I consider others' feelings in my words and actions, why do people around me belittle me?

Good day, question asker.

From your description, it seems that some of your sister-in-law's mother's words made you feel very uncomfortable. Is that correct?

The questioner inquired as to whether he was experiencing a panic attack as a result of comments made by his sister-in-law's mother and linked it to a previous occurrence.

It would be premature for me to draw any conclusions for the questioner at this stage. The questioner is advised to seek the help of a professional counselor to conduct a measurement. Even if the questioner goes online to look up the definition and manifestations of "panic attacks," it would be unwise to assume that the information is applicable to them. The only correct course of action is to seek professional help to conduct a measurement.

The questioner states, "I consider the feelings of others in what I say and do, so why do the people around me want to belittle me?" My assessment is that the questioner is a kind individual who also expects respect and recognition from others.

The situation with the sister-in-law is not always the result of our actions. In my opinion, her behavior was inappropriate and reflects on her personal qualities. If it bothers the questioner, he can avoid being influenced by her by adjusting his own behavior.

The questioner stated that he considers the feelings of others, yet he is not treated the same way. At what point did this feeling begin? When is it absent?

This sentiment may be influenced by the individual's upbringing and early experiences, or it could be a consequence of a later event, or it may be a reflection of a genetically predisposed high sensitivity.

However, this can be addressed through learning and development.

The questioner can ascertain whether they exhibit characteristics of a pleasing or sensitive personality type. With gradual awareness and reflection, they will undoubtedly become increasingly at ease.

It would be beneficial for the questioner to be aware of their expectations. If these expectations are met, how would this affect the questioner's feelings?

Please describe the steps you will take to achieve your stated expectations.

I am unaware of the specifics of the questioner's situation, but I have some suggestions that I hope will assist the questioner in alleviating negative emotions and gaining the courage to confront issues from the past that they have been reluctant to address.

Firstly, it is important to adjust your mindset and become one with your body and mind.

If you consistently follow through on your commitments, you will see a notable boost in your self-confidence.

Maintaining integrity means adhering to one's commitments, whether to others or to oneself.

To be in harmony with oneself is to communicate one's thoughts and feelings with clarity and authenticity.

Secondly, it is important to accept yourself.

"Psychology often suggests that individuals should 'accept themselves,' yet I believe that everyone has significant shortcomings. Does this mean that we should simply ignore these shortcomings?"

"Isn't that just an excuse for inaction and a lack of drive?" In fact, this is a common misconception about self-acceptance.

The term "self-acceptance" is used to describe the extent to which an individual is able to accept their personal characteristics, regardless of whether they are perceived as positive or negative. It implies that an individual is capable of accepting their shortcomings without harboring negative self-esteem or a sense of inadequacy.

The adage "love yourself" is contingent upon self-acceptance. If an individual is unable to accept themselves and their relationship with themselves is characterized by criticism and negativity, it is implausible to establish a foundation for love.

The third key is to build a wealth of knowledge.

The more knowledge you acquire, the more expansive your perspective will become. When confronted with any situation, you will be able to respond with composure and readily comprehend the intricacies involved. This fosters the growth of a composed and resilient mindset, equipping you with the temperament to respond to events in a calm and collected manner.

It is important to learn to release negative emotions.

It is often expected that adults will maintain emotional stability. As a result, individuals may learn to suppress and hide their negative emotions.

If emotional energy is suppressed and builds up in the body, it can have a negative impact on the body's organs. According to traditional Chinese medicine, many physical discomforts can be caused by psychological factors.

Fear has a detrimental impact on the kidneys, sadness on the lungs, thinking on the spleen, joy on the heart, and anger on the liver.

It is important to recognize that every emotion deserves attention. In particular, it is crucial to learn to release emotional energy in a productive manner.

It is important to learn to distract yourself.

In any given situation, there will be a variety of individuals with different personalities and characteristics. It is not always possible to interact with people who have positive qualities. When faced with individuals who exhibit negative behaviors, it is important to maintain your composure and not allow their actions to affect you. One effective approach is to use a distraction technique to deflect their influence. It is important to remember that your emotional state and level of engagement can influence the outcome of a situation. If you remain detached and indifferent, it will send a clear message to the other person that their actions are unacceptable and will likely deter them from repeating the behavior or continuing it.

It is of the utmost importance that the questioner learns to love and respect themselves. It is not uncommon for individuals to be more generous and enthusiastic towards others, while neglecting their own needs. If we do not love ourselves, it is unlikely that others will love us in return.

The individual in question can begin by rejecting and respecting their own feelings, learning to love themselves, and when they love themselves, they will not only not be influenced by others, but will instead be able to attract others.

I would like to conclude by suggesting a few books to the questioner: The Pleaser Personality, The Courage to Be Disliked, and Life Script.