I feel repulsed and opposed to being asked questions. Should I see a doctor?

Hello,

From what you've told me, it seems like you were bullied in elementary school. This has caused psychological trauma that has prevented you from recovering from it.

I get it. I'm here for you.

From what you said, it seems like you didn't have any other options at the time. The only way to avoid further issues was to obey and be careful.

As you grow up and become more capable, you can start saying "no" to things you don't like. But if you were forced to do things when you were younger, you might find it hard to make choices and say "no" to others. This could be the source of your pain and suffering.

Let's consider what would happen if you chose not to answer someone's question if you didn't like it. There might not be any serious consequences. At worst, the other person would stop asking you questions or might even stop speaking to you.

If you think this is an acceptable consequence, you can choose not to answer and you have to allow yourself not to answer.

Or, if you think not answering will damage your relationship, try to express your feelings and hope for understanding. For example, you could say, "Can I not answer your question for the time being? I'm feeling a bit uncomfortable inside. Please forgive me!"

You can also be open with your family about how you feel. You can let them know that when they ask you this question, it makes you feel pressured and uncomfortable. Could they ask in a different way? If you let your family know how you feel, they can help you get through this.

At the end of the day, you need to learn to gradually overcome the damage done to you in childhood and establish a positive mindset. Other people's questions aren't meant to be coercive; they're just an exchange of views with you, and you can tell them your thoughts.

We hope these suggestions will be helpful to you. Best regards!

Dear Questioner,

Given that you have posed a question on this matter, which pertains to a period in primary school that caused you significant distress, it is evident that you possess the fortitude to confront challenging experiences. I perceive that you hold yourself in high regard and are committed to personal growth.

When you say that you were cornered and questioned, you were very young and could only resist by crying. From your description, it seems that there are a number of inquiries in life that you find challenging.

It is therefore unsurprising that you are now offended by the very act of asking.

It is worth noting that inappropriate questions can cause offence and are often used in specific contexts, such as court proceedings. You have experienced this first-hand.

Your current dilemma is that you are reluctant to answer any questions, even those that pertain to your area of expertise, but are willing to accept feedback and corrections. This situation is causing you a significant amount of distress.

This kind of suffering is a stress response. It indicates that, despite the passage of time, the trauma is still present and that the emotions are triggered automatically whenever a similar situation arises.

If circumstances permit,

It would be advisable to speak with your parents and attempt to gain their understanding. Should their questions prove offensive during your daily communication, it would be prudent to respond directly by stating, "I'm sorry, but I do not wish to answer this question."

It would also be beneficial to discuss ways to improve your well-being. This will provide you with the opportunity to learn and adapt.

2. You may wish to consider using mindfulness methods to support your own coping strategies. These can be found in the Meditation Planet app. We would suggest that you look for the mindfulness guide for "Coping with Emotional Distress," as this may help you to manage the emotions generated when you ask the question over time.

3. Should this distressing situation have a significant impact on your life, it is advisable to seek the guidance of a professional counselor.

I hope this information is useful to you. Best regards,