I failed to join the Communist Party at university. I felt like my life was over. I could not see any light at the end of the tunnel...

Hello, I'm Heart's Peace. I'm happy to talk about this topic.

It seems like marriage pressure is becoming more common. My daughter's classmates are only 21 or 22, but their families are already pressuring them to get married. It feels like relationships and marriage are in decline.

From the question, I see a child who is confused, helpless, suffering, and worried. I hug you. You are not facing this alone. I am willing to go with you to find the light.

Why do they want you to get married? What was their attitude towards you when you were growing up?

How do you usually interact with them? Are you on equal footing or cautious and meticulous?

If you're cautious, when did it start? What caused it?

Ask yourself again: Is it my parents' urging?

Tired of looking for a partner? Afraid of making the wrong choice?

Is there a deeper reason?

Why do you feel tired of finding a partner? Is it the process or the relationship?

Why be afraid of choosing the wrong person? Is it because of what others have done that makes you afraid to choose a partner?

Or do you doubt yourself and think you'll never find someone who truly loves you? Why do you think this?

Where does it come from?

You met a guy you liked at a blind date, but gave up because of the crowd. Why didn't you try? Were you worried it wouldn't work out?

It's looking for a way out. If it doesn't work, it's not because I'm bad or not good enough, but because I gave up.

Is your desire for love and marriage just a fear of making the wrong choice? If you choose the wrong person, you'll prove you have no taste, you're not good enough, and you're not worthy of getting it. You're unwilling to face this, unable to accept it, and it scares you, right?

Where does this lack of confidence and sense of unworthiness come from? Have you had a similar experience?

When you think about these questions, you can see what's really going on inside you.

You're right. There are so many people, and it's hard to find someone who fits and loves you back.

When you face your heart and find the answer, your heart will open, your horizons will expand, your thinking will become broader, and you will see people and events more clearly.

I can't promise you'll find what you're looking for right away.

But I think that when you find the answers, you will become a strong child who can face anything and accept anything.

Do you want to meet your stronger self? Think carefully about the questions above and find your true self.

I'll be there for you no matter what.

Greetings, inquirer. I am Jiang 61.

We appreciate you sharing your concerns with us. We are committed to collaborating with you to identify a solution.

From your description, it can be seen that you are a positive person with progressive thinking who applied to join the party and studied hard. However, due to your introverted personality, you were not elected to the student committee and thus unable to participate in the activities that led to others being elected.

Furthermore, you are not an active member of the party at this time, despite being in your fourth year of university.

Therefore, your primary concern is that you will soon be taking the postgraduate entrance examination and have been informed that being a member of the party will result in additional points being awarded, and that the teachers have a preference for recruiting party members. Despite your best efforts and the fact that you are a diligent student, you have not yet been accepted into the party. You are particularly concerned that you may fail the examination as a result of this. What if you perform well on the examination but are ultimately rejected due to the presence of party members in the applicant pool?

1. How to View Your Current Doubts: First, it is essential to clarify a few key points.

First, it is necessary to clarify the misunderstanding regarding the party.

There is a significant discrepancy between your understanding of the relationship between joining the party and being admitted to graduate school and the actuality of the situation. In fact, the two are not necessarily linked.

There are established criteria for joining the party, which are distinct from academic performance and personality. Your inability to become a preparatory party member indicates that you have not yet met the requisite standards.

Furthermore, while political affiliation may be taken into consideration during the postgraduate entrance examination, it is not the sole criterion for admission.

Secondly, it is essential to comprehend the underlying cause of these concerns.

The cause of your distress is your tendency to conflate disparate issues. You are associating the postgraduate entrance exam with politics and focusing on your political performance rather than your professional qualifications.

2. How to Eliminate Worry

First, it is essential to recognize and accept reality.

It is important to acknowledge the reality that the political requirements for joining the party have not yet been met and to accept this as a fact. It is crucial not to allow the political performance to become a constraint on the postgraduate entrance exam.

It is essential to understand that if one aspires to become a genuine member of the party, it is of paramount importance to ensure that one's intentions are unquestionably pure. Furthermore, it is vital to demonstrate a consistent and dedicated work ethic, coupled with a willingness to take action. It is crucial to recognise that the organisation is able to discern these qualities.

Secondly, it is advisable to study in a tranquil environment.

It is essential to eliminate potential distractions and prepare for the exam subjects with dedication and effort. Those who have invested significant effort will undoubtedly reap the rewards of their hard work.

Thirdly, it is essential to prepare the mind for the forthcoming examination.

Failure to pass the examination does not indicate a lack of ability; it merely signifies that the requisite criteria have not yet been met. It is important to maintain a positive outlook and believe that with sufficient effort and determination, success can be achieved.

This is the extent of the assistance I am able to provide. It is my hope that it will be of some benefit.

I wish you the utmost success in your future endeavors.

The fact that you were not admitted to the institution does not indicate that you are unqualified; it merely signifies that you did not fulfill the prerequisites for this particular examination.

You're right to be eager to join the party. I can offer you some points of understanding.

Let me be clear: being a party member is not a prerequisite for getting a good job or having a promising future. Despite the fact that there are more than 95 million party members in China—which accounts for about 7% of the total population—you must understand what this means.

From a practical standpoint, the majority of individuals taking the postgraduate entrance exam, the civil service exam, or entering a public institution are not party members. Similarly, many people who excel in their work and achieve remarkable results are not party members either.

Your pessimism about not being able to join the party is misguided.

Secondly, party membership is often a selection criterion because party members are outstanding and advanced. It's like we're studying the same major. I graduated from a second-tier university, and you graduated from Peking University.

The employer will definitely prefer you regardless of other factors because Peking University is a label of excellence. I will be valued and hired even if I didn't graduate from Peking University if I can prove my professional abilities are not weaker than yours, or even stronger.

Third, joining the party is a choice of beliefs. If you're only interested in the possible benefits of joining the party, or if you should think more about this matter,

You must understand communism and make it your own belief before you can join the party. Otherwise, you're putting the cart before the horse.

Fourth, if you are willing to make communism your faith, you will definitely have the opportunity to join the party. It doesn't matter who you are—student, worker, civil servant—if you perform well, the party organization will notice you and invite you to join.

Identify your beliefs, prove your abilities, and demonstrate your determination through action. You will undoubtedly achieve your goals.

Good day.

Given that the inquirer has elected to actively join the party, it is important to be aware of the motives behind your actions.

Given your family's financial circumstances, you appear to be strongly inclined towards pursuing a career in civil service. You seem to believe that a stable job in this field will lead to a similar level of stability in your future life.

It appears that you also consider the postgraduate entrance exam to be a significant undertaking.

Therefore, based on the information currently available to you, it seems that you believe that in order to take the civil service exam or the postgraduate entrance exam, you must first join the party.

Upon review, I am uncertain about the numerous options available.

Joining the party requires a demonstration of one's character. Those who persevere in doing what they believe is right will be seen as such.

There is, however, a saying that is somewhat discomforting to read: "You can only deliver packages and take out food, doing the hardest work." Do you typically take out food and receive packages? When you do, doesn't your heart swell with joy and gratitude? And if there is a problem with the product, who helps everyone make a trip during the seven-day no-questions-asked return policy?

It is a rewarding experience to have the support of a colleague or supervisor. Do you recognize the effort they invest in your work?

In reading about Zhang Guimei, one is struck by her remarkable persistence and tenacity. Her dedication and effort are beyond description.

You desire a greater number of options, yet you are encumbered by the voices that surround you. You are unable to discern your own thoughts.

You are aware of the need to have more options, but you are hindered by the surrounding noise. You are unable to discern your own thoughts.

I would like to pose two questions.

1. What level of effort would you be willing to invest in order to achieve your desired income (material + spiritual) if you already have a bachelor's degree?

For instance, one might consider pursuing studies outside the traditional classroom setting, whether in a related field or not, with the goal of becoming a highly skilled individual capable of driving personal growth and value creation through experimentation and learning.

2. The oath of joining the party includes the following statement: "Strive for communism for the rest of your life." Please describe your understanding of this sentence.

Take a moment to feel the energy in the words and evaluate your own efforts and gains.

I would like to suggest that the questioner read the inaugural speech of Cai Yuanpei, President of Peking University, in The Age of Awakening.

Good morning. I extend my best regards to you.

To address your inquiry, I conducted thorough research and am pleased to present the findings.

As of June 30th of last year, there were over 95 million members of the Chinese Communist Party.

There are over 7 million civil servants at all levels, along with the management of career staff on civil service terms, which brings the total to approximately 8 million.

As per the hiring requirements for the 2021 national civil service exam, the proportion of Chinese Communist Party members remains notably high in the recruitment of central party and mass organizations and central state administrative organs (at this level), accounting for 62.3% and 68.6%, respectively.

In the recruitment of institutions directly under the central state administrative organs at or below the provincial level and institutions under the administration of the central state administrative organs in accordance with the civil service law, the proportion of party members is relatively small, and non-party members are eligible to apply for positions that do not require party membership.

In other words, the majority of party members are not civil servants, and over 30% of civil servants are not party members.

Therefore, party membership is not a significant factor in determining whether an individual can become a civil servant. However, it should be noted that party members may have more opportunities in this regard.

I don't believe these statistics will dissuade you from pursuing party membership if you have not already done so. There are still many opportunities for advancement and growth within the party, even if you are not a member.

To be candid, I also submitted an application to join the party during my tenure at the university. I even attended party classes when I was pursuing my postgraduate studies. However, I did not take the exam at the end of the course for personal reasons and ultimately did not join the party.

To the best of my knowledge, there is no requirement for political affiliation to take the postgraduate entrance exam, nor are there any additional points awarded to party members. My research indicates that teachers do not prioritize party membership in their evaluation of applicants, even for postgraduate entrance exams in party history.

However, I suspect this may not have addressed your concerns.

It appears that you are fixated on joining the party and have exaggerated the influence of party membership on your future prospects. This could be a counterproductive approach, and you may attribute all your setbacks to your inability to join the party.

For example, failure to gain admission to graduate school or a government position is often attributed to one's lack of party membership. Similarly, if you are unable to secure a position as a delivery person or delivery boy, it is likely due to your status as a non-party member.

I am unaware of your academic major, but it appears that there are numerous employment opportunities beyond the civil service exam. China has a total of 8 million civil servants, while over 8 million college graduates enter the workforce annually. In 2020, the number of graduates reached 8.74 million.

As of 2021, there are approximately 7.7 million delivery workers in China, with the total number of delivery and courier workers estimated to be between 10 million and 15 million.

Furthermore, there are 880 million people in the Chinese workforce. In comparison, it seems that the vast majority of people are engaged in civil service and work after takeaway delivery.

It is important to note that big data provides a comprehensive overview, while an individual's success is largely influenced by personal decisions and actions.

Regarding your topic, it is important to note that party membership is not as crucial as you may perceive. Given that there are only six party members in your class, and the majority of your classmates have not yet joined the party, it is evident that there are numerous alternatives available to you.

Regarding your question about joining the party, I suggest you consider your reasons for pursuing this goal. From your initial inquiry, I am unable to ascertain your motivation.

You may wish to consider speaking with a counselor.

I am a counselor who is often Buddhist and sometimes pessimistic, occasionally positive and motivated. Best regards, [Name]

Hello, questioner!

I can see that you're doing really well. You're getting a scholarship every year, you're actively involved in the party, and you're preparing for postgraduate entrance exams. These are all signs of your excellence, and they also show that your school is very good. When you have selected the best talent, you will progress together!

In this group, there are only a few party members, and just because you weren't selected doesn't mean you're not outstanding. It just means that everyone is outstanding!

You need to think about the relationship between taking the postgraduate entrance exam and being a party member, and the relationship between being a party member and passing the civil service exam. You can't just believe what other people say. You have to look at the facts and make up your own mind.

If you have to take the postgraduate entrance exam to get a good job, then more people will take it, and the competition will be stiffer. You need to figure out why you're taking the exam. Are you looking to continue your studies, or do you want a higher degree to compete for a better position?

Is being a party member really that important?

It's important to find answers from a variety of sources, and this is also a good time to be open to new ideas.

University is one circle, and if you keep looking for answers within this circle, you'll always get the same ones. There are also different circles in the working world. Try to find them and look for answers within their circles. Combining the answers from multiple circles will give you a well-rounded opinion.

You can find a good job after graduating from university, and you can continue to take postgraduate entrance exams if you want to pursue further studies. These are two different paths, and once you choose one, it's not easy to go back to the other.

If you're unsure which path to take, it's always worth asking more people about the two different options. I'm confident you'll find your own way!

Best wishes to you, wonderful colleague!

There's no doubt about it: if you're a member of the Communist Party, you'll get extra points when applying for a government job, a position in a public institution, or even when applying to graduate school. Favoritism is involved.

Some recruitment announcements state that the education level must be a bachelor's degree or above, a master's degree or above. They also say that only party members are eligible.

There's no doubt about it: there must be a reason why so many people apply to become party members and take the civil service exam. It's simple: if you become a party member, it will be easier to find a job in the future, and everyone knows this status is more valuable.

However, not everyone can successfully apply to become a member of the Communist Party. There are still many conditions that must be met.

I didn't join the party in college, and I don't have a future in it.

I worked hard and submitted my application for a scholarship as a freshman.

The quota for selecting activists is given to the class committee.

I didn't make it.

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You've applied many times and tried your best. Don't blame yourself or be sad.

You did your best, and that's all that matters. Even if you don't get selected, you've still done well.

It doesn't matter. You can go on with your life as usual.

If you want advantages, you need to be a party member. It's that simple.

You must rely on your own abilities to get ahead.

Develop your own skills and experience to find a breakthrough.

You know your character. You don't have to choose to become an activist in the student union or a member of the Communist Party. You can try again later, during your undergraduate or postgraduate studies.

Don't give up. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Play to your strengths, find your advantages and skills, and specialize yourself according to your professional attributes. You have your own profession and your own career direction that you want to challenge in the future. Find it so that you have as many competitive advantages as possible.

Other full party members will have many advantages when applying for civil servant positions or positions in the establishment. Similarly, you will also have some advantages of your own. No matter what happens in the future, you can rely on yourself. You can deny yourself nothing. Your future will still be promising. It will still be full of people's expectations and many colors, and there will also be a lot of positivity in it. You cannot deny yourself just because you have not become a party member.

You can understand your own academic performance very well. You can find a specialty and find more advantages and strengths in yourself so that you can obtain a better space for development through the inclined board theory. Some people say that if you don't get into the establishment, you'll have to deliver takeaways, but that's not true at all. You still have a lot of work outside the establishment. Those jobs are work.

The textbook says there are 360 professions and a master in every trade. The end of the universe is not the end of the line.

Our society offers a wide range of professions, beyond just the two types of establishment and non-establishment. There are also numerous opportunities in new industries, and jobs in foreign companies, large enterprises, and small and medium-sized enterprises are all worth considering.

You still have a future, and so do we. We can't just give up.

You should talk to a heart coach or a psychological counselor about your views. Take a career personality test to better understand your future plans.

As long as we have found our own plan and there is no mistake in this direction, we will persevere. We will see what kind of talent the market really needs and set our sights even higher.

Read "My Life Is Not Underrated," "The Man Chasing Time," "What Life Do You Want to Live?," "An Idea Changes a Person's Life," and "Addicted to Achievement: Making Success a Habit." You'll be glad you did. Best of luck.

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Hello, I'm a heart exploration coach. I'll listen to you with warmth and sincerity.

I know you're worried about not joining the Communist Party in college.

You started college as a freshman and immediately began to fit in with the organization. You studied hard and received scholarships every year. You are down-to-earth and reliable. You plan, set goals, and take action.

You also feel sensitive and insecure. You associate a series of bad things with not joining the party. You worry that you will fail the entrance exam, that you will be replaced, that you will lose your job. The more you think about it, the more scared and pessimistic you become.

Let's look at the problem.

1. See your own patterns:

Let's look at your model: pessimism and optimism, gratitude and complaining, internal or external attribution.

People complain because they focus on what they lack and ignore what they have.

A classic example is when someone is faced with a half-full glass of water. One person complains, "Why is there only half a glass of water?" The other is grateful, "Fortunately there is still half a glass of water."

People who focus on what they have are happy and optimistic.

If you focus on what you don't have, you'll complain. Complaining loses you more than it gains you.

Your mindset affects your situation. If you're grateful, you'll be more successful than if you complain.

"Where there is a will, there is energy." This means that where you focus your attention and energy, you will gain.

2. The truth is found when you look at things from different points of view.

You have advantages and resources that many people cannot match. These are not available just by having Party membership.

You're young and need to gain more life experience. You can't rush things, and too much of a good thing is bad. Ask yourself if your current thoughts and mentality are in line with the Party's standards.

If you doubt yourself, worry about the future, and feel inferior, you lack confidence.

True self-confidence means having confidence in yourself and the future. It is not based on external or material things. He does not need to "prove everything."

Confidence is related to self-worth, which is how you see yourself. If you feel better about yourself, you will be more confident.

Read my article on my personal homepage, "It Turns Out That the Root Cause of Psychological Problems Is Itself." It explains how self-worth affects self-confidence and how to enhance a sense of worth.

Comparing ourselves with others makes us feel envious and jealous. We feel like we're not good enough. This can lead to an inferiority complex. We can compare ourselves with who we were yesterday. This gives us hope and strength.

If you look outside, you'll always be disappointed. Look inside to find inner abundance.

I hope this helps. I love you.

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Hello, questioner!

After reading your account, I can see how you feel. You said, "I tried hard. I applied for membership in the Communist Party of China (CPC) freshman year, and I studied hard after that, receiving a scholarship every year. But I was not selected in the end." Anyone who encounters this kind of situation will feel lost inside. It was a goal you wanted to achieve from the beginning, wasn't it?

If we want to join the party and succeed as college students, we need to work hard in our studies. Academic performance is a key indicator. When the university party organization assesses applicants for party membership, academic performance and whether or not the learning attitude is good are also basic assessment items. The questioner is very good at their studies because they receive a scholarship every year.

Second, there are also interpersonal relationship requirements when it comes to joining the party.

It's likely that not becoming a member of the class committee was a contributing factor to your loss in the election. This suggests that your interpersonal skills could be improved, and that this is an area you'll need to work on in the future.

If they can't handle interpersonal relationships, they'll have a tough time at work, now and in the future. And if they can't handle interpersonal relationships, it'll be hard for them to get promoted and valued by their superiors.

From a psychological standpoint, it's best to avoid being an "honest person" in life and in the workplace.

First, honest people aren't always great at handling interpersonal relationships, which can make them seem weak in the workplace.

A lot of honest people think it's a waste of time trying to win favors with their superiors. They figure they just need to do their job well. But then they might get scolded for mistakes or work overtime without getting any recognition.

You have a lot of great qualities, like being practical, reliable, and trustworthy. But in the workplace, if you're too honest, you might not be able to advance and won't get important tasks.

If you just follow the rules and don't adapt, you'll come across as passive. So, in the workplace, you need to work hard and be flexible. You should also try to develop your emotional intelligence.

Second, I've heard that if you don't join the party, your life is over. From a psychological perspective, this is a pretty negative and unreasonable way of thinking.

We all have a tendency to think irrationally from time to time. The first is absolutism, the second is generalizing from a single example, and the third is thinking that something is extremely bad. This is the idea that if something bad happens, it will be very terrible, very bad, or even a disaster.

The third is that it's really bad. This is the idea that if something bad happens, it'll be scary, terrible, or even a disaster.

For instance, some people think, "If I don't get into college, it's all over," or "If I don't join the party, my life is over." These kinds of thoughts are irrational because there are always worse things that could happen in any given situation.

If someone is stuck on this negative outlook, though, and they experience something they think is 100% terrible, they'll have a really tough time bouncing back.

As the questioner said, life is over if you don't join the party. But there are plenty of people who haven't joined and are doing just fine. It's true that joining the party makes you more competitive for certain jobs, but not joining doesn't mean your life is over.

Maybe the old ways of thinking, which focused on qualifications, political background, and simply judging people based on their resumes, have slowly fallen out of style. Nowadays, there's a greater emphasis on an individual's overall quality and potential for growth.

Nowadays, lots of local units have set up a scientific and effective way of identifying, hiring and training people. As long as you focus on learning and developing yourself, have genuine talent and the confidence to show what you can do, you'll definitely meet a Bole. I believe you're the kind of person who will always shine.

That's all for now!

Best,

Hello, host.

First of all, I want to say that I understand your situation and I'm sorry you're going through it. I want to give you a big hug and make you feel the warmth of the world.

From your questions and descriptions, I get the impression that the original poster is a very hardworking and motivated person. It's also possible that he or she will only listen to what others say and not have any independent opinions. He or she seems like a good student.

Grades aren't the only thing that matter in college. There are all kinds of people there, including those who sing and dance, and plenty of brilliant students.

The landlord is an introvert, which isn't really a good indicator of whether someone is good or bad or successful. From what the landlord says, what he needs to work on most is his attitude because he always takes this matter too seriously. But life isn't just about becoming a party member. This is like when we took the college entrance exam and felt like our lives were over if we failed. But in fact, you went to college and it's not the same as starting over, is it?

In college, it's a different ballgame. Everyone's on a different track. You'll find your groove and shine, you just haven't found the right direction yet.

Given that you're taking the postgraduate entrance exam, it's clear that the most important thing is the exam itself, not whether you're a member of the Communist Party. You've probably heard that members of the Communist Party get extra points, and that teachers tend to recruit members of the Communist Party. So you might think that if you're not a member of the Communist Party, you'll fail the exam. This is a pretty one-sided and ridiculous way of thinking.

The preliminary exam is first and foremost about your score. If you can pass the national line with flying colors, your score will be that much more impressive in the second exam, giving you a greater chance of success.

You really don't need to worry. You did well in the exam, but the people behind you are all party members and will be rejected. You really don't understand the essence of the postgraduate entrance exam.

If you get a 450, the teacher will probably say you're good at both academics and sports, right? Then you didn't do badly in the interview and there were no mistakes, so you think the teacher won't reject you? It's just because they're all party members, but they also scored lower than you in the exam and didn't do as well as you in the interview.

You worry about too many things, but that's not the most important thing. It's not going to stop you getting into postgraduate study. You just need to work on your beliefs and build up your confidence.

If you don't make the cut on the postgraduate entrance exam, no big deal. Not everyone can be a postgraduate. With so many people looking for work, only 100 people will get into school, and the remaining 3 million will be unemployed. It's like World War II or even World War III.

If you work hard enough, you'll be that graduate student, not the other way around. If you stop worrying about it, you'll get into graduate school. I think you're really one-sided, landlord. You're a college student, and you can't just focus on studying hard because college is half a little society. You'll always suffer beatings when you go out into society, and now you're just hearing things, panicking at the mere mention of a few words by others.

This mindset will get you fired even if you work in an office with air conditioning doing something relaxing.

As a college student, you may not be interested in pursuing higher education. However, that doesn't mean you have to settle for the most challenging and demanding work, like delivering takeaways and packages. In any field, there are roles that are more or less demanding. There are 36 professions that can produce champions, and they often require hard work but also offer significant financial rewards.

The thing about being a party member is that you can get carried away and start to think that it's all about you. You start to believe that just because you're a member, you're guaranteed a lifetime of stability.

I'd recommend that the host listens to more people who've been through this before, gets more info, or at least considers some of the less reliable sources out there.

For now, just focus on getting a high score for the postgraduate entrance exam. This could be a way to change your destiny through studying.

I wish the landlord all the best! I hope you pass the exam and get a good job!

Hello question asker,

I applied for membership in my freshman year and studied hard, receiving a scholarship every year. But every year, the quota for selecting activists is divided among the class committee members one by one. I was not elected to the class committee, so I could only watch them succeed.

I'm a senior this year. There are four preparatory party members and two full party members in my class. I wasn't elected as an activist.

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You're anxious about joining the party. What if something unexpected happens? Let's ask ourselves: will it happen? What's your biggest fear?

Even if the result is not as good as we want, we did our best. Does the result matter that much? What's your biggest worry?

You feel you can't meet your parents' expectations. You worry that they expect too much, so you feel guilty if you fail. You keep putting pressure on yourself. What if we lower our expectations?

This expectation doesn't match us. Can we adjust ourselves to see what can be changed and what cannot? Secondly, what does not being able to join the party mean to you? What happens if this worst-case scenario occurs?

Are we being too dramatic? What's the right way to think about this?

Maybe we're overthinking the issue of not being able to join the party.

I heard that party members get extra points and teachers like to recruit them. I've tried hard and I'm a good student, but the party doesn't want to accept me. Is it really that important? Without it, I can't see a bright future.

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You think joining the party is the only way to hope. Can we change this result?

What can we change? Can we achieve our expectations in other ways?

Change what you can, and accept your limits. We can say we can't meet our parents' expectations.

I'm afraid I'll fail the postgraduate entrance exam because I'm not a party member. If I fail, I'll have to find a job. I want a stable job with a stable salary. I've heard that if you don't join the party, no one will hire you. Party membership.

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What if they happen? What about classmates who didn't join the party?

We're poor, but we work hard and get recognized. We've worked hard. If the results aren't good, can we accept it?

There's a chance of failure, but it might not be as bad as we think. I love you. When we think no one understands us, can we understand ourselves?

It's been a while. The World of Psychology and I Love You. Good morning.

Classmate, I empathize with your situation. It is natural to experience disappointment when pursuing a goal and it can even be likened to the death of a spiritual life, as Wu Zhihong has observed.

This sentiment is unfortunate, which is why you are experiencing sadness.

Following the initial period of sadness, it is important to consider your future direction and what you want to achieve. Have you given thought to what kind of person you want to become?

Do you intend to pursue a career in politics and public service?

Or are you passionate about a specific field and planning to work in a related industry?

If you are interested in joining the party while you are at university, this is an excellent opportunity. However, even if you do not join the party while you are at university, you will still have plenty of opportunities to join the party when you start working, provided that you have decided on your life direction.

If your interest lies in a specific field, you may wish to consider pursuing it as a career. This industry relies on craftsmanship and ability to make a living, so if this is your passion, there is no need to rush to join the party.

It is not a prerequisite to join the party.

It was previously common practice for university students to join the party, and at the time it was perceived as an indicator of ambition and drive, with only a select few able to gain membership. It was viewed as a status symbol.

There is, however, a rationale behind this, and it must align with your personal life plan. If it does, joining the party will be beneficial.

I must respectfully disagree.

It is therefore not necessarily disadvantageous to refrain from joining the party. This allows you the opportunity to consider your desired lifestyle and the personal attributes you wish to develop. It will be more beneficial to identify these aspects in advance.

Dear host, I can relate to how you're feeling about not joining the party in college. I can imagine you're pretty bummed out!

First of all, I want to give you a big hug. You are a very positive person, and you work hard at your studies. You have always wanted to join the party, but because you are introverted, you haven't been elected to the student council, so every time you join the party, you miss out, which makes you feel very distressed and like it's not fair!

You might have always thought that joining the party would be helpful for your future postgraduate entrance exam and that it would even add points to your score. So you have a particularly strong desire to join the party, and when that desire is not fulfilled, you feel particularly lost. You associate many things in the future with joining the party, such as you are afraid that you will fail the postgraduate entrance exam for this reason, and that you will not be able to get a job in the civil service, and you will have to deliver packages or deliver food, the hardest work!

You're now in your fourth year of university and will soon be entering the workforce. There are many paths for everyone, and it just depends on how you choose to go about it. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Give yourself more room to think. Even if I don't get a job in the civil service or a postgraduate place, I still have a wealth of learning experience. I can make up for not joining the party through my hard work.

Even if it doesn't work out, at least I gave it my best shot, and I won't regret it. Because everyone's abilities are different, there's no need for us to compare ourselves with others; we should compare ourselves with our past selves. I'm making progress every day, and gaining new things is enough!

Sometimes you have to be a little kinder to yourself. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Accept everything in life with a flexible mindset. This will help you feel less lost. Come on, young people, the world and I love you!

Good day. Thank you for your inquiry. I am an avid reader. Firstly, you are currently in your fourth year of university and were not accepted into the party. This may be disappointing, but it is only a setback. There will be future opportunities. I can inform you that there is no direct correlation between taking the postgraduate entrance exam and joining or not joining the party. As long as you pass the preliminary exam and the interview, you will be accepted. Party members may have a certain psychological advantage, but this is not the basis for admission decisions. Additionally, if you are admitted to graduate school, you can join the party during graduate school.

The civil service exam may have an impact on your future career prospects. While some positions require party membership, many others are open to non-party members. Therefore, it is not a barrier to entry. Party membership is just one of the bonus points, not all of which must be party members.

I hope my explanation provides clarity and offers some degree of relief and hope. It is regrettable that we did not join the party in college. It is also unfortunate that you have excellent academic credentials but no opportunity to become an activist. Are you resentful or do you have thoughts on the matter? It is worth noting that there are only four prospective and two formal members in your class, which is a relatively low proportion. There are only a few places during the undergraduate period, but there will be many more during graduate school. For instance, there are currently six party members in the undergraduate program, but there may be five to ten places in the graduate school within a year, which is convenient. This is a common occurrence in academic institutions.

It is incorrect to assume that all postgraduate students are members of the party. In fact, the majority of individuals in our original class who joined the party after graduation did so as postgraduate students. Therefore, it is unnecessary to be concerned about the admission of postgraduate students to the party as this is not an indicator.

It is also worth noting that disappointment can be a natural consequence of unmet expectations. However, it is important to recognise that not everything is within our control. Otherwise, the world would undoubtedly be in chaos. Therefore, it is essential to consider the reasons behind our failure to secure a place. Perhaps it is not a personal shortcoming, but rather a consequence of limited availability, with all the spots being allocated to the class committee. In such a scenario, it is crucial to maintain a positive outlook and focus on future opportunities.

You have indicated that not joining the party may result in difficulties securing employment in a state-owned unit, which may entail delivering food or packages, or other challenging tasks. This perspective is somewhat biased. As college students, we have the option of pursuing roles in delivery or food service, and we can perform these roles effectively. Additionally, we can secure suitable employment by proactively seeking opportunities and demonstrating our capabilities. We can submit our resumes for consideration. It's possible that your academic background has limited your awareness of your potential, so it's advisable to start developing your skills now. Identify the skills required for the role you're interested in and align your strengths with the job requirements.

As you approach the end of your third or fourth year of university, you may be facing the challenge of preparing for graduation. This can involve navigating a range of practical considerations, such as identifying suitable career options and managing the potential stress of postgraduate entrance exams. These are important decisions that require careful thought and preparation. It's essential to take the time to reflect on your goals and determine the path that aligns with your true aspirations. This could involve weighing the benefits of pursuing a postgraduate degree or entering the workforce directly. It's crucial to choose a path that aligns with your values and long-term objectives.

Thank you for allowing us to assist you in resolving your issues. We regret that you did not join the party while you were an undergraduate. However, we believe there are still many opportunities and challenges ahead of us. We are currently 22 years old and have decades ahead of us to grow gradually. Would you not prefer to move forward while enjoying the journey? We understand that you may feel anxious, but remember that as long as we keep moving, we will gradually calm down and achieve success.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my love for the world and for you.

Good day, I am Chen Xiaobin, a listening coach. Thank you for your willingness to engage in an open dialogue. I look forward to further discussion.

From your writing, I can discern that you are a highly positive, industrious, and upwardly mobile student. You also place significant emphasis on joining the party, and believe that if you are not selected, it may negatively impact your future prospects. In fact, when we reflect on the past ten years, some factors that we perceive as influencing our pivotal decisions or experiences may not be as crucial as we initially thought.

Similarly, returning to the present, this may be a challenge, but it is not a dead end. Life is a marathon, and a single event is unlikely to determine the trajectory of a person's life.

When we attach significant importance to something, we tend to magnify it. This demonstrates that you attach great importance to it and are working hard and making progress. Conversely, it may also cause you to bear excessive pressure, affecting your physical and mental state.

It is inevitable that people will compare themselves to others. When you find yourself surrounded by individuals who appear to possess a greater degree of composure and self-assurance, it is important to recognize that this is a common experience. In such instances, it is essential to adjust your expectations and adopt a more relaxed mindset. By doing so, you can better cope with the situation at hand. A positive sense of self-worth is a powerful motivator, enabling you to take action with confidence.

There is a school of thought in philosophy called Stoicism, which has a core belief: change what you can, accept what you cannot, and have the wisdom to distinguish the difference between the two. I believe you have demonstrated sufficient effort to be considered for the position or to take the postgraduate entrance exam. When the results are not yet in, it is also telling us to be patient.

As you gain experience, you recognize that achieving certain goals requires significant effort. It's a process of self-development. When you have a specific objective in mind, you want to see results immediately. However, the reality is that things don't always go as planned.

Sometimes, the perception of pain is a result of an expectation that it should not exist or that setbacks should be avoided. Conversely, the experience of certain forms of suffering can provide a level of resilience that enables one to navigate life's challenges more effectively. In any narrative, the protagonist is not exempt from adversity and turmoil. A story that lacks such elements may not be as engaging as one that portrays a more realistic portrayal of life's journey.

I wish you the best in navigating the challenges and opportunities that life presents.

Given that we cannot control the waves, let us begin to surf.

Classmates, don't fall for that. You're in your senior year, so you should know that when applying for graduate school, party membership doesn't get you extra points, and it's not everything.

My experience of joining the Communist Party in college can be summed up as participating in competitions to win national and provincial awards, winning provincial scholarships, publishing papers, volunteering every week, and helping classmates as much as possible (with their studies or their lives). Then our group had two more places than in previous years because the teacher said that it would be unreasonable not to develop this, so they fought for two more places from the school. In my experience, the competitive environment I was in was relatively fair.

I guess it's a shame that the class officer you met joined the party early on.

Let's get back to the topic at hand. Does being a party member guarantee an easy future? The answer is no.

If you're a party member, you need to be more rigorous with yourself.

Later on, I took the postgraduate entrance exam like most people. I learned that party members don't get extra points in the second interview. In the exam, everyone starts at the same level. Those with strong abilities perform better, and those with weak abilities perform worse.

If you don't prepare adequately, you'll be at a disadvantage in the postgraduate entrance exam.

Party members get extra points in the second interview. This was something from NNN years ago, so it's not really relevant anymore. Now, for competitions (Challenge Cup, Internet+, mathematical modeling, National College Student Mathematics Competition, etc.) that have won a provincial or national award, or that have published papers in core journals, or that have won national scholarships, provincial scholarships, or school or municipal honors, or other honors with high gold content, there will be extra points in the second interview.

There are no party members, no honors, and a lot of people don't make it. A few people have them, and not everyone has extra points. The extra points are for the second interview. As long as your preliminary test score is high enough, as long as you don't know the answer to three questions in the second interview, and you perform really poorly, you won't be rejected.

To be sure of getting in, you need to do well in your studies and get some honours. It's also a good idea to publish more papers and take part in more competitions.

It's clear that competition for civil servant positions is intense. Not all of these roles are just for party members.

I've seen a lot of non-party members get hired.

What's more, there's no need to take the civil service exam as your only option. If you're looking to earn over 10,000 yuan a month, the exam might not be the best way to do it.

Hello, questioner.

I'm glad to answer your question. After reading your description, it reminded me of when I first went to university. I joined the Communist Party and successfully became a candidate member. When it came time to become a full member, I failed for some objective reasons. At that time, I had the same worries as you do now, so I understand how you feel. You're placing too much importance on being a Party member.

I can assure you that my employment was not affected by the fact that I was not a party member.

You are hardworking and motivated, but you need to distinguish between facts and hearsay. For example: 1. "I heard that being a party member will get you extra points in the postgraduate entrance exam." 2. "What if I do well in the exam, but the people behind me are all party members, won't I still be rejected?"

You should definitely consult with the school about this. The postgraduate entrance exam is a national unified exam, and neither student cadre status nor party membership will add points. Go to the graduate school office to find out for sure. Once you know the facts, you'll feel at ease.

3. "And if I fail the postgraduate entrance exam, I'll have to find a job." I want to know why you are afraid of finding a job. Do you think you'll be unable to face the issue of employment?

4. "I also heard that if you're not a party member, no one will hire you if you apply for a civil servant position." You can easily verify this by browsing the recruitment information for civil servant positions. It will show you if there is a requirement that you must be a party member, or if you are not a party member, you will not be allowed to register. You can look at the recruitment information for the place where you want to apply.

This will put your mind at ease.

5. "You can only deliver packages and takeaway food, doing the hardest work...", but any job has its hard parts. The work content of public institutions is also very busy, and it's not as laid-back as you think! My friends who studied logistics also delivered packages for half a year when they first graduated. Later, some of them got promoted because of their good work ability.

You want to pass the postgraduate exam and get a better job by upgrading your qualifications. Consult the relevant department. You'll definitely feel at ease if you do.

You are not a bad person just because you don't join the party or pass the postgraduate exam. You will find a suitable job. Do your best. I am sure everything will go well for you.

Hello, dear child!

You've always worked hard and studied very well, and you've received a scholarship every year, which is so impressive!

You tried to join the party when you were a freshman, but things didn't work out the way you hoped.

Hey there! I just wanted to check in and see how you're doing. It seems like you might be feeling a bit lost right now.

I'm so sorry to hear you're still feeling a little helpless.

I know you're not a party member, and I'm here to listen if you want to chat about any unfavorable situations you've anticipated.

1. It's okay to feel whatever you're feeling, but try to focus on the things you can control.

Everyone keeps working hard in a certain direction, and in the end, if they don't achieve their goal, they'll feel a little lost. It's okay! We've all been there.

At this point, it's so important to be kind to yourself.

I know how you feel! Lots of athletes train really hard and hope for good results.

So, learn to give yourself a little pat on the back and comfort yourself.

And sometimes, we have a lot of negative thoughts, but they're just thoughts, not facts. We all have them!

Let's say you do really well on the exam, but there are still party members behind you. Would that mean you'd still be rejected?

I'm pretty sure the teacher doesn't really care whether the students taking the postgraduate entrance exam are party members or not.

And whenever you catch yourself thinking this way, you can ask yourself: is this thought, apart from making you feel bad, useful to you?

If it doesn't help, why not try to think differently? You've got this!

It's okay to accept that you're not a party member.

In the class, the vast majority of students are not party members, apart from these six students.

All you need to do is focus on your postgraduate entrance exams.

2. It's so important to be true to ourselves!

You ask, "Is party membership really that important?"

You ask, "Is party membership really that important?"

I just wanted to say that I think you're doing a great job! Keep up the hard work and constant pursuit.

It really depends on the person, doesn't it?

For instance, some folks believe that party members are expected to face challenges head-on, act swiftly and decisively, and prioritize the greater good over personal gain.

From this perspective, being a party member actually means more responsibility and dedication.

Of course, in some areas, party membership may be valued, such as in some state-owned enterprises and institutions.

But other employers may value us more for who we are.

Not many college students join the party, it's true.

Don't worry! Just because you're looking for a job doesn't mean you won't get hired.

Don't fret! There are still plenty of jobs out there for graduates who aren't party members.

So, how we improve our abilities and grow up as quickly as possible, and how we better face the setbacks in life, are really important things.

You know, you might as well see this frustration as a chance to get out of this pickle, not let it get to you, and put your own ideas into action!

3. It's so important to remember that it's not the outcome of something that matters, but how we perceive it.

It's totally normal! When we're young, we often see things in a more serious way than we should.

It can feel like you've just failed to join the party and that you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Oh, don't worry about it! That's totally normal.

You're still young, after all.

We all do it! We can't help but exaggerate the negative impact of something.

I promise you, in another five years, ten years, you'll look back and see that this is nothing.

But if we keep dwelling on it and thinking that it's the reason for all our misfortune, then it's possible that it will continue to have an effect on us.

It's so important to remember that events are never the most important thing. What matters is how we perceive them.

I'm sure many people have suffered more than just not joining the party. But you know what? Facing setbacks and challenges without fear will make it easier for us to move on.

For example, in the future, we can still actively move closer to the party organization. Not joining the party now does not mean that we cannot join in the future, so don't worry!

Take the postgraduate entrance exam, job hunting, etc., one step at a time, and take your time preparing. You've got this!

Just do your best and don't worry about what's already happened.

You said, "If I fail the postgraduate entrance exam, I'll have to find a job. Since my family is not well-off, I want to get a stable job with a permanent contract. I've heard that if you're not a party member, no one will hire you, so you'll have to deliver packages or deliver food..."

I really admire your realistic thinking!

At the same time, we can work on changing our pessimistic style of interpretation.

For example, taking the postgraduate entrance exam doesn't necessarily mean failure.

If you do happen to fail, just wait until the results come out and then consider your options.

When you catch yourself thinking these thoughts, try saying to yourself, "I have a thought right now," because it's not a fact. This can help you pull yourself back to reality and reduce anxiety about the future.

You can also imagine other possibilities, etc.

Please feel free to share these with anyone you think might benefit from them.

If you're interested, you should definitely check out the Naval Treasure Book! It's a great way to gain a fresh perspective.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello, questioner.

It is understandable that you are concerned about the potential impact of not joining the party during your time at university on your postgraduate entrance exam, civil service exam, public exam, and so on.

It is important to recognize that not joining the party in college may have implications when you are preparing to graduate and take the civil service exam.

First, let's talk about postgraduate entrance exams. The fact that you can get a scholarship every year shows that you are already very good. It's important not to underestimate yourself. You just need to persevere towards the goal you have set for the postgraduate entrance exam, study methodically, and not give up. It's also helpful to remember that once you have set a goal, it's crucial to stick with it, as many people around me who didn't give up basically got in.

It is also worth noting that if you meet the required grades and the target university chooses you, they will not necessarily expect you to join the party. Once you have completed your postgraduate studies and started at the target university, you will still have the option to join the party. There is no need to be concerned if you wish to join the party after you have started working, as you can still apply. It is important to remember that there are only a limited number of party members in China, but there are many other highly talented individuals who do not belong to the party.

For this reason, universities will not make this a prerequisite for entering their graduate schools. I know many people who have not joined the party and have also been admitted to very good schools. Rather than worrying about this, I would suggest focusing your efforts on studying hard and raising your postgraduate entrance exam scores.

Secondly, with regard to applying for a civil servant position, it is understandable that you might be feeling some apprehension, particularly given that you have not yet taken the exam. However, I can reassure you that in the civil servant system, interviewers are more concerned about whether you are capable of taking on the responsibilities of the position than about your party membership. They will be looking at your personal attitude, your ability to handle things, and other relevant factors.

If you are interested in taking the civil service exam, it would be beneficial to focus on enhancing your ability to secure employment in your desired field. This could include activities such as exercises.

Third: It is worth noting that whether or not you are a party member may have an impact on your ability to take the civil service exam. However, it is important to understand that not every position will necessarily give priority to party members. It would be beneficial to look at local policies specifically, as there may be certain civil service positions that are open to non-party members.

In short, I believe the best course of action for you now is to work hard and focus on achieving your goals. Whether or not you are a party member should not be a source of concern. It is important not to let external factors hold you back. Instead, you should focus on your own abilities and determination to succeed.