I am new here. My colleague started rolling up her sleeves when she saw me come in. Should I do the same?

Dear friend, I totally get where you're coming from. It's only natural to feel a bit confused and stressed when faced with an increase in workload from your colleagues. We often encounter challenges and comparisons at work that can make us feel a bit uneasy and anxious.

I can totally see how you're feeling. We all work differently in the workplace, and you don't need to feel pressured by your colleagues' increased workload.

You are so valuable just as you are! Your value is not defined by the workload of others, but by your own efforts, achievements, and contributions to the work.

It's totally normal to feel this way! We all do. The situation you mentioned may involve something called "social comparison theory." This is when we compare our abilities and perspectives with others to assess our own value and abilities. In your case, you may have unintentionally engaged in social comparison with your colleagues, which may have made you feel that your workload is not enough or that you are not as good as your colleagues in the workplace.

It's so important to remember that making comparisons like this can really affect your self-worth and even your job satisfaction and mental health.

You know yourself best, and you're capable of setting reasonable work goals based on your abilities and work rhythm. No one can deny your hard work and achievements!

I think it would be a great idea for you to try to communicate openly and honestly with your colleague. It would be really helpful for you to find out why she has taken on more work. Is it because of her personal career goals, her passion for her work, or the expectations placed on her by the company?

At the same time, you can express your feelings and confusion to see if you can find a balance that is satisfactory to both parties. It's totally okay to feel confused or unsure. We've all been there!

It's so important to remember that everyone works differently and at different speeds. You don't need to compare yourself directly with your colleagues, but just set reasonable work goals based on your own abilities and work rhythm.

This ties in with the theory of self-determination, which is all about the importance of having autonomy, feeling competent, and feeling connected to others. These things are really important for feeling motivated to do things on your own.

Taking a moment for some self-reflection can really help us figure out what we want our career to look like. It's so important to think about our goals and what we're hoping to achieve in our work.

This is not only an expectation of work, but also an affirmation of self-worth. We all have our own rhythm and path, and finding a way of working that suits us is the key to maintaining confidence and a positive attitude.

You've got this! Setting reasonable goals will help you navigate the workplace. Set achievable goals according to your abilities and work pace, neither overestimating yourself nor underestimating your potential.

It's so important to set goals that are challenging but within our capabilities. That way, we can grow and improve as we work towards achieving them!

It's always a great idea to get feedback from our leaders or colleagues about our work performance. It's a wonderful way to recognize our shortcomings and get valuable advice and suggestions. Through feedback, we can adjust our work methods and improve work efficiency.

We can always make our professional skills and work efficiency better by reading books that are relevant to our work, going to workshops or training courses. It's so important to keep learning and growing in our jobs. That's the best way to stay competitive.

Remember, your value isn't defined by how much others are doing. It's about your own efforts, achievements, and contributions to work. And you know what? You've got this! You can find your own place in the workplace. Just keep that sense of self-worth and belief in your abilities strong.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, it might be helpful to chat with a professional counselor. They can help you learn ways to manage your emotions and stress.

Hello, I'm happy to answer your questions and hope that some suggestions will be helpful.

It would be beneficial to make a comprehensive judgment based on the actual situation when encountering some problems in the work process.

For instance, it would be beneficial to consider our own personality, the personalities of our colleagues, and that of our boss, as well as their feelings and thoughts about us.

As newcomers, it would be beneficial for us to prioritize adapting to the work environment and work content, as well as getting to know our colleagues. In this process, it might be helpful to take a step back and observe calmly before taking action.

It's important to remember that internal turnover is a long-term issue. For instance, if we complete ten copies of the workload today, our boss will likely view this as an indication of our ability to work. Similarly, if we complete twenty copies today and ten copies tomorrow, our boss may perceive this as a lack of commitment.

It is therefore important to assess our own abilities and to take on tasks that we are confident we can complete. In particular, when we are new to a role, it is beneficial to gradually increase the amount of work we take on, or to focus on improving our efficiency or quality of work.

If we are concerned that our boss may have reservations about our abilities, it is important to recognize that during the initial stages of employment, they will not be comparing us to previous employees in an unfair manner. They will provide us with the necessary support to adapt to the new environment. This is an invaluable opportunity for us to gain a deeper understanding of the company's processes and determine the best way to contribute to the team.

It is my hope that through self-reflection and constant observation, you will be able to find a work state that suits you and get to know your colleagues better.

I hope the world and I can show you some love!