I dislike people who think they are always right, and it even affects my sleep. How can I adjust my mood?

Hello! I'll give you a hug.

You can feel your feelings.

Let yourself feel angry, disgusted, and helpless when faced with a self-righteous person. His behavior makes you feel uncomfortable and seems disrespectful and offensive.

But you also know you can't be rude to him or disrespect yourself. For example, removing him from the group or blacklisting him will have a bad impact on what you've done.

You can't control everything, so accept it and change what you can. Many people use morality to restrict others, and that's their business.

If you feel uncomfortable, you can express your feelings. Don't focus on whether his behavior is right or wrong. This makes him feel attacked. The reason he speaks up is to be seen, affirmed, accepted, and valued. His way of expressing himself is not what you like, but his initiative will enliven the group and promote interaction.

What do you think?

Other people's words can make us feel hurt and uncomfortable because they remind us of our own problems. Try to be aware of what you feel when someone says something that upsets you. This is something you need to work through.

Second, how we interpret others' words affects how we feel. If you think he's seeking attention, you won't be angry. But if you think he's being difficult, you will be. What do you think?

So accept what you can't change, change what you can, reflect on your own faults through others, and then face it all bravely.

I'm Lily, a Q&A Pavilion listener. I love the world and you.

Be tough on yourself and easy on others. This is a traditional virtue, but you've probably noticed some discord among the people you know. Some folks are always self-righteous and will impose all kinds of strict standards on you and judge you.

It can be really distressing and hurtful. In this group, we're supposed to be able to share some of our feelings and insights equally. But some people still jump in and point fingers.

These perfectionists don't even set high standards for themselves, but instead come over and demand them of you. It's really frustrating. Why do they do that? Do they want to feel important? It's really annoying.

At the same time, you can also see some confessions from other people, and their views are also full of diverse information. Some legalistic rules and regulations, some narcissists who show no respect—these are the weaknesses we need to avoid and circumvent.

If you see someone who's doing something right, think about doing the same. If you see someone who's not doing so well, think about how you could improve your own actions. On a good platform, all kinds of opinions are welcome, but you need to be tactful. If you don't want to listen or feel judged, you can try to explain that you don't want to listen anymore, and ask the other person to pause their high-sounding rhetoric. In this way, boundaries can be established between each other.

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