I have a bad relationship with my father, I fight with my younger sister, and both my parents grab me and hit me. What should I do?

Hello!

Your question is sad. I see a child who wants his parents' love but is alone and crying. I hug you!

If you feel bad, cry. Then you'll feel better.

I don't know how old the questioner is or her sister's age. It seems like her parents favor her younger sister and have isolated you.

You will feel very angry and cry. You are also stubborn and won't speak your mind. The questioner mentioned: "Why am I not her mother?"

I pretend to be strong, but I'm just a child. Who can help me?

When a second child is born, parents focus on the new baby. This makes the older child feel unloved. They may feel inferior and think they are not good enough.

The questioner mentioned poor grades, looks, talent, family background, and the parent-child relationship. It's clear the questioner is in a bad mood and sees only the unfair things about herself.

Can we change these things? Can we feel better?

1. Bad grades, not pretty, no talent. These comments are negative. Do they really apply?

If we don't do well in school or don't have any talents, we can change that through our own efforts.

We can study hard and learn a talent. Then we can learn makeup to make ourselves look better.

2. The family is not well off, and there is a poor relationship with parents. We all have limitations. We can recognize these and do something to feel better within them.

You can improve your relationship with your parents by communicating with them. Express your feelings and expectations. I want to go back to when I was little. I was happy then. You all loved me. But you get angry and blame me. I feel hurt. I hope you can also take care of my feelings. It might be hard to express yourself this way. But if you don't say what you feel and think, maybe your parents won't see it. Maybe they won't realize you are hurt!

3. Manage your emotions. The questioner mentioned, "My sister is annoying, and you fought with her..." Think about why you find your sister annoying.

Specify whether you dislike her behavior or her parents' attitude. Are there times you don't dislike her?

How do you act with your sister and parents?

Would you hit your sister again?

Is there another way to get your sister out of your sight? Will the moment pass without an attack?

Would your parents scold you?

Hope this helps!

Hello question owner.

You've probably just felt angry or frustrated. Thanks for sharing your feelings on this forum.

Your feelings towards your younger sister may not be new, but they have been suppressed for a while. Your family has put a lot of pressure on you because of your sister. You may be expected to "set a good example," "be tolerant," and "not be compared."

You used to be loved, but now you have to face unfairness. You just want to "escape." Your father disappointed you. You don't want your family to see your weak side, but you cried.

I don't know how old you are. You said you want to start school because of the prevention and control measures that require you to stay at home? Is school a boarding school?

Do you have someone you trust?

The human brain is amazing. It makes you believe different things based on your past experiences. You said you don't have any concerns. I think you'll be very energetic, do things quickly, and be straightforward.

Also, appearance and talent are subjective. Everyone is unique.

There are many subjects in learning. It is normal to like some subjects more than others. Accepting your own shortcomings helps you see your own advantages.

Family relationships affect your life and emotions. We can't change other people, so we have to improve ourselves to deal with problems.

You're protecting yourself from harm and you're upset.

Improving yourself means taking responsibility for yourself. You must believe you are worthy of love and that you can love yourself.

Ask yourself: What kind of life do I want? What kind of person do I want to be? What kind of parent-child relationship do I want? If you can, tell your parents. If you don't want to, think about it.

I hope this helps.

I love you, world.

Hello, my name is Strawberry!

I can see you're tired, and I want to give you a big hug! It's so hard when you're feeling like this. I can see from what the questioner says that things aren't great between her and her sister. It's so sad when siblings fight, isn't it? It's not your fault, and I'm sure your parents know that. But it seems like they just blame you for everything, and then your sister gets away with bullying you even more. It's so unfair!

It's so sad to see how their sister treats them without mercy. The parents don't seem to react much, and they even scold the question asker for making them angry again. I feel really sad when I read this. I'd love to know what made their parents treat them this way, but it's obvious that they're not good parents, either to the question asker or to their younger sister. They're too strict with the question asker and too indulgent with their younger sister. Their younger sister will only grow up to be domineering and unreasonable.

The questioner didn't mention the ages of the sister and the questioner. Maybe in the minds of the questioner's parents, you're the older sister, and your younger sister is younger. So as the older sister, you should be a role model for your younger sister and give way to her more. If you don't give way to your younger sister, it might seem like you're being inconsiderate. It's possible that they had a different idea of how the older should give way to the younger because of their own experiences.

I'm having a bit of a rough time at home. I have a bit of a rocky relationship with my dad, I have a bit of a tiff with my younger sister, and my folks both grab me and hit me. What should I do?

It would be really helpful to find out the real reason for the parents' favoritism.

The questioner remembers that when he was a child, his father still loved him very much. I'm not sure when this started, but from what I've heard, there's a big difference between then and now. It's hard to know what caused this change, but I'm sure the questioner would love to understand it too.

When I was a little girl, my mom would sometimes hit me without asking why. She said I had to let my brother do what he wanted because I was the older sister. I didn't understand why she was treating me like that at home, so I got upset with her. We didn't have a very close relationship. Later, my mom told me that my brother had a problem that made him unable to get too emotional. She hoped that I would let my brother do what he wanted because he couldn't help it. But she didn't realize that not explaining things clearly would make our relationship so rigid.

It's so unfair how both the questioner's parents treat her! And then, when there's no conflict with her younger sister, what's the attitude of your parents towards you? It would be so great for the questioner to try to understand why they treat themselves this way. Once we know the answer, we can find the best way to solve the problem!

It can be really helpful to have a chat with your folks about the limitations that were put on you when you were younger.

When it comes to our original family, we can't choose our parents, but we can choose our own lives. It's so important to acknowledge the harm that our original family has caused us in the process of growing up. We can't change what's happened, but we can face it and learn how to let it no longer affect us. This will help us to reduce the negative emotions that our original family has on us.

The original poster said that they are not yet able to support themselves, so I guess you are not yet very old, probably in junior high school to high school. If it is high school, you can get away from home by working a summer job, spend less time with your parents, and also gain some work experience.

It's so important to find ways to protect yourself.

It can be tough for parents to realize when they're hurting their kids, especially if they don't listen to advice from elders. So, it's important for kids to learn to protect themselves in a way that's appropriate for them. If your parents don't listen to the elders, you can also tell the elders how you're being treated at home. They can then help you persuade your parents that their behavior is wrong. If the elders with authority speak to your parents, they might realize that they're being too biased.

If the above method doesn't work, don't worry! You can also seek help from outsiders. Usually, when you find your parents scolding or beating you, like when your parents catch you and let your sister beat you, you can tell the community about such behavior, get a medical examination as soon as possible, and you can also call the police. No matter who bullies and hurts you, you must know how to protect yourself. Parents are not allowed to scold and beat their children at will.

It's time to start thinking about yourself, not just your parents.

The questioner also mentioned in the description that the parents have a poor relationship, which shows that there is something wrong with the way they get along with each other. It's so sad when parents and children don't get along! It can be because they take out their own mistakes on you, but it's important to remember that their poor relationship has nothing to do with you. We are all independent individuals. You are you first and foremost, and then you are their child.

The questioner said that he is not a good student and is not good-looking. But, you know, a person's appearance changes over time. What really matters is our inner temperament and profound knowledge. A person's appearance can be ordinary, but we can make ourselves shine in other ways. I can see that your parents had a bad relationship and they favored your younger sister. This has caused you a lot of grief and injustice, which is why you have no desire to study. If you want to get away from them and escape them, the questioner can do so through learning, which will give you the ability to protect yourself. I recommend a book I've been reading recently, "Why Family Hurts".

I remember a very profound sentence in the book: "Separation and love are equally important. They are the two most important themes in life. They work together to make a person grow and become their own self."

I really hope you find all the answers you're looking for in the book! I wish you the best of luck!

Good morning,

After reviewing your account, I empathize with your situation. I will convey my support and understanding through a virtual gesture.

From your account, it is evident that your family is adept at articulating emotions and taking action when confronted with conflicts. The specific nature of the conflict between you and your sister is not clear.

The result is a physical altercation between the two parties: you grab your sister by the hair, she kicks you in the stomach, your mother intervenes, your father pulls you away and issues a stern warning. This presents a model of family interaction.

The manner in which your parents interact will have an unconscious impact on the development of your sister's and your character, which will in turn affect you as an adult.

Tonight, your father reprimanded you in a forceful manner, which caused you to feel depressed. Concurrently, you reflected on the joyful occasion when you were younger, when your father rode a bicycle with you and celebrated your birthday. It is reasonable to assume that your father also has affection for you.

It is important to recognize that while parents are limited by their upbringing, they can also have a significant impact on our lives, both positively and negatively. They are imperfect, but they are also our closest family.

Is there a positive experience in your life that is distinct from tonight's? When you have a disagreement with your sister, do you select an alternative approach to resolve the conflict? If so, recall the incident, what it entailed, and your experience. If you apply this method to tonight's conflict with your sister, will it have a different outcome?

As a unique individual, you have a mother, father, and sister. On one occasion, your father rode a bicycle with you to your birthday. Were there also warm and happy moments in the time your mother and sister spent together? If you were asked to add more warm and happy moments to your life, what would you do to make this easier? Love gives love back, and blessings come back with blessings!

I am a man in the rain, and I want to express my love for you and the world.