Given the challenges of navigating life, it is beneficial to engage in creative pursuits to enhance our experiences. I appreciate the questioner's inclination towards fantasy, and I believe it can be effectively documented through written or visual means. This is a valuable aspect of your life experience.

I wish you the best of luck in your pursuit of a fulfilling life, filled with hope, prospects, and a balance of fantasy and reality.

Let's proceed!