I don't know why, but I hate it when my mother treats me like I'm her little baby.

Good morning, My name is Peace of Mind, and I am here to help.

As we mature, we develop our own thoughts and aspirations, including a desire for independence and freedom. We also hope that our parents can recognize this and adjust their approach to avoid crossing boundaries and interfering in our affairs.

However, parents may find it challenging to recognize this distinction. They often perceive their children as extensions of themselves, which can result in a lack of awareness of personal boundaries and a tendency to cross them.

This creates a conflict.

I would like to hear your thoughts on this matter.

Is your aversion to your mother's meticulous care a contributing factor?

Please do not rush to answer. Let me accompany you as you think deeply about a few questions, if that is agreeable.

From the description, it can be understood that your mother's meticulous care for you should have a long history. Could you please provide an estimate of how long this has been the case?

From the outset, has there been a consistent approach to care?

At the time, were you able to accept this situation?

If you did not perceive a problem during your childhood, at what point did this sentiment of annoyance emerge?

Please describe the circumstances surrounding this change in perception.

Please describe your reaction at the time.

Following the incident, did you communicate your thoughts and feelings to your mother and provide her with your expectations?

Please describe your mother's response.

Please clarify what is meant by "pervasive" in this context. Does it imply that you are consistently treated as a child, with all arrangements made for you?

Your feelings toward your mother are both annoying and guilty, which seems contradictory.

This indicates that the relationship between you and your mother remains positive. However, your mother's conduct has the effect of making you feel as though you will never mature, which is frustrating and even angering.

You still maintain the hope that you can maintain a positive relationship with your mother. Is this correct?

I believe that by posing this question on this platform, your objective is to ascertain how you might enhance your relationship with your mother. Is this correct?

When you can grasp this concept, it signifies that you have truly developed and matured.

It would be advisable to go home, have an honest conversation with your mother, and sit down calmly with her to discuss the situation.

It is important to communicate your thoughts and feelings to your mother in a clear and concise manner. At the same time, it is essential to demonstrate to her that you have matured and are capable of taking responsibility for your own life. This will allow you to establish a healthy and mutually respectful relationship.

It is important to note that what you find annoying may be what others long for but cannot obtain.

It is indisputable that your mother loves you. However, her method of expressing this love may be difficult for you to accept at the present time. It is important to recognize that this is likely the most effective way she knows to demonstrate her affection.

I wish you the best of luck.

You feel a bit annoyed by your mother's meticulous care, but afterwards you might even blame yourself for not doing things right.

It's so lovely to see how close you are with your mum!

It's totally normal to feel annoyed when our boundaries are "violated" by someone we're close to. It's like our own personal space gets invaded! You might feel this way because your mother has "violated" your boundaries.

This feeling is totally normal, and there's absolutely no need to blame yourself. You're just trying to figure out what's behind this "annoyance."

For example, your mother's meticulous care may make you feel "powerless" and like a "child." We all want to be independent and self-reliant as we get older, and it's totally normal to feel like you're not quite there yet!

Your sweet mother's loving care for you has unfortunately stepped on your sensitive spot, making you seem like a child.

It's not that you're annoyed with your mom for taking care of you. It's more that you're frustrated with yourself for still feeling like you're not quite there yet in terms of being independent and self-reliant.

It's totally normal to feel this way when your mom does the little things she does every day. It can feel like a constant reminder that you're not quite there yet in terms of being independent and taking care of yourself. And it's okay to feel like you're not quite there yet!

But remember, whether you are a child is not up to your mother. It's up to you!

If you're independent and self-reliant enough to take care of yourself, your mother will definitely adjust her approach to match your needs.

If your mom's "withdrawal" is what you want, you might as well do more for yourself and take care of yourself. Remember, you can't change your mom without changing yourself first.

When your mom does something you don't like, you can try this:

- When your mom gives you an umbrella, you can say, "Thank you, Mom. I'll remember that for next time. I'll carry a small umbrella with me in my bag, so you don't have to come and pick me up."

If your mom takes you out to eat and you're not feeling up to it, you can say no. You don't have to go with her, but if you do, you can just enjoy the company without eating anything.

If you don't feel like chatting with your mom, you can go to your room and do your own thing, or you can tell her, "I'm a bit tired and don't want to talk. I'll rest for a while and then chat with you."

It's totally normal for kids to want to get away from their moms sometimes, but it can be tough to know how to do that without feeling guilty. It's a tricky spot to be in!

It's totally normal to feel a bit guilty when you're learning to be more independent and self-reliant. It's all part of growing up!

As a way of making up for it, we can show our mums more love and appreciation in words, while also setting clearer boundaries in our actions.

I really hope these tips are helpful for you!

Hello! It's nice to meet you.

After reading your description, I thought that if I were you, I would also hate being treated like this by my mother. I might even feel a little resentful, even though she is taking care of me and I don't deserve it.

But emotions are honest, and they're full of disgust.

When we're young, we need our mothers' meticulous care to survive. But even as adults, we're still being overprotected by our mothers. You could even say it's like "castration."

The mother gets her sense of fulfillment as a mother through her careful attention to detail, which proves her value.

As I write this, I feel a little sad. It's a sad fact of life that a parent's sense of presence can only be proved through others, not by themselves! I sincerely hope that you, who are so aware, can live out the meaning of your life.

At the same time, her behavior seems to suggest that you're not capable of doing anything well. She doesn't believe that you can take care of yourself, so she needs to continue taking care of you. This is a derogatory comment on your abilities and a denial of your value, so it's no surprise she'll be angry.

If you bring this up with your mother, she might say, "I didn't do anything! I didn't eat or drink anything. I did it all for you. I did it for you!"

Of course, she may not always be aware of these things because they're not at the conscious level.

It's only natural to want to rebel when we feel oppressed. And since our mothers are our primary caregivers, they'll feel guilty if they hurt themselves.

So, what should she do?

To be honest, I don't have a magic formula. The only thing I can think of is "resolute without hostility."

In an atmosphere with a sense of ritual, tell your mother firmly but without emotion that you've grown up and that you don't need the same level of care anymore. Wait for her to respond in a similar way.

Kids need to grow up and move on from their mothers. They need to develop a better version of themselves. As a mother, you'll be happy, but you can't hide your sadness and anger. You don't need to carry these emotions, because they're not yours. Mothers also need to grow better. They need to face it on their own until they find the value of their existence. Don't look back, just wish her well.

In life, you've got to let go of the past and move on!

Hello!

I congratulate the original poster for showing how they feel about being "taken care of by their mother." It shows they are growing up and have a strong motivation to develop their self-confidence. Well done!

The secret is this:

Human babies depend on their mothers for survival and healthy growth. Their mothers' care is the key to their survival and healthy growth.

There are also some universal laws of human growth and development. A person's growth is towards independence and autonomy because life will naturally grow up and grow old. No matter how much a mother loves us, she cannot always take care of us forever. Everyone will grow old and leave this world.

Love is about helping us become independent. This is so our mothers can leave us and still live well. This is how the human race can continue to thrive. We can take care of ourselves, our children, and their children. As the saying goes, "Love is for being together, but the love of parents for their children is for being apart."

Everyone has to become independent. This starts at birth and continues throughout our lives. We want to become independent around the age of three. We say "no" to our mothers. We can't speak yet, so we cry.

"No" is the most powerful word in our language. It's a declaration of independence. It means, "I don't want anyone to make decisions for me. I want to decide things for myself."

We were too young, weak, and powerless. Saying "no" to our mothers showed we were strong, but we didn't feel that way. If a three-year-old had complete control, they would have died. From then on, children and mothers fought over independence. Mothers said "no" to protect us. We will suffer in this battle.

Adolescence is another time when people want to become independent. We are no longer as young and vulnerable as we were at age 3. We say "no" more often and in different ways. For example, we may say "yes, mom," but then do what we want.

Mothers will face more challenges and lose more battles. The power of life and growth is unstoppable, even if we harm ourselves to defend our independence. We make mistakes, smoke, fight, become addicted to the internet, don't study, and run away from home.

It's hard for a mother to know when to protect her child and when to let them grow.

Life is an adventure.

This is why you feel annoyed while being taken care of by your mother. You feel like you're in the wrong!

Don't feel guilty about growing up. It's the best way to live.

You can talk to your mother about how you feel when she takes care of you. It makes you feel like she doesn't trust you and that you can't live without her. It also makes you feel guilty. You feel like you should stay young so your mother will always be useful to you.

Being "taken care of" means carrying these bad feelings our mothers have dumped on us. They drain our energy and sap our vitality as we rush towards independence.

Annoyed, not happy, when taken care of = healthy.

Tell your mother you need to be independent and that you love her. Then go and become an adult!

Your mother must learn to trust you. It's her own personal journey. You can't carry her burden for her.

Everyone's growth is a process of abandoning their mother. This is our destiny, including the future when we will also experience our children abandoning us.

I love you, world.

Hello! I just wanted to give you a 360-degree hug.

I just wanted to say, congratulations on growing up. It's time to move on to the next stage of the life cycle.

Erik Erikson's psychosocial development theory, which is the well-known eight-stage theory in developmental psychology, says that...

There are eight stages in life. The period between 12 and 18 years old is adolescence, and the period between 18 and 40 years old is early adulthood.

The basic conflict of adolescence is figuring out who you are and what kind of person you want to become. This is the first time you've defined yourself. This period is about autonomy and thinking about what kind of person you want to become, which is called self-identification.

The main challenge of the 18-to-40 age range, which is the early adulthood stage, is finding a balance between intimacy and loneliness. You have to start thinking about whether you want to live alone or not and whether you can support yourself financially. This period is about striking a balance between intimacy and independence.

In other words, your 20s are a new stage in your life. You've grown up from adolescence to adulthood, and you're ready to spread your wings and fly.

The family life cycle is also entering a new stage for your family. For your parents, this stage is when the children start leaving home and the family reverts to a system of two people, also known as the empty nest stage.

From what you've said, it seems like you're ready to leave home, enter adulthood, and start taking control of your own life.

But your mom isn't quite ready for you to leave the nest yet. She still sees you as a high school or college student. It's not her fault.

Your mother has been a great primary and secondary school student, but now she has to learn to be a university student's mother, a mother to an adult.

So, the conflict between you and your mother is a conflict between different tasks in different life stages. At the same time, you both have different needs, and these needs are somewhat conflicting.

It's not your fault, and it's not your mother's fault either. It's just a misalignment of needs.

What can you do? I suggest you have a chat with your mother. Talk to her about your needs and thank her for taking such good care of you. Let her know that now it's time for her to enjoy her life, and that you need to learn to take care of yourself. Let her know that you'll take care of her in the future.

You might also want to talk to a counselor.

I'm a counselor who often feels depressed but is also motivated at times. I love the world and I love you.