I get extra nervous around the opposite sex and can't carry on a natural conversation. What's the reason?

Hello!

I'm a heart exploration coach. Learning is the body's treasure.

From your description, I can feel your pain and confusion.

I won't go into why you get nervous around the opposite sex. I'll help you understand why.

You're confused about being nervous and scared of boys other than your relatives. You don't feel like you've ever been hurt by the opposite sex.

What happened during that time? Thinking back may help.

It may not have hurt you. Did you see a girl being hurt by a boy and think of yourself and fear the opposite sex?

Second, you said you've been thinking about it for a long time. You feel you don't dislike the opposite sex and want to be friends with them. So, are you nervous around them, worrying you don't perform well and they won't want to be friends?

You're afraid that when you see the opposite sex being nervous, you'll be seen as not good enough. You may not be confident in your appearance.

You feel more natural chatting with girls you know. But you are especially nervous around the opposite sex. Could it be that you are not good at chatting with the opposite sex you don't know?

You don't know what to talk about with the opposite sex and worry about awkward situations. You worry before you've even met them and get nervous when you see them.

This is my analysis.

To get out of this state, try this:

Tell yourself you're different from girls who've been hurt by boys. The men you meet are different from those they meet. This kind of thinking may make you feel better.

If you're not confident in your appearance, focus on your good qualities. Everyone has them. Learn to see yourself as a developing person. You have time to improve. Believe in yourself. You are worthy of love.

If you're not good at chatting with the opposite sex, look at girls who are good at it and learn from them. Read some books on communication to help you talk to the opposite sex.

After thinking things through and learning, you can try desensitization to gradually approach boys you don't know well but trust. First, walk with the opposite sex. After you can accept that, walk or stand next to them. After you feel safe, make eye contact. After you get used to this, talk to them briefly. If you approach in this way, you will probably become friends.

If you have found other reasons, they can be resolved through rational thinking, a developmental perspective, and systematic desensitization. See the power of yourself and time.

I hope this helps. Click "Find a coach to interpret – online dialogue" at the bottom to talk to me one-on-one.

Hello, young lady! I can see the confusion you are facing right now, but I'm here to help! Let's hug!

You are experiencing some interpersonal problems. Let me give you another warm hug!

You said that you don't feel like you have been hurt by the opposite sex, so we can rule that out as a reason.

So, it would be really interesting to know if you felt uncomfortable around them because there were no other members of the opposite sex in your family, such as brothers!

But you also mentioned that it was a boy other than a relative, so it doesn't seem to be the problem above, which is great!

So, it's more likely that it's your relationship with your father!

That was my experience too! After I turned eight, my dad fell ill and his business took him overseas. Since school started in Singapore, where my dad did business, in January every year, and in Hong Kong in September, he wanted me to stay in Hong Kong to study.

I was lucky enough to be able to fly to Singapore to be reunited with my father for three months every year when school was on holiday. So, when I was growing up, there was a period of time when I didn't feel very comfortable with the opposite sex.

In fact, our initial recognition of the opposite sex comes from our own fathers, which is pretty amazing!

If a father is absent, then when a daughter grows up, it creates an amazing opportunity for her to develop a unique and special relationship with her father. This can influence how she interacts with the opposite sex in a positive way.

If you're interested, I highly recommend reading the book "If Fatherly Love Is Absent" by Mr. Hu Shenzhi!

I really, truly hope that you can resolve your problem soon!

I've said all I can think of to help you right now!

I really hope my answers above will be helpful and inspiring to you, my dear girl. I am the answer, and I study hard every day!

Here at Yixinli, the world and I love you! Best wishes!

Hello, question asker! After reading your question, I took a wild guess: it seems that you are a student going through puberty, right? Since I don't know your age, occupation, or other relevant information, I can only chat with you based on my guess. You may want to consider the following:

The period from adolescence to adulthood is the most important growth period in life. It's a time of big changes, including the appearance of gender characteristics. For girls, menstruation begins, and the breasts, which represent female body characteristics, begin to develop rapidly. For boys, there is seminal emission, a laryngeal prominence, and a deep and powerful voice. As a result, behaviors that didn't have a sense of gender at this time begin to decrease, and they prefer to associate with same-sex peers more. However, they are more cautious around the opposite sex, and they are also curious. It's totally normal to feel this way!

It's totally normal to experience some psychological changes during this period. The good news is that you can learn to adjust your mentality, and you'll feel better in no time!

It's totally normal to feel a bit confused during this period. It's a big step in your journey of self-discovery! This brings us to Erikson's eight-stage theory of psychosocial development.

This theory suggests that the life issues that adolescents aged 12 to 25 need to resolve are self-confidence, friendship, and intimacy (intimacy with parents, partners, friends, etc.). Self-confidence is reflected in the formation of self-awareness, which is the perfection of self-identity. The so-called self-identity means that

It's a big change for adolescents when they stop relying on their parents and family for knowledge. They start observing and thinking about the world in a new way, gradually getting to know themselves. They gradually distance themselves from their parents, freeing themselves from dependence, and start to form friendships with their peers. They also start to understand themselves in terms of the past, present, and future, developing a sense of internal continuity. They also start to understand the similarities and differences between themselves and others in terms of appearance and personality.

During this process, something really special happens: self-awareness is established. At this stage, both boys and girls pay more attention to the evaluation of peers and groups, and recognize themselves again in these external evaluations.

You're doing great! Keep up the good work. Give yourself a round of applause.

It's totally normal to feel nervous when you're out and about, especially when you see boys (the kind walking in front of or next to me), and even more so when they're walking towards you! It's all part of the process of exploring and growing as a person. We all have those moments where we wonder if we're being likeable, or if the opposite sex is impressed by us. It's all part of the journey!

It's totally normal to feel like you don't hate the opposite sex and that you'd like to be friends with them. I get it! I can't talk to the opposite sex naturally either. It's related to the shyness that often comes with being an adolescent. You don't have any difficulties with interpersonal communication. You can talk very naturally with familiar girls. It's just that you have some psychological conflicts when communicating with the opposite sex. This is all normal psychological adjustment in adolescence dealing with friendships and intimate relationships. Once you understand this, you can try to communicate with your classmates and friends with a normal attitude, and you will feel more comfortable communicating with them. They are also in the process of self-exploration, and they also have a special need for peer learning and communication. As communication deepens, friendships deepen, which is beneficial for establishing good interpersonal relationships, including intimate relationships, in the future.

You've got this! You're on your way to growing up, so come on!

Hello, My name is Jia Ao, and I'm not looking for anything in particular.

I saw your question on the platform. You said that you get extra nervous and unnatural when you see a guy, and you don't know why you've become like this. You just can't communicate normally with the opposite sex, but you're still willing to make friends with the opposite sex. You came to the platform for help and want to know how to overcome this nervousness and anxiety.

Let's take a closer look at your situation:

From what you've said, it seems like your personality at home is quite different from how you are outside. When you're around girls or people you know, you can chat normally and naturally, which shows that you're actually pretty good at communicating. You might just need a little more time to warm up or be a bit introverted. It seems like you haven't been hurt in the past, so you get nervous when you see the opposite sex. People with a more shy personality who haven't had much contact with the opposite sex are still very likely to be nervous and act unnaturally. In the future, you can gain more experience in life, get in touch with more people, and meet the opposite sex more often. Don't always stay at home, go out more often, and don't be constrained or inhibited. Just be yourself and be more outgoing. The more you get in touch with people, the less scared and shy you'll become.

It's normal to feel nervous and unnatural when interacting with the opposite sex. We all want to gain the other person's approval and make a good impression, but at the same time, we may be shy, lack self-confidence, feel insecure, and care too much about what others think and say about us. One way to alleviate such tension and anxiety is to try not to put yourself in the spotlight.

You can try changing your thinking. First, accept and appreciate yourself as you are. Work on improving yourself in multiple ways, don't let yourself feel inferior, and boost your self-confidence. Once you have confidence in yourself, you'll feel more and more at ease in normal interactions and be able to talk freely.

There's another tip: face your fears head on. You can try the systematic desensitization method from a psychological perspective. Systematic desensitization, also known as reciprocal inhibition, is an effective method for treating fear and anxiety. Identify the events that cause the patient anxiety or fear. Through progressive imagination and realistic relaxation training, you can combat anxiety and fear. (This theory comes from Baidu Baike.)

For instance, if you're afraid of communicating normally with the opposite sex alone, you should go out and try to communicate with unfamiliar members of the opposite sex. At first, you'll probably feel nervous and anxious, and you might even be unable to breathe and your heart will beat fast. You'll gradually overcome and adapt in stages until you no longer feel fear or anxiety. Then, before you know it, you'll be able to communicate normally with the opposite sex.

There are still quite a few methods, and you can try to find the one that suits you best. In short, just get out there more, express yourself boldly, and communicate with the opposite sex boldly. You'll see that you'll become completely different from before. Give it a try!

I hope this helps. Best, [Name]

Good day, I am Jiang 61, and I am pleased to respond to your inquiry.

In response to the inquiry regarding the etiology of heightened anxiety when encountering the opposite sex, I reflect on my past experiences as a similarly apprehensive individual. There are numerous contributing factors, which I will elucidate in a systematic manner.

1. A paucity of males in the family unit

A paucity of male figures in one's life, particularly within the familial context, can result in a lack of comprehension regarding the male experience and the appropriate means of interacting with them. This can give rise to feelings of apprehension.

Individuals with this personality trait will experience heightened levels of anxiety when encountering a male figure, particularly when he is situated in front of or next to them, and may even exhibit signs of fear (with the exception of males who are not relatives).

2. Social Phobia

You indicate that you are the kind of person who exhibits a different personality at home than in public settings, and that you experience anxiety when interacting with others.

Clearly, family members are intimately acquainted with each other's temperaments, preferences, and linguistic nuances. Consequently, they need not concern themselves with the intricacies of verbal communication. The absence of such concerns leads to a sense of ease and confidence, enabling them to express themselves freely without fear of causing offence or distress.

However, interactions with strangers are fraught with unique challenges. Individuals may experience a multitude of concerns, including apprehension about their verbal expression, perceptions of social status, concerns about personal image, and worries about causing offense or distress to others. Additionally, they may be preoccupied with the thoughts and opinions of others, while simultaneously harboring concerns about personal harm.

This conflicted mentality is what is often referred to as social phobia.

As previously stated, I have contemplated this matter for an extended period and do not harbor animosity towards the opposite sex. In fact, I aspire to cultivate amicable relationships with individuals of the opposite sex. However, I find it challenging to engage in spontaneous, natural communication with them. Conversely, I am more at ease when conversing with girls with whom I am more familiar.

3. Desire for connection

It is unclear what your age is, but the desire to form relationships with individuals of the opposite sex typically emerges after puberty.

One characteristic of adolescence is the desire to form connections with and be accepted by individuals of the same sex. This is often accompanied by a fear of being rejected by those of the same sex.

However, it is only after puberty that one begins to direct attention toward the opposite sex and contemplate interactions with them, with the intention of establishing a connection.

You stated, "I am uncertain as to why, but it does not seem as though I have been hurt by the opposite sex, nor does it appear to have begun abruptly."

It may be hypothesized that an aversion to social interaction with the opposite sex should have manifested after puberty.

4. Adjustment strategies

You have previously described this phenomenon to a classmate, who has expressed skepticism about the accuracy of your account.

Individuals who have not undergone puberty may perceive this phenomenon as peculiar, whereas those who have experienced it tend to view it as a common occurrence. As one matures, gains more experience, becomes less concerned about how they are perceived by others, and increases their social interactions, this fear of interacting with the opposite sex will diminish or disappear.

Should one wish to expedite the transition to the subsequent stage, the following course of action is recommended:

1. One may reduce expectations regarding the perception of one's image by others. Socialization will then become a natural process when the mind is free of distractions.

2. It is recommended that one interact more with the opposite sex in the family in order to increase one's knowledge of the opposite sex and reduce one's fear of the opposite sex.

3. It is recommended that the individual take the initiative to make the first contact with the opposite sex, which will facilitate the expeditious overcoming of the fear of interacting with the opposite sex.

The following analysis and action references have been provided by the questioner for your consideration. It is hoped that you will be able to improve your social skills as soon as possible.

Dear girl,

I have taken the time to carefully read your question and would be happy to share what I know with you in the hope that it might be of some small help.

1. It is not uncommon to feel a certain level of nervousness when encountering the opposite sex.

It is not uncommon for people, particularly during puberty, to become aware of their secondary sexual characteristics and to pay attention to the opposite sex. It is also not unusual for people to care about how they are perceived by the opposite sex, which can result in feelings of nervousness.

I'm not sure how old you are.

It's natural for everyone to behave differently when they meet someone of the opposite sex.

Perhaps it's just that you feel particularly nervous when you meet the opposite sex.

You mention that you feel like you are "one type of person at home and another type of person outside." Many people tend to behave in this way.

In a safe environment like home, I tend to be more myself.

And outside, we often find ourselves presenting a different image of ourselves, perhaps akin to wearing a mask.

It can be challenging when there are expectations to conform to a certain identity or image.

It is possible that different performances may occur.

This is also a perfectly normal part of the process.

It might also be helpful to note that nervousness is something that can occur during this period.

I believe this may be a phase.

Perhaps with time, I may become less nervous when I encounter the opposite sex.

Everything is subject to change.

2. It would be beneficial to try to understand and know ourselves better.

"I've come to realize that I haven't been hurt by the opposite sex. Our interactions have been evolving for some time, and I've come to appreciate the diversity of perspectives and experiences that the opposite sex offers. I've come to view them as potential friends."

"I don't believe it's because I was hurt by the opposite sex before, or because it's been this way forever. I've thought about it for a long time, and I don't feel like I actually dislike the opposite sex. In fact, I kind of want to be friends with them."

Sometimes, we all face similar challenges.

I appreciate your willingness to explore and find answers.

I'd like to suggest that we often believe we know ourselves better than we actually do.

It is often said that the key to self-knowledge is understanding oneself better.

In life, we all have psychological defense mechanisms that help us cope better with life's challenges.

On the other hand, it can also make it challenging for us to fully understand ourselves.

For instance, Freud discussed the concept of repression and provided a straightforward explanation:

One could say that the essence of repression is to avoid something in the conscious mind and keep your distance from it.

Could it be that we desire friendship with the opposite sex, yet due to our inadvertent suppression of thoughts, we exhibit heightened nervousness towards them?

Or, as some girls say, "I hate it." Sometimes, it's actually because they like it, which is called reverse formation in psychology.

It is possible that we are willing to interact, but our outward behavior may make us seem more distant from the opposite sex due to nervousness.

Gaining insight into some of our psychological defense mechanisms can help us gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and others.

3. You might consider trying some small methods to relieve the discomfort.

If this nervousness is making you feel a little uncomfortable, you might like to try applying some small methods to relieve it.

As an example, we could consider how we approach our interactions with this tension.

While it is an uncomfortable experience, we can try to act less nervous.

You might find it helpful to take a deep breath, distract yourself, or imagine something else.

You might also consider discussing your nervousness.

As an example, when conversing with someone of the opposite sex, you might consider saying something like, "I tend to feel a bit nervous when talking to men."

Once you have verbalized your feelings, you may find that they begin to ease.

If we can learn to view the matter of being nervous in a more calm and relaxed manner, we may find that we unknowingly relax more.

In the future, if you meet someone of the opposite sex you like, you may even find yourself feeling more nervous.

Please feel free to share these if you think they might be helpful to others.

If it might be of interest to you, you can read "My Infinite Potential."

I wish you the best!

Hello, question asker.

One personality at home, another outside. This is normal.

People have different ways of getting along with each other. It's normal to have differences in personality at home and outside.

You're relaxed at home, but outside, you're in a public space where you need to maintain your composure.

It's normal to feel nervous when you're around people you don't know well. It's only natural to feel a bit uneasy about something you've gradually become unfamiliar with and have to do.

You're clearly nervous around the opposite sex, which shows you have a very clear distinction between the same and opposite sexes. You feel more secure with the same sex.

You care about how you look in the eyes of others, especially the eyes of the opposite sex.

You dislike socializing and are even afraid of it. When it comes to the more acceptable same sex, you are only more natural with girls you know, let alone the opposite sex.

You say you don't dislike the opposite sex, so it's clear that what you care about is the social process with the opposite sex. This includes the impression you give the other person during contact, whether you've been rude or made an inappropriate move. Normal socializing doesn't require such caution, and your emotions affect others. Be more relaxed.

Get in touch with more people.

I am confident that this will be of assistance.

Hello!

It's hard to give advice on socializing with the opposite sex in less than 300 words. I hope to start a conversation with you and help you see more possibilities.

Treat your adolescence normally.

You didn't say how old you are, so I think you might be a young girl going through puberty. This is why I'm answering. Please forgive me if there's anything inappropriate. Boys and girls start to look and act differently during puberty. This makes boys and girls feel strange and curious about each other.

If you don't learn enough about the opposite sex, you might become shy or afraid around them. This can make it hard to be friends. But you can still joke with people of the same sex. This is normal. As you grow up, you will understand your body and the opposite sex better. This will help you to communicate better with others.

[The golden rule of communication]

Treat others as you would like to be treated. You feel nervous around the opposite sex, and your speech and mannerisms are unnatural. The boys feel the same way when facing you.

During adolescence, we care more about how we look and want our friends to accept us. This is normal. It also makes us pay more attention to how we act.

If you can be patient with others, they will be patient with you. You will be able to get along with classmates and friends and communicate easily.

Know your strengths.

Confident people do well in relationships. During adolescence, we often think negatively about ourselves.

You can make friends with girls at school and are relaxed at home, so you can also interact normally with the opposite sex. Find one good quality about yourself every day and write it down. As you become more confident, you will also be more confident in your relationships with others.

I hope the questioner makes more friends on campus and has a great time!

Hello!

From your description, I can feel the nervousness and fear you feel when you are with the opposite sex, and at the same time, you are full of confusion and disbelief about this. It's totally normal! Hugs!

You've thought and sorted through this problem yourself, but you're at a loss. You don't know why, you've never been hurt by the opposite sex, and it seems that you've never felt like this before — but suddenly you have!

This is quite an intriguing thing! While there's no way to verify it in the reply, I'm excited to share some thoughts for your consideration.

Let's explore another possibility! During your upbringing, especially in your early years, did you have a relatively harsh image of the opposite sex? Maybe your father was demanding or emotionally distant, which caused you to internalize such an image of the object. This could have made you feel that the opposite sex is strange and harsh, and not easy to get close to.

In addition, you said that you feel very relaxed at home and your personality is very relaxed. That's great! However, you get nervous when you meet people outside, especially nervous around the opposite sex. I think this may be a kind of social anxiety that we usually talk about. The core reason is that we care more about what others think of us and worry about what we have done wrong that others will criticize and blame. You can do some deeper self-awareness to see what you are afraid of when you are nervous, and then carry out some targeted exercises, such as desensitization training and self-confidence training. Maintaining inner awareness will help us relieve the tension in interpersonal interactions.

The reason why you suddenly become particularly nervous in the presence of the opposite sex is that you can think back and see if there have been any recent demands from the outside, such as pressure from your parents to get married. And guess what? You can do it! You can overcome any stressful situation and conquer your nervous and anxious emotions.

In either case, some nervous and anxious feelings may be a way for us to cope with our situation. The good news is that there is no big problem, so there is no need to be overly nervous about it! If you wish, you can also seek help from a psychologist to help you sort things out and explore them carefully, increase your understanding of yourself, and gain more growth.

I really hope that Hongyu's reply helps you! Thanks so much for your question!

Hello, I'm Strawberry.

Your story and concerns resonate with me. I recall my own experience in primary school. I had no issues with my same-sex classmates, but I was visibly nervous around boys. I felt my heart racing when I met someone of the opposite sex walking towards me. I was initially afraid to look at them, but more afraid that they would speak to me.

When I was young, I thought a fast heartbeat meant I liked someone. I even wondered why I felt this way whenever I saw the opposite sex. I was taught that people at my age were not allowed to fall in love, so I questioned whether my feelings were normal.

I later realized that it was the wrong concepts instilled that caused this situation to arise in me. In the past, adults would often say that apart from family members and relatives, there is a difference between men and women, and you cannot just play and talk with the opposite sex. They would say that doing so would result in something bad happening to you.

As ignorant children, we were told that we couldn't communicate or play with the opposite sex. With little contact, we were taught that disobeying adults was wrong. This reaction was developed in response to the environment and indoctrination.

Analysis:

Face your own behavior correctly.

The questioner's experience may differ, but I'm certain of one thing: I know exactly what caused this situation. It was only after this that I started to feel this way. When facing the opposite sex, I know exactly what kind of nervousness I feel because of a certain situation.

For example, is it that the other person suddenly speaks to you? Or is it that something embarrassing happens when you interact with the other person?

There's a reason for it. Being overly nervous when meeting the opposite sex has a significant impact on you. In this society, it's normal to need to interact with the opposite sex. We must overcome our nervousness and face it head on. We must also face this behavior of ours correctly.

See your own heart.

The questioner is troubled by this and is determined to solve the problem because he knows that he also wants to make friends with the opposite sex. It's not about forming a relationship; it's about being able to face the opposite sex normally, which will also allow him to socialize normally.

Knowing your own inner needs and goals is the first step to changing them. You have to think about what you want and then take action.

The OP came to the platform to ask a question, and I know he wants to solve this problem. I'll tell you a few little methods I've used myself:

1. Adapt: The lack of contact makes you flustered, even at the mere thought of such a situation. You also hope to make friends with the opposite sex. First, you can try getting used to looking at the opposite sex. This kind of looking is not directly facing a real person, but looking at pictures first. Look carefully at the outline, then the eyes. Get used to static pictures for a period of time. Then look at moving pictures or videos. Find the kind that looks at the camera. Then slowly get used to the real thing.

Contact is key. The questioner has little contact with the opposite sex outside of family members, so it's no surprise she has such vivid imaginations about them. She also feels that other members of the opposite sex may not be as friendly if they accept her. The reality is that only by contacting them yourself can you know that the opposite sex is actually the same as the same sex and can also become friends.

The questioner can learn more about this area of knowledge to change their perceptions. I recommend studying reverse thinking and communication psychology. Interacting with the opposite sex can create a sense of tension, and there is also the fear that you will not be able to communicate well with the other person. Therefore, taking the initiative in communication can more easily achieve the purpose of dialogue.

I am confident that my answer will help the questioner, and I wish him well.

Dear girl, I'm Xing Ying, a listening therapist from Yixin, a national level 3 psychological counselor, and I'm so excited to help you!

Thank you so much for your invitation! After reading your question, I could tell you were feeling a little distressed and puzzled, but I'm here to help!

While reading your words, I couldn't help but think: what would it be like if you relaxed a little? Or when you feel nervous, the opposite sex approaching you, what are they thinking?

Of course, we have no way of knowing what other people are thinking. But here's the good news: if you think about it, the people who pass you by, whether they think good or bad thoughts about you, are ultimately just strangers in your life and have no impact on you.

Does this make you feel better? I think it does!

Let's keep going and see how we can help you feel even better!

From your description, I've made some sense of it!

You have two distinct personalities—one at home and another outside. It's totally normal to feel a little nervous when you're around new people.

For girls who are more familiar, they chat very naturally, which is great!

You get really excited when you see guys (the kind walking in front of or next to you). You're especially thrilled to see the kind walking towards me (any guy except a relative).

These words seem to indicate that

You feel most comfortable in places you know well, but you get a rush of adrenaline when you're in unfamiliar surroundings, especially when you're meeting new men!

I've realized that I've either been hurt by the opposite sex before, or it has been like this since the beginning of a certain period of time. I have thought about it for a long time, and I feel that I actually don't hate the opposite sex! In fact, I actually quite hope to be friends with the opposite sex. I just need to work on being able to talk to the opposite sex naturally like other people.

[Non-traumatic, look for possible triggering events]

It seems that your symptoms are non-traumatic and have been like this for a while. This information is a bit vague, so you could seek help from a counselor. Think about what happened, who you were with, what you heard and what you saw. Finding the cause will be of great help in solving your problem – and you can do it!

The good news is that the symptoms you describe are somewhat similar to social phobia, which means there's hope for you!

Social phobia is an unusual and persistent fear and tension in public social situations, also known as the fear of people. It is usually caused by fear of judgment from others, fear of being embarrassed in front of a specific person, and uncontrollable anxiety even though you know it is unnecessary. When an attack occurs, you may feel cramped, awkward, dry mouth, sweating, rapid heartbeat, cold hands and feet, and unable to control your avoidance behavior. But don't worry! There are ways to overcome this.

Your nervousness is more focused on a specific object – the unfamiliar opposite sex. However, the text message does not indicate the customer, and it is not certain that the real reason you feel nervous around the unfamiliar opposite sex is that you care more about what the other person thinks and says about you. It could also be for other reasons. The good news is that you can alleviate the symptoms by listening to the phone or the counselor's communication, listening to the true voice inside, and spending some time with the nervous emotions.

And the best part is, you can start doing these tips every day!

1. Take a deep breath and feel your feet on the ground!

Stand tall with both feet firmly planted on the ground, feeling the soles of your feet in full contact with the earth. Then, with an inhalation, gently lift your heels and, with an exhalation, lower them again. This simple yet effective process of feeling the soles of your feet on the ground will help relieve tension. If this is not possible in certain situations, you can also just relax by breathing in deeply and exhaling slowly.

2. Smile and relax!

Now for the fun part! Relax your jaw, tilt your face slightly, raise the corners of your mouth, and relax your facial muscles. If you can, recall something funny to really relax your tension.

3. The strange rhetorical question method:

When you see a member of the opposite sex who makes you nervous, you might as well ask yourself, "Is he going to bite me?" Haha. Of course, you can also think of other questions in your own way. The core principle is: "What's the worst that can happen?"

Use rational analysis to talk to yourself about your nervousness. You'll be amazed at how much it can help! On the one hand, rational thinking can help you escape from your emotions. On the other hand, it can also help you realize that reality is not that scary.

Nervousness is an instinctive reaction to perceived danger. But don't worry! If we can see what the danger is, face the feelings of nervousness and fear head-on, and talk rationally to those thoughts, we will feel much better.

You can overcome this nervousness! All you have to do is build confidence, not worry about what others think, learn to be your own cheerleader, and find ways to laugh at yourself. You'll be amazed at how quickly your confidence grows! I wish you an early solution to your troubles and a lifetime of relaxed and carefree socializing!

The world and I love you!